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You’re Halfway There But Look How Far You’ve Come

As we entered July in the middle of last week it suddenly occurred to me that we had past the halfway mark in the year. Normally that floods me with a sense of “it’s all downhill from here,” but this year it feels different. A voice from the heavens was gently reminding me (to remind you) “You’re halfway there but look how far you’ve come.”

Call it what you will, but…

2020 so far has been remarkable. The forced alterations in our day to day lives have triggered a whole host of external and internal transformations that were somehow always destined to propel us along a new trajectory.

For me personally, that began around this time last year when I freed myself from a long term entanglement and began to rebuild my life the way I wanted it to be. This time for me, not for anyone else. It was transformed further when I jumped at the opportunities the universe sent my way, learning new skills and developing my long held dreams to serve more people in a way that honoured their stories as well as my own.

Finally finding balance

Perhaps sensing the incoming universal shifts earlier this year, I began to separate myself from even more unbalanced relationships, friendships and connections, reinforcing my personal and professional boundaries to protect my energy and align with the Principles I have spent years learning and developing.

It’s ok that it’s messy

The Grail is a blueprint for personal and spiritual happiness, wellbeing and peace but when you are so far off it, the journey back takes time and can look messy and uncomfortable to the outside world. I’ve been learning the path for years, but I only chose to walk it consciously the moment I began to say no to anything that is out of integrity with it.

Have I changed. Hell Yes!

Does that change please everybody in my life? Er?… No.

When Spirit reminded me: “You’re halfway there but look how far you’ve come,” I knew that another impending shift was just around the corner. I feel the phase coming to a close and a new one beginning. I’m well aware of the discomfort my clients and students go through when they begin this path in earnest, because I’ve lived it myself… but on the otherside of finding the Grail, is the self-love, peace and fulfilment you’ve been looking for. It may look very different from what you have imagined but it will feel better than you could ever have hoped for.

You are worth the effort

If you are struggling through life’s transitions at the moment, no matter what phase you are in, remember you are worthy of beautiful balanced connections and a life that will honour who you are at every level… and don’t settle for anything less than love, light and abundance. You’re halfway there but look how far you’ve come.

Love, Jo x

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Monthly Oracle – Get Out Of The Way Of The Message

You might have some ideas about who you are in the world and indeed who you are not. This month’s Intuitive Chalice Oracle combo though, is definitely an instruction to put all that aside and get out of the way of the message.

When Principle 1: “I AM God” shows up in a reading, it wants you to hone in on your hang-ups around self-worth and how that maybe getting in the way of you stepping into purpose or living to your fullest potential. Marry that with the potent royal blue throat chakra and the Divine has a message that needs to be delivered through you. God is asking you to get over yourself and get out of the way so that a greater work can be manifested through your hands.

It would be short-sighted to believe that the message can only come through in one way, so don’t be fooled into thinking that you are about to start trance channelling great wisdom. The Divine can speak through great art, writing, music, baking, gardening, nurturing children or the elderly, the list goes on… Whatever gifts, talents and passions are flowing through you are The Divine’s gift to the world. The question here is whether you have what it takes to share the gift or whether you will get stuck in your own head asking the question: “who am I to do this/to create this/to tell the world about this?”

Self-expression is at the forefront with this combo and so you may find yourself being thrust into situations that feel outside of your comfort zone, being asked your opinion or for your insight and expertise. The idea of being the expert might feel really uncomfortable for you outside of your usual circle of safety. Now is a time where, if you want to expand into your potential then you will have to get used to feeling out on a limb and exposed.

Even though this oracle portends an increased level of vulnerabilty, it also assures protection if you can remain the humble messenger rather than taking the message or how it is received so personally. Authenticity is key.

You may find that certain walls start to fall at this time that have sheilded you from scrutiny. You might also find that some people who were loyal to the message you once portrayed, begin to fall away as you refine and clarify into a purer form of the inspiration flowing through you. This is the exact act that has the potential to startle you into hiding the true message if you allow your small-self to guide your reactions to such judgement.

You were sent with a mission and a purpose to fulfil. Only you have the keys and codes to unlock the message the way the universe intended it to flow through you. Don’t let your ego, your lack of self-worth or your fear of being seen stand in the way of the Divine Plan unfolding. Get out of the way of the message and play your part the way God intended.

For help with getting out of your own way, check out the Weekly Alignment Message on my YouTube channel for guidance on stepping into soul-purpose.

Love, Jo xxx

Discernment in a Time of Separation

Is the current climate of separation tempting you back into situations that you know you left for a reason?

