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Discernment in a Time of Separation

Is the current climate of separation tempting you back into situations that you know you left for a reason?

After a week of very telling conversations, I felt drawn to write a piece today that would minister to those tempted to return to unfulfilling situations simply because the circumstances we are all experiencing at this time might be clouding judgment. Honouring yourself means exercising discernment in a time of separation.

Loneliness and the discomfort of coping alone might be a factor in the decisions we make at present, but do you remember why you moved on from those you are now considering returning to? Has anything really changed other than the feeling that you don’t want to do life by yourself?

The Grail Path requires you to place yourself as the sovereign of your own life. Ultimately this means that you step into power and take responsibility for the life, love and wellbeing that you want. It’s easy to romanticize the past and look through rose tinted glasses when things feel hard. This is especially so at present when, if you know anything about astrology, Venus has just entered shadow before retrograding for the longest period in 12 years. She isn’t asking you to go back to what was though, she’s asking you to go back and learn from those relationship mistakes and master it this time.

If you are focused on the past, thinking it was the good old days, then you are wandering into dangerous territory with Principle 2: I AM Detached. If you are projecting into the future thinking things will be different this time, then you better be sure that you have done the work. At the core of your decision needs to be the clarity of what you want, need and expect… not from others but FOR yourself. There is a big difference. If you are expecting others to provide for your needs, you are not being Self-Full and you are setting yourself up for disappointment, especially if that same person came nowhere close to fulfilling your requirements last time around.

Ask yourself these questions before you jump back into a relationship, friendship, partnership, situationship or entanglement again:

  • What has changed about you?
  • How are you going to handle the situation differently this time?
  • Have you clearly understood what the other person’s expectations of you are?
  • Are you prepared to meet those expectations?
  • Have you got a clear understanding of what your boundaries are and how to enforce them?
  • Have you made your boundaries clear to the other person?

Notice that all these questions are focused around you. You cannot control, or even accurately measure, the other person’s growth since the last time you connected (or parted), and although I am all about forgiveness (Principle 3), forgiveness is not free reign for more of the same.

The book I’m currently writing focuses heavily on this subject and guides you to honour your self-worth and remember that you are God presented in human form (Principle 1). If you allow yourself to accept less than reverence and respect from another in any of your relationships, then you allow the desecration of your most Sacred-Self.

Discernment in a time of separation needs for you to honour your own vulnerability and sit with it. If, when all this separation falls away and you return to your most powerful, you want to return to old relationships too, do so from a place of empowered respect for your heart and soul and not from the disempowered lonely ego, craving comfort, (that ultimately knows that familiarity leads back to discontent).

If you need more guidance at this time why not book a session?

Love always, Jo x

Have you seen the Dragon Reading this week? …and the Alignment Task is out later today too.

That Moment Just Before You Leap

I can’t escape the obvious underlying feeling at the moment that I’m about to proverbially jump off a cliff and test my wings for what feels like the first time. But what happens in that moment just before you leap?

Spiritaully speaking, the angels begin to gather and the Divine starts making plans for your landing… because you will land. How and when, are a matter of physics and the laws of the universe, like the law of consequence and the law of attraction… but the law of gravity does not negotiate no matter how hard you bargain.

For me, this moment signifies readiness to commit to The Grail Unfiltered. It means that as I go forward, the mask is coming off. The veil is being lifted and the soft underbelly of my own journey through the ups and downs of embracing its teachings and yet still falling asleep on the job as-it-were, are about to be front and centre so that I can better guide you to understand how it can only work for you, it can only change everything, if you stay conscious every step of the way.

That moment just before you leap is filled with trepidation and what ifs. It is filled with calculations and negotiations and in truth, none of that really matters because the universe has a plan of it’s own and you have no clue if that plan is for you to crash and burn as sport or for you to fly so high that you leave a mark on the sun.

I have to believe that the universe is a benign force with no intention other than to channel through me and you, the secrets it holds, in hope that humanity can find balance and re-enter the garden we were placed into before we thought we knew better.

That moment just before you leap can be much better served with prayer:

I live to serve. Let me do so with an open heart and a clear mind, free of the fears that I might fail in my mission and free of the confines of being too afraid to try. Let me enter the arena and take my place among those who stood here before in the fire of their own truth. Let my truth be Thy truth and let me be a clear channel for healing and transformation in Thy name.

So be it.

I am unsure when my next post will arrive. I am unsure what it will contain. What I am sure of, in this moment before I leap, is that a new life is beckoning me.

