Healing Your Life Through Exclusion

My insights are a reflection of how I use the Wholly Grail in everyday life (or forget to) for healing, peace and gaining a deep understanding of firstly myself and then of others. The quality of the writing inevitably varies depending on which phase I’m in and what I’m feeling about it. Wisdom comes through accepting that all has value and even the darkest experiences show the way towards the light if you so choose to search for it. If the Holy Grail we all instinctively search for: inner peace and enlightenment, is a place within, where connection to our own spirit and ultimately God or whatever your particular name for All-That-Is may be, then the seven Principles that make up The Wholly Grail are the quest to remember our wholeness and that we never were separated from it in the first place.

What essentially masks that fundamental truth is the multitude of external moving parts distracting you from the foundation of your faith, which is simply that everything is as it should be regardless of the temporary discomfort. Acceptance is key to transforming the balance of power the external world appears to have over you, exclusion is the initial step to retrieving the power that is been drained.

Healing your life through exclusion is basically the process of disconnecting or detaching from all influences that cause you harm… detoxing from external drama.

Imagine if you had an allergy to chocolate. Eating chocolate might make you really ill at best, kill you at worst… it stands to reason that you would eliminate all chocolate products from your diet, right? You’d quickly become super vigilant at reading labels in the supermarket and return any items that contained your particular toxin to the shelf… it’s the same with external drama, get super conscientious about reading the labels, the warning signs and the red flags, put it down and back away slowly.

No man/woman is an island of course, you cannot completely remove all negative stimulation, to do so would create just as much drama within when isolation became a trigger for your discomfort, this is why discernment is a necessary skill to learn quickly on the Grail path.

Having received the shocking news of the death of a close family member this week it has been necessary for me to begin healing through exclusion. Normally my ‘take control’ attitude would have me charging in, taking care of business, but my guidance at present is to stand back and as gracefully as possible continue to tend to the details of my own life, to continue to do the simple things, fully aware that drama is occurring within my field of vision, compassionate and loving towards those suffering, but mindful all the while that their drama can intensify my own and that I have a choice to heal faster by honouring my truth.

Overcoming grief requires practicing all 7 Principles but healing your life through exclusion requires mainly one: I AM Self-Full (Principle 6)

More later… x

Monday Mind Manoeuvre – Stop Over Complicating Things

I had a lovely day out and about at a Mind, Body, Spirit Fair yesterday where I was greeted by lots of old friends and familiar faces. It was both inspiring and heart warming to be amongst kindred souls but I noticed something whilst I was there that pointed to a rift in the delivery of the message the universe was asking us to unravel. It’s time to stop over complicating things.

There seemed to be two types of teachers: those skilled in spreading the word and those intent on keeping it mysterious.

It is part of my mission to make spirituality as simple as it can be. No longer do we need to hide in the shadows of mystery schools, creating exclusive clubs speaking a language that very few understand, the universe is crying out for us to be inclusive, to allow all access passes to those who wish to hear.

Keep it simple. Keep it pure. Keep it real.

Principle 4: I AM Truth.

This is a very short post today folks as in the middle of writing it I received a call with some heart breaking news that someone close to me, younger than I am, just passed away … it too reminded me life is far too short to piss about with what needs to be said.

Forgive me if my posts are sporadic for a few days.

Saturday Oracle – Pure Connection

This combination feels familiar and although it has an overall beautiful appearance to it, something within me has been putting off delivering its message today… That’s the problem: delivering a message means complete surrender to the possibility that nothing will ever be the same again.

As Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, cosies up to the vibrant orange sacral chakra softening its abrasive desire and encouraging pure connection, the vulnerability involved in that type of interaction reaches it zenith and can become unbearable for those not ready to give up control to another being.

Human relationships excel to another dimension this week beginning with an admission. Out there on a limb hoping that showing your hand and your feelings will not make you a prime target for rejection or ridicule is the only place where another can meet you half way. Risking your most sensitive nature for the promise of this pure connection is not new to you, but having been left there hanging in the past or worse, met there only to be later discarded when you were already all-in has made you wary of whether the risk is worth taking at all… but you know it is.

With the new moon total eclipse in Leo on Monday and six retrograde planets until Thursday you would be forgiven for feeling that level of uncertainty, but the synchronicity of the heavens is pushing you past the finish line in more than one area of your life towards a completely new storyline… and nothing quite transforms the story of your life like the introduction of a new co-star.