After a week of very telling conversations, I felt drawn to write a piece today that would minister to those tempted to return to unfulfilling situations simply because the circumstances we are all experiencing at this time might be clouding judgment. Honouring yourself means exercising discernment in a time of separation.

Loneliness and the discomfort of coping alone might be a factor in the decisions we make at present, but do you remember why you moved on from those you are now considering returning to? Has anything really changed other than the feeling that you don’t want to do life by yourself?

The Grail Path requires you to place yourself as the sovereign of your own life. Ultimately this means that you step into power and take responsibility for the life, love and wellbeing that you want. It’s easy to romanticize the past and look through rose tinted glasses when things feel hard. This is especially so at present when, if you know anything about astrology, Venus has just entered shadow before retrograding for the longest period in 12 years. She isn’t asking you to go back to what was though, she’s asking you to go back and learn from those relationship mistakes and master it this time.

If you are focused on the past, thinking it was the good old days, then you are wandering into dangerous territory with Principle 2: I AM Detached. If you are projecting into the future thinking things will be different this time, then you better be sure that you have done the work. At the core of your decision needs to be the clarity of what you want, need and expect… not from others but FOR yourself. There is a big difference. If you are expecting others to provide for your needs, you are not being Self-Full and you are setting yourself up for disappointment, especially if that same person came nowhere close to fulfilling your requirements last time around.

Ask yourself these questions before you jump back into a relationship, friendship, partnership, situationship or entanglement again:

  • What has changed about you?
  • How are you going to handle the situation differently this time?
  • Have you clearly understood what the other person’s expectations of you are?
  • Are you prepared to meet those expectations?
  • Have you got a clear understanding of what your boundaries are and how to enforce them?
  • Have you made your boundaries clear to the other person?

Notice that all these questions are focused around you. You cannot control, or even accurately measure, the other person’s growth since the last time you connected (or parted), and although I am all about forgiveness (Principle 3), forgiveness is not free reign for more of the same.

The book I’m currently writing focuses heavily on this subject and guides you to honour your self-worth and remember that you are God presented in human form (Principle 1). If you allow yourself to accept less than reverence and respect from another in any of your relationships, then you allow the desecration of your most Sacred-Self.

Discernment in a time of separation needs for you to honour your own vulnerability and sit with it. If, when all this separation falls away and you return to your most powerful, you want to return to old relationships too, do so from a place of empowered respect for your heart and soul and not from the disempowered lonely ego, craving comfort, (that ultimately knows that familiarity leads back to discontent).

If you need more guidance at this time why not book a session?

Love always, Jo x

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Are You Finding Time To Do You?

Life is going to go in swings and roundabouts, peaks and troughs. Unlike the seemlessly perfect highlights of a social media lifestyle, quite often the universe has other plans and we end up neck deep in stuff that needs our attention and none of it seems to be ours. The question is, while it’s all happening, are you finding time to do you?

Self-Full Living isn’t about placing yourself in a bubble and becoming oblivious to the outside world and what it appears to need from you, its about finding balance between the demands of life, family and community and your own well-being, hopes, wishes and dreams.

In the last week or so, everything has gone a bit tits-up with my schedule as I’ve put everything on hold to renovate part of my mum’s house to make it accessible for her to come home from residential care. She’s very elderly now and her mobility is negligible. That means that I’ve been humping heavy furniture around, painting and decorating, de-cluttering years of stuff. My own goals have all had to go on hold, but I refuse to put my own health and self-care needs on hold because that just doesnt benefit anyone, including mum.

When you understand your own worth (Principle 1) and that taking care of your own well-being is the greatest gift you can give to anyone you love or who loves you (Principle 6), you begin to reconsider your actions, drop the martyrdom quest and start seeking win/win solutions for everyone involved. The biggest win/win you can gift the world is to aks yourself that question: are you taking time to do you? If the answer is no then you need to prioritise that now… no, not when the emergency or urgency is over, right now.

It doesn’t have to be dramatic or even noticeable to anyone else, simply take the time to eat well, eat fresh; rest when you are tired; spend 5 mins in meditation; stretch; hydrate. Do all of this deliberately and mindfully and pay attention to what your body needs, it will tell you (catch it on the whisper though or you will know its too little, too late).

Taking time to do you is not an indulgence, its a sacred contract you have with your own Source. Honour it. Honour yourself.

What is your mind, body and spirit asking of you today and how are you going to fulfill it’s request?

Love, Jo x

P.S. Here is the link to my Self-Full Living Workbook to help you understand your patterns and gaps in your current self-care practices. You might find it useful.

