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What To Do When Your Chalice Spills

There is one fundamental truth to the Grail Path that cannot be avoided when living a physical life, (which if you are reading this then presumably you are): You cannot keep the Grail. It will inevitable be upturned at some point in your life and you will need to begin to refill it from the bottom up. But do you know what to do when your chalice spills?

Loss of vital lifeforce

Put in plain language, life throws you curve balls in the form of challenges, endings, illness and a whole host of other shocks and spills that will cause your world to rock internally and transform right before your eyes. These are moment when you aren’t sure you can go on. It is certain that life will not allow you to go on the way you were before, because now your reality has shifted irrevocably and you have to learn a whole new set of rules in unfamiliar circumstances. Before any of that can happen in your outer reality, you have to heal the initial spill of your vital lifeforce …and that is going to take a beat.

When shock shows up in your world and your Grail cup is upturned, it’s a usual response to try to do one of two things:

  • Attempt to gather the scattered contents and get back what was lost or
  • Fill the chalice with anything and everything inappropriate to distract from the emptiness and avoid feeling that loss.

A more effective method

Let me just reassure you that neither of these responses is wrong… there is only instinct and survival under these circumstances, but there are more effective ways of recovery.

Try to understand that the sacred chalice is never completely empty even when it appears all is lost. There is residue clinging to the sides. Depending on how much self- work you have done on your path, that residue will either be supportive or detrimentaal to whatever you choose to refil the cup with. That residue is in the form of memories, beliefs, gratitude or regret for example. You first need to give the mind, body and spirit an opportunity to process the residue and that means being brave enough to stay empty for a time.

Honouring the void

Staying empty means leaving a void and that void is filled with healing nurturing potential. The longer we can honour the space, the more complete the healing, before we begin to refill the claice with new stuff. This doesn’t mean pushing away the offer of nurturance and support, but it does mean rejecting the more socailly acceptable distractions (usually offered by others to alleviate their own discomfort around your situation). this is going to take forgiveness and firm boundaries.

Instead, this is what to do when your chalice spills:

  • Give yourself permission to feel
  • Give yourself permission to be
  • Focus on the basics of self-care (Self-Full Living)
  • Don’t apologise for yourself
  • Don’t minimise your emotions to honour the feelings of others
  • Don’t compare your journey to anyone else’s
  • Ask for help from appropriate sources
  • Take time out until you are ready
  • Honour the sacred redirection the Divine is offering

The chalice often spills out of the blue. Occasionally we are aware of the incoming changes, but can do nothing to prevent them from occurring. The more you understand the Principles of The Grail Path the more tools you have to anchor your faith in your ability to heal and set the Chalice back upright, ready to refill after a time. You will be to go on to do the great things the Universe created you for, don’t doubt that for a second.

Love, Jo xxx

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Soul Alignment – When There’s No Going Back

You know that you are nowhere near the finish line yet, but you also have a sneaky suspicion that you have past the point of no return when there’s no going back from here on out. Understanding that now is the time to double-down on your intentions and focus on where you want to go rather than where you have been, how exactly do you get into alignment with something that you have never actually experienced?

Life is changing. Not just outwardly, but also on a cellular level for many of us. We are becoming increasingly aware that we cannot return to what was. If you, like me have noticed your frequency changing, your preferences transforming day by day your sensitivity to what no longer resonates increasing by the moment, then you may also be experiencing the underlying anxiety that goes along with a fundamental shift.

Personally, as a fixed earth sign, I don’t relish major and irrevocable change, (which is a bit of a problem at the moment with Uranus, the planet of upheaval, currently resident in my home sign)! It leaves me feeling ungrounded, uprooted and with a sense of loss that disturbs my creative process and my sense of wellbeing. I feel the need to dive deep into my own reflective journey and become hermit-like. Even in the throes of what essentially has been hibernation for many, I need to go deeper in, before I can come through. I understand that transformation comes with liberation and that blessings must follow, but that doesn’t make the actual transition any less frought.