Put desire to one side for a moment and instead look at this connection as something deeper and more fundamental, once the initial admission is over this connection is soul level, familial, comfortable… not in an old slipper kind of way but in a missing piece kind of way. As it is based on Principle 7 where giving and receiving are completely balanced, it also has a sense of the traditional, where roles are definitive, respected and appreciated, cooperation and companionship, support and encouragement form the basis and foundation for divine union. This is a connection as old as time, conducted between the realms of the physical and the non-physical where a psychic extra-sensory form of communication exists.

People usually only dream of this kind of love… it is possible… but only if one or both are willing to step out on that limb, drop the defences and declare what hides inside the heart.

It probably won’t feel like news… each is fully aware on a higher level… each is simply waiting for the other to overcome fear, overcome history, overcome personal baggage and the reasons why not, replacing the detritus with the cleansing breath of faith.

Archangel Chamuel: the Angel of Destiny has lined you up with this missing piece of your soul’s mission and is waiting patiently for you to choose reunification. Ask him for help, courage and opportunity this week.

If your Mr or Mrs Right, hasn’t yet made an appearance, now is the time for you to call out for your soul mate… you can be sure that they too are calling out for you. Chamuel will help if you ask.

More next week… x

 

 

Question Everything You’ve Taken For Granted

Nothing is ever quite what it seems, but you may have bought into it anyway. As this weekend blossoms why not take the opportunity to challenge your assumptions: question everything you’ve taken for granted.

I love working with Faerie Oracle cards of which I have many different decks, one particular set contains an archetypal card known as The Thief. He’s a handsome chappy, as faerie glamour is known to have you believe, and its his job to keep you fully engaged, enamoured and distracted while time passes by robbing you of other opportunities and a full life. Waiting is often the killer of dreams and The Thief, whatever his motives, is the tool by which you lose your way.

When you invest in an idea or outcome that requires you to wait, often without guarantees or even any real indication of what it is you are waiting for, there comes a time when you have to assess the real evidence of the productivity of your endeavour and make a real choice based on facts not fantasies.  No one can blame you for walking away… but then there are the constant memes you keep seeing: “Don’t quit right before the miracle!” Are these just another device crafted by The Thief?

You may fall into the category of the eternal optimist and wait indefinitely for your fruit to ripen, but when seasons keep passing by and your tree bears no fruit at all, at what stage do you recognise that what you’re investing your hope in is not in fact actually a fruit tree? The blossom appears every so often just to give you hope but season after season the flowers fall and the tree is barren.

Having planted, nurtured and admired the now magnificent specimen for so long, it may be difficult to give up hope, but you can honour the time and effort you put in every time you tune into the old tree’s wisdom, every time you rest under its shade, but sooner or later you will have to plant new fruit trees or you will continue to go hungry in an ever lasting cycle of disappointment even when the current display of lavishly blossoming boughs looks so promising.

The Thief is unspoken promise.

The Thief is is unfounded hope.

The Thief will rob you of unrealised potential.

Challenge everything you have believed to be fact, question everything you have taken for granted. As beautiful as your Mock Cherry looks, now you have years of evidence as to its true nature, it’s time to invest in a real orchard… Harvest is never guaranteed but experience tells you when a crop is likely.

Principle 2: I AM Detached

Principle 5: I AM Liberated

More later… x

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Modus Operandi Part 6: Me Versus Myself

As this Modus Operandi series has progressed I hope you have begun to understand the difference between how you think you might be following the Wholly Grail Principles for inner peace as opposed to how you actually carry out your day to day life in opposition to your intentions. The title “Me Versus Myself” is true then for all these practices of self-defeating behaviours but never more so than when it comes to your health and self care.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, is vast in concept because it involves putting your own needs first in order to fill your cup ready to serve and share with others… that can mean intellectually, emotionally, creatively, professionally, intimately etc. Whatever way you give of yourself, if you fail to take care of your own basic needs by constantly placing others before yourself you will eventually drain the cup and become ill, ineffective and eventually unable to be of service to anyone… including yourself!

Some believe it selfish to put their own needs first, going without meals, without sleep, pushing hard to try to rescue others, failing to enforce personal boundaries and basically martyring themselves in the process to the point of burnout. Giving of yourself until there is nothing left will leave your dependents ultimately without the very person they depend on, so tell me: how does that work out to be less selfish?

Once the selfish aspect is dispelled we get to tackle the other side of denial, the side that says “I always take good care of myself” when actually you really don’t…

How nutritious is your diet, the very fuel for your body? Are you conscientiously equipping your physical vessel for the task ahead or are you so frenetic that you ram in whatever is in front of you without thinking just to provide fast but low grade energy to continue whatever you have currently deemed so much more important?

