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January Grail Oracle – You Are Embodied Divinity

Entering into a new decade, we begin with the first Principle of The Wholly Grail and combine it with the vital fire of the Sacral Chakra. This potent combination is requesting that you check in with your own inner union of flesh and spirit, to ensure that you fully remember you are embodied divinity, in preparation for the coming together of two souls.

Is this Oracle predicting a new relationship? For some perhaps but it has deeper meaning and even more profound healing possibilities bound up in its energy.

There is power in knowing that you are embodied divinity. This kind of inner union puts others on notice that you are no longer willing to settle for less than you are worth, no longer willing to allow yourself to be sold short of absolute integrity, first from yourself and then from others.

When you begin to recognise where in your life you have allowed others to dishonour or disrespect you, you have a choice, to consider that you only deserved such treatment or to rise up and take back what is yours. This combination confirms that you are ready to do the latter and reclaim your name, your body and your life as holy.

The sacral chakra when fully healed invites sacred connections in which we may continue to heal and grow, to explore the realms of intimacy to a whole new level of trust and mutual honouring. If you are still carrying the wounded shadow in this chakra though, you will attract to you a dark mirror in the form of an unhealthy relationship that confirms and reaffirms the very wound you were trying to heal. That being the case, this oracle is sent as advice to prepare the way for mutual honouring through self-love and inner healing, through letting go, releasing, detaching from all that isn’t worthy of your divine soul and through practicing seeing yourself through angels eyes.

If you really began to understand who you are, you would accept nothing less than pure connections based in love and in light.

Raise your frequency, raise your awareness of who you allow to penetrate your energy field, raise your standards and most importantly do not ignore the red flags that remind you of the lessons you have already endured.

This is not a message to raise your shields though, unconditional love for yourself and the courage to say no and walk away from lower vibrations is all it takes to set new boundaries and create new, nurturing relationships.

Remember you are embodied divinity… Become the person you want to be around and then the people you want to be around will be magnetised towards you. You have nothing to prove, it’s your turn to run the auditions now.

Love, Jo x

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Kicked The Codependency Habit? …What Next?

Its a question I had to ask myself recently: have I kicked the codependency habit? My answer was met with two distinct voices, one of whom was singing my praises and celebrating with a resounding “Yes!” While the other was desperately waving red flags and asking: “How will I know until I’m faced with another test?”

It’s been a bit of a harrowing and yet bitterly sweet few years, learning the true meaning of what it is to not just love myself more, but to truly respect my own divinity and worth at the deepest level. This concept is the basis for the first Principle in the Grail and the one from which the power to accept all the others is derived. It is also the foundation upon which all versions of personal happiness and sustainable success in life and love are built.

I knew that. Well, intellectually at least.

It is one thing to bandy about words and concepts like self-love, self-respect and self-worth, but it’s quite another to integrate the energy of, and begin to live by the highest frequency of these conscious programmes. Until you do, nobody else in your sphere will show you how to do it… its true that people can only love you to the extent that you love yourself and more importantly that they will inevitably love you the way you show them how. By that premise, until we have integrated and begun to consistently display the elements of reverence for our own divinity, nobody else is going to.

I’ve had a little internal conversation with the voice of my red flag bearer, about the true nature of her presence… you see the fact that she’s there flag-in-hand, tell’s me that I’m still very aware of the potential for codependent, even toxic relationships and connections that comes as a result of forgetting who I am, even for just a moment. And that because of her presence, I cannot forget… so I am lavishing just as much love on that part of me as I am on the part that knows she’s overcome the greatest test she was sent to endure and not only survived, but firmly decided that she’s a much better version of herself as a result of the journey.

What’s even more special is that I now know for sure that my capacity for forgiveness is infinite. I’m not talking about the words: “I forgive you,” (although they are a good place to start). I’m talking about the radical transmutation of all anger and resentment, all blame and all shame and the unltimate liberation from any sense of attachment or victimhood. Add to that, the fact that I know it’s all been a test and that new tests will arrive, shows indications that in knowing myself and accepting myself with the same openness and compassion I give to others, stems from the understanding that nothing in this world is ever personal

If its not personal, I can play with it more. Be easy with it, be easy on myself.

Always remember you get to choose how you interact with others but it has to start with how you honour yourself. To do that you have be brave enough to say goodbye to anything that doesn’t honour you. Be unafraid of losing even the most precious of connections. If you do lose it, it was never love.