Alignment is the process of surrender, acceptance and releasing resistance to forces beyond your control. But it also requires that you orient yourself in the direction of the current so that you flow with it instead of being battered by it along the way. It requires that you set your intention for a blessed outcome, allowing the universe to dictate what needs to grow and what needs to fall, in order to arrive at that state of bliss.

When you set your intention, or place your focus, (which is tantamount to the same thing whether you realise it or not), on an outcome that you fear, then you create more resistance and make the changes increasingly more painful. When you focus on what wonders might replace your current status quo, in a manner that stays positively expectant of miracles, then you open the scope of the creative genius of the whole universe to surprise and delight you.

The transition itself, is one that you have to do in a way that supports your soul’s growth whilst ensuring that your ego feels heard and safe.

If like me, you struggle with change no matter how much you also remain open to it, then increasing the conversations you have with your higher power, angels and soul voice, through meditation, journaling and even creative daydreaming, can be beneficial in stabilising your vibration as it shifts and finds a new normal. Support your mind, body and spirit with rest, adequate hydration and nutrition. Retreat from those whose energy feels unsupportive, negative or heavy. Don’t feel the need to explain your healing actions and don’t be tempted to appease those who do not support your growth. Yes, that may mean even more change as you feel familiar networks and relationships fall away but also give rise to a self-empowered new standard of what you will and will not accept for yourself.

Respect yourself enough to know when there’s no going back. Love yourself enough to do the journey your own way. Accept yourself enough to become what you were sent here to become… but most of all see yourself clearly enough to know that there is always more to do, more to love and more to accept.

Keep growing.

Love, Jo x

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How To Glide Through A Frequency Upgrade

I’m sure that, if you are living a spiritually based life, you have heard mention of raising your vibration or frequency and that doing so will initiate changes in your everyday life. But generally, what do we really understand what those changes entail and how to glide through a frequency upgrade?

Recently I have had so many personal shifts in frequency, some planned, some forced upon me by the universe’s perverse sense of irony, that I have had to become an expert in unconditional acceptance of what is. That’s not to say that I have become defeatist in any way or settled for less than I’m worth, actually quite the opposite…

Fully integrating the Grail teachings means that I have accepted that some things are not meant to be part of my life. Some things and some people are no longer compatible with my new understanding of what is best for me. I’ve accepted that I don’t have to accept certain things, and that I absolutely can expect more for myself and from others that I associate with. That being said, not everyone wants to upgrade at the same speed or the same level. Many would prefer that I keep being a pushover and keep tolerating disrespectful behaviour, keep allowing my boundaries to be crossed and my energy siphoned off for their own ends. It’s these people that I have accepted are no longer my people.

When you are ready to understand how to glide through a frequency upgrade, you are going to start feeling like you want to scream every time you become acutely aware that something is out of alignment with your own inner peace. At these times you have a decision to make: you can either rail against the discrepancy (which incidentally allows your frequency to diminish through kicking off at the unfairness of it all and the down right disrespect for your needs), or you can remain humble, respectful and compassionate but choose to either address the issue calmly or distance yourself from the misaligned person, situation (or item) if they are unapproachable or non-compliant.

There are 4 components to the Grail that will show you how to glide through a frequency upgrade:

  • Principle 1 is your touchstone to your own self-worth and what you believe you deserve.
  • Principle 2 holds you in the present moment, letting go of all past history and future illusion that pulls you from your peace.
  • Principle 5 allows you to understand freedom from constraint means letting go of what holds you captive.
  • Principle 7 embraces all in unconditional reciprocity and balance.

You are worthy of the highest expression of your own life’s potential in this moment and to receive the reflection of that from your environment, loved ones, peers and friends. You must be prepared to lose what is less than what you hope to gain.

Let go of the unworthy and the incompatible to create space for the harmonious.

If you want to know the simplest explantion of how to glide through a frequency upgrade… don’t cling to what doesn’t serve you in the hope that it will change, but do keep your heart open as you continue on your way then if it, or they, experience an vibrational upgrade of their own, you can welcome back into the harmonious, compassionate fold without need for recourse.

