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Modus Operandi Part 6: Me Versus Myself

As this Modus Operandi series has progressed I hope you have begun to understand the difference between how you think you might be following the Wholly Grail Principles for inner peace as opposed to how you actually carry out your day to day life in opposition to your intentions. The title “Me Versus Myself” is true then for all these practices of self-defeating behaviours but never more so than when it comes to your health and self care.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, is vast in concept because it involves putting your own needs first in order to fill your cup ready to serve and share with others… that can mean intellectually, emotionally, creatively, professionally, intimately etc. Whatever way you give of yourself, if you fail to take care of your own basic needs by constantly placing others before yourself you will eventually drain the cup and become ill, ineffective and eventually unable to be of service to anyone… including yourself!

Some believe it selfish to put their own needs first, going without meals, without sleep, pushing hard to try to rescue others, failing to enforce personal boundaries and basically martyring themselves in the process to the point of burnout. Giving of yourself until there is nothing left will leave your dependents ultimately without the very person they depend on, so tell me: how does that work out to be less selfish?

Once the selfish aspect is dispelled we get to tackle the other side of denial, the side that says “I always take good care of myself” when actually you really don’t…

How nutritious is your diet, the very fuel for your body? Are you conscientiously equipping your physical vessel for the task ahead or are you so frenetic that you ram in whatever is in front of you without thinking just to provide fast but low grade energy to continue whatever you have currently deemed so much more important?

Do you rest your mind as well as your body adequately? Sleep when your mind is busy might as well be no sleep at all. I know a fair few people who survive on little or no sleep because deadlines and demands are put ahead of their health and others who spend so much time over-thinking and worrying that their quality of sleep is poor. Meditation, and a disciplined wind down practice can be of enormous benefit to this problem but here’s the thing: if you don’t adhere to Principle 1: I AM God, understanding your true worth and your value to the rest of humanity then you will never place yourself, your health and your happiness as a priority in your life.

I haven’t even touched the surface of being Self-Full here but you’re starting to get the picture.

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More later… x

 

A Moment Of Reflection On Gentle Decline

Everybody is trying to get somewhere, achieve something. The uphill climb can be slow and methodical, and we are often pushing a boulder of an intention up the hill in front of us making visibility obscured by a mass that’s all up in your face for weeks, months or even years.

Finally reaching the zenith of the hill is a moment of celebration or simply just relief, because you have put the hard work in and delivered the intention to a high point from where it can be launched towards its real destination, which lets face it is not isolated on the top of a hill, the hill is a vantage point from where to really begin.

All that work to get to this point and you now have options before you: after all, it’s all downhill from here no matter which direction you look. Not downhill in a negative, falling apart sense, but rather in a “one small push and the ball starts rolling” sense…  but which direction will you push?

Now is the time to take a moment of reflection on gentle decline. Once that push happens your intention will take on a life of its own and gather momentum quickly, so much so you may need to run to keep up with it. That’s what you dreamed of and that’s what will happen.

Pause, breathe, appreciate, decide… then push.

Wholly Grail Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, is an inward journey towards being. As you stand at the top of your hill, the launch point of your most precious dream, now is the perfect time to check in with you, so let’s do that together today to ensure that:

1. You’re pointing your intention towards the right slope (target).

2. You have enough strength for the push (and then to keep up with the rolling stone).

3. Your boulder (emotions, level of learning, skills etc. are strong enough to withstand the ever increasing momentum).

In real terms its about checking in with your health, your motives and your emotions to make sure you have, not just enough energy, but abundant overflowing energy, more than enough to share as this intention you have created for yourself will likely involve or affect others immediately that you press that finger against the rock and send it hurtling down the hill, one finger is all it will take now.

Today then:

Refocus on all the other stuff happening in your life. Tie up loose ends, cut loose ties, remove the energetic and even physical clutter. You’ve done most of the work but you have had this boulder in your face for so long that you haven’t noticed the grass around it needs cutting.