If you’ve kicked the codependency habit but are still unsure if the next adventure will go the same way, love yourself enough to say no until you no longer feel the need to silence your red flag waving reminder of how far you’ve come. She’s not your inner-wound, she’s your standard-bearer and she’s setting your standards way higher than you ever thought you were worthy of. She’s going to make sure you are attracting only the crystal clear mirror of your own self-love in another human being.

Honour her first and foremost. The red on that flag is the depth and passion of your beautiful heart. It deserves nothing less in return.

Jo x

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Defining Moment – When Yes To You Means No To Me

I posted the Intuitive Chalice Oracle combination just last night, though in truth I had pulled the cards late on Friday evening and was simply awaiting time to write my thoughts about them, (you can read Rewrite The Rulebook here). In that short space of time I have found much evidence within my own life to support the reasons it’s energy is prominent at present, mainly in the guise of allowing others to take advantage and noticing when yes to you means no to me.

I’m super accessible, open, welcoming and very generous with my time and attention. I help when I am able and by my very nature a good listener and sounding board for others. These are skills I put to use in my practice to aid people in transforming their lives, finding the light and their version of inner peace. I’m sure many of you can relate to the next bit though….

My old rulebook had me inadvertently giving it away for free!

Your greatest assets are your skills and your time and according to The Wholly Grail, everything that you pour your energy into should in turn pour energy into you… Imagine for a moment an enormous chalice at the centre of a garden, overflowing like a fountain water feature. The water that spills over runs down sculpted channels to each area of the garden, providing irrigation, nutrition and energy. Each area of the garden in turn grows and feeds back its own unique abundance to the chalice at the centre which then transforms it back into life-giving water to continue the cycle.

This is the essence of Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, which in it’s most raw sense means giving and receiving in equal measure.

The old rules for me had the chalice running dry because I failed to manage what I gave for free or what I was bamboozled into giving up. The new rulebook, and I’m expressing this in the spirit of this week’s oracle message, is that I’m no longer willing to say no to my own needs in order to cater to others.

This is the essence of Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, which means taking responsibility for and action towards maintaining my own resources, reserves and boundaries.

The universe gave me a purpose. I consider myself incredibly blessed to be able to see so clearly the steps needed to live an enlightened, happy, peaceful life. Being human though, (Principle 3), it’s not always easy to say no as a complete sentence and I often find myself helping others find their piece of paradise at my expense, thus robbing me of my own.

As this is the first Monday of the month, the year in fact… let’s start with a clear slate.

If you have found yourself people pleasing, being depleted of your energy, encountering unfair exchange, not understanding or enforcing your own boundaries and worth, then let me help you get super clear on where you end and everyone else begins…

I’m still super accessible, approachable, open and welcoming, but if you are unsure of my terms then please do just ask… that way we get to say yes to each other and ourselves!

More later… x

Monday Mind Manoeuvre – Adjust Your Settings

Saturday’s oracle gave us a heads up about how other people’s truths don’t have to affect our forward momentum but we may be forgiven for imagining that it only applies to their opinions. Your truth is more readily apparent in your behaviour than in your actual words, so what are we to do about how others behave towards us?

The first thing you must recognise is that people treat how you allow them to. You set the standard for what you will and will not tolerate. How clear you are about your own boundaries is reflected in your behaviour… you can say what you find acceptable as much as you like but when you go ahead and accept less, that’s the cue others take and the level they rise to.

Do you find that people constantly break commitments they made with you, turn up late, forget to let you know, pay you less than you are worth, break your confidence, steal from you, disregard your needs, commandeer your time, encroach on your space…? You get the picture. Do you even notice when its happening?

How you respond to these infringements, even the minor ones, is sending a signal to other people as to how you are prepared to be treated and what is acceptable behaviour to you.

Today is a good day to do a thorough assessment of your own boundaries and level of self-worth. Observe how often someone makes a presumption on your time or resources (including your knowledge or training in any given area), how often they let you down on arrangements and agreements etc. Notice then how you respond to those transgressions. Is it normal for you to let it slide? Being understanding and compassionate of the other persons needs or circumstances is a noble quality of course but at what cost to you?

