In the last post we removed the time chasm from the healing process bringing God a step closer to your heart and you’re already on your way home… but four hurdles remain between you and the Grail. Today then let’s uncover the truth behind being human.
To truly forgive anyone including yourself involves letting go of the need to win. Failure is a comparison and comparison leads to inadequacy, inadequacy leads to low self-worth, and in an attempt to deflect that feeling of separation from God, which is what low self-worth actually is: believing you are separate from or less than the whole, leads to blame.
Blame, like time, is a redundant concept that holds you apart from your power, whether you blame yourself, someone else or even God is simply you expecting to see miracles whilst your eyes are closed. Everything in your world is a mirror of your perception of who you are in this moment… shit, that’s powerful magic! You created it all. Now instead of beating yourself up for the stuff you didn’t get just how you want it, take this masterpiece as a piece of living proof that its simply your perception that is flawed… now there is nothing to forgive is there?
I know, I know, what about the crap that others sling at you? The external illusory world is a mirror. You are the projection and it is the reflection. How others treat you is a perfect indicator of how you allow yourself to be treated… your perceived worth. You can choose to languish in self-pity because someone is treating you badly or you can choose to up your internal value by not putting up with it anymore. It’s not about them remember so if at this stage you want to stamp your feet and say “I refuse to tolerate your behaviour…” then you will get one of two reactions (reactions means mirror to your actions), the first being they may recognise they have acted in a deplorable manner and immediately change their ways and the second being them seeing your statement about what you refuse to tolerate as a challenge and so doling out more of the same to test your integrity.
We kick and scream and stamp our feet against injustice in that attempt to win, to be seen as right and in our need to place blame, we want others to take responsibility for their behaviour towards us because then we’ll feel vindicated or worse still, justified in our administering of punishment, but none of this will free us, or get us over the second hurdle – unravelling forgiveness. Master Jesus asked us to turn the other cheek. It’s not weak, it’s not running away, it’s simply accepting that every projection of how this failure, wound or slight is affecting you is creating a sharper reflection…
Forgiveness is letting go, moving on, closing the wound without the need for the action to be acknowledged, commiserated, celebrated or the scar in anyway drawn attention to. The words “I forgive you” will not heal you if they are said with the expectation of gratitude. Let your actions speak and allow the degradation perpetrated by others be a reflection of their integrity not yours… walk away, go in peace.
Principle 3: I AM Human
More later… x