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Self-Care Special: It Will Happen When It’s Ready

Battling with myself just now as to whether to write a Self-Care Special blog or give it a miss this week, I recognised in myself the familiar feeling of having pushed past my limit. Being Self-Full requires that you know when to rest and to know it will happen when it’s ready, life that is.

Deadlines are great for getting stuff done, they really are, but if you are the kind of person that has trouble listening to your soul’s voice and taking heed of your body’s requirements, then that deadline is goin to be the thing that you punish yourself with time and time again.

I’ve learned to honour the voice inside that tells me when enough is enough, so before I wrote this I took a few hours off to recoup some energy after a long week of juggling my own priorities and other peoples needs. We are in strange times at present and personal wellbeing is a high priority, as is managing stress. It is a fact that stress reduces the immune system and so its wise to manage your schedule in a way supports your long term dreams as well as your immediate well-being.

Nature is showing us that it has its own priorities and deadlines at the moment and funnily enough, they cannot be negotiated with. Crisis has a certain way of putting everything into perspective in a way that forces you to conform to the natural order. Your health has a natural cycle just like Mother Nature and when she says stop and rest, if you listen and act promptly, and you’re lucky enough, stop and rest won’t mean just STOP.

Get your hands on a copy of The Self-Full Living Workbook here and start prioritising your well-being today!

Everything has a timetable and you cannot force it nor can you hold it back so you may as well just get on board and go with the flow. It will happen when it’s ready.

To help you along the way though, try the following:

The universe will get you exactly where you need to be exactly when you are supposed to be there. I truly believe that. So as you glide into this week, can you let things happen in divine right timing and get out of your own way to take care of you first?

Let’s call it a challenge.

Love, Jo x

P.S. Did you see this week’s Dragon Reading? …and check out the Alignment Task for this week on my YouTube Channel.

Learn To Do It When You’re Ready.

I’m a day late and a dollar short (as they say). Not that anyone is keeping score. Sometimes you have to understand that in order to keep life in balance you have to learn to do things when you’re ready.

Discipline is a vital tool to keep the show on the road, but discipline should be built around your priorities, and in case you haven’t been paying attention, my priority is not getting the blog or the newsletter out on on time, its self-love and living a Self-Full life… and that’s exactly what I want for all of you too.

To be honest I’ve spent the new year in and out of the hospital visiting my mum who succumbed to yet another chest infection, luckily we caught it before it turned to pneumonia like it did last year (actually 2018 thinking about it). She’s back at the nursing home now in respite and feeling much better but as you can imagine, when your loved ones are sick, especially when they are elderly you go into high alert. I’m your perfect crisis management partner to be honest, I roll my sleeves up, get stuck in and do what needs doing… its when its over I’m FUBAR! Once the emergency dies down I have a hell of a job managing the adrenal spike and the fatigue that follows. I have healing techniques and startegies now that make it a faster job, one of which is to fully acknowledge and allow my own need for a time-out and some deep self-care. Another is to say no to everything that does not serve your wellbeing and to say “not yet” to everything that can wait.

We live in a society that puts so much pressure on us to conform and to deliver and we put even more pressure on ourselves. This people-pleasing nature is endimic especially in western culture and leads to burn-out and misery. It leads to codependency and power play in relationship dynamics and to a skewed way of measuring our own self-worth and value to society.

In tuth, if you learn to do it when you’re ready, whatever it may be, the resulting product of your time and attention will be far more potent, appreciated and filled with more of your vital creative force than if you serve from an empty cup.

All that being said, there is no newsletter this week and although the alignment readings and dragon readings are ready, they will not be posted to until this weekend.

You are on my priority list… you just aren’t quite as high up as my mum and my health & well-being!

Love, Jo x

P.S. Why not invest in spending a little time prioritising yourself this month and see how much more you have to give (when you’re ready)?