Once you have become more aware of your own participation in allowing these actions to occur, it’s time to adjust your settings… you will meet with resistance, especially if the perpetrators have been in your life for a while, it is really difficult to raise the bar once it has been set but it is not impossible, you just have to be prepared to let people fall away if they won’t adjust with you. Principle 2: I AM Detached reminds us to be present with what is, Principle 5: I AM Liberated reminds us to let go of what holds us captive. That being the case, what or who in the here and now is holding you captive in your old state of low self-worth by continuously crossing your boundaries?

Once you establish new ones, only your behaviour will determine their validity and endurance.

Adjust your settings today… x

The Universe Is Speaking

A couple of weeks ago I awoke from a vivid dream feeling fired up and ready to dive into a new adventure. Nothing in my waking life up to that point, as far as I was aware, had prompted the content of the dream but it had so radically altered my perception about what I wanted from life that it heralded a wave of fresh energy and a brand spanking new set of criteria for all else to live up to.

Prior to this shiny subconscious vision I had been settling for far less than I wished for myself simply because I accepted that what life was offering was my lot… rather than my lot being defined by what I was asking for… that’s when I started to play the game with God.

Just for fun one morning I set the universe a challenge: “Right then Big G, today I want you to deliver the following: I want the sun to break through the grey sky… not just gradually but making a real ta-dah! entrance; next I want you show me an unusual bird, I love the crows that live outside the house and the other feathered specimens that are local but I want you to deliver unusual; then you have to show me a Doctor scarf and lastly I want a big smile from a sexy man!”

Of course none of this stuff was actually necessary for my day to be a success but I left it in God’s hands to deliver what I’d asked for just because I asked.

Before I even made my breakfast the clouds parted like Moses had just commanded the red sea and rays of light flooded the kitchen… “I see what you did there.” I acknowledged with a huge smile on my face. Meeting a friend for some shopping and a cuppa just a little while later I told her about the game and recounted my requests, playing the game with others is even more fun you see. As we shopped my friend said she needed to pop to the pet supplies stall in the market to find a glow in the dark collar for a puppy, so I followed happy to help… what did I find myself surrounded by? The first unusual bird was a plastic budgie with a bell attached to its butt, the second was a felt owl type thing with parrots wings and peacock feather sticking out of its butt… at this point I’m creased up laughing at the absurdity of these toys for pets that although it wasn’t what I had envisaged when I asked for unusual birds, it certainly fit the criteria… I could here Big G laughing in my mind… so the old guy sitting two tables back in the cafe has on a Doctor Who scarf and I’m trying not to spit out my tea and thinking now you just need to deliver the smile… he wasn’t my idea of sexy admittedly but then I didn’t specify sexy in whose opinion!

I played the game for 3 days solid to remind myself how powerful I was at manifesting but actually more importantly to remember that when you ask the universe for something it begins to conspire to deliver it for you… even if not in the form you asked.

Yesterday I forgot to play the game and began to slide back towards settling… before I went to bed last night the universe shoved a very definite reminder of the dream that woke me right in front of me, in this case a person from my dream, and as I began my day today I was met with further reminders of the dream… an unusual name and a specific talent… all of which contained in the original dream… none of which you would here everyday where I’m from.

The universe is speaking to me… it’s trying to get through to you too, are you listening?

Wholly Grail Principles 1 & 7

Play the game, let it impress you x

 

Monday Mind Manoeuvre – Shattering Mirrors

There may well be a tendency to fret and struggling when your reality begins to shift, it’s natural to want to hold onto what feels stable and so become fearful and distressed if your equilibrium is threatened, but was it ever a nurturing equilibrium? Now that the shattering mirrors are revealing little less than lies hidden beneath, isn’t it time you began building foundations that aren’t made from glass?

Every relationship, friendship and acquaintance you have is a reflection of who you are, but when you begin to transform, when you begin to value yourself more, these reflections begin to distort and that distortion eventually either shatters the glass of the reason or need for them to be connected to you, or it transforms those reflected in the mirror to new versions of themselves and indeed of the relationship.

When you apply self-love to your every action and begin to value your Wholly Grail, manipulation, usury and co-dependency begin to evaporate.

As difficult as it is to recognise that your connections to some people were born of need, perhaps from both parties, anger and resentment are useless depleting emotions that will serve to keep you stuck, as are guilt and shame. The way through is forgiveness for all mistaken interactions and gratitude for all the lessons, after all, this individual or group of individuals played a role so well as to be the mirror that reflected back your best and worst attributes offering you the tools by which to heal yourself and grow (however painfully in the moment or blindly in the past).