Do you rest your mind as well as your body adequately? Sleep when your mind is busy might as well be no sleep at all. I know a fair few people who survive on little or no sleep because deadlines and demands are put ahead of their health and others who spend so much time over-thinking and worrying that their quality of sleep is poor. Meditation, and a disciplined wind down practice can be of enormous benefit to this problem but here’s the thing: if you don’t adhere to Principle 1: I AM God, understanding your true worth and your value to the rest of humanity then you will never place yourself, your health and your happiness as a priority in your life.

I haven’t even touched the surface of being Self-Full here but you’re starting to get the picture.

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More later… x

 

Monday Mind Manoeuvre – Remember Who You Are

I will finish the last two parts of the Modus Operandi series a little later but something came up that I thought important enough and wanted to explore, it’s to do with losing yourself in a relationship and how to remember who you are.

Now before I go any further I should mention that I have a someone special and he tends to read all my posts (and then deny it) so on that note I want to say this is nothing to do with he and I (lest he panic that we have an problem) and simply about the plethora of counselling I’ve been doing in the last few days in every direction as well as observing among the masses on social media etcetera.

Now let me first get you into Wholly Grail territory by reintroducing Principle 1: I AM God, along with Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted. Theses two Principles are the basis of relating from an empowered state.

What you observe in your outer world is a reflection of how you feel in your inner world. Your outer world often affects how you feel… catch 22 you might think, but here’s the thing: how you feel is a result of what you think about what you perceive, so then it stands to reason that if you choose different thoughts the feelings will alter which will in turn transform what we observe.

That sounds complicated but truly when you remember nothing is personal even when it is aimed at you, it is just a projection of the thoughts and feelings of another that you receive according to your state of inner peace and empowerment. If you are feeling like a victim then everything will seem to be an attack, if you are feeling like a hero everything will appear to be an opportunity for learning and healing even if the outer circumstances are identical in each case.

Principle 1 asks that you see yourself as a spark of divinity and that you see that same light in everybody else regardless of the outer conditions.

Principle 7 asks that you let go of all attachments in order that healing may occur. This doesn’t mean walking away from relationships that are nurturing and mutually beneficial  most of the time, it means letting go of the fear that they might end. All things end, the question is, do you want to squeeze the life out of it quickly by gripping, manipulating and controlling or do you want to love and laugh and learn your way until death do you part?… That’s what it means: death simply means an ending, any ending.

Drop the victim stance by recognising you hold all the power… over yourself and what you choose to place your attention on. If you contrive to fix, change or manipulate the significant other in your partnership to see, do or be what you want then you are trying to exert your power over another and the battle will commence or the rift will widen… let them be who they are, even if they are currently in victim mode, don’t ever be tempted to meet them at the bottom, instead lift them with your example of understanding, compassion and gently hold the space for them to step out of their shadow and into the light where you will be waiting with open arms and an open heart… and maybe next time you slide down the scale and forget who you are they will do you the same courtesy.

Wishing you beautiful nurturing relationships today and always.

Big love until later… x

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Saturday Oracle – Revelation

The higher mind is highlighted as the violet crown chakra makes an appearance for the second week running and after we allowed the flow of inspiration last week, it teams up with Principle 4: I AM Truth to bring it to light and prove it to you. Expect a revelation in the coming days, of something long since hinted at by the universe but which you never dared believe.

The crown chakra is a powerful energy centre that stimulates dreams and connection to higher wisdom as well as the deep subconscious, it’s there that the truth has lain hidden for such a long time. What has only been an ephemeral notion up to this time, witnessed through intuitions and omens will prove to be right on point as the truth comes to light in the most glorious way possible.

You must understand that this is your higher truth… or the truth the universe/Source wants you to see, it may not match your current ideals for yourself. As Mercury goes retrograde today and understanding goes a little skew with it, allow yourself some time to sit with whatever is revealed before you respond to it, this way you will give yourself permission to absorb the news rationally and intellectually as well as emotionally.

In meditation with Source this week I was given very clear guidance:

“Before you act, breathe. I will be there in that breath.”

God has a way of reminding you that it is only a surprise in it’s timing and that this revelation is merely confirmation of what you knew from the get-go and therefore nothing to get disturbed about.