P.P.S You can become a member of my Patreon Channel for guided meditations to help you find balance and alignment and be more Self-Full… (I will be updating that with more content as soon as I’m able and all caught up).

Saturday Oracle – Down There’s For Dancing

Have you ever heard that phrase “Up here’s for thinking, down there’s for dancing”? It’s just possible it denotes the need to get out of your own head occasionally and ground the stuff that goes on up there in your frequently overburdened mind. This is a week though where your ego didn’t listen and your dancing may just suffer the consequences.

When Principle 3: I AM Human teams up with the blood red base or root chakra, your bad choices can make life a little difficult physically.

Principle 3 is about making mistakes (or deliberately doing the opposite of what’s for the best) and the need to make things right or forgive what cannot be changed. The base chakra deals with your physicality, strength and foundations. Now forgive me if I’m wrong but isn’t this the weekend of the international chocolate festival? (I mean Easter obviously). If I’m right then be warned that your choices may have a noticeably detrimental effect on your health this week.

It’s not just about holiday overindulgence though, you can’t carry on the way you have been doing and not expect there to be consequences, so this week is the week when your health becomes a primary focus and you should begin in earnest to redress any issues with regards to your body’s needs.

There are myriad ways in which you may make small adjustments to improve your well-being but the base chakra wants you to get physical and get grounded… Down there’s for dancing so if you like dancing start there… it’s also for walking, running, kickboxing… you get the idea. This is the week to start moving your ass despite your inner complaining.

On your spiritual journey its really easy to forget that working on yourself means mind, BODY and spirit… it’s all God. Don’t make the journey shorter by forgetting the fundamentals.

Heave a happy, healthy, active Easter!

More next week… x

Something For The Weekend – Making Healthier Choices

Previous results can often influence future decisions. It is possible to lose confidence in your own ability to choose for your highest good if you consider yourself to have been marred by past mistakes. It’s perfectly understandable that you would have pause for thought in such circumstances but overthinking can render decision making impossible. So how can you ensure you are making healthier choices?

A bit of a perspective reshuffle might be in order at this stage before we go further…

Whatever the past mistakes, experience was born of them… as was resolve and flexibility and a knack for survival, so even if the outcome you intended did not come to pass, something even more valuable was reaped from the journey you took. Taking that into account and then applying Principle 3: I AM Human (and shit happens),  you can let go of the need for controlling the outcome and instead make decisions based on their potential for adventure rather than their guarantee of a specific destination.

Start by defining your success by the experience you  harnessed from the ride, from the people you encountered and connections you made, from the ingenuity you dug from deep within to navigate the obstacles and rapids along the way, your success is so much deeper and so much broader than the outcome and besides, your small self cannot possibly get your mind around the bigger picture that Source has planned and what role your success or perceived failure plays in its orchestration.

When you make your choice, whatever it is, remember that you can make another choice a few steps down the road when evidence starts to show up of how the first one is working out. Life is constantly giving you nudges to adjust your sails so one wrong move doesn’t have to be the end of the world… (and I suspect if it was, a new world would be born from the debris).

You will always know where you are and what adjustments need to be made by:

  • Your dominant thought patterns
  • How you feel emotionally
  • Your physical health
  • Your energy levels
  • External manifestations

To make healthier choices you can take the list above and then do a quick run down of the 7 Principles to come at the choice from a different angle…

  1. Am I aware of my power in this moment?
  2. Am I fully present with what is?
  3. Am I being influenced by my perceived mistakes?
  4. What is really true for me?
  5. How free do I feel in this moment?
  6. What are my immediate and long term needs?
  7. Am I allowing and accepting of change?

All of these triggers are meant to recalibrate you back to the centre of your own sovereignty and empowerment.

Let me know how you get on.