Jo x

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Weekly Oracle – The End Of The World Or The Beginning

The most powerful card in the Intuitive Chalice Oracle was only too happy to show itself at this time, first to remind us how far we’ve come, and then how far we still have to go. Is it the end of the world or the beginning, I wonder?

Having just finished a meditation to consult with Big G in whatever form He decided to take on for me, it has become very obvious to me that I need to take a break from the blog, possibly even from my spiritual work and teaching (at least my online presence) for a while. The reasons are numerous and you may have noticed my posts becoming more and more sparse of late. Having just spent 4 months of visiting my mum in hospital as she almost died from pneumonia and a whole raft of other complications, thankfully she is home now and well on the road to recovery, albeit slowly, and about to celebrate her 82nd birthday on Monday. Throughout this time I have struggled with my own health, stresses and low energy but continued to support, heal, uplift and empower others through their life transitions and upheavals. It’s time though for me to focus on my own needs and let go of the resistance I have to the change that has been trying to come through me for a while.

The Sacred Chalice is a full stop on the journey. It has the essence of great joy and of great sadness. It can signal a miracle, celebration, surrender or complete loss of faith. It heralds a loss of health or a complete healing and whilst one half the world will be reaping the rewards of this powerful omen, the other half will be paying for it, just as when the tide comes in on your beach, elsewhere on the planet the tide is going out.

This week’s oracle has about it the energy of great sadness and also of great relief. You may find that you are met with a very significant wake up call to the onset of yet another cycle to which you have, so far, been asleep… but you won’t sleep through another one. The familiar is not your friend this time and you cannot keep doing it the same way. It will continue to rob you of your life force if you let it.

Love exists here. That is the most important theme this week. Let everything go except for the love. The love you have for YOU.

Every Principle within The Wholly Grail is designed to help you set your Sacred Chalice back upright and refill it with the most precious resources the universe is channelling towards you:

Principle 1:

…wants you to know that everything about you is pure Source energy in manifest form and to know that is to respect yourself and hold yourself in the highest esteem and reverence, and yet to wander through life humbly, knowing that every being you meet is of the same Godforce and deserves the same love.

Principle 2:

…wants you to know that right now is the only moment in which you have any power. Who you used to be and who you envisage yourself becoming are mere shadows in your mind, each robbing you of your experience second by second. If it’s important -do it now, take action. If it’s not – let it go. If the moment has passed, mourn it by all means, but don’t dwell there. If it hasn’t arrived, don’t waste your life on waiting.

Principle 3:

…wants you to know that forgiveness sets you free and allows healing to begin. Perfection doesn’t exist in third dimensional reality, so striving for it is a fools game. Do your best, always, but failure isn’t just an option, it’s a requirement on the path back to enlightenment. Remember this in others and be quick to apologise… and quicker to forgive.

Principle 4:

…wants you to know that your truth is not the only truth, but it’s the only one that matters in your personal journey. You need no approval and no consent to hold an opinion or belief regardless of how different it maybe from the mainstream, nor do you need permission to express yourself. Nobody will ever express your truth the way you do and nobody will ever have the perspective that you do. Your level of learning is in constant flux and you may reserve the right to evolve and change your mind… so does everyone else.

Principle 5:

…wants you to know that the things that once seemed so important and held so much significance to you, begin to form structures and boundaries around you. Some healthy, some not so much. These structures can become your prisons and the things you believe you have ownership of, actually have ownership over you. Breaking free requires letting them go… with love and gratitude. The Grail requires a constant flow of fresh energy to remain a crystal clear vessel for spirit. Make room.

Principle 6:

…wants you to know that when the vessel is overturned and emptied, you must begin with you in the process of healing. Make your health, happiness and well-being a priority every day. Take care of you first, then those closest to you before you serve the greater whole once the Chalice overflows once more. Do not wait for someone else to provide for your needs. You are uniquely qualified to tend to your requirements. Self-love is not an indulgence, it is a spiritual directive that you must fulfil.

Principle 7:

…wants you to know that the universe loves you unconditionally and is constantly sending you all the energy, resources and love that you need, but you have to be open to receiving it in the form that the universe shares it rather than in the way you dictate. Open your heart to the bounty that has been laid out before you and allow beauty in all its forms to be gifted to you right now. You cannot give with receiving in return, you cannot receive with offering the opportunity. Let life flow by getting it of its way. Open the channel up to the wide beam of unending love instead of the narrow focus you’ve set your sights on.