If you are on the verge of testing your wings, feel free to switch your fear to faith and by all means use my prayer.

Jo x

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Decide The Outcome Now

When I first began teaching The Wholly Grail back in 2012 I had no idea where I wanted to take it or how it would even be received. In fact, for a long time I simply did as Spirit asked and hoped for the best. The clear message now though, is decide the outcome now.

We are living in strange times. The world outside seems to have been turned on its head and many of us are feeling like our way of life is under serious threat. It could give rise to feelings of despondency and fear or it could give rise to a new found determination to find a fresh way of being that supports our greatest hopes and our health & wellbeing whilst also supporting our planet. This choice to focus on the vision we want for ourselves is the undercurrent for all mankind but also for me and my work.

In the last week, whilst the madness ramped up outside, I finally took the decision to go all in on a long held dream and took a leap of faith into the void to see if the universe would catch me. I had to consider all the aspects of the Grail in order to step up to the edge then let go. This is what I decided:

  • I am worthy of it… in fact I am the only one that can achieve this, because it’s my dream.
  • Me learning to fly or fall are the universe’s job… I only had to decide to be brave enough to jump and spread my wings.
  • All of my past failures were fuel for my future success… but not if I couldn’t forgive myself and others for the pain.
  • It had to be all me if I was going to do it… what everyone else thinks is just their opinion.
  • I am prepared to give up what I have to have what I need… clinging to what feels safe is the death of creativity.
  • I’m taking full responsibility for my own happiness and growth… they are the key to my well-being.
  • When I go all in, I expect those I go all in with to go all in with me… no more accepting less than I’m worth

…which brings me back to the first Principle. That is what these statements are, The 7 Principles of The Grail and they are how I decide the outcome now of my future path.

My leap was a personal triumph, a spiritual calling and a sound business decision. For you it could be anything from your health and well-being to your relationships. When you are at the beginning of a new chapter in your life, you have to decide the outcome now because if you don’t, how will you steer your ship towards the beautiful horizon you are dreaming of?

What are your intentions for the week/month/year ahead? Love yourself enough to decide the outcome now… and then take the leap of faith into the ocean of potential.

Get in touch if you need the courage to go all in!

Jo x

Here’s the link if you didn’t see the Dragon Reading this week? And don’t forget the Alignment Reading, it’s available from Monday afternoon.

Are You Finding Time To Do You?

Life is going to go in swings and roundabouts, peaks and troughs. Unlike the seemlessly perfect highlights of a social media lifestyle, quite often the universe has other plans and we end up neck deep in stuff that needs our attention and none of it seems to be ours. The question is, while it’s all happening, are you finding time to do you?

Self-Full Living isn’t about placing yourself in a bubble and becoming oblivious to the outside world and what it appears to need from you, its about finding balance between the demands of life, family and community and your own well-being, hopes, wishes and dreams.

In the last week or so, everything has gone a bit tits-up with my schedule as I’ve put everything on hold to renovate part of my mum’s house to make it accessible for her to come home from residential care. She’s very elderly now and her mobility is negligible. That means that I’ve been humping heavy furniture around, painting and decorating, de-cluttering years of stuff. My own goals have all had to go on hold, but I refuse to put my own health and self-care needs on hold because that just doesnt benefit anyone, including mum.

When you understand your own worth (Principle 1) and that taking care of your own well-being is the greatest gift you can give to anyone you love or who loves you (Principle 6), you begin to reconsider your actions, drop the martyrdom quest and start seeking win/win solutions for everyone involved. The biggest win/win you can gift the world is to aks yourself that question: are you taking time to do you? If the answer is no then you need to prioritise that now… no, not when the emergency or urgency is over, right now.

It doesn’t have to be dramatic or even noticeable to anyone else, simply take the time to eat well, eat fresh; rest when you are tired; spend 5 mins in meditation; stretch; hydrate. Do all of this deliberately and mindfully and pay attention to what your body needs, it will tell you (catch it on the whisper though or you will know its too little, too late).

Taking time to do you is not an indulgence, its a sacred contract you have with your own Source. Honour it. Honour yourself.

What is your mind, body and spirit asking of you today and how are you going to fulfill it’s request?

Love, Jo x

P.S. Here is the link to my Self-Full Living Workbook to help you understand your patterns and gaps in your current self-care practices. You might find it useful.

P.P.S Did you see the Dragon Reading for this week?

