Tag Archives: Self-Love

Learn Something Fundamental About Boundaries

When you are moving through life with the intention of contributing and being of service to others in ways that can really positively affect their day-to-day well-being, it’s vital that you first learn something fundamental about boundaries.

Knowing where you end and they begin, knowing what’s yours to carry and what belongs to others is a skill. A skill, that if not acquired, leads to the overwhem of heavy burdens that Spirit never meant for you to carry. Your soul-lesson then is knowing what to say no to and what is within your remit.

I was once channeling my angelic guides at an event when asked about why certain things kept happening over and over again to the lady who had posed the question. Archangel Azrael was kind enough to respond with the following annotized remarks: “When we step in or intervene in another’s karma, we accept the responsibility for the lesson and so must carry the karma ourselves.” in very basic and almost cynical terms it means that “no good deed goes unpunished.”

Before you let that stop you from actually helping though, you must understand that it is possible to put someone on the path to their own salvation without actually having to walk the path for them. It is possible to support someone and hold the space for their process without actually going through the process instead.

How you choose to help and even if you choose to help others is totally your business, but in the interest of Self-Full Living, learning the extent of your karmic responsiblility is a profound tool to magically turn you from being a martyr to your generosity into a master of balanced giving and receiving.

The lady I was channeling for at the time was stuck in a constant loop of bailing someone out of their own repetitive mistakes simply because she hadn’t given her friend the courtesy of believing in her power to overcome her own karma. In her eagerness to be of service, she actually stole the opportunity for the other person to learn her soul lesson. The very next time the lesson came up for her to overcome, she instead went to her friend who obliged by sorting it our again… until the time came when she was asking why me and wondering why she was exhausted and now in full on victim mode.

You have to love yourself enough to say no to other people’s drama and at the same time, love them enough to believe in their infinite capacity to overcome their karma. you really do empower people when you say: “It’s time for you to shine. Show us what you’re made of!”

Do you need to learn something fundamental about boundaries? The Principles of The Grail can help you to see everyone, including yourself, as the powerful co-creators we are.

Love, Jo x

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I’m Goin Nowhere Without This One Thing

I can’t even begin to tell you how my last week has been going… one day so hectic that I was juggling two laptops, one video editing and uploading, the other creating a blog post whilst also balancing a paintbrush upcycling my office desk, all in the relative chaos of a room makeover, but only half of the organisational implementation story that is going into planning 2020 at Jo Jerodene HQ (also known as my kitchen/diner). It was only when I stopped the process on Thursday night that realised: I’m going nowhere without this one thing…

On Thursday evening’s I teach a small group of ladies who have been with me for years, on their continuing spiritual development journey. Its a very relaxed group and also allows me to dive deep into my own spiritual practice, especailly important when I’ve been neck high in 3D business planning and the mundane world all week. This week was especially poignant though because I found myself in meditation slamming the brakes on the metaphorical train I was riding, refusing point blank to go anywhere without God!

Whatever your name for your higher power is… (normally I opt for the less formal “Big G”), when your world and your business revolves around your spiritual principles and the deep soul lessons you’ve learned from connecting with the higher realms, angels and messengers of the Divine, to suddenly be propelled into a high intensity level of logic and action in a very real-world form, is really disconcerting. No wonder I pulled the emergency brake to check Spirit was on board with the changes I’m making.

The clear message I got from Big G was: “I want you on that train!”

We forget sometimes that the Divine flows through everything, no matter how seemingly 3rd dimensional or how 5th, 6th, 7th… and on. Principle 1 of The Grail should be reminder enough, it says: “I AM God.” So the fact that I’m on the train means that Big G is on the train… in fact Big G is the bloody train and if it’s hurtling at 6 million miles an hour toward a bright new horizon then its because Spirit deems it so.

The trick is to find balance between the daily hustle and the more reverent spiritual practices, between the doing and the being, between the service and the Self-Full Living. Just taking that short excursion into meditation gave me the clearest indication of my soul’s truth and what I needed most. That’s what it means to be truly soul-led.

If you need help balancing your daily grind with your your Self-Full mind, body & soul practice then why not give my book “Self-Full Living Workbook” a whirl. It’s available through Amazon via the link.

You might also like to join our Facebook Community for Women Soul-Led & Self-Full where we’re starting a 7 Self-Full Living Challenge on this blog’s publish date!