Eat well, refuel, get back into you body and out of your dream-making head for a little while. Grounding outside with Mother Nature… pamper yourself, be good you yourself and then ask some questions:

1. How worthy do I believe I AM of achieving my dreams?

2. How present AM I with what is and allowing of what might be?

3. How forgiving AM I of any past or potential shortfalls on my expectations?

4. How authentic AM I being with myself and others?

5. What baggage AM carrying into my awakening dream?

6. AM I physically, emotionally and mentally prepared to hold my own in new circumstances?

7. Can I balance my giving and receiving from the universal supply of abundance that is my birth right?

Reconcile these in your moment of reflection and then point your finger and push. May your boulder roll straight and true and your dreams become a beautiful reality.

More later… x

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Monday(ish) Mind Manoeuvre – Imaginary Manager

Ridiculously late to be posting a Monday Mind Manoeuvre, in fact so much so that its almost a Tardy Tuesday Titbit but that’s somewhat the point of title…

My imaginary manager kicked in late last night when I took a look at my schedule for the week and felt a surge of overwhelm begin to take hold of me before the week had even begun. You see, its necessary for me to see ‘white space’ in my schedule. White space is the time I spend working on the things that are important to me, time I spend imagining greater spiritual truths, meditating, researching, daydreaming and quite often writing, but this week all I could see was commitment after commitment and no room for creativity.

Now the commitments were pleasant ones, don’t get me wrong, but I don’t thrive when I’m on someone else’s schedule and trying desperately to fit it all in. Do you ever find yourself stressing about letting people down? My imaginary manager had given over control to the expectations of others and more to the point, my own assumptions about what others were expecting, including thinking you were waiting on this little Grail insight, which of course is pure vanity and most of you didn’t notice it hadn’t happened!

So, stressed out, overwhelmed and wondering who to disappoint, I had a piss-poor night’s sleep and awoke even less capable of fulfilling my overtaxed schedule.

Who did I disappoint then?

Does it matter?

To be truly Self-Full, you must put your own wellbeing before any other priorities regardless of how urgent or important they may appear to be. If your imaginary manager is pushing you into overwhelm then it’s time to give him or her the boot and get to grips with what it really means to be the boss of you.

You are amazing, but your power lies in your ability to make good decisions… The best one you can make is YOU.

As it happens, I did everything on the schedule and moved the rest of the week around to fit it all in… (almost)… and to make Monday end even better the website is now on a stable new server and ready for you to sign up for free as a Seeker member to get a little extra from your Wholly Grail Quest.

Night night, God bless x

Saturday Oracle – Give Yourself The Gift Of Expansion

(Reposted from July 1st)

Support is a key aspect of this week’s oracle and you could be left feeling a distinct lack of it if you are looking to those who are themselves in need to provide it for you.

As Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, begins to wrap self-love around the emerald green of the heart chakra be prepared to be your own emotional support system.

It might sound unreasonable to ask you to be your own best friend in times of need but this phase is a prelude to life kicking up a gear. You are preparing for increased creativity, productivity and receptivity beyond that which you have experienced before. Energetically you feel the rush of wind that’s being pushed towards you ahead of the tsunami and its shaking your confidence causing you to grab for stability wherever you can, but let me reassure you, it’s all good.

We sense the incoming rush and because we have no way of knowing what it entails in practical or material terms we brace for impact instead of allowing a wide open heart to receive the abundance of the universe.

Give yourself the gift of expansion by spending time properly tending to your energetic needs. This means timeout, rest, space… all the personal care aspects of being Self-Full so that you are in tip top shape for surfing that wave when it hits.

Nobody is going to be able to give you what you think you need this week because to others, your world is transforming beyond what they can understand. You may feel their uncertainty begin to tug at your energy and everyone (including you) is going to be a little more needy than usual.

Do yourself a favour and remind yourself that you are in the driver’s seat and Source is your navigation system… if you can follow directions through the temporary restructuring process then everything is coming up roses just on the other side of that tidal wave.