P.P.P.S. And your alignment task is being uncovered here in the Alignment Reading.

March Oracle – Uprooted But excited!

Wow! If you needed a push to get moving then this is it. The Intuitive Chalice Oracle is signaling that March is a month that you maybe uprooted but excited… and energized to boot!

This combination of Principle 5: I AM Liberated, and the grounding energy of the red root chakra are announcing that what once held you physically or geographically stuck, is now no longer an issue. In fact, it feels as though the universe is actually giving you a push!

A few years ago I was uprooted from my home when my landlord had to sell the property at short notice. It was a really anxious time for me. I’m a Taurus and we don’t like to be unearthed as it were. But this doesnt feel like that, it feels exciting and adventurous, so as much as you might feel a few nerves at being ungrounded temporarily, it feels as though this is something you’ve worked for and hard won.

Principle 5 is about releasing anything that holds you back, especially so called material assets, so it could portend the sale of a house or a move of some kind but it could also be a change of jobs, or just responsibilities that have kept you stuck until now that are finally being released.

Both these energies are about structure and stability being disrupted, so please do take the time to find your own centre and balance adventure with self-care. Take the time to meditate and breathe deeply, remembering that your true home is within.

I feel the energy of expansion with these cards and as I drew the combination I felt an inner expression of “Finally!” Admittedly it was followed by a slight reservation of “Now leaving your comfort zone…” but you can’t have both and not feel torn so its a good time to also get super clear on your intentions for your life going forward.

Step forward fearlessly but slowly. This is unfamiliar territory but it’s also unencumbered and freeing. Health, vitality and wellbeing will follow you as you follow your bliss, uprooted but excited!

Enjoy!

Love, Jo x

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Why FOMO Will Kill Your MOJO!

Have you ever been in that situation where you are so scared of missing what’s available, that you expend all of your energy saying yes to everyone and everything? Let me tell you why FOMO will kill your MOJO!

The truth is, yes, the world is full of shiny things that we all want to experience, but I know that you’ve heard the expression “all that glitters is not gold.” In Grail terms, to maintain your vital essence, you must invest in only the things that will in turn invest in you, i.e. give back to you in a form that nourishes your spirit.

Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted is focused on the concept of balance and your mojo is dependent on your ability to steward your inner resources. What that means is, if you are always putting out and not open to receive what needs to come in, you will be depleted as fast as you can say yes to the next thing that is presented to you.

Discernment is key to developing your spiritual mojo muscle. You have to get really good at saying no to what doesn’t ultimately serve you. If you have been experiencing mojo fatigue through prolonged FOMO (fear of missing out), then you have already had enough experience of what serves and what doesn’t. Think about all the times you said yes and then came away feeling disappointed. All the times you put energy into something or someone to realise that you got nothing out of it that was valuable. Let me give you an example: I’ve been going to MBS events for years. Sometimes to browse, sometimes to attend workshops. Every time I go of late, I leave feeling like I spent money I didn’t have on stuff that didn’t serve and instead of coming away with a sense of upliftment, I was left feeling drained and disappointed. I keep going because I have FOMO… “what if there is something new and exciting this time?”

Of course that’s just my story, I still wholehearted believe that MBS shows are a treasure chest of teachers and healers if you are just beginning this journey… in fact I can highly recommend a few!

Hearing from a few people this week feeling overwhelm and myself being a Grail teacher encouraging Self-Full Living, I have to tell you that your choices need to reflect your ultimate goals. Ask yourself always: “Does this opportunity take me closer to where I want to be?” If the answer is yes, then go for it, because the progress itself will be enough to fuel up your Grail cup and reinvigorate your waning mojo, the benefits are obvious and appropriate. If however the choice before you is merely a distraction from what’s not working in your life then you will find that once you have been distracted and its over, you will have to go back to what’s not working in your life and have gained nothing, potentially having instead used up vital resources, energetic and material, in order to be distracted.

FOMO is real, but so is balance. If you want to know the real reason FOMO will kill your mojo, its that you haven’t yet honed in on what it is you are actually trying to achieve. You get to choose what will serve your highest good and if it isn’t filling you up, it’s simply emptying you out.

Love, Jo x

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How To Glide Through A Frequency Upgrade

I’m sure that, if you are living a spiritually based life, you have heard mention of raising your vibration or frequency and that doing so will initiate changes in your everyday life. But generally, what do we really understand what those changes entail and how to glide through a frequency upgrade?