Knowledge means change. That said, be prepared to be receptive to the incoming information and to roll with the punches or the kisses as they may well be… this revelation may as I say be arriving unannounced but there is nothing to say it isn’t welcome news once you get over the initial shock.

So in summary: what you always really knew will be brought into the light in a most unexpected way… long held secrets will be revealed… it may differ from what you’d imagined… once the initial reaction wears off the new information will bring a massive shift in your life.

And with that: hold onto your knickers, things are about to get interesting!

More next week… x

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Modus Operandi Part 5: Everything Else Is Just Gravy

As you’ve probably worked out by now if you’ve been reading this series: there are 7 parts to this Modus Operandi theory I’ve been exploring. Today it’s worth exploring under the hood of ownership, there’s what we actually need and then everything else is just gravy.

Coming from a perspective of lack we cling to everything in a desperate bid to create a sense of safety. From the perspective of competition we accumulate stuff as a representation of how well we’re doing. Each of these reasonings is fundamentally flawed and in opposition to other Grail Principles. For example: if you embrace Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, you will place yourself in the flow of abundance, giving and receiving in equal measure and all of your needs are effortlessly met. If you embrace Principle 4: I AM Truth, your status in comparison to the next individual becomes obsolete as we understand that uniqueness is beyond comparison.

We accumulate more and more, building the prison of fear… not through having and appreciating beautiful, useful, life enhancing things but through the fear of losing them and the lengths we go to to maintain and keep them, to protect them which we lie to ourselves about how we are protecting ourselves, protecting our assets… but are they assets or are they liabilities?

I’m by no means anti material wealth, in fact I’d love a bigger house, nice car (and chauffeur), the latest gadgets, enormous bank balance and all the trimmings but what don’t want is the fear that comes with holding onto them…

So what do you keep telling yourself about what you have own and why you need to keep it? What is you Modus Operandi when it comes to justifying why you have to work so hard to make ends meet?

When you look at your bills do you instantly worry that you need to earn more to cover it… or do you recognise that you simply need to ‘own’ less and reduce stress, live free.

When you shift out of denial and get clear about what you actually need versus “everything else is just gravy” you let go of the attachment to all things, then lack, grasping, fearful behaviours and worry energy give way to peace, contentment, flow and abundance.

Start this weekend with a fearless inventory of your ‘must haves’ and your ‘nice to owns’, you’ll be amazed at how much pressure it takes off. Principle 5: I AM Liberated.

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Wishing you a liberated life… x

Modus Operandi Part 4: Essential Expression

The fourth part in the Modus Operandi series explores essential expression of one’s real feelings. Consider the alternative for a moment…

Under the exterior polish of every human being is a complex thought producing engine. Some of those thoughts are mediocre at best and pass by like fluffy clouds floating across a blue sky, others though are intense reaction provoking thoughts bringing inner storms and turbulent emotions.

It’s sometimes easy to let the storm blow over, to let it pass without incident, to weather it out so to speak, but when the thoughts stirring up those storm clouds are triggered by repetitive occurrence then action must be taken to address the real cause of the storm… sometimes the action is from within, in which case the essential expression might be the need to ask for help, sometimes however the trigger for these emotions is external and in this case essential expression means open and honest communication with the culprit, whether they be a deliberate antagonist or an unwitting one.

How many of you walk through life answering the “how are you?” question with “Fine thank you”?

Are you?

It’s not a trick question it’s an indication of your Modus Operandi… I know that many people who ask you how you are are doing do so rhetorically and have no genuine desire to know exactly how you feel, that’s their Modus Operandi. We adopt an “everything’s rhetorical” attitude to conversation in order to not make anyone feel uncomfortable as a result of this disinterested interaction compounded by the emoji culture that we have accepted, nay – embraced.

Real feelings stay hidden, the world becomes more trapped person by person, relating becomes more plastic encounter by encounter and connection becomes only possible when aided and numbed by varying degrees of substance abuse… and our minds and hearts become sicker and lives become perceivably less valued.

Principle 4: I AM Truth, is the Wholly Grail’s gateway to essential expression and conscious communication. It asks that you step into your authenticity and be your whole self regardless of the state of your evolution and understanding, regardless of the judgments of others. It asks that you allow every Soul you encounter to do the same without your judgment.

Being your whole self, expressing both the inner storms and the inner sunshine without censor, gives permission for all those you encounter to step into their authentic essence too, we begin again to connect on a deeper level, we allow understanding to guide us towards a Modus Operandi that is based in unconditional love.

What inner truths are buried within you that need essential expression?

More later… x

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