It’s easy to get so engrossed in the day to day that you don’t leave room for what really nourishes you… and I’m going nowhere without this one thing… Me!

Love Jo xxx

Graduating From A Soul Lesson

It was a toss up today between writing about this intentional subject or veering off into the topic of dealing with overwhelm and overcommitment, which is kind of where I feel I am at the moment. Graduating from a soul lesson though feels like the theme most relevant to my own evolution and the overwhelm is a temporary imbalance brought on by entusiasm for a million projects at once.

I was reminded this morning by a friend who inadvertently, whilst asking about one of her own soul-lessons, got me thinking about how far I had come and how I have emotionally let go to such a degree that the old patterns of being triggered by old stories don’t even apply anymore.

Healing has taken the form of extreme self-love a recognition of the life I want and the compromises I’m just not willing to make to achieve it. More importantly, that making those compromises previously, was actually pushing me further and further into the opposite of the of what I most wanted. Some people will never be able to give you what you want, it’s up to you to give it to yourself.

I came acoross a post recently from someone who has played an important role in my own soul’s evolution, especially when it comes understanding to love (and being loved well). I recognised that old hurts and disappointments have given way to gentle gratitude and an underlying wish for him to heal. I have no need to be involved in his healing, at least not anymore, the simple wish is enough… I’ve served my time, I’ve passed my higher consciousness exams and I’m quietly celebrating my graduation from a soul lesson that almost broke me, almost destroyed my life, but ultimately compelled me to seek a higher love and install the compassion programme deep into my psyche, firstly for myself and then for him and those that went before. It birthed me into a new level of service.

Engaging Principle 7 of The Grail through fully understanding Principle 1, (supported and accomplished by applying the other 5 keys to balance and fulfilment), set me free from a pattern that led in a circular motion toward more of the same. You can do it too.

Whatever pattern you have been trying to break free from in your life, whether it was in relationships, behaviours, beliefs or whatever, know that when you start focusing on self-love and don’t be afraid to let go of the familiar, then give yourself time with compassion, you will eventually break loose and graduate from your own soul lesson.

Jo x

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Happy New Year! If That’s What You Choose!

We seem to be innundated with those social media posts about how we are so glad to see the back of 2019 and how we hope 2020 will be a better year at present. I’m not sure how we are still posting that stuff after seeing it year after year and according to the memes, nothing seems to be any different. That’s simply because it will be a Happy New Year! If that’s what you choose!

Yes, shit is going to happen. You are supposed to be challenged into expansion and growth. Yes, you will meet with difficulties along the way. How else are you supposed to learn new skills and uncover hidden depths? But happiness is a state of mind that you choose in spite of outer circumstances.

Once you begin to truly understand the nature of this journey and the ultimate gift it gives you, everything else just becomes a game of spiritual snakes and ladders… you climb up, you slide down, you climb up, you slide down again. If it was all one way it would be over in a flash and you’d have nothing to show for it, no experiences, no connections, no battle scars and no stories of great triumph. Your world would be small and your wisdom would be limited…

But it’s not is it?

You are a vast storehouse of compassion and empathy, with a story that can inspire others and soothe their pain when they enter the rapids of life, because you have already navigated them, mapped them, conquered them. You have fought your way through the darkness to become the light and the next wave of whatever comes your way isn’t seeing you as a potential victim it is seeing you as a worthy adversary, ready to joust and win… life expects you to conquer it and it expects to be mastered in spectacular style.

2020 is going to be exactly what you make of it and though you are not in control of what comes your way, you are absolutely in control of how you choose to respond to it.

So what are you going to do?

Lick your 2019 wounds and ask for reprieve (that isn’t coming)? Or are you going to pull up your big girl pants and say: “2020 my friend, I’m ready for you. I’ve trained for this my entire life and I’m not just happy to see you, I’m flying the fucking flags and starting the party early… what took you so long?”

To which it will subtly reply: “I was waiting for you to remember who you are and fall back in love with yourself.

They are going to tell you that 2020 is the year of perfect vision and clarity, but I’m here to tell you now, the only thing you need to see clearly this year is exactly who you are. You are the miracle, sweetheart. You can have a Happy New Year! If that’s what you choose! Make this coming year yours.

Love, Jo x

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Kicked The Codependency Habit? …What Next?