Recently I have had so many personal shifts in frequency, some planned, some forced upon me by the universe’s perverse sense of irony, that I have had to become an expert in unconditional acceptance of what is. That’s not to say that I have become defeatist in any way or settled for less than I’m worth, actually quite the opposite…

Fully integrating the Grail teachings means that I have accepted that some things are not meant to be part of my life. Some things and some people are no longer compatible with my new understanding of what is best for me. I’ve accepted that I don’t have to accept certain things, and that I absolutely can expect more for myself and from others that I associate with. That being said, not everyone wants to upgrade at the same speed or the same level. Many would prefer that I keep being a pushover and keep tolerating disrespectful behaviour, keep allowing my boundaries to be crossed and my energy siphoned off for their own ends. It’s these people that I have accepted are no longer my people.

When you are ready to understand how to glide through a frequency upgrade, you are going to start feeling like you want to scream every time you become acutely aware that something is out of alignment with your own inner peace. At these times you have a decision to make: you can either rail against the discrepancy (which incidentally allows your frequency to diminish through kicking off at the unfairness of it all and the down right disrespect for your needs), or you can remain humble, respectful and compassionate but choose to either address the issue calmly or distance yourself from the misaligned person, situation (or item) if they are unapproachable or non-compliant.

There are 4 components to the Grail that will show you how to glide through a frequency upgrade:

  • Principle 1 is your touchstone to your own self-worth and what you believe you deserve.
  • Principle 2 holds you in the present moment, letting go of all past history and future illusion that pulls you from your peace.
  • Principle 5 allows you to understand freedom from constraint means letting go of what holds you captive.
  • Principle 7 embraces all in unconditional reciprocity and balance.

You are worthy of the highest expression of your own life’s potential in this moment and to receive the reflection of that from your environment, loved ones, peers and friends. You must be prepared to lose what is less than what you hope to gain.

Let go of the unworthy and the incompatible to create space for the harmonious.

If you want to know the simplest explantion of how to glide through a frequency upgrade… don’t cling to what doesn’t serve you in the hope that it will change, but do keep your heart open as you continue on your way then if it, or they, experience an vibrational upgrade of their own, you can welcome back into the harmonious, compassionate fold without need for recourse.

Jo x

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How To Handle The Downside Of Upleveling

I have to admit I really don’t this term that has become the watchword for raising your game and your vibration. What I’ve discovered I like even less are the potential pitfalls of the process, so here’s how to handle the downside of upleveling…

Growth happens in fits and starts in most forms of life, it is cyclical. That means that there is a stage of discomfort followed by a death of what was, a recovery phase that morphs into a growth spurt and eventually an adaptation stage which allows you to get used to and comfortable with the new level of living.

This cyclical pattern is recognisable in all forms of nature but we as human beings are really bad at consciously recognising which stage we are in or indeed honouring it as a natural part of our own evolution. We rebel against the discomfort of stagnation, we rebel against the letting go (Principle 5) required for death of the old to occur, we rebel against growth favouring what was comfortable and we rebel against the concept of acceptance (Principle 7), at least at first. This rebellion is based around the desire to control the uncontrollable (Principle 2) and the need to find meaning in chaos.

Here’s is how my guides explained it to me in order that I could get with the programme and navigate the excruciating parts of personal transformation:

You want change. We know you do because you have asked for so much, longed for so many new and expansive experiences. We want that for you too, but in order to be more, you must let go of the known and shed the skin of who you once were. You must effectively die to the old self in order to allow a new version of you to be born. You cannot live in the confines of self-imposed restriction with your wings pinned and fly among the high one’s at the same time.

In basic terms if you want to meet people, you have to go where the people are, if you want to learn new things you have to admit you don’t know them… discomfort is the natural predecessor of change and so your comfort zone is going to have to be exited.

If you want to know how to handle the downside of upleveling then you have to get comfortable with your own discomfort. you have to have your eye on your target and understand that the space between where you are and where it exists is an unknown quantity, so you are going to have to get brave, really brave! You are going to have show the universe that the thing you want, the state of being you desire, is worth the risk of feeling like you are out there on a limb, walking a path that may present as if nobody has every walked it before. You are going to have to accept that those you have walked beside might not want to come with you and so you are going to have to dig deep into your well of self-sufficiency to use solitude as a powerhouse for inspiration so that you don’t give into the loneliness of the narrow path ahead. And you are going to have to commit, I mean really commit to moving through the darkness with only your own light to lead the way.