Bless those that remain, bless those that have fallen away, don’t struggle with those whose mirrors are beginning to shatter… just carefully clean up the glass and bless them too… new mirrors are forming around your elevated frequency and so a new reality is being born and new connections and relationships are beginning to enter your view.

Nothing is permanent in this life.

Principle 1: I AM God 

Principle 3: I AM Human

Principle 4: I AM Truth

More later… x

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Intuitive Chalice Oracle – Primary Proposal

This weeks combination feels right, it feels wonderful! Imagine if you will that true love crossed your path today and for the first time ever colours were so much brighter, life was so much sweeter, and the grass was so much greener on your own side of the fence. Love can do that to you, and this could be a week where you experience that intensity to the fullest as you say yes to a primary proposal.

Principle 1: I AM God, the aspect of The Wholly Grail that embraces worthiness, cosies up to the vibrant orange sacral chakra this week and so healthy relationships are being highlighted. But this is a week where priorities shift and new understanding of what relating means comes to the fore as the first Principle demands total self respect and actuates your primary proposal or commitment to Self.

True Love then, in this instance is learning to see yourself as the divine lover and becoming so dedicated to creating your own sacred partnership with yourself that all other relationships are reflections of that beauty.

It is sad that for many, their sense of their own loveability is measured by how much others appear to love them, though from this perspective, having a warped perception of what actions constitute love means that the measurement is always going to be on dangerous ground. Contrary, the ability to love oneself is always the mirror by which external relationships are founded.

When you fully commit to your own highest good, all those with lesser intentions towards you will naturally fall away (or you will start gravitating away from them). So this week is a week for getting clear about what you are willing to believe you are worthy of from yourself and from others.

It’s worth noting that the sacral chakra is the energy centre that forms attachments and so addiction and co-dependency are quite likely to try to pull you back into your patterns… that’s why it’s a proposal… you have the option to commit to self love, self-acceptance, self-esteem, self-worth and the conscious decision to choose better, higher, and more sacred experiences for yourself, or you can choose to continue along the path of allowing someone else’s capacity to love you to dictate how much love you are worthy of.

It’s not going to be an easy week, but it’s going to be so very rewarding if you choose you.

More next week… x

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Modus Operandi Part 3: A Promise Is A Promise

If you didn’t catch the previous Modus Operandi posts (still available in the site’s archive) I’ve been exploring where our intentions to walk the path of enlightenment differ from our actions. Often we are in some form of denial about how effective our daily practice actually is and blinded to the occasions where we drift from our Higher Self’s encouragings.

Today then let me draw your attention to your failures… as if they need me to point them out. That’s the problem: we are so quick to intellectually and emotionally return to the scenes of our apparent inability to succeed that we fail to acknowledge the valuable lessons along the way. Principle 3: I AM Human, is the gateway towards forgiveness. Forgiveness of self as well as everyone else… for everything. In forgiving, we make a promise to ourselves to let go of the hurt, the shame, the self-abusive mind chatter and the limiting stories that go along with the prior failure… and a promise is a promise.

The realisation in the moment of forgiveness is that you went there but you don’t have to go there again, you know what lies down that road now. In reality though, we see the “I know how this turns out” and we think “what’s the point in resisting?” Why then is it so common for us to break those promises we make to ourselves?

As it’s Monday, a full moon and a lunar eclipse no less, I think today is a fabulous day to make a promise to yourself to not break any more promises you make to yourself. No matter what the past actions or outcomes, your soul is urging you to explore a different way of being, and to everyone else your word is your bond… you are just as worthy of being treated with that much respect especially from yourself.

Start by making an inventory of all the things you’ve promised yourself recently, reassess which ones are relevant to your present situation and plans for a brighter future and then take a look at your motives: is it for your highest good and that of those around you? Pick 3 things from your list that you can start now… don’t plan (if you’re anything like me then you’re a great planner and it can often be a form of further procrastination or an affirmation of how far from the target you currently are), just take the first step followed by small measured actions, you can always create the plan along the way. Yes I know that “failing to plan means planning to fail” in all that success training… but admit it, you tried that didn’t you?