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P.P.P.S. And your alignment task is being uncovered here in the Alignment Reading.

January Grail Oracle – You Are Embodied Divinity

Entering into a new decade, we begin with the first Principle of The Wholly Grail and combine it with the vital fire of the Sacral Chakra. This potent combination is requesting that you check in with your own inner union of flesh and spirit, to ensure that you fully remember you are embodied divinity, in preparation for the coming together of two souls.

Is this Oracle predicting a new relationship? For some perhaps but it has deeper meaning and even more profound healing possibilities bound up in its energy.

There is power in knowing that you are embodied divinity. This kind of inner union puts others on notice that you are no longer willing to settle for less than you are worth, no longer willing to allow yourself to be sold short of absolute integrity, first from yourself and then from others.

When you begin to recognise where in your life you have allowed others to dishonour or disrespect you, you have a choice, to consider that you only deserved such treatment or to rise up and take back what is yours. This combination confirms that you are ready to do the latter and reclaim your name, your body and your life as holy.

The sacral chakra when fully healed invites sacred connections in which we may continue to heal and grow, to explore the realms of intimacy to a whole new level of trust and mutual honouring. If you are still carrying the wounded shadow in this chakra though, you will attract to you a dark mirror in the form of an unhealthy relationship that confirms and reaffirms the very wound you were trying to heal. That being the case, this oracle is sent as advice to prepare the way for mutual honouring through self-love and inner healing, through letting go, releasing, detaching from all that isn’t worthy of your divine soul and through practicing seeing yourself through angels eyes.

If you really began to understand who you are, you would accept nothing less than pure connections based in love and in light.

Raise your frequency, raise your awareness of who you allow to penetrate your energy field, raise your standards and most importantly do not ignore the red flags that remind you of the lessons you have already endured.

This is not a message to raise your shields though, unconditional love for yourself and the courage to say no and walk away from lower vibrations is all it takes to set new boundaries and create new, nurturing relationships.

Remember you are embodied divinity… Become the person you want to be around and then the people you want to be around will be magnetised towards you. You have nothing to prove, it’s your turn to run the auditions now.

Love, Jo x

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Kicked The Codependency Habit? …What Next?

Its a question I had to ask myself recently: have I kicked the codependency habit? My answer was met with two distinct voices, one of whom was singing my praises and celebrating with a resounding “Yes!” While the other was desperately waving red flags and asking: “How will I know until I’m faced with another test?”

It’s been a bit of a harrowing and yet bitterly sweet few years, learning the true meaning of what it is to not just love myself more, but to truly respect my own divinity and worth at the deepest level. This concept is the basis for the first Principle in the Grail and the one from which the power to accept all the others is derived. It is also the foundation upon which all versions of personal happiness and sustainable success in life and love are built.

I knew that. Well, intellectually at least.

It is one thing to bandy about words and concepts like self-love, self-respect and self-worth, but it’s quite another to integrate the energy of, and begin to live by the highest frequency of these conscious programmes. Until you do, nobody else in your sphere will show you how to do it… its true that people can only love you to the extent that you love yourself and more importantly that they will inevitably love you the way you show them how. By that premise, until we have integrated and begun to consistently display the elements of reverence for our own divinity, nobody else is going to.

I’ve had a little internal conversation with the voice of my red flag bearer, about the true nature of her presence… you see the fact that she’s there flag-in-hand, tell’s me that I’m still very aware of the potential for codependent, even toxic relationships and connections that comes as a result of forgetting who I am, even for just a moment. And that because of her presence, I cannot forget… so I am lavishing just as much love on that part of me as I am on the part that knows she’s overcome the greatest test she was sent to endure and not only survived, but firmly decided that she’s a much better version of herself as a result of the journey.

What’s even more special is that I now know for sure that my capacity for forgiveness is infinite. I’m not talking about the words: “I forgive you,” (although they are a good place to start). I’m talking about the radical transmutation of all anger and resentment, all blame and all shame and the unltimate liberation from any sense of attachment or victimhood. Add to that, the fact that I know it’s all been a test and that new tests will arrive, shows indications that in knowing myself and accepting myself with the same openness and compassion I give to others, stems from the understanding that nothing in this world is ever personal

If its not personal, I can play with it more. Be easy with it, be easy on myself.

Always remember you get to choose how you interact with others but it has to start with how you honour yourself. To do that you have be brave enough to say goodbye to anything that doesn’t honour you. Be unafraid of losing even the most precious of connections. If you do lose it, it was never love.