The last stage of the journey is adaptation. This comes when we accept that there is no way back to the place where you began. You don’t belong there any more so you may as well make the most of this new place, this new level of evolvement. It begins with acceptance that nothing is ever going to be the same… and there it is, the key concept in how to handle the downside of upleveling is: acceptance.

Given time, you won’t even remember what all the fuss was about. This new you will eventually become the new normal… and then you’re going to start the process again.

Love Jo x

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Handling The Process of Liberation

I can’t begin to describe to you how difficult and yet strangely comforting the last week or so has been, as I have been launched unexpectedly into handling the process of liberation. The sudden death of a loved one around the time of the new moon, a change in direction over an elderly parent’s care and a hiccup in my own health, have all pushed me to re-embrace parts of myself that I had mistakenly cast aside in the melee of daily life.

Liberation is sometimes a gentle letting go of the things that we have outgrown, but oftentimes it comes as a shock ending of something that we naively believed would be there forever. Nothing in nature is permanent and we are therefore advised in every spiritual tradition to live in the now and attach to nothing.

Human nature though, has us forming bonds for our own survival, a hang up from the days when primative tribal mentality was still the norm across the entire globe.

As we are jolted by whatever means from our intrinsic trance-like state, just long enough to see clearly the bigger plan that is subtly shielded from us in order that we continue along our daily charade, we are forced to look at our own mortality and our own sense of posessive ownership of the things, people and connections around us. Even our own bodies are on loan from the universe, as a vehicle for exploring the realm in which we find ourselves. But it’s a beautiful game and one we were falling over ourselves to be a part of no doubt.

Handling the process of liberation though, is a game of slowing down and getting to grips with where you are. I have found myself speeding up, leaning into the experience of expelling the unwanted… not gripping, not resisting but in complete opposition… forcing the process to continue. Daring the universe in a bold “let’s just get on with it then” kind of attitude. It’s not the way.

If you are handling this letting go process or finding yourself in a grieving stage, be mindful that Source has a timetable, one that is designed for you to handle even if it feels like you are falling apart (or holding it together). You are not in control of the speed at which the universe purges your karma or even how long it will take to reach your destiny.

Be prepared to let go… don’t rush forward, don’t hold back… let nature take it’s course and you will arrive exactly where you are meant to be, exactly when you are meant to be there.

Now is the time to practice extreme self-care (Principle 6), self-love (Principle 1) and forgiveness (Principle 3).

Allow yourself to feel.

Jo x

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February’s Oracle – Feeling Human Again

It’s a combination that I didn’t know when I selected the cards, would resonate so keenly in the month ahead. Joining together the energies of fallibility, even vulnerability with the gentle brush of compassion, this month’s Intuitive Chalice Oracle is asking us to keep our hearts open to healing until we start feeling human again.

Usually the combination of forgiveness and the healing of emotions brought on by either our own failure or the triggering acts of another, Principle 3: I AM Human asks you see the divinity behind the mask of frailty. I also asks that you honour that existence in the material plane demands that we learn through making mistakes and sometimes those mistakes hurt us or others.

The heart chakra has a magical quality when we allow it to open fully to unconditional forgiveness, because through time and compassion, through understanding and gentle letting go, it re-orients to the divine in every being. It is only in the seat of the ego that unforgiveness remains beyond the higher perspective of witnessing all humanity as children learning.

As I write this evaluation of the energies for the coming month, I am grieving. A shock, sudden departure from this world of a deep love, has me considering the most beautiful aspects of humanity even when the physical truth was less than desirable. All our brothers and sisters deserve our love and compassion and we deserve it for ourselves. Freedom exists in knowing what to hold onto and when suffering is a choice of simply letting go. Love remains and even increases beyond and behind the mask of humanity because there is no barrier or ego to impede its natural flow.

As you step through February, be mindful of the grudges you carry, the hurts you hold onto, the scars you use as badges of honour and the venom you use as a battle cry. It will not lift you to the place of peace you wish to reside in. Revenge will not bring you inner calm and the sanctuary of angelic wings to enfold you, it will bring you only separation from the most precious commodity that human beings have to trade, and that is love.

Forgive everyone, start with yourself. Offer love instead of anger or fearful rebukes. Now is the time to empty the poisoned chalice and refill it with that which serves your highest purpose… you were made to be a pure clear channel for light. You’ll soon be feeling human again.

Love, Jo x

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