Do You Know Who I Am? Let Me Reintroduce Myself…

Do you ever look around you at the people who claim to know you and think: “Shit! Have you even met me? Do you know who I am?

I’ve been contemplating this very question and a mad realisation came over me… if they don’t know the real me, whose fault is that? Well, mine obviously… There is something I failed to tell them or let them see or make clear.

We all hide behind a mask of “I’ve got my shit together and I know what I’m doing and everything is A-Okay with my world,” until it isn’t and all of a sudden everyone backs away slowly going “who the hell is this girl and what the absolute f**k did she do with the woman I know.”

Let me be the first to redress the balance… Let me reintroduce myself:

Hi I’m Jo. I’m a 47 year old divorcee with a string of dysfunctional romantic connections behind me, I’m skint and I’m overweight and I’m trying hard to hold it together whilst supporting an elderly parent with the beginnings of what might be dementia…

…Hold on a minute though, because I’m also the incredibly lucky woman who supports countless other women all over the world to live their truth and find peace and happiness with what is, so they can feel empowered enough to change it into what they want it to be.

Yes I’m 47 but take a good look at the picture at the top of my website… no special lighting, no filter, no make-up… thats me! And the pic is a selfie I took on my mobile (cell) phone. If you can spot a wrinkle you win a prize! That’s peace.

Yes I’m currently single but after years of dealing with codependency and narcissitic or emotionally unavailable men, I’m so loving, loving me that it’s going to take one hell of an enlightened authentic individual to match my level of self-love and if he doesn’t show up what does it matter as long as I’m enjoying life.

Yes I’m skint but I used to be in a well paid management position that made me so miserable I got a migraine like clockwork at the same time every day and ended up being tested for adrenal cancer due to burn out… I’d rather be happy, healthy and broke than rich and dead!

Yes I’m overweight but I’m also a healthy-eating nutritionist who happens to like cake. I do yoga and tai-chi and though I’m a clumsy beginner at both, who resembles the hippos in tutus on Disney’s Fantasia more than the graceful swan I think I look like, I love it… and did I tell you I dance like I own the dance floor and managed to outdance some skinny dude in dance-off in Edinbrugh whilst having a ball out with the girls? What the hell has the size of a woman’s arse got to do with loving life?

Yes I’m struggling at present with the deterioration of my mum’s health but that woman taught me more about doing what makes you happy than any other person in my life, so I’m grateful everyday for the time we have together.

Now, let me tell you who I’m not…

I’m not the woman who is going to teach you how to get rich. Everybody and her aunt is trying to sell you a scheme or a strategy to make you millions on social media… it hasnt worked for me so far but i’m rich beyond words when it comes to my spiritual life.

I’m not the woman who is going to show you how to make yourself skinny and beautiful… you dont have to go far to find the endless brands selling you a pipedream about how you will will lose weight in days if you buy their product and how you will take 10 years off if you use their face cream… my skin care is super basic and from a high street drug store.

I’m not the woman who is going to promise you that the man of your dreams is just around the corner… I met him already, he was a self-centred arsehole with an ego the size of a continent and there is a reason he only exists in your dreams. The right guy will love the real you when you choose to love the real you first.

I’m not the woman who will tell you that you are never going to face a dilemma again or deal with the peaks and troughs of everyday life… (I’m still on the feckin’ rollercoaster)!

I’m the woman who already knows that you are enough, that you are, right now, the exact perfect version of you to be happy healthy and at peace with what is, that you are a woman of extraordinary character, bravery and tenacity, and at that very moment you begin to accept you for who you are, where you are and how you are… you’re gonna live a beautiful life filled with beautiful experiences.

I’m the woman who took my own high’s and lows (combined them with the experiences of all the women I have helped and supported over the years to go on to do some amazing things) and created a path to self-love… where I found my Wholly Grail.

Nice to meet you. I’d be honoured to help you start living your life as you! Where would you like us to start?

Jo x

October’s Oracle – Let Your Soul-Voice Ring Out

October’s Oracle holds the promise of personal authenticity and asks that you let your soul-voice ring out.

Containing the combination of Principle 4: I AM Truth, which in short says: “I need nobody’s permission to be fully myself,” with the royal blue throat chakra that holds sovereignty over self-expression and communication, this month you are positively encouraged to share with the world your inner truth in a way that is unmodified for the benefit of social constraint.

