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How To Handle The Downside Of Upleveling

I have to admit I really don’t this term that has become the watchword for raising your game and your vibration. What I’ve discovered I like even less are the potential pitfalls of the process, so here’s how to handle the downside of upleveling…

Growth happens in fits and starts in most forms of life, it is cyclical. That means that there is a stage of discomfort followed by a death of what was, a recovery phase that morphs into a growth spurt and eventually an adaptation stage which allows you to get used to and comfortable with the new level of living.

This cyclical pattern is recognisable in all forms of nature but we as human beings are really bad at consciously recognising which stage we are in or indeed honouring it as a natural part of our own evolution. We rebel against the discomfort of stagnation, we rebel against the letting go (Principle 5) required for death of the old to occur, we rebel against growth favouring what was comfortable and we rebel against the concept of acceptance (Principle 7), at least at first. This rebellion is based around the desire to control the uncontrollable (Principle 2) and the need to find meaning in chaos.

Here’s is how my guides explained it to me in order that I could get with the programme and navigate the excruciating parts of personal transformation:

You want change. We know you do because you have asked for so much, longed for so many new and expansive experiences. We want that for you too, but in order to be more, you must let go of the known and shed the skin of who you once were. You must effectively die to the old self in order to allow a new version of you to be born. You cannot live in the confines of self-imposed restriction with your wings pinned and fly among the high one’s at the same time.

In basic terms if you want to meet people, you have to go where the people are, if you want to learn new things you have to admit you don’t know them… discomfort is the natural predecessor of change and so your comfort zone is going to have to be exited.

If you want to know how to handle the downside of upleveling then you have to get comfortable with your own discomfort. you have to have your eye on your target and understand that the space between where you are and where it exists is an unknown quantity, so you are going to have to get brave, really brave! You are going to have show the universe that the thing you want, the state of being you desire, is worth the risk of feeling like you are out there on a limb, walking a path that may present as if nobody has every walked it before. You are going to have to accept that those you have walked beside might not want to come with you and so you are going to have to dig deep into your well of self-sufficiency to use solitude as a powerhouse for inspiration so that you don’t give into the loneliness of the narrow path ahead. And you are going to have to commit, I mean really commit to moving through the darkness with only your own light to lead the way.

The last stage of the journey is adaptation. This comes when we accept that there is no way back to the place where you began. You don’t belong there any more so you may as well make the most of this new place, this new level of evolvement. It begins with acceptance that nothing is ever going to be the same… and there it is, the key concept in how to handle the downside of upleveling is: acceptance.

Given time, you won’t even remember what all the fuss was about. This new you will eventually become the new normal… and then you’re going to start the process again.

Love Jo x

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When you have no other choices

We always have a choice in reality, so the title feels somewhat misleading, but it isn’t meat to be. You have probably been to this place before, the place where all roads meet. This is the place where it feels like no matter what you do you cannot influence an outcome, and that destiny will deliver you wherever it has decided you need to be in order to set the universe back in balance. When you have no other choices it is time to surrender to what is. To be at one with where you are and to observe what life wants to show you next.

Being at home with the essence of powerlessness lends you the necessary strength to regain balance in the midst of transforming circumstances. It is not enough to give up control at moments like these, it is also necessary to give up any expectation of the destination or details associated with it that you may previously have held onto.

It feels counterintuitive to everything we have been taught about the law of attraction and the miracles of manifesting but the truth is that these things require a final sacrifice… The need to give up on the goal itself.

The vision most sacred to you is the thing you have to be fully prepared to let go of and honour your own happiness and wholeness in the absence of it, truly believing that you’ve put in the hard work, the commitment, the dedication and devotion to a singular consequence for as long as you could possibly hold on before it broke you… and then you let it go… let God take over the process entirely even if it means you never reach the goal.

The act of long term commitment changes you. You cannot help but grow from it, learn from it, it transforms you into a greater version of yourself as you explore every facet of faith along the way, but the final test faith is to set it and yourself free completely, and that comes when there is no more expansion to be had and no more avenues to be explored. This is the beginning of a new journey, a new dream and the beginning of a new devotion… the form of which will remain a mystery until destiny imparts it’s secrets as it will.

