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July Oracle: First Meet Your Own Needs

I haven’t seen this combination in quite some time. It joins the vivid orange energy of the sacral chakra, the sexual, sensual and vitality energy centre, with the 6th Principle: I AM Self-Full. With this comes a warning of the need for healing and the main message from the July Oracle: first meet your own needs.

The sacral chakra is often activated when we engage in intimate interactions with others. Not necessarily sexual per se, as intimacy can simply be a caring connection and vulnerability with another human being. It can be about how we give and receive nurturance or love. That being said, when Principle 6 shows up, you are being directly advised to love yourself first.

Meeting your own needs

Tending to your own need for nurturance is fundamental in restoring your energy during or directly after times of high stress or illness. It is also the first requirement in avoiding codependent or needy relationships. As an oracle then, this combination is alluding to one or both of these two things: Either you are in recovery after illness/trauma, or you are about to enter a new relationship.

Having already uploaded the Dragon and Alignment Readings for this week (and the next few weeks to come), I can say that the latter is very likely at this time.

Self-love as a precedent

If codependency is your pattern then this oracle is recommending that you review what you have learned from the previous relationships that have come to you as teachers, then decide what patterns you do not wish to repeat. Starting with self-love and self-care sets a precedent for how others will treat you. It also gives you a good set of boundaries to recognise what you are and are not prepared to accept.

Signs you haven’t healed yet

If you are still healing from a prior connection then this is not the time to get into any new entanglements as further self-work may need to occur. This may look like blame, shame, unforgiveness and other low frequency emotions like anger and resentment. Being Self-Full also means taking responsibility for your own life, healing, expectations and choices.

First meet your own needs as a matter of priority. Only then will you be able to live, love and connect in a healthy way, without need for anyone to meet your needs for you.

What do you need to heal? What can you give to yourself today? The gift of your own love is good place to start. You deserve nothing less.

Love, Jo x

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A Self-Full Day In The Life Of…

I know how lucky I am to be able to choose my own daily routine and that it gives me the ability to build Self-Full Living into my schedule as a way of life. I made a conscious choice to put my own well-being at the top of my to-do list a long time ago, after suffering burn-out and chronic fatigue back in 2004, putting me in hospital and rendering me mentally, emotionally and physically incapable of noticing the blessings in my own life. But what exactly does a Self-Full day in the life of a spiritual teacher look like?

I can’t speak for any other spiritual teacher out there to be honest, but one thing I expect we have in common is the ability to recognise that spirituality isn’t a part of your day, it is woven through every aspect of your life. It is not something your do it is something you are.

I’ve never been a morning person. Well actually that’s not true. I am at my best in the morning. I am most connected to my own wisdom, to my own guides and angels, I gather the most inspired ideas and connect the dots from all the synchronicities and insights I receive first thing in the morning. What I mean when I say I’m not a morning person is that I don’t do socialising, human interaction and banal chatter early in the morning. My day is organised so that I rarely even venture downstairs before 11am and I certainly do not entertain client appointments or consultations before lunchtime.

Though you may notice I’m on social media early in the morning, that’s usually my time to scan a few select pages and people that I follow who have pristine, positive and spiritually curated timelines that help to maintain my own positive mindset. I take the time to journal my dreams and my intentions for the day, to acknowledge what I’m grateful for and to explore elusive emotions. I also physically write a prayer to the universe each morning to focus my intention further.

The next action I take is the most important action of my Self-Full day: I shower!

I know, most of us do (hopefully), but for me, the shower is the place where I meditate and converse with the angels. It is the place where I cleanse, not only my body of any grime that might be lurking, but also my energy field and my chakras of any negativity or foreign energy. I take time to acknowledge what parts of my physical body require extra care today, for example: where I feel stiff or uncomfortable, and I check in with what my mind, body and spirit require from me. I also feel into any areas of my energy that feel blocked or sticky, all the while asking the angels for help in transmuting that disharmony or instructing me in the actions I may need to take to heal it through the day. Only when all this is done and I’ve chosen the outfit that best fits my mood… (usually comfy casual to full on pj’s), do I start my day.