Its a question I had to ask myself recently: have I kicked the codependency habit? My answer was met with two distinct voices, one of whom was singing my praises and celebrating with a resounding “Yes!” While the other was desperately waving red flags and asking: “How will I know until I’m faced with another test?”

It’s been a bit of a harrowing and yet bitterly sweet few years, learning the true meaning of what it is to not just love myself more, but to truly respect my own divinity and worth at the deepest level. This concept is the basis for the first Principle in the Grail and the one from which the power to accept all the others is derived. It is also the foundation upon which all versions of personal happiness and sustainable success in life and love are built.

I knew that. Well, intellectually at least.

It is one thing to bandy about words and concepts like self-love, self-respect and self-worth, but it’s quite another to integrate the energy of, and begin to live by the highest frequency of these conscious programmes. Until you do, nobody else in your sphere will show you how to do it… its true that people can only love you to the extent that you love yourself and more importantly that they will inevitably love you the way you show them how. By that premise, until we have integrated and begun to consistently display the elements of reverence for our own divinity, nobody else is going to.

I’ve had a little internal conversation with the voice of my red flag bearer, about the true nature of her presence… you see the fact that she’s there flag-in-hand, tell’s me that I’m still very aware of the potential for codependent, even toxic relationships and connections that comes as a result of forgetting who I am, even for just a moment. And that because of her presence, I cannot forget… so I am lavishing just as much love on that part of me as I am on the part that knows she’s overcome the greatest test she was sent to endure and not only survived, but firmly decided that she’s a much better version of herself as a result of the journey.

What’s even more special is that I now know for sure that my capacity for forgiveness is infinite. I’m not talking about the words: “I forgive you,” (although they are a good place to start). I’m talking about the radical transmutation of all anger and resentment, all blame and all shame and the unltimate liberation from any sense of attachment or victimhood. Add to that, the fact that I know it’s all been a test and that new tests will arrive, shows indications that in knowing myself and accepting myself with the same openness and compassion I give to others, stems from the understanding that nothing in this world is ever personal

If its not personal, I can play with it more. Be easy with it, be easy on myself.

Always remember you get to choose how you interact with others but it has to start with how you honour yourself. To do that you have be brave enough to say goodbye to anything that doesn’t honour you. Be unafraid of losing even the most precious of connections. If you do lose it, it was never love.

If you’ve kicked the codependency habit but are still unsure if the next adventure will go the same way, love yourself enough to say no until you no longer feel the need to silence your red flag waving reminder of how far you’ve come. She’s not your inner-wound, she’s your standard-bearer and she’s setting your standards way higher than you ever thought you were worthy of. She’s going to make sure you are attracting only the crystal clear mirror of your own self-love in another human being.

Honour her first and foremost. The red on that flag is the depth and passion of your beautiful heart. It deserves nothing less in return.

Jo x

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Flowing Into Purpose & Learning To Love

Exactly what does that mean: flowing into purpose & learning to love? That’s what I’ve been contemplating this week, how do I make a smooth transition into the role Spirit has asked me to fill and will the timing ever be perfect to just do it?

The fact is, every time I have shifted into a new version or upgraded way of presenting to the world, there has been absolutely nothing smooth about it and the timing has always been exactly when the universe deemed fit. Definite stop. Definite start.

Those instances show up in your life as “Tower” moments like jobs ending or redundancy; the loss of loved ones; relationships or marriages that suddenly end in divorce and so on, but what if there is no tower moment just an overwhelming need to step into a higher purpose?

According the Archangel Chamuel I’ve been training for this for lifetimes. Having just recently turned a significant corner in healing from the last lesson in self-love, Spirit are calling me to apply that, now crystalised wisdom, by narrowing my expanded understanding of The Grail to help a very specific type of woman…

Are you that woman? The one who repeats the pattern of giving her all to the kind of relationship that will never return the intensity of her love? Are you the one who commits to the guy who only puts her on the list when he’s at a loose end? Are you the one who forgot she was the powerful creator of her own destiny because she was selfless enough to help him build his?

Perhaps you are looking for love in all the wrong places, finding yourself drawn into non-reciprocal (one-sided) connections with emotionally unavailable people, sometimes even abusive and narcissistic partnerships, where you begin to lose your sense of self as your world begins to collapse around you and your very grip on reality is brought into question? If you are that woman, you are not alone.