The last thing to now is listen to yourself, your thoughts and your excuses. Remember now that forgiveness, “I AM Human” is not an excuse for not trying your best this time, but it is a full pardon for not quite hitting the mark last time around.

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Happy Monday… x

Modus Operandi Part 1 – Don’t Tell Me Show Me

The seven Wholly Grail Principles are tools by which to create inner peace, harmony, health and happiness, but they can only achieve that if you are willing to embrace them and apply them. Many of us are willing and even believe that to a certain extent we are doing the work but when push comes to shove it turns out that denial is the reality. If your Modus Operandi matches the Grail, don’t tell me show me.

Your method of operating is your truth. What that means is, no matter how much you affirm any of the 7 “I AM’s,” if you do the opposite then you’re not faithfully following the path.

Take heart, the path is the path of life and most of us are just making it up as we go along, so even affirming a Principle is the first step to getting back on the path and course correcting towards enlightenment and more tangibly wellbeing.

So what is your M.O?

Let’s take Principle 1: I AM God… This simple yet provocative statement is revealing who you truly are behind your human facade. It says “I AM Divine Light,” “I AM Worthy…” It announces to your peers (of which everyone is a candidate simply because the affirmation “I AM God” applies to everyone and everything), that you respect yourself and you understand that you have a valuable role to play in the unfolding universe.

So, you can quote the Principle as a reminder or as an accolade but if your actions are to do the opposite, like say allowing yourself to be disrespected, constantly belittling and berating yourself, accepting less than you’re worth or less than your share, then your Modus Operandi is leading you down a road towards imbalance, resentment and unhappiness… not the Grail.

Spend just 10 minutes today assessing where in your life you say “I AM God” or something similar but consistently settle for less than a divine being is worth. A declaration of worth is just hot air otherwise.

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More later… x

Preparing On Purpose

Be prepared. What does that even mean? As the motto of a boy scout it seems like a worthwhile pursuit, but how exactly do you expect to be prepared for the unexpected?

You are prepared, at least as well as you can be, for whatever life has to throw at you, simply because you have spent your entire life preparing for this moment… yes, this one.

Everything that has ever happened to you, every person you have ever met, every conversation you have ever participated in, everything you have witnessed, experienced, learned and done, has been in preparation for this moment. You see, God does nothing by accident. If you look back at your life you can clearly see the synchronicity of each event and how it smoothly led to the next which eventually brought you to this place. And no matter how ready (or not) you felt to undergo each transition through initiation by fire, you got here… that means you were ready and life had prepared you for the level of success or failure it required to get you to the next step…

Success or failure?

Yep! That’s what I said. Only The Great Unseen has the big picture and so what you see, as success may actually be the opposite of the catalyst you need to move the pieces across the cosmic chessboard towards your destined outcome, big picture success could require small detail failure, at least for now. But win or lose, the experience is the preparation for the next bit.

Now of course the boy scouts could be referring to the contrived concept of preparing on purpose….

Imagine for a moment you’re about to go on a first date. What does preparation look like then? Oh my goodness the lengths we go to, just in case: scrubbed, shaved, waxed, buffed, plucked, preened… moisturised, manicured, and that’s all before we select the perfect outfit… do we wear super-sexy, girl next door, casual, formal? What about shoes? Oh yeah, and do we go for the Bridget Jones knickers or the matching skimpy set? Now if you’re a boy I’d imagine the process is similar if a little less lengthy and stereotypically more focused on whether your car is waxed and buffed than your body, but what’s the point of all of this?

Are you now preparing on purpose for every possible eventuality or are you simply focusing on the external causes of your own lacking self-esteem in an attempt to convince yourself that you can cover up your imperfections? If that’s the case than I suggest that your preparation time would be better spent on learning to appreciate how beautiful you are from the inside out. Nothing is more attractive that confidence, self- love and the ability to shine your Divine essence in spite of outward appearance.

This applies to all events and encounters… you are ready now for whatever Big G sends your way…. if you aren’t ready, it won’t arrive anyway. Remember this: you are in exactly the right place at the right time, with all the appropriate training and wherewithal for whatever is coming your way. Succeed or fail, win or lose… this moment is yours. Don’t waste it on wondering if you have the right knickers on. If it’s worth all the fuss then the fuss won’t matter.

Principles 1, 2 & 6, included above, can be found here.

More later… x