Principle 2: I AM Detached, allows you to break away from the self-imposed vision of the outcome you have tethered to and Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, aids you in releasing what was and allowing what is or what might become. These two aspects of Grail wisdom situate you in the slipstream of miracles and help you recognise the beauty of this moment and all the gifts present within it.

When you have no other choices, it’s alright to let go. You’ve done enough.

More later… x

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When The Going Gets Tough

So I have Billy Ocean’s 1980’s tune circling around my head just thinking about this title and no doubt I will be singing it for the rest of the day, but the context is slightly misplaced as concept for this insight. You see, when the going gets tough, the tough actually hunker down and ride out the uncertainty… they don’t jump ship or get going.

Uncertainty has been a theme for me for a while now. External circumstances have been disrupted outside of my control, but my usual stress-head reactions to adversity didn’t kick in this time and instead were replaced with a familiar old friend and alter ego: the manager (crisis manager to be accurate).

I’ve been forced to reconnect with an aspect of self that knows how to think fast and find creative solutions to shifting parameters but there has also been an evolution in this archetypal energy, a bit like growing up. Whereas once the stress response of fight or flight would have fuelled the quick thinking, problem solving, superwoman, she has hung up her cape and rolled up her sleeves and just placed one foot in front of the other trusting the path to meet her and trusting the decisions she has to make.

One of The Wholly Grail mechanics states “you cannot keep the Grail.” It pays respect to the flip of the yin/yang in the dance of the universe and that life can change in an instant… some call it fate, without this dynamic, life stagnates and so to keep you moving forward, growing and expanding, life throws in the odd plot twist to keep it interesting… after all, no adventure story would be worth reading if we took out the adventure part!

My old paradigm had me rising to the challenge of controlling the crash landing in an adrenalin-fuelled frenzy that required lots of self-applause after the fact for how well I managed, the new evolved me has just let go of the outcome (Principle 2: I AM Detached) knowing that the outcome is inevitable and the timing is up to the Divine. (Though I have to admit, there are other areas of my life where I’m still seeking that clarity). 

When you know there is only one outcome and your only job is to decide whether you want to get there the easy way or the hard way, (this choice does first require the need for acceptance though), letting go of the struggle is the simplest option and your Grail is returned immediately. It’s called surrender.

When the going gets tough, the tough surrender. Peace comes from that place. From that place, whatever plot twists, shocks and spills come your way, you have the power to keep going, to survive and to thrive… and when peace returns you to your Garden of Eden, there’s no need for a round of self-applause, just look up (symbolically) and say “Thank you.”

May you find peace in all your plot twists…

More later… x

A Look Behind The Fragile Facade

Most of what we perceive in any given moment is in a state of flux, neither one thing nor another, simply an imprint of multiple potential realities that, until you decide what’s true for you, are not fixed.

Sounds complicated doesn’t it?

It’s the nature of energy to form, degrade, fall apart and then reform into whatever shape our psyche’s will allow us to grasp, and is why the future is not yet set. Their are millions upon millions of minor and major variances in the unlimited number of possible outcomes to every decision we make, which is why you have the ability to create just by choosing the outcome you wish to see… but we’ve forgotten how powerful we are.

When you take a look behind the fragile facade, the incredibly thin veneer of material reality, by slipping into a state of surrendering the small self through meditation, you can quickly reconnect to the power that has real control over the apparent chaos because it is The Chaos and The Order and every state in between. I call It God… you may choose another name, it matters not.

The Wholly Grail teaches that nothing exists outside of God and therefore you too are a part of It, hence Principle 1: I AM God. This all-empowering idea bestows you with the capacity, at your superconscious level to both be The Chaos, control The Chaos and create order from it… temporarily.

Why temporarily?

Because I AM God and I’m creating order in my world. You are God and you’re also creating order in your world… my (small self’s) idea of order, with all the infinite versions of potential details comprising it, will inevitably differ from your equally infinite number of creative solutions. Where my reality clashes with your reality, structure through conflict, reverts back to chaos.

Luckily for both you and I (and all the other disparate parts of the whole), The Overarching Universal Intelligence that we forget we belong to, knows how those kaleidoscopic ever changing patterns all make the whole much more beautiful.

Instead of trying to get your head around the physics, just for a little while forget that Friday even exists (because it actually doesn’t), be present in this moment and breathe in the beautiful chaos you were born to contribute to.

Archangel Ratziel just wanted you to know.

More later… x