It feels a bit hairy right now because you can’t see what’s up ahead. What you can do is get yourself in the best shape possible to handle the sack load of blessings coming your way. Daily meditation, slow and deep cleansing breaths, gentle exercise, time out in nature… basically anything that allows you to witness and consciously accept that the inflow of the universe is your friend this week,  will aid in you preparation.

To receive more, your heart space must expand… that’s a gift only you can give to yourself by learning to relax and knowing you are a worthy recipient. Give yourself permission.

More next week… x

Ps. The next few days may see the website fluctuate somewhat as I’m shifting providers to solve the membership sign up issues. Bare with me whilst I learn to fly a new dashboard!

Saturday Oracle – Inside And Outside

This week’s oracle kicks my ass  on a previous post and I can’t help but be impressed by the irony of it. A little while ago I wrote a piece called Preparing On Purpose that was all about self confidence in any given situation coming from recognition of the divine within… and I stand by that. This oracle though, is pointing toward the necessity of lavishing attention on your physical self to help support your ego-based self-conscious issues.

This is far from a negative week though, in its entirety it is encouraging you to get full-on body positive in order to fully embrace your bliss.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full connects with the energetic seat of personal power which is the exuberant yellow solar plexus to focus you in on pleasure over the coming days. This combination has a hedonistic feel to it but along with that comes the tendency to over-indulge.

To use this energy properly, which is the desire to direct love upon oneself, you must first ask what constitutes long term benefit as opposed to short term gratification.

We are swinging into the summer season now so minds are turning towards holidays and getting “beach ready.” We are focusing on romance and generally how best to regain our playfulness that hides throughout the winter months under layers of woolly jumpers and weather worn faces… but with this shift in agenda comes a shift in confidence, and all too often we begin to berate ourselves for not being perfect (whatever distorted image of perfection we may actually be clinging to).

The Solar Plexus governs our ego, our digestion and therefore eating habits, our ability to assimilate information, our ability to accommodate abundance, our natural childlike state of joyous abandon… bliss. If a healthy sense of self confidence lives here then you’re in for a week of excitement getting ready for the fun that is set to follow, if however you struggle with loving yourself then unnecessary worries are going to befall you.

Self-Full Living is the art of taking care of one’s own needs inside and outside, now is the time to do that. Give yourself the best fighting chance of shedding the inhibitions by spending this week deliberately tending to your own body’s and your ego’s needs: Pamper, exercise, eat well, practice self-appreciation affirmations, update your wardrobe based on what looks great and feels comfortable rather than what the label says (or the number on it)…if you look and feel great you will take some of the concern away from impromptu invitations to embrace life to the full.

You deserve to jump into the next phase with your full being in a state of bliss. Get ready now!

Wishing you a week of increased self-esteem and playful preparation… x

Saturday Oracle – The Language Of Self-Love

You’ve be been on an inward journey lately, not that those around you will have noticed. This particular spiritual pilgrimage into your most heartfelt hopes and dreams has caused you to reassess, re-evaluate, redefine and refine what you want from the next phase of your life. That sharpening of focus has helped you to understand where you have compromised your own needs, perhaps through the fear of what others may think, or through fear of what might have to be transformed for you to embrace true success.

Success doesn’t look like what you imagine others think it should look like… but you’re assuming you know what others think.

This week’s combination has Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, partnering with the linguistic acuity of the royal blue throat chakra, centering our oracle message on the need to communicate clearly ones own needs.

During the recent period of reflection you may have stumbled upon clarity about the goal but you will also have a greater understanding about the fact that we rarely achieve our dreams alone, and that often a vision of success includes others. The trick is to get everyone on the same page, pulling in the same direction and whatever other cheesy sayings mean working together to achieve the same outcome.

Now the fact that being Self-Full requires you to consider your own needs, has may of us scrambling for cooperation because we somehow mistake Self-Fullness for selfishness, this is wrapped up in a low self-esteem and depleted sense of self-worth. We all deserve to have our needs met. Unfortunately we feel it necessary to skirt around the issues and use subtle manipulation instead of just simply asking, as a result of this egoic deficiency.