Learning to love yourself enough to break free of this pattern has been a life’s work for me and I’m told, it is the primary focus for the continuation of the work I will be doing with the Grail.

There’s an issue with that, it means I’m going to have to tell some stories I’m not proud of. It means I’m going to have expose the soft underbelly and some still very raw lessons in order to guide you through how the Grail taught me to love fully and without conditions. And it means I’m going to have to

  • Honour my divinity
  • Be fully present (even with discomfort)
  • Show you how forgiveness changes everything
  • Allow my truth to shine through
  • Give up whatever I’m protecting
  • Share the healing process
  • Let love flow through me to each of you.

Make no mistake, this is no mean feat that I’ve been asked to do… but I know it will be the most significant transition I have made yet.

If you are one of the brave women who fit into the catagory that I described, whether currently partnered or single, and you would like to heal your love patterns and learn what Self-Full Loving looks and feels like, I’d really like to hear from you because I want to tell you more is possible for you… more love than you can imagine… and 2020 will be the year I show you the way.

You will need to be:

  • Ready to embrace your power
  • Willing to look at what is, by accepting what has been
  • Open to taking responsibility for your choices
  • Ready to tell a new story
  • Open to letting go of attachments
  • Determined to heal yourself and put your well-being first
  • Ready to embrace real love with an open heart.

Contact me here if you would like to know more about flowing into purpose & learning to love.

Love is coming your way sister, it is possible and you are worth it.

Jo x

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September Oracle – Now Free To Be Me

The September Oracle – Now Free To Be Me, is all about stepping into true power over your life and your personal physical world.

This combination of Principle 4: I AM Truth, teamed with the red of the base or root chakra pulls into focus your authenticity about your physical life, your health and even your status in the world.

The base chakra, having the slowest moving energy is concerened with what’s solid, tangible, you might even say real. So when you look at that from the perspective of Principle 4, you step into a place of really owning what’s yours. Unapologetically You.

You might find that you have been through a period of hiding in order to protect something sacred within that wasn’t yet healed or ready to come into the light. Though it may already have been obvious to the outside world you may have shyed away from situations where it (whatever it was about you) may have become noteable. This then is a time where acceptance has played a role in your own transformation and you have decided to truly embrace your own power, your own path and even your own mistakes.

The world around you is beginning to respond differently this month as you engage with it in a different way and what you are now manifesting is based in truth and no longer in fear.

This combination may also signify taking charge of your health issues or beginning to love and accept your own body after a long time rejecting your form. Self-love is one of the first steps towards empowerment, so let this be your guide.

One more, and perhaps most important aspect of the combination is that you are no longer bound by the opinions of others to make you feel safe, secure or accepted. All of that embodied confidence is now shining from within your own soul like a beacon lighting your way towards ever increasing, self-renewing love for who you have become and are still becoming.

Congratulations!

If you would like to learn more about self-love and self-care the Self-Full Living Workbook is out now on Amazon

Weekly Oracle – Love Me Right Now

With this week’s intense Super Full Moon Lunar Eclipse in Leo smashing its energy into us and Venus making eyes at Jupiter the Great Benevolent, I’m hardly surprised this combination is indicating that our inner-selves are demanding “love me right now!”

Principle 2: I AM Detached, awakens a part of us that is racing forwards to a time “when.” When I’m rich enough, thin enough, fit enough, when I have time enough, when I know enough… or worse still when I get back to how things used to be. It awakens you to the perfection of the moment however imperfect it might be. Now is all that exists for your soul and now is the time to embrace all the wonderful lessons and gifts that the emerald green heart chakra has to offer.

Love is the most important gift you can offer yourself this week, (well any week actually), it requires acceptance, forgiveness, tolerance and a true understanding of self-worth but more importantly it requires you to let go and stop withholding.

This week’s combination suggests this is a time where your propensity towards self-denial must be overcome regardless of all the made up excuses that override “why not now?” and “why not you?” The optimum time has arrived to give yourself all the things your soul has been crying out for, but most of all love.

Loving yourself and indeed allowing others to love you as you want to be loved is simply a matter of removing the obstacles you have put in place to protect you from your own fears, in this case around your readiness and the timing of the incoming energy.