More later… x

Adopting A Playful Approach To Today

The 7 Principles of The Wholly Grail once embraced, create powerful shifts in perception that can transform your world at its deepest level. How you perceive the world around you directly affects your interactions with it and how you interpret reality. Reality, being pliable, is waiting for you to recreate it the way you want it and you can do that by adopting a playful approach to today…

I want to give you an example of how everything can be different even if nothing has changed:

I’ve had 3 days off from stress this week because I’ve been ill. How ridiculous does that sound? Giving yourself permission to not stress over a stressful situation that hasn’t actually altered in its urgency or importance, it took being ill to let go of trying to control something that cannot be controlled, hunting for a solution that is actually already hunting for you, is in my opinion one of the most ludicrous ways to embrace Grail Principle 6: I AM Self-Full that I have ever encountered.

Ludicrous as it may be, the realisation that it took being sick to show me the futility of the situation has made this viral interlude one of the most joyful, playful illness I’ve ever had… I’ve thoroughly enjoyed it. No really… extra time in bed reading, writing and catching up with neglected stuff, long walks to clear my head (and my sinuses) talking to the trees and the birds all the while, smiling like a maniac and damn near skipping along the street. Re-embracing my favourite thing to do in the world which is dancing, albeit in my own living room…. my connection to Source has been fully restored and I can once again hear my guidance loud and clear.

Prior to adopting my playful attitude I was grasping at any and all available solutions however inappropriate they might have been for me, now I’ve remembered how powerful I am, what I’m worth, what I’m willing to accept. My discernment has resurfaced to sort the wheat from the chaff at the get go so that I don’t have to waste valuable energy exploring every option, I can instead play my way to more joyfulness and allow happy outcomes to be born of synchronicity instead.

Instead of searching frantically for a new home, I’ve begun choosing the decor for it instead, I love interior design and making things beautiful and I’m going ultra girly with this one… 3 house options have turned up this morning for my consideration simply because I remembered the meanings behind each Grail Principle:

  • Principle 1: I create my own reality (so I might as well play with it)
  • Principle 2: The time it takes is irrelevant (there is no pressure)
  • Principle 3: It’s okay if I got it wrong (let it go and begin anew)
  • Principle 4: Discernment is about what’s right for me (I can choose)
  • Principle 5: All that glitters is not gold (and diamonds start off as coal)
  • Principle 6: My well-being trumps all other agendas
  • Principle 7: Doors open when I’m open to them

Go on, see if you can transform your perspective and your luck by adopting a playful approach to today.

Have a fab weekend… x

More later… x

 

 

Consciously Emptying The Sacred Chalice – A Lesson In Wellness

My posts have been a little haphazard and Ad hoc the last couple of weeks having been thrown into an uncomfortable situation where home has become an uncertain future, flowers don’t enjoy being uprooted. Whilst that stress continues though, I have been consciously emptying the sacred chalice, my metaphorical Grail cup, and so this then has become for me a lesson in wellness.

Let me paint a little picture for you… I’m writing this whilst wrapped up in bed having come down with some lurg or other and feeling a little bit grotty, knowing full well that my levels of stress over the last couple of weeks have depleted my immunity and my natural resilience to microscopic airborne assailants rendering me susceptible to this current virus… but the worst thing is knowing I got there consciously, knowingly, giving it full permission.

Why would anybody consciously empty the sacred chalice?

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full is multifaceted but it’s primary duty is taking care of one’s physical needs and well-being… when stressful situations arise and we launch into a natural tendency towards crisis management, we often forget that our primary home is the body we live in and its needs become secondary to whatever else it is we are prioritising.

When I say consciously, what I mean is that at a regular points during the on going drama, I have spoken out loud to friends and loved ones, “I need to stop eating crap,” “my muscles are in knots,” and a flurry of other acknowledgements to my growing discomfort and self neglect, but no sooner had the issue been recognised and acknowledged than I had substituted a fast fix that I knew would get me past the immediate need but ultimately put me in this bed!

So early this week I wrote about “Just One Thing.” I’m adding this as an appendix: “…but not at the expense of your health.”