Selfishness is expecting your needs to be met at the expense of someone else’s… but what if your needs are mutual? How will you know if your needs are mutual unless you risk being vulnerable and actually state what you really want require or desire?

This week is the time to stop beating around the bush and tell those that matter, that are crucial to your success, whatever that looks like, how important they are in the plan and what you need from them. Then ask them if they are willing to be the yin to your yang or the yang to your yin… you will never know if you don’t ask.

The language of self-love usually starts with “This is how I feel, and this is what I want.” It’s gentle, clear, honest and simple. To get your needs met, everyone relevant needs to know what your needs are.

Happy Self-Full Summit Week… x

 

 

Handling Lady Luna’s Grip On Your Gravity

Remembering back to the oracle over the weekend, (you may not have caught it due to a technical hitch with the website but it’s available to read here). It was about getting lost in uncertainty within a sea of your own questions and the resulting  emotional state is often one of confusion, frustration and ultimately leading to physical exhaustion.

Today’s Full Moon in Scorpio is a pretty significant event in terms of emotional stability, the moon herself affecting water and Scorpio being a watery sign… water being symbolic of and affecting the emotions. If you don’t believe in the potency of astrology then look at the physics: the moon’s pull on Earth’s gravity is what causes tides in the sea so if it has that much influence over a powerful body of water such as an ocean imagine what it can do to a walking meat sack of water like a human being.

All that said, let’s take for granted then that during a full moon your personal tides are high.

Emotion is not your enemy. When you understand that you are not actually the emotion but instead the individual experiencing them, you can take up the position of the observer and use it as one of the greatest gifts Source bestowed upon you knowing that its guidance as to your direction, your position, your timing and your environment. How cool is that? Cosmic GPS!

So knowing full well there are 3 days across a full moon where it’s effects are at there most powerful: the day before, day of and day after; I wasn’t too alarmed when my energy dropped yesterday, as did my enthusiasm and my excitement for the things that have been fascinating me of late. I simply turned my attention to Principle 6: I AM Self-Full (understand it more here), and got on with a few mundane chores that didn’t require much creative energy….

And then the questions began.

Before I knew what was happening I was embroiled in a deluge of mind chatter, not about how I felt, I understood that, but confusing emotional heaviness caused by gravity with my GPS alerting me to the chance I might be going the wrong way, making the wrong choices, taking risks that were ludicrous, believing the wrong people… it goes on. These are the questions the oracle warned of.

The only way to stop the tumble and start handling Lady Luna’s grip on your gravity is to get fully present by embracing Principle 2: I AM Detached, the art of letting go of all outcomes and just being.

You may not be able to control the movement of the heavens but by being aware of how you’re affecting by it you can get back to your empowered centre knowing “this too shall pass.”

More later… x

After The Storm

I love the smell of the air immediately after the storm. Everything is more alive, more vibrant, washed clean by the rain and in full colour. It’s a time when, as a child I would take off my shoes and walk along the York stone paving with bare feet just so I could feel the wet, cool, solid foundation reminding me that this moment counts.

This moment counts.

What you do with it is your choice. It could be life changing, life affirming or it could pass by as a simple moment of acknowledgment of all that there is… you don’t have to do anything of course, you can go on with your daily rounds without looking up, without truly, fully breathing in, and without a clue that the moment is passing you by.

Having selected Principle 6: I AM Self-Full as the lead card in Saturday’s Intuitive Chalice Oracle, I’m mindful of the focus energy this week on doing what’s right for you and doing it slowly and with purpose. It’s being compounded by the gentle new moon in Taurus arriving in the early hours of Wednesday morning (about 01:16am UK time). The emphasis for me is about focus: all or nothing, this and only this… It may seem like limiting choices and expression of variety but for now at least, that way lies scattered thinking and dispersed intentions. I am my primary focus. My needs are paramount.

The storm has passed and it’s time to ponder the emergence of fresh perspective and tend to the fundamentals like health, home and happiness.

Whatever storms you have been facing have blown away the cobwebs and the chaos has transformed into a fertile landscape for planting new seeds. Some of those seeds you rescued from what went before, some you have dreamed anew but the only thing that matters now are the dreams you’ve dreamed for you.

Take off your shoes, put your feet on the ground, breathe, smile… and draw the moment inward until it fills you.

Happy Monday… x

 

Experiencing An Internal Revolution

Everybody deals with emotional trauma in a different way. My immune system shuts down and become susceptible to illness… but it’s not my permanent or preferred place of residence.

I wanted to take this opportunity to guide you through healing from experiencing an internal revolution, that on the surface at least, can manifest as physical health issues.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full is the way back to vitality whenever your health is compromised physically, emotionally or even spiritually and begins with a very basic premise: “me first.”

Untie all the commitments, promises, deadlines, self-imposed pressures and superfluous tasks and get busy with what’s really important… healing. Feeling better. Nurturing your mind, body and spirit on every level.

Start with rest, complete rest. It doesn’t mean you have to take to your bed, rest can be simply snuggling by the fire with a good book, relaxing in a bubble bath or such like. Next comes nourishment. Healing from the inside out means feeding your body healing foods, foods filled with life force that are fresh and pure. Don’t forget the life giving elixir that is clean water either, your vital organs need to detox from the flood of poisons that brought you to this state.

Now you must purify what is feeding your mind. The external world can be detrimental to the sensitive empath when your system is overloaded so now is the perfect opportunity to detox your information intake: If at all possible you should unplug from the digital hive mind altogether and instead read an uplifting book or two. Doing a digital detox can also be effective if you de-clutter your feeds and bookmarks, for example you might unsubscribe from anything and anyone that causes you more stress, unfollow and unfriend any negative influences and choose new ones whose inspiration supports your healing path.

Then you need to be honest with those around you. Principle 4: I AM Truth is a powerful reclamation of Self. Just by stating “this is where I am and this is what I need” can go a long way towards releasing what’s draining you… you don’t always have to be the one with the answers, you don’t have to be the glue that holds society together… doesn’t it already feel so much better knowing that the only thing that you have to fix right now is you?

And now stretch… Yoga, Pilates, something gentle. A walk (when you’re ready) and then breathe… reconnect with nature, even if it’s just pottering in the garden. And create, be it art, music, poetry, baking a masterpiece… maybe even a vision board of your most beautiful dream, we all need to express our creative inner muse, so do that too.

Whatever you need to do to come back to you, that’s your only job to survive the alchemical side effects of the revolution as you recuperate and prepare for the next leg of the quest. That’s where I’m at.

More later… x

N.B. Always consult your GP/Physician with regards to any health concerns you may have.

Saturday Oracle – Your Own Best Friend

For the second week running the issue of Self-Full Living has risen to the surface to remind you that you matter…

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full combines its powerful influence with the sacral chakra to highlight your relationships and more importantly this week, where you fit into them.

Redefining boundaries will feature heavily in the next few days as you find more and more that your needs are not being met and in some cases you are being taken advantage of.

You may notice that those close to you are making the rules up as they go along and are somewhat oblivious to the effects of their actions… it’s not personal, they are simply behaving in a way that feels natural to them and as you may have been passively standing by as standards deteriorate, now is not the time to apportion blame for the fact that you feel violated or otherwise affronted.

The issue here lies in the assumption that loved ones actually know what you want… have you been clear?

Knowing where you end and others begin is a tricky business especially when you’re invested in the friendship/partnership/relationship, as rocking the boat by being vocal about what’s gone wrong can often feel confrontational if handled badly, perceivably risking the connection, but here’s the thing: strong fences, good neighbours make. In layman’s terms that’s pointing out that without boundaries conflicts ensue.

All that being said, this week it’s time to be your own best friend and take back control of your life by first accepting responsibility for allowing your energetic walls to be breached and then clarifying your position.

Everyone benefits from knowing where they stand.

Ask Archangel Michael to guide you to find the right words to use and to cut cords and attachments to fear based thoughts that have thus far caused you to remain passive or silent and ask for everyone’s highest good to be served by your assertive actions.

More next week… x