“Love me right now” is the innocent cry of your inner child who doesn’t understand the constraints your other subconscious archetypes have placed around your ability to nurture yourself and be nurtured by others to the fullest potential in this and every moment.

Expect big questions and surprise situations this week where you may be faced with opportunities that require you to leap towards what your soul truly wants, but be wary of your conditioned response of saying no to life because you don’t believe you are ready for it or the timing seems a little off… The Universe doesn’t make mistakes with timing…. if your heart wants to say yes to love in all its forms then recognise that self-love means not allowing your head to overrule your feelings just because your calendar seems a bit full.

Prioritise your heart’s desire.

If your life is out of balance and you are putting your heart’s desires on hold, why not invest in a Transformative Grail Session with me?

More next week… x

Weekly Oracle – The Way Home To Self

I’m noticed a pattern. When The Sacred Chalice shows up in a reading it likes to hang around for a while and rarely stays for just one week and so there was no surprise when it presented itself again today. Following last week’s energy of the Chalice being spilled to make room, this week feels like recovery.

There are times in life when we quietly move in a peaceful direction back to wholeness without feeling the need to chat about where we are at or what we are doing. This time of recovery, of going within, is the way home to self. 

“Quiet” and “peacefully” are not ways of describing withdrawal from daily life though, on the contrary, though differences maybe subtlety noticeable, for all intents and purposes you seem to be doing what you’ve always done except for the fact that you are nurturing in private a renewed sense of purpose, direction and an increased level of self love that demands nothing short of you now living your best life in the here and now.

The Wholly Grail is what remains when you remove all distractions, disempowered thinking and searching beyond what is. It is what you find once you empty the cup and realise the essential truth of what truly fills it, and how to prioritize that as a way of life rather than an occasional intrigue.

If illness came your way recently, now you will begin to recover, if loss or grief came your way, then this is a time where the blessings begin to reveal themselves and the light returns, if chaos ensued, then now calm will begin to be restored as a new version of you is born from what was into what is yet to become. This rebirth is a gentle process and you may not quite understand yet on a conscious level just exactly why you feel different… but you are different. You get to choose now if you will go back to how it used to be, or if you really love yourself enough to become more.

How you define more of course is your business, don’t allow the world to dictate that… you just learned what it takes to fill your cup… to keep it full, in constant self-renewing fresh energy is your life’s work now. So do that.

Check out Principle 6 as a way to start.

More later… x

Weekly Oracle – Fill Up Then Spill Over

Woohoo! It’s back! Normally when I see the Sacred Chalice come out of the pack I have an “Oh No!” moment, but not this week. This week I was fist pumping and thinking “yeah, bring it on,” knowing that when you fill up then spill over the contents of the cup, even the trickiest of weeks can be truly magical.

It’s all about perspective this week as things are set to shift dramatically. For some of us that will mean miracles, for others it might seem like the rug is being pulled out from underneath you and knocking you squarely on your arse! You get to choose how you respond to the surprises in store.

I’m expecting things to go either way… hedging my bets if you like, I figure that landing on my feet is something to celebrate but landing on my arse is something I can giggle about if I get over myself… nobody’s watching anyway and even if they are, laughing at yourself is an excellent way to lighten the intensity of transformation.

That’s what is really going on this week, transformation.

The proverbial cup is symbolic of your vitality levels and your capacity for self-love, when the cup is empty you have nothing to give and nothing to smile about. When it’s full, anything that spills over you get to share with the world.

You can’t expect anyone else to fill that cup for you so if you are feeling a little on the empty side then now is the moment to reclaim all the bits of you that you have given away, draw back your power from all lifetimes, all timelines, all dimensions and all beings that would seek to drain you. They have Sacred Chalice’s of their own and are responsible for their own healing journey… that’s the true meaning of Principle 6: I AM Self-Full.

The 7 Principles of The Wholly Grail are designed to centre you in peace, reclaim your essential nature and your power inspire of external pressures and circumstances, so whatever is shifting for you this week, YOUR Grail is your is your wellspring of energy to ride the wave.

For more clues on this Solstice week ahead you can

check out my Free Dragon Oracle video here

and then check out the extended reading if you like (on the same page). You can also book a personal reading there or book a one-to-one here.

Here’s wishing you an amazing Solstice Week ahead (even if you do spend it arse over tit)!… x