If you’ve kicked the codependency habit but are still unsure if the next adventure will go the same way, love yourself enough to say no until you no longer feel the need to silence your red flag waving reminder of how far you’ve come. She’s not your inner-wound, she’s your standard-bearer and she’s setting your standards way higher than you ever thought you were worthy of. She’s going to make sure you are attracting only the crystal clear mirror of your own self-love in another human being.

Honour her first and foremost. The red on that flag is the depth and passion of your beautiful heart. It deserves nothing less in return.

Jo x

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Defining Moment – When Yes To You Means No To Me

I posted the Intuitive Chalice Oracle combination just last night, though in truth I had pulled the cards late on Friday evening and was simply awaiting time to write my thoughts about them, (you can read Rewrite The Rulebook here). In that short space of time I have found much evidence within my own life to support the reasons it’s energy is prominent at present, mainly in the guise of allowing others to take advantage and noticing when yes to you means no to me.

I’m super accessible, open, welcoming and very generous with my time and attention. I help when I am able and by my very nature a good listener and sounding board for others. These are skills I put to use in my practice to aid people in transforming their lives, finding the light and their version of inner peace. I’m sure many of you can relate to the next bit though….

My old rulebook had me inadvertently giving it away for free!

Your greatest assets are your skills and your time and according to The Wholly Grail, everything that you pour your energy into should in turn pour energy into you… Imagine for a moment an enormous chalice at the centre of a garden, overflowing like a fountain water feature. The water that spills over runs down sculpted channels to each area of the garden, providing irrigation, nutrition and energy. Each area of the garden in turn grows and feeds back its own unique abundance to the chalice at the centre which then transforms it back into life-giving water to continue the cycle.

This is the essence of Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, which in it’s most raw sense means giving and receiving in equal measure.

The old rules for me had the chalice running dry because I failed to manage what I gave for free or what I was bamboozled into giving up. The new rulebook, and I’m expressing this in the spirit of this week’s oracle message, is that I’m no longer willing to say no to my own needs in order to cater to others.

This is the essence of Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, which means taking responsibility for and action towards maintaining my own resources, reserves and boundaries.

The universe gave me a purpose. I consider myself incredibly blessed to be able to see so clearly the steps needed to live an enlightened, happy, peaceful life. Being human though, (Principle 3), it’s not always easy to say no as a complete sentence and I often find myself helping others find their piece of paradise at my expense, thus robbing me of my own.

As this is the first Monday of the month, the year in fact… let’s start with a clear slate.

If you have found yourself people pleasing, being depleted of your energy, encountering unfair exchange, not understanding or enforcing your own boundaries and worth, then let me help you get super clear on where you end and everyone else begins…

I’m still super accessible, approachable, open and welcoming, but if you are unsure of my terms then please do just ask… that way we get to say yes to each other and ourselves!

More later… x

Monday Mind Manoeuvre – Adjust Your Settings

Saturday’s oracle gave us a heads up about how other people’s truths don’t have to affect our forward momentum but we may be forgiven for imagining that it only applies to their opinions. Your truth is more readily apparent in your behaviour than in your actual words, so what are we to do about how others behave towards us?

The first thing you must recognise is that people treat how you allow them to. You set the standard for what you will and will not tolerate. How clear you are about your own boundaries is reflected in your behaviour… you can say what you find acceptable as much as you like but when you go ahead and accept less, that’s the cue others take and the level they rise to.

Do you find that people constantly break commitments they made with you, turn up late, forget to let you know, pay you less than you are worth, break your confidence, steal from you, disregard your needs, commandeer your time, encroach on your space…? You get the picture. Do you even notice when its happening?

How you respond to these infringements, even the minor ones, is sending a signal to other people as to how you are prepared to be treated and what is acceptable behaviour to you.

Today is a good day to do a thorough assessment of your own boundaries and level of self-worth. Observe how often someone makes a presumption on your time or resources (including your knowledge or training in any given area), how often they let you down on arrangements and agreements etc. Notice then how you respond to those transgressions. Is it normal for you to let it slide? Being understanding and compassionate of the other persons needs or circumstances is a noble quality of course but at what cost to you?

Once you have become more aware of your own participation in allowing these actions to occur, it’s time to adjust your settings… you will meet with resistance, especially if the perpetrators have been in your life for a while, it is really difficult to raise the bar once it has been set but it is not impossible, you just have to be prepared to let people fall away if they won’t adjust with you. Principle 2: I AM Detached reminds us to be present with what is, Principle 5: I AM Liberated reminds us to let go of what holds us captive. That being the case, what or who in the here and now is holding you captive in your old state of low self-worth by continuously crossing your boundaries?