Principle 6, Things to remember:

  • Self-Full means eating nutritious, life enhancing foods (lay off the starch, fat and sugar).
  • Self-Full means regulating sleep patterns (not surfing property listings at 3am).
  • Self-Full means exercising (especially if you need to burn off stress hormones) gentle yoga or tai chi will help you relax too.
  • Self-Full means meditation to clear your mind (not over thinking and second guessing).
  • Self-Full means asking for help when you need it (and being open to offers).
  • Self-Full means joyfully acknowledging life as an adventure (even the scary bits) so love it!

I can honestly say that being unwell has given me an excuse to let go of all the stress and striving and just take care of me, but the tragic thing is that I didn’t need an excuse and I didn’t need to make myself sick to get there.

Dump the stress now, all is exactly as it should be.

I’m off now to set my Grail cup back upon its base and begin to refill it. Isn’t it nice to know that those who teach are human and f**k it up too? (Principle 3).

More later… x

Weekend Wisdom – The Story Of The Village Well

Let me share a parable with you today: the story of the village well, a humble hole in the ground located centrally in the square where people arrived daily to draw from its depths the very essence of life.

The purest, sweetest clean water was to be found at the bottom of this well and it served the village for centuries. So reliable was the humble hole in the ground that as the years rolled by the village’s began to take it for granted. There were those more thirsty than others that returned to the well several times a day without thought for the rate of flow of the pure sweet water at the bottom or if there would be sufficient for those who had not yet taken their turn. The constant lowering of buckets was, little by little, damaging the delicate walls of the hole in the ground at the centre of the village square and slowly but surely they were beginning to deteriorate, crashing down rocks and particles into the ancient well and slowly contaminating the essence of life beneath… but more than that: beginning to stem the flow from the underground spring.

Centuries ago, when the well had been dug, it was respected, honoured, worshipped and maintained. The hole in the ground was surrounded by a stone wall to protect its perimeter, the villagers took turns in climbing down to clear the spring and maintain the walls, the process was considered an honour and a sacred duty and celebrated with each season. After each maintenance the well was dressed and the villagers would dance around the sacred altar through which the whole community was granted life… but those centuries had past and those who remembered the tradition were long since gone or much too frail to carry out the sacred work… and those who were able were far too invested in what the hole in the ground could do for them to notice that their supply was drying up.

One morning after many years of neglect and deterioration, as the villagers arrived to draw from the hole in the ground… and a crowd began to gather (and voices were raised and heads were scratched), it became apparent that the well was dry. Blocked up? Filled in? Stupid hole in the ground… what use are you if you cannot provide water?

The angry villagers, not understanding their part in the downfall of the sacred fount, not understanding that by effort or offering of themselves, their time, their resources, they might fix it and keep it stable and pure, simply began to leave.

Packing up their worldly goods they set out into the wilderness in search of another hole in the ground to use up and disrespect (and we all know how long you can stay out in the wilderness searching for what you need)… left behind were those too frail to leave, too old to climb into the well and fix the years of neglect… and so they withered too.

The power of the pure sweet flowing water was such that after many years the obstructions were cleared and the newcomers to the village recognised the value of the hole in the ground. They honoured and protected it by building a stone wall around its perimeter, they assigned the strongest and the best to climb down and clear the remaining debris and created a timetable of maintenance along with a village fair to celebrate every season. The new villagers understood that the well needed tending and so each was happy to begin tithing  to create a “Well-ness” fund for it’s needs. They assigned a well attendant to manage the lowering bucket and monitor the usage of the well so everyone had their fair share, as a result of the regulated usage of the essence of life, the flow increased and abundance followed… and the village grew…

It’s an interesting word: “well” isn’t it?

Make of the story what you will and decide if you want to take the hole in the ground for granted or contribute to its upkeep, it’s always been your choice… Principle 6: I AM Self-Full & Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted.

More later… x

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Maintaining Focus In The Face Of Distraction

I’m devout in my spiritual daily practice, not for any other reason than it helps me stay well. When I say well I mean balanced in mind, body and soul, but over the last few days it has been almost impossible maintaining focus in the face of distraction.

Daily practice for me begins with journaling, is followed by meditation and I end the day the same way. I take a few minutes out in the afternoon to check in with my Higher Power (what I refer to as God, though I’m aware you may have a different name for It).

When that routine is disturbed for whatever reason, I feel the absence of focus begin to creep in almost immediately… you know that feeling that you’ve forgotten something important? Having that routine disturbed for a few days though, and I start to feel genuinely unhappy. I’ve been two days with a disturbed practice. It started on day one as a necessity and continued as an experiment… “what’s the worst that could happen?” I didn’t always have this routine and I must have survived before it or I wouldn’t be here, right? The experiment was kind of like seeing what it would be like to go cold turkey to break a habit… is it just a habit?

Daily practice, whatever it may be, is fundamental to my wellbeing. I used the word unhappy to describe something indescribable, but let me break it down for you:

No focus, no direction, impending sense of doom, overwhelming feeling of being alone even in a crowd, physical lethargy, headaches, anxiety, inability to cope with stressful situations, poor digestion even… all because I thought “what’s the worst that could happen?”

When Saturday’s oracle honed in on Self-Full Living (Principle 6), and particularly on taking care of your self-care/personal grooming in order to build confidence, it’s also worth noting that you are a human holy trinity: your mind, your body and your spirit require restoration and respect through meditation.

You deserve to be at the top of your own priority list, and a simple daily practice can help you achieve not just confidence but also health, happiness, balance, insight, connection and focus.

I’m off now to do just that before anything else.

More later… x

 

After The Storm

I love the smell of the air immediately after the storm. Everything is more alive, more vibrant, washed clean by the rain and in full colour. It’s a time when, as a child I would take off my shoes and walk along the York stone paving with bare feet just so I could feel the wet, cool, solid foundation reminding me that this moment counts.

This moment counts.

What you do with it is your choice. It could be life changing, life affirming or it could pass by as a simple moment of acknowledgment of all that there is… you don’t have to do anything of course, you can go on with your daily rounds without looking up, without truly, fully breathing in, and without a clue that the moment is passing you by.

Having selected Principle 6: I AM Self-Full as the lead card in Saturday’s Intuitive Chalice Oracle, I’m mindful of the focus energy this week on doing what’s right for you and doing it slowly and with purpose. It’s being compounded by the gentle new moon in Taurus arriving in the early hours of Wednesday morning (about 01:16am UK time). The emphasis for me is about focus: all or nothing, this and only this… It may seem like limiting choices and expression of variety but for now at least, that way lies scattered thinking and dispersed intentions. I am my primary focus. My needs are paramount.

The storm has passed and it’s time to ponder the emergence of fresh perspective and tend to the fundamentals like health, home and happiness.

Whatever storms you have been facing have blown away the cobwebs and the chaos has transformed into a fertile landscape for planting new seeds. Some of those seeds you rescued from what went before, some you have dreamed anew but the only thing that matters now are the dreams you’ve dreamed for you.

Take off your shoes, put your feet on the ground, breathe, smile… and draw the moment inward until it fills you.

Happy Monday… x

 

The Shock of My Life

Do you know the number one cause of stress and worry? Do you know what it does to your body? Do you know how I know for sure what I'm about to tell you?

Let's start in the middle of those questions...

Stress, worry and anxiety all have the effect of raising the levels of cortisol (literally a stress hormone) in your bloodstream which has multiple effects on your system. Firstly it causes heightened awareness, now you might think this is a good thing but that awareness is coupled with a primitive survival instinct which causes irrational anxiety and eventually paranoia when the only threat in the average day to day 21st century western environment is whether your cappuccino  is too hot and whether or not your partner is sleeping with someone else while you're apart Read More