As you walk through the week ahead, do so consciously, and know that whether it looks good or bad on the surface, whether it is the end of your world as you know it, or just the beginning, if you are celebrating, surrendering, losing faith or witnessing a miracle… you are right where you are meant to be. You are so much more powerful than you think. And who you are becoming is grateful for your sacrifice.

Whether I will return with more Grail Teachings in the future, or leave it to those who already have it covered remains to be seen… for now at least, I wish you so much love.

Until we meet again on the path… x

Weekly Oracle – Rewrite The Rulebook

As an oracle, it is the purpose of The Intuitive Chalice to map the flow of energy for the coming period, in this case the week ahead. It’s purpose is not to divine outcomes but rather to pre-empt potential opportunities to use the Wholly Grail’s Principles in order to elicit a more peaceful, powerful you. This week’s combination is suggesting that you rewrite the rulebook to create more freedom in your life.

Peace is a long-term objective here and unfortunately will likely be preceded by much upheaval before the new way of being is assimilated and fully normalised.

Principle 5: I AM Liberated, takes the idea of ownership and highlights where the things you own begin to own you but also that the structures and guidelines that you either set or bought into have become too restrictive and in some form have morphed into your own personal prison.

When we add the royal blue throat chakra into the mix there are questions surrounding how we communicate and what truth we are attempting to share.

The week ahead seems to be a time when you are realising that what was once true for you is now an uncomfortable shadow of who you used to be and that living by the same rules and retelling your old story is no longer authentic to who you have become.

Setting yourself free, essentially liberating yourself from the confines of the old box, is going to require you to start telling a new story… one which you may not know all the details of yet but what you do know is that you aren’t that same person anymore and accepting the same level of engagement from those around you won’t wash anymore.

There will be losses and that has to be okay if you want to be all you can be. Growth means shedding the old skin and that’s not always a pretty process.

Rewriting the rulebook could include anything from rebranding your business to starting a new one altogether that is more in line with your newly evolving soul position. It might mean asking for a raise at work, demanding more from a relationship, saying no to the demands of others, etc. One thing is for sure: how you express yourself at this time is key establishing the new framework by which you intend to reference your position within your own life. Reinvention means nothing if the outer expression is the same.

You tell the story of who you are and of who you are becoming… if you want others to adhere to the new rules, you need to know what they are (and enforce them).

Rewrite the rulebook from a place of compassion, but for yourself foremost.

If you would like help in shedding your skin and breaking out of the old life you can book a breakthrough session with me here.

More later… x

The Kiss Of Death

(…and why I had to stop)

Standing in the interior castle courtyard and not wanting to ignore any detail of the unfolding story, this time when Death came riding around me on his white horse I stood motionless awaiting his next move.

The skeletal features of this armoured figure somehow staring without eyes into my very soul as he dismounted the powerful mare and stood before me. His presence so much gentler, settling and reassuring than I had assumed, but why I was surprised by this when my entire spiritual journey has been guided by the Archangel of Death, I don’t know.

Death leaned in and removed my hood, softly kissing me on the forehead before handing me the single white rose he carried as an emblem, signifying the resilience of the spirit. Climbing back on his horse he turned to me and nodded before he sped away across the courtyard and disappeared into the mist.

I’d been kissed by death.

Of course it was merely a meditation but the symbology was so intense that I had to write about the experience and how it is shaping my reality today.

The Death card in a traditional tarot deck has all the hallmarks of the image I described above: the armoured (sometimes cloaked) skeleton on a horse and the symbol of the white rose. The skeleton being the most resilient part of the human body and the rose, which each year is pruned down to just its own skeleton only to return back stronger the following season with even more abundant blooms… this is the cycle of death and rebirth, of transformation occurring only when all superfluous clutter is sufficiently cleared away to reveal the hardiest most resilient part, the foundation of what is worthy of growth.

That’s why I had to stop. I couldn’t see the roses for the weeds, and the beauty I had cultivated privately and professionally was in danger of being lost. Death kissed me to show me I had pruned away enough now and what remained was the beautiful rose already in bloom that I just couldn’t see.

The arrival of Death was not a signal of losses to come, but the beautiful gift of knowing that the losses are over and the new beginning has arrived. This time, with nothing but that which is worthy of growing. 

Arriving back in the castle courtyard this morning, I was flanked by white rose bushes in full bloom, lining the path to my destination. I’m home.

Principle 4: I AM Truth and Principle 5: I AM Liberated.

More later… x

Weekly Oracle – Fill Up Then Spill Over

Woohoo! It’s back! Normally when I see the Sacred Chalice come out of the pack I have an “Oh No!” moment, but not this week. This week I was fist pumping and thinking “yeah, bring it on,” knowing that when you fill up then spill over the contents of the cup, even the trickiest of weeks can be truly magical.

It’s all about perspective this week as things are set to shift dramatically. For some of us that will mean miracles, for others it might seem like the rug is being pulled out from underneath you and knocking you squarely on your arse! You get to choose how you respond to the surprises in store.

I’m expecting things to go either way… hedging my bets if you like, I figure that landing on my feet is something to celebrate but landing on my arse is something I can giggle about if I get over myself… nobody’s watching anyway and even if they are, laughing at yourself is an excellent way to lighten the intensity of transformation.

That’s what is really going on this week, transformation.

The proverbial cup is symbolic of your vitality levels and your capacity for self-love, when the cup is empty you have nothing to give and nothing to smile about. When it’s full, anything that spills over you get to share with the world.

You can’t expect anyone else to fill that cup for you so if you are feeling a little on the empty side then now is the moment to reclaim all the bits of you that you have given away, draw back your power from all lifetimes, all timelines, all dimensions and all beings that would seek to drain you. They have Sacred Chalice’s of their own and are responsible for their own healing journey… that’s the true meaning of Principle 6: I AM Self-Full.

The 7 Principles of The Wholly Grail are designed to centre you in peace, reclaim your essential nature and your power inspire of external pressures and circumstances, so whatever is shifting for you this week, YOUR Grail is your is your wellspring of energy to ride the wave.

For more clues on this Solstice week ahead you can

check out my Free Dragon Oracle video here

and then check out the extended reading if you like (on the same page). You can also book a personal reading there or book a one-to-one here.

Here’s wishing you an amazing Solstice Week ahead (even if you do spend it arse over tit)!… x

 

Monday Mind Manoeuvre – Survive The Flip And Switch

Did you get chance to see the free oracle reading “Release The Inner Sunlight” this week? It seemed to be anticipating you making a break for freedom in some area of your life and that can only mean one thing: change.

Change is life’s constant and so there is nothing to fear from the decisions you make about your life nor the consequences they bring about, its just a case of learning to survive the flip and switch. Some change is slow, gradual and hardly noticeable, so as to not frighten you or the natives but sometimes sweeping changes arrive like flash bangs and startle everyone (even you for a while), and its you I’m concerned with here because the Grail is an inside job… everyone else is going to have to find their own.

If you have been moved to transform your life in one fell swoop, shell shock or some form of disorientation will likely follow… don’t panic!

Now is the time to look around for the familiar as a means to stabilise the inner core. This does not mean returning to the known path, especially if you sacrificed much to make the switch, what it means is taking a breath and anchoring yourself in the present moment where aspects of your surroundings (even if you have moved location as part of your transformation) will be familiar as will your inner landscape…

Look up at the sky for example: it’s a little grey and rainy today where I am but it’s the same sky I’m always under as it is for you (unless you are reading this from the international space station in which case I have no point of reference for external reframing). The trees, the birds singing, the ground beneath your feet, these things still have substance… then there’s the most important reference point: your own heart beat.

Still yourself wherever you are and listen for a moment, if it’s noisy where you are then just feel. The heartbeat, even if it’s rate quickens in times of stress, is unique to you and it is the rhythm of your life. By tuning in to your natural rhythm and consciously slowing it down and slowing down your breathing by being aware of both, focusing then on your physical structure and noticing where you are holding tension or bracing for impact and softening every muscle group in turn… by becoming present to the immediate external world and seeing there is no danger, then adjusting the internal world to relax to it, you will begin to absorb more about where you are in relation to where you were and begin acclimatising to your new situation.

So if you have made the flip and switch and you now have no idea where you are in life, stop, breathe, tune into your unique rhythm, slow down… find the familiar in the unfamiliar and remember its all God… everything is. You will find your way from there.

Principle 2: I AM Detached.

Happy Monday… x

Taking Home Wherever You Go

Life is full of uncertainties. We find ourselves moving through different spheres of being whether we are trying to illicit change or not. The journey is always happening even when life feels static.

Because the motion of transformation occurs at such an imperceptible rate during your normal daily grind, unless you look back with purpose at how life was say a year ago, your fearful self doesn’t get spooked because the flow was slow and natural.

What about those times of sudden shift though?

The use of the word home in the title is no more about your street address than it is about your furniture, in fact moving house could be one of the sudden shifts I’m referring to, as could a birth, a death, a new relationship or the end of one to name but a few. No, the home I’m referring to is the sense of stability, confidence and inner well-being that life is ok no matter what chaos is happening externally.

Familiarity, is the key to feeling safe. When you find that part of you which remains constant through all your experiences, the unshakable, unbreakable essence of who you are, who you came here to share as a gift to the world, that’s when you understand that home is a state of mind wrapped up in a quantum field that you are incapable of ever leaving and that change is merely an update in the illusory theatrical scenery and actors in the story.

If the story didn’t evolve, we’d all stop playing. When it evolves at pace we all get jittery simply because we lose our place in the script and are forced to ad lib without warning, making the plot twists that bit more nail biting, edge of your seat, sometimes excruciating.

The truth is that home is within not without and that everything else, everyone else, is just temporary shelter.

Remember who you are. Principle 1: I AM God.

Want to understand this and the other Principles? Go here.

More later… x

Saturday Oracle – The End Of The Road

Go on, ask me if I’m surprised this one came up?

I choose the relevant combinations simply by allowing my hands to hover over the backs of the face down cards to discern where the energy accumulates and is more intense… today the Sacred Chalice was all but screaming at me. The only card that is neither a Grail Principle nor does it need an accompanying chakra card because it’s message is basic: “This is it.”

“This is what?” You may well ask.

This is the end of the road.

You can no longer keep doing what you’ve been doing in the way that you’ve been doing it and total surrender is now the order of the day.

The card has both positive and negative aspects so don’t make assumptions. On the one hand you may have hit rock bottom and be in need of a miracle because your life cannot continue this way, but on the other, the arrival of the miracle or jackpot itself also means your life cannot continue the way it did. Change is change, the end is the end, whether you view it as a windfall or a wipeout.

This of course is the weekend associated with resurrection which literally describes the death of the old and rising up as something new, and you will have a very strong notion already of which area of your life this applies to. Don’t try to hold onto the old paradigm, it no longer serves you.

When The Sacred Chalice shows up, whether good or not so much, it requires you to go back to basics, creating a solid foundation upon which to build from. Here I recommend following Principle 6: I AM Self-Full to focus on your primary needs and self care, especially as any change, even a major lottery win or finding and falling in love with Mr Right, will cause a jolt to the system.

The chalice symbolically represents the womb and is therefore always about nurturing oneself and allowing your higher power to provide a place of safety and sustenance materially and energetically.

Eat well, sleep well, meditate often and exercise gently to disperse any accumulation of stress hormones, preferably out in nature if the weather allows, and finally, ask for support from loved ones if you need it.  Though it may not be time to announce to the world what’s going on, a beloved or trusted friend can be the difference between joyful transformation and struggling in isolation.

I pray your Chalice be filled with joyful blessings, but I know they really are blessings even if you cannot see how that’s the case at present.

The enormity of the energy of this card makes me wishing you fluffy Easter Bunnies and a basket full of miracles seem a little frivolous, but I do.

More next week… x