Once you establish new ones, only your behaviour will determine their validity and endurance.

Adjust your settings today… x

The Universe Is Speaking

A couple of weeks ago I awoke from a vivid dream feeling fired up and ready to dive into a new adventure. Nothing in my waking life up to that point, as far as I was aware, had prompted the content of the dream but it had so radically altered my perception about what I wanted from life that it heralded a wave of fresh energy and a brand spanking new set of criteria for all else to live up to.

Prior to this shiny subconscious vision I had been settling for far less than I wished for myself simply because I accepted that what life was offering was my lot… rather than my lot being defined by what I was asking for… that’s when I started to play the game with God.

Just for fun one morning I set the universe a challenge: “Right then Big G, today I want you to deliver the following: I want the sun to break through the grey sky… not just gradually but making a real ta-dah! entrance; next I want you show me an unusual bird, I love the crows that live outside the house and the other feathered specimens that are local but I want you to deliver unusual; then you have to show me a Doctor scarf and lastly I want a big smile from a sexy man!”

Of course none of this stuff was actually necessary for my day to be a success but I left it in God’s hands to deliver what I’d asked for just because I asked.

Before I even made my breakfast the clouds parted like Moses had just commanded the red sea and rays of light flooded the kitchen… “I see what you did there.” I acknowledged with a huge smile on my face. Meeting a friend for some shopping and a cuppa just a little while later I told her about the game and recounted my requests, playing the game with others is even more fun you see. As we shopped my friend said she needed to pop to the pet supplies stall in the market to find a glow in the dark collar for a puppy, so I followed happy to help… what did I find myself surrounded by? The first unusual bird was a plastic budgie with a bell attached to its butt, the second was a felt owl type thing with parrots wings and peacock feather sticking out of its butt… at this point I’m creased up laughing at the absurdity of these toys for pets that although it wasn’t what I had envisaged when I asked for unusual birds, it certainly fit the criteria… I could here Big G laughing in my mind… so the old guy sitting two tables back in the cafe has on a Doctor Who scarf and I’m trying not to spit out my tea and thinking now you just need to deliver the smile… he wasn’t my idea of sexy admittedly but then I didn’t specify sexy in whose opinion!

I played the game for 3 days solid to remind myself how powerful I was at manifesting but actually more importantly to remember that when you ask the universe for something it begins to conspire to deliver it for you… even if not in the form you asked.

Yesterday I forgot to play the game and began to slide back towards settling… before I went to bed last night the universe shoved a very definite reminder of the dream that woke me right in front of me, in this case a person from my dream, and as I began my day today I was met with further reminders of the dream… an unusual name and a specific talent… all of which contained in the original dream… none of which you would here everyday where I’m from.

The universe is speaking to me… it’s trying to get through to you too, are you listening?

Wholly Grail Principles 1 & 7

Play the game, let it impress you x

 

Monday Mind Manoeuvre – Shattering Mirrors

There may well be a tendency to fret and struggling when your reality begins to shift, it’s natural to want to hold onto what feels stable and so become fearful and distressed if your equilibrium is threatened, but was it ever a nurturing equilibrium? Now that the shattering mirrors are revealing little less than lies hidden beneath, isn’t it time you began building foundations that aren’t made from glass?

Every relationship, friendship and acquaintance you have is a reflection of who you are, but when you begin to transform, when you begin to value yourself more, these reflections begin to distort and that distortion eventually either shatters the glass of the reason or need for them to be connected to you, or it transforms those reflected in the mirror to new versions of themselves and indeed of the relationship.

When you apply self-love to your every action and begin to value your Wholly Grail, manipulation, usury and co-dependency begin to evaporate.

As difficult as it is to recognise that your connections to some people were born of need, perhaps from both parties, anger and resentment are useless depleting emotions that will serve to keep you stuck, as are guilt and shame. The way through is forgiveness for all mistaken interactions and gratitude for all the lessons, after all, this individual or group of individuals played a role so well as to be the mirror that reflected back your best and worst attributes offering you the tools by which to heal yourself and grow (however painfully in the moment or blindly in the past).

Bless those that remain, bless those that have fallen away, don’t struggle with those whose mirrors are beginning to shatter… just carefully clean up the glass and bless them too… new mirrors are forming around your elevated frequency and so a new reality is being born and new connections and relationships are beginning to enter your view.

Nothing is permanent in this life.

Principle 1: I AM God 

Principle 3: I AM Human

Principle 4: I AM Truth

More later… x

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