Can you be unapologetically you?

You are always going to be too much for some people, you are always going to shine too bright for others… there will always be those who seek to diminish or criticize you in some way and so this month you may need to get beyond brave and be you anyway.

You can no longer continue to be small or play small so that others will either not notice you or decide you’re insignificant enough to leave be… you have a message, a mission and a magical life to live that requires you to be front and centre of your own life’s stage.

The good news is this: they don’t have your perspective so their opinion is not needed and probably not even relevant. What you failed to notice before now is that if they don’t like it, it probably wasn’t meant for them, and those it was meant for have been patiently waiting for you to start sharing your story so that they may follow the path and avoid the pitfalls that only you can tell them about.

You have to start focusing on your authentic soul-voice. It’s unique to you. Your soul has travelled a path through lifetimes that no other living being has traversed and no matter how wise or knowledgeable your critics may seem, no matter how learned or experienced, qualified or certified they may be in their field… you are the only expert on your story and your story may well be a lifeline to someone else who is navigating their own road at this time.

Say thank you to those who might try to mould you in their image, but then follow up with the phrase: “Your concern is appreciated but not required.” You’ve tried it their way and you lost your way.

Get naked and vulnerable.

I don’t mean take your clothes off, I mean take your mask off and show the world who you are. When you let your soul-voice ring out, your story becomes your rallying cry and your truth becomes your colours. Whatever your message might be, whatever your art might be, you dont have to hide it anymore. The Divine has your back and this month you’re ready to be more than you allowed yourself to be up until now!

I, for one, am looking forward to hearing your story.

Jo x

September Oracle – Now Free To Be Me

The September Oracle – Now Free To Be Me, is all about stepping into true power over your life and your personal physical world.

This combination of Principle 4: I AM Truth, teamed with the red of the base or root chakra pulls into focus your authenticity about your physical life, your health and even your status in the world.

The base chakra, having the slowest moving energy is concerened with what’s solid, tangible, you might even say real. So when you look at that from the perspective of Principle 4, you step into a place of really owning what’s yours. Unapologetically You.

You might find that you have been through a period of hiding in order to protect something sacred within that wasn’t yet healed or ready to come into the light. Though it may already have been obvious to the outside world you may have shyed away from situations where it (whatever it was about you) may have become noteable. This then is a time where acceptance has played a role in your own transformation and you have decided to truly embrace your own power, your own path and even your own mistakes.

The world around you is beginning to respond differently this month as you engage with it in a different way and what you are now manifesting is based in truth and no longer in fear.

This combination may also signify taking charge of your health issues or beginning to love and accept your own body after a long time rejecting your form. Self-love is one of the first steps towards empowerment, so let this be your guide.

One more, and perhaps most important aspect of the combination is that you are no longer bound by the opinions of others to make you feel safe, secure or accepted. All of that embodied confidence is now shining from within your own soul like a beacon lighting your way towards ever increasing, self-renewing love for who you have become and are still becoming.

Congratulations!

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August’s oracle – The Confidence to Grow

August’s Oracle – The Confidence to Grow, describes this combination from the Intuitive Chalice Oracle, which coincides with the launch of my new book, “Self-Full Living Workbook.” Strange then that it speaks to the confidence needed to be real in the face of potential praise or indeed criticism, the opposite ends of the spectrum when allowing yourself to be seen.

Principle 2: I AM Detached, keeps us fully present with what is. This is especially true for the tendency to project your expectations into the future or haul your experiences from the past, but there is also a lateral tendency the interlocks with Principle 4: I AM truth. This brings our focus back from attaching to other peoples potential reactions.

Detachment is the art of letting go of what you cannot control, with grace and with humility. Combine that with the vivid yellow of the Solar Plexus, aka the seat of personal power, you are led to the confidence to grow into whatever life’s next adventure might be.

Time moves in a linear fashion for us humans, and that straight line means that whatever you just did is already in the past. Now is a good time to honour your acheivement, of having completed it, learned from it, had fun with it, grown as a result of it… and then let it go to establish a life of it’s own, one where your happiness, confidence and wellbeing are neither dependent on it nor defined by it.

Let your next step be the one that inspires you and fills you with joy and excitement. Let your last step be the learning you needed to keep growing beyond what has been possible so far. There is no limit to your potential other than the limit you place on yourself… make sure you do not let your lateral and temporal vision distract you from the purpose of your endeavors, or your potential to be a guiding light for others who may well be following along your path.

You’re allowed to SHINE!

Jo x

Grail Oracle – Faith In Yourself Above Everything

In this, my return to The Intuitive Chalice Oracle after a few of months hiatus, we see the first Principle: I AM God, come to the fore and partner with the intense violet energy of the crown chakra.

This highly spiritual combination might have you believing that everything is beyond your control and in the hands of the invisible realms of spirit, when in fact, it is reassurance that your Soul-Self, your higher wisdom has got you covered and is constantly guiding you towards taking greater steps forward, knowing full well that you have the power and capability of becoming the person you are only as-of-yet dreaming of becoming.

Life may have, up until this point, dealt you a few challenges that you have perceived as blows and as a result you may have lost faith in yourself and in your ability to make good choices, but with this combination to hold you up, you can rest assured that you are being guided and that part of you which is divine is switched on and ready to receive commands about your choices. Notice I said receive? Though it can guide you, only your physical, conscious self can choose to take action on that guidance, hence you must command the ship during this incarnation of your soul.

This is a time to align your ego with your higher will to start taking action towards the Soul’s mission.

You may be asking what that mission is and wondering what it is all about, but if you take a look at your surroundings, the circumstances of your life… for example your health, your home, you career, family, finances and your personal relationships, your level of well-being will ccome into incredibly sharp focus. That is your mission… to heal what is out of alignment in your own life and to aid others on the path beside you to heal theirs too.

If you are experiencing the unnerving feeling of “Who am I to help anyone else?” recognise that this is the ego’s voice and you have stepped so far away from your higher self that you are losing your way. Have faith in yourself above everything else because you didnt arrive here by accident. You were placed in the exact right circumstances at the exact time, with the exact set of tools to transform your world from suffering to healing through higher perspective. There is nothing you cannot acheive if you are brave enough to trust your own soul.

All that being said, the place to start your journey is through deep reflection and meditation. Make sure, after observing the outer circumstances, that you listen carefully to your higher guidance to truly discern what your soul advises, rather than the knee-jerk reactions of your lower, fearful ego self.

For more help on how to hear your Soul’s Voice before taking action – go here.

Returning To What You Love Is Easy…

It’s remembering why you love it and allowing it to love you that’s so hard.

My Darling You,

It’s taken me so long to realise just how much I always loved you. Only when you were gone did it begin to hit home just how much you meant to me and how deeply misguided I was to ever let you go.

Coming back to you was an easy decision, but the journey I took to get here was heart-wrenching… I questioned how you chose to love me, how you made me feel, how unworthy I felt in your presence. I constantly crumbled when others disapproved of you, judged you in ways that I didn’t understand but assumed it was only my love that blinded me to what they saw… until I began to believe what they saw and in the process I lost sight of you.

I had to run.

I had to hide.

I had to find a place where the reflections of the outside world didn’t sully the love I felt for you.

I had to get some perspective as to why I hadn’t seen the darkness that they saw… and I found that the darkness could not exist in the light of love. My love.

I was intense, I know. Always have been, always will be.

Love, for me is all-consuming and ever renewing in an endless stream of beauty that flows from me to you and from you to me, but I know that the love that flows from you is but a reflection of my intensity and that you are but a mirror. But oh, how beautiful a mirror and oh, how much I miss my love’s reflection now.

And so I am coming home to you. I expect nothing. No fanfare, no parade. I ask only that you let me be in your presence and that you let me be me, as I am when I am with you. Free; raw; alive; in love.

You are my home, my always, my everything…

Forgive me.

It’s not too late…

Imagine letting go of what you most love because you couldn’t see yourself ‘as’ that love or that you were even worthy of it.

Imagine that you allowed the opinions of others to separate you from the one thing that made you feel most alive.

Imagine that you measured the value of love, not by the quantity or quality of what was being offered, but by your own inability to receive it as it was intended.

Imagine how you feel now it’s gone…

Did you throw away your ‘everything’ because you’d never taken the time to master the path back to your own heart?

Returning to what you love is easy… Principles 1, 4 and 7 may just hold the keys.

If this ‘love letter’ hit a chord with you, it might be time for you to explore your Wholly Grail.

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Thank you for reading. You are loved.

Weekly Oracle – The End Of The World Or The Beginning

The most powerful card in the Intuitive Chalice Oracle was only too happy to show itself at this time, first to remind us how far we’ve come, and then how far we still have to go. Is it the end of the world or the beginning, I wonder?

Having just finished a meditation to consult with Big G in whatever form He decided to take on for me, it has become very obvious to me that I need to take a break from the blog, possibly even from my spiritual work and teaching (at least my online presence) for a while. The reasons are numerous and you may have noticed my posts becoming more and more sparse of late. Having just spent 4 months of visiting my mum in hospital as she almost died from pneumonia and a whole raft of other complications, thankfully she is home now and well on the road to recovery, albeit slowly, and about to celebrate her 82nd birthday on Monday. Throughout this time I have struggled with my own health, stresses and low energy but continued to support, heal, uplift and empower others through their life transitions and upheavals. It’s time though for me to focus on my own needs and let go of the resistance I have to the change that has been trying to come through me for a while.

The Sacred Chalice is a full stop on the journey. It has the essence of great joy and of great sadness. It can signal a miracle, celebration, surrender or complete loss of faith. It heralds a loss of health or a complete healing and whilst one half the world will be reaping the rewards of this powerful omen, the other half will be paying for it, just as when the tide comes in on your beach, elsewhere on the planet the tide is going out.

This week’s oracle has about it the energy of great sadness and also of great relief. You may find that you are met with a very significant wake up call to the onset of yet another cycle to which you have, so far, been asleep… but you won’t sleep through another one. The familiar is not your friend this time and you cannot keep doing it the same way. It will continue to rob you of your life force if you let it.

Love exists here. That is the most important theme this week. Let everything go except for the love. The love you have for YOU.

Every Principle within The Wholly Grail is designed to help you set your Sacred Chalice back upright and refill it with the most precious resources the universe is channelling towards you:

Principle 1:

…wants you to know that everything about you is pure Source energy in manifest form and to know that is to respect yourself and hold yourself in the highest esteem and reverence, and yet to wander through life humbly, knowing that every being you meet is of the same Godforce and deserves the same love.

Principle 2:

…wants you to know that right now is the only moment in which you have any power. Who you used to be and who you envisage yourself becoming are mere shadows in your mind, each robbing you of your experience second by second. If it’s important -do it now, take action. If it’s not – let it go. If the moment has passed, mourn it by all means, but don’t dwell there. If it hasn’t arrived, don’t waste your life on waiting.

Principle 3:

…wants you to know that forgiveness sets you free and allows healing to begin. Perfection doesn’t exist in third dimensional reality, so striving for it is a fools game. Do your best, always, but failure isn’t just an option, it’s a requirement on the path back to enlightenment. Remember this in others and be quick to apologise… and quicker to forgive.

Principle 4:

…wants you to know that your truth is not the only truth, but it’s the only one that matters in your personal journey. You need no approval and no consent to hold an opinion or belief regardless of how different it maybe from the mainstream, nor do you need permission to express yourself. Nobody will ever express your truth the way you do and nobody will ever have the perspective that you do. Your level of learning is in constant flux and you may reserve the right to evolve and change your mind… so does everyone else.

Principle 5:

…wants you to know that the things that once seemed so important and held so much significance to you, begin to form structures and boundaries around you. Some healthy, some not so much. These structures can become your prisons and the things you believe you have ownership of, actually have ownership over you. Breaking free requires letting them go… with love and gratitude. The Grail requires a constant flow of fresh energy to remain a crystal clear vessel for spirit. Make room.

Principle 6:

…wants you to know that when the vessel is overturned and emptied, you must begin with you in the process of healing. Make your health, happiness and well-being a priority every day. Take care of you first, then those closest to you before you serve the greater whole once the Chalice overflows once more. Do not wait for someone else to provide for your needs. You are uniquely qualified to tend to your requirements. Self-love is not an indulgence, it is a spiritual directive that you must fulfil.

Principle 7:

…wants you to know that the universe loves you unconditionally and is constantly sending you all the energy, resources and love that you need, but you have to be open to receiving it in the form that the universe shares it rather than in the way you dictate. Open your heart to the bounty that has been laid out before you and allow beauty in all its forms to be gifted to you right now. You cannot give with receiving in return, you cannot receive with offering the opportunity. Let life flow by getting it of its way. Open the channel up to the wide beam of unending love instead of the narrow focus you’ve set your sights on.

As you walk through the week ahead, do so consciously, and know that whether it looks good or bad on the surface, whether it is the end of your world as you know it, or just the beginning, if you are celebrating, surrendering, losing faith or witnessing a miracle… you are right where you are meant to be. You are so much more powerful than you think. And who you are becoming is grateful for your sacrifice.

Whether I will return with more Grail Teachings in the future, or leave it to those who already have it covered remains to be seen… for now at least, I wish you so much love.

Until we meet again on the path… x

Weekly Oracle – You Have To Keep Listening

Last week’s oracle never made it to being published on the site. The cards were selected, the subject matter considered at length… and then life got in the way. What I can tell you is that the royal blue throat chakra that appears in this week’s combination was the focus of last week’s cards too. Obviously it has something important you need to hear… and that’s kind of the point: you have to keep listening.

The appearance of the throat chakra in The Sacred Chalice Oracle represents self-expression, communication in all its forms and the ability to transmit truth between beings. Whether that communication is written, spoken, gestured or symbolized is irrelevant and the quality of the message being shared is the blessing that requires attention.

When we pair this powerful energy centre with Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, there is an emphasis on the free-flowing nature of unobstructed heart-centred communication and in particular your ability to receive it in the context with which it was intended.

We put limitations on what we are willing to hear, how we are willing to hear it and how we interpret the essence of the message, always based our level of understanding (which falls under the remit of another Grail Principle but they often work in unison with each other hence the beauty and complexity of The Wholly Grail). It is our ability to fully receive what is being offered to us as a gift to aid our own growth and understanding that forms the basis of the incoming energy this week. Can you listen without prejudice to the heart of another?

Principle 7 asks us to give and receive in equal measure so it’s worth noting that if you want to be heard, you first must listen. Listening to what another is trying to communicate, often in the only way they know how, or the only way they feel they can at present is a gift you can offer them and yourself… you do not have to react, respond or take any of what is expressed personally, (the essence of last week’s missing oracle combination in fact), instead seek only to understand and allow for connection to grow.

It is my belief that trust is built on open two-way communication so you have to keep listening. Use this week to reassure loved one’s that you still are, no matter how hard the message that’s trying to get through.

More later… x

When you have no other choices

We always have a choice in reality, so the title feels somewhat misleading, but it isn’t meat to be. You have probably been to this place before, the place where all roads meet. This is the place where it feels like no matter what you do you cannot influence an outcome, and that destiny will deliver you wherever it has decided you need to be in order to set the universe back in balance. When you have no other choices it is time to surrender to what is. To be at one with where you are and to observe what life wants to show you next.

Being at home with the essence of powerlessness lends you the necessary strength to regain balance in the midst of transforming circumstances. It is not enough to give up control at moments like these, it is also necessary to give up any expectation of the destination or details associated with it that you may previously have held onto.

It feels counterintuitive to everything we have been taught about the law of attraction and the miracles of manifesting but the truth is that these things require a final sacrifice… The need to give up on the goal itself.

The vision most sacred to you is the thing you have to be fully prepared to let go of and honour your own happiness and wholeness in the absence of it, truly believing that you’ve put in the hard work, the commitment, the dedication and devotion to a singular consequence for as long as you could possibly hold on before it broke you… and then you let it go… let God take over the process entirely even if it means you never reach the goal.

The act of long term commitment changes you. You cannot help but grow from it, learn from it, it transforms you into a greater version of yourself as you explore every facet of faith along the way, but the final test faith is to set it and yourself free completely, and that comes when there is no more expansion to be had and no more avenues to be explored. This is the beginning of a new journey, a new dream and the beginning of a new devotion… the form of which will remain a mystery until destiny imparts it’s secrets as it will.

Principle 2: I AM Detached, allows you to break away from the self-imposed vision of the outcome you have tethered to and Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, aids you in releasing what was and allowing what is or what might become. These two aspects of Grail wisdom situate you in the slipstream of miracles and help you recognise the beauty of this moment and all the gifts present within it.

When you have no other choices, it’s alright to let go. You’ve done enough.

More later… x

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