I have to laugh at that idea, because often my day started anything up to 3 hours prior… but only now am I ready to interact with the world.

After I eat breakfast (actually usually lunch to rest of you,) I begin creating from an inspired mind, feeling fuelled up and ready to go. I’m now ready to create content, prepare and teach classes, conduct client calls, record and edit videos for my YouTube channel and serve in a way that also nourishes me whilst also hoefully nourishing others.

Other things I keep on my daily to-do list:

  • I take time to cook fresh meals and consciously take breaks to eat them
  • I’m mindful of how much water I drink throughout the day
  • I’ve started to reward myself for a day at the desk with a long, walking meditation. (It serves to add exercise, time in nature to reset and clear my mind, into my day).
  • I do an oracle card reading for myself to help gain clarity and direction for my work, my life, my current projects… anything that might benefit from a wider perspective.
  • I make time to connect with friends, family and loved ones, even if it’s just a quick text.
  • I have a wind-down routine that includes gentle yoga or tai chi, more journalling about how my day went, any resistance felt, what I discovered throughout the day.

Admittedly it means that I often work late into the evening, but because I do what I love, I love what I do.

If you are trying to create balance and a routine that nurtures your mind, body and spirit, you have to build non-negotiable patterns that support your well-being into your life. Do I take on too much or get out of balance? Hell yes, I did that just last week! I’m not always mindful of when I’m saying yes to too much or not fiercely protecting my boundaries or worse still, placing my energy into things that don’t give back in some way, so don’t freak out if you haven’t cracked it yet. You can start today by doing an inventory of what actions nurture you and what depletes you on a daily basis and go from there.

What does “a Self-Full day in the life of” look like for you? Let me know in the comments below.

Love Jo, x

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Being Self-Full Is The Most Difficult Choice

Last week was a week of firsts for many people I’m regularly in contact with, launching themselves way beyond the outer limits of their comfort zones into undiscovered country. I was no different. It got me thinking about when being Self-Full is the most difficult choice.

To others bravery, beforehand, can look like stupidity, absurdity and even recklessness, but on the otherside of the leap, once you launch yourself from the safety of the nest and realise you are flying, that’s when the world looks up and acknowledges how brave you were.

Self-Full Living is about managing your well-being and it could easily be mistaken for taking the gentle option by playing safe. But there is no safety in stagnancy and definitely no self-care in playing small. Sometimes it is the most difficult choices, requiring the most courageous acts, that rescue us from our patterns and set us free from the prisons that have slowly been sapping our vital force.

Self-Full Living is about realising you have a problem that is detrimental to your spiritual, mental, or physical health. It is identifying a habit, behaviour, relationship or environment that is dismantling the life you’ve built around you or crushing you at soul level. But it is more importantly about what you choose to do when you recognise it… do you say “that’s too hard” and do nothing, or do you make the difficult choice and be brave?

Being Self-Full is the most difficult choice because it often requires sacrifice and it often requires you to move away from what feels familiar or what feels comfortable.

Self-Full Living is about embracing self-care, but you may find that long-term well-being requires short-term pain.

My question to you is this: are you willing to launch yourself out of the nest and be the bravest version of you, so that your well-being can recover and your soul can once again shine?

What firsts are you bravely stepping into this week?

Let me know in the comments.

Love Jo xxx

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Self-Care Special: It Will Happen When It’s Ready

Battling with myself just now as to whether to write a Self-Care Special blog or give it a miss this week, I recognised in myself the familiar feeling of having pushed past my limit. Being Self-Full requires that you know when to rest and to know it will happen when it’s ready, life that is.

Deadlines are great for getting stuff done, they really are, but if you are the kind of person that has trouble listening to your soul’s voice and taking heed of your body’s requirements, then that deadline is goin to be the thing that you punish yourself with time and time again.

I’ve learned to honour the voice inside that tells me when enough is enough, so before I wrote this I took a few hours off to recoup some energy after a long week of juggling my own priorities and other peoples needs. We are in strange times at present and personal wellbeing is a high priority, as is managing stress. It is a fact that stress reduces the immune system and so its wise to manage your schedule in a way supports your long term dreams as well as your immediate well-being.

Nature is showing us that it has its own priorities and deadlines at the moment and funnily enough, they cannot be negotiated with. Crisis has a certain way of putting everything into perspective in a way that forces you to conform to the natural order. Your health has a natural cycle just like Mother Nature and when she says stop and rest, if you listen and act promptly, and you’re lucky enough, stop and rest won’t mean just STOP.

Get your hands on a copy of The Self-Full Living Workbook here and start prioritising your well-being today!

Everything has a timetable and you cannot force it nor can you hold it back so you may as well just get on board and go with the flow. It will happen when it’s ready.

To help you along the way though, try the following:

The universe will get you exactly where you need to be exactly when you are supposed to be there. I truly believe that. So as you glide into this week, can you let things happen in divine right timing and get out of your own way to take care of you first?

Let’s call it a challenge.

Love, Jo x

P.S. Did you see this week’s Dragon Reading? …and check out the Alignment Task for this week on my YouTube Channel.

Are You Finding Time To Do You?

Life is going to go in swings and roundabouts, peaks and troughs. Unlike the seemlessly perfect highlights of a social media lifestyle, quite often the universe has other plans and we end up neck deep in stuff that needs our attention and none of it seems to be ours. The question is, while it’s all happening, are you finding time to do you?

Self-Full Living isn’t about placing yourself in a bubble and becoming oblivious to the outside world and what it appears to need from you, its about finding balance between the demands of life, family and community and your own well-being, hopes, wishes and dreams.

In the last week or so, everything has gone a bit tits-up with my schedule as I’ve put everything on hold to renovate part of my mum’s house to make it accessible for her to come home from residential care. She’s very elderly now and her mobility is negligible. That means that I’ve been humping heavy furniture around, painting and decorating, de-cluttering years of stuff. My own goals have all had to go on hold, but I refuse to put my own health and self-care needs on hold because that just doesnt benefit anyone, including mum.

When you understand your own worth (Principle 1) and that taking care of your own well-being is the greatest gift you can give to anyone you love or who loves you (Principle 6), you begin to reconsider your actions, drop the martyrdom quest and start seeking win/win solutions for everyone involved. The biggest win/win you can gift the world is to aks yourself that question: are you taking time to do you? If the answer is no then you need to prioritise that now… no, not when the emergency or urgency is over, right now.

It doesn’t have to be dramatic or even noticeable to anyone else, simply take the time to eat well, eat fresh; rest when you are tired; spend 5 mins in meditation; stretch; hydrate. Do all of this deliberately and mindfully and pay attention to what your body needs, it will tell you (catch it on the whisper though or you will know its too little, too late).

Taking time to do you is not an indulgence, its a sacred contract you have with your own Source. Honour it. Honour yourself.

What is your mind, body and spirit asking of you today and how are you going to fulfill it’s request?

Love, Jo x

P.S. Here is the link to my Self-Full Living Workbook to help you understand your patterns and gaps in your current self-care practices. You might find it useful.

P.P.S Did you see the Dragon Reading for this week?

P.P.P.S. And your alignment task is being uncovered here in the Alignment Reading.

Why FOMO Will Kill Your MOJO!

Have you ever been in that situation where you are so scared of missing what’s available, that you expend all of your energy saying yes to everyone and everything? Let me tell you why FOMO will kill your MOJO!

The truth is, yes, the world is full of shiny things that we all want to experience, but I know that you’ve heard the expression “all that glitters is not gold.” In Grail terms, to maintain your vital essence, you must invest in only the things that will in turn invest in you, i.e. give back to you in a form that nourishes your spirit.

Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted is focused on the concept of balance and your mojo is dependent on your ability to steward your inner resources. What that means is, if you are always putting out and not open to receive what needs to come in, you will be depleted as fast as you can say yes to the next thing that is presented to you.

Discernment is key to developing your spiritual mojo muscle. You have to get really good at saying no to what doesn’t ultimately serve you. If you have been experiencing mojo fatigue through prolonged FOMO (fear of missing out), then you have already had enough experience of what serves and what doesn’t. Think about all the times you said yes and then came away feeling disappointed. All the times you put energy into something or someone to realise that you got nothing out of it that was valuable. Let me give you an example: I’ve been going to MBS events for years. Sometimes to browse, sometimes to attend workshops. Every time I go of late, I leave feeling like I spent money I didn’t have on stuff that didn’t serve and instead of coming away with a sense of upliftment, I was left feeling drained and disappointed. I keep going because I have FOMO… “what if there is something new and exciting this time?”

Of course that’s just my story, I still wholehearted believe that MBS shows are a treasure chest of teachers and healers if you are just beginning this journey… in fact I can highly recommend a few!

Hearing from a few people this week feeling overwhelm and myself being a Grail teacher encouraging Self-Full Living, I have to tell you that your choices need to reflect your ultimate goals. Ask yourself always: “Does this opportunity take me closer to where I want to be?” If the answer is yes, then go for it, because the progress itself will be enough to fuel up your Grail cup and reinvigorate your waning mojo, the benefits are obvious and appropriate. If however the choice before you is merely a distraction from what’s not working in your life then you will find that once you have been distracted and its over, you will have to go back to what’s not working in your life and have gained nothing, potentially having instead used up vital resources, energetic and material, in order to be distracted.

FOMO is real, but so is balance. If you want to know the real reason FOMO will kill your mojo, its that you haven’t yet honed in on what it is you are actually trying to achieve. You get to choose what will serve your highest good and if it isn’t filling you up, it’s simply emptying you out.

Love, Jo x

P.S. If you want to get lined up with your soul path this week, check out the Alignment Reading here.

P.P.S. Did you see the Dragon Reading yet? It’s heralding big changes… click the link to watch now.

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Learn Something Fundamental About Boundaries

When you are moving through life with the intention of contributing and being of service to others in ways that can really positively affect their day-to-day well-being, it’s vital that you first learn something fundamental about boundaries.

Knowing where you end and they begin, knowing what’s yours to carry and what belongs to others is a skill. A skill, that if not acquired, leads to the overwhem of heavy burdens that Spirit never meant for you to carry. Your soul-lesson then is knowing what to say no to and what is within your remit.

I was once channeling my angelic guides at an event when asked about why certain things kept happening over and over again to the lady who had posed the question. Archangel Azrael was kind enough to respond with the following annotized remarks: “When we step in or intervene in another’s karma, we accept the responsibility for the lesson and so must carry the karma ourselves.” in very basic and almost cynical terms it means that “no good deed goes unpunished.”

Before you let that stop you from actually helping though, you must understand that it is possible to put someone on the path to their own salvation without actually having to walk the path for them. It is possible to support someone and hold the space for their process without actually going through the process instead.

How you choose to help and even if you choose to help others is totally your business, but in the interest of Self-Full Living, learning the extent of your karmic responsiblility is a profound tool to magically turn you from being a martyr to your generosity into a master of balanced giving and receiving.

The lady I was channeling for at the time was stuck in a constant loop of bailing someone out of their own repetitive mistakes simply because she hadn’t given her friend the courtesy of believing in her power to overcome her own karma. In her eagerness to be of service, she actually stole the opportunity for the other person to learn her soul lesson. The very next time the lesson came up for her to overcome, she instead went to her friend who obliged by sorting it our again… until the time came when she was asking why me and wondering why she was exhausted and now in full on victim mode.

You have to love yourself enough to say no to other people’s drama and at the same time, love them enough to believe in their infinite capacity to overcome their karma. you really do empower people when you say: “It’s time for you to shine. Show us what you’re made of!”

Do you need to learn something fundamental about boundaries? The Principles of The Grail can help you to see everyone, including yourself, as the powerful co-creators we are.

Love, Jo x

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I’m Goin Nowhere Without This One Thing

I can’t even begin to tell you how my last week has been going… one day so hectic that I was juggling two laptops, one video editing and uploading, the other creating a blog post whilst also balancing a paintbrush upcycling my office desk, all in the relative chaos of a room makeover, but only half of the organisational implementation story that is going into planning 2020 at Jo Jerodene HQ (also known as my kitchen/diner). It was only when I stopped the process on Thursday night that realised: I’m going nowhere without this one thing…

On Thursday evening’s I teach a small group of ladies who have been with me for years, on their continuing spiritual development journey. Its a very relaxed group and also allows me to dive deep into my own spiritual practice, especailly important when I’ve been neck high in 3D business planning and the mundane world all week. This week was especially poignant though because I found myself in meditation slamming the brakes on the metaphorical train I was riding, refusing point blank to go anywhere without God!

Whatever your name for your higher power is… (normally I opt for the less formal “Big G”), when your world and your business revolves around your spiritual principles and the deep soul lessons you’ve learned from connecting with the higher realms, angels and messengers of the Divine, to suddenly be propelled into a high intensity level of logic and action in a very real-world form, is really disconcerting. No wonder I pulled the emergency brake to check Spirit was on board with the changes I’m making.

The clear message I got from Big G was: “I want you on that train!”

We forget sometimes that the Divine flows through everything, no matter how seemingly 3rd dimensional or how 5th, 6th, 7th… and on. Principle 1 of The Grail should be reminder enough, it says: “I AM God.” So the fact that I’m on the train means that Big G is on the train… in fact Big G is the bloody train and if it’s hurtling at 6 million miles an hour toward a bright new horizon then its because Spirit deems it so.

The trick is to find balance between the daily hustle and the more reverent spiritual practices, between the doing and the being, between the service and the Self-Full Living. Just taking that short excursion into meditation gave me the clearest indication of my soul’s truth and what I needed most. That’s what it means to be truly soul-led.

If you need help balancing your daily grind with your your Self-Full mind, body & soul practice then why not give my book “Self-Full Living Workbook” a whirl. It’s available through Amazon via the link.

You might also like to join our Facebook Community for Women Soul-Led & Self-Full where we’re starting a 7 Self-Full Living Challenge on this blog’s publish date!

It’s easy to get so engrossed in the day to day that you don’t leave room for what really nourishes you… and I’m going nowhere without this one thing… Me!

Love Jo xxx

Learn To Do It When You’re Ready.

I’m a day late and a dollar short (as they say). Not that anyone is keeping score. Sometimes you have to understand that in order to keep life in balance you have to learn to do things when you’re ready.

Discipline is a vital tool to keep the show on the road, but discipline should be built around your priorities, and in case you haven’t been paying attention, my priority is not getting the blog or the newsletter out on on time, its self-love and living a Self-Full life… and that’s exactly what I want for all of you too.

To be honest I’ve spent the new year in and out of the hospital visiting my mum who succumbed to yet another chest infection, luckily we caught it before it turned to pneumonia like it did last year (actually 2018 thinking about it). She’s back at the nursing home now in respite and feeling much better but as you can imagine, when your loved ones are sick, especially when they are elderly you go into high alert. I’m your perfect crisis management partner to be honest, I roll my sleeves up, get stuck in and do what needs doing… its when its over I’m FUBAR! Once the emergency dies down I have a hell of a job managing the adrenal spike and the fatigue that follows. I have healing techniques and startegies now that make it a faster job, one of which is to fully acknowledge and allow my own need for a time-out and some deep self-care. Another is to say no to everything that does not serve your wellbeing and to say “not yet” to everything that can wait.

We live in a society that puts so much pressure on us to conform and to deliver and we put even more pressure on ourselves. This people-pleasing nature is endimic especially in western culture and leads to burn-out and misery. It leads to codependency and power play in relationship dynamics and to a skewed way of measuring our own self-worth and value to society.

In tuth, if you learn to do it when you’re ready, whatever it may be, the resulting product of your time and attention will be far more potent, appreciated and filled with more of your vital creative force than if you serve from an empty cup.

All that being said, there is no newsletter this week and although the alignment readings and dragon readings are ready, they will not be posted to until this weekend.

You are on my priority list… you just aren’t quite as high up as my mum and my health & well-being!

Love, Jo x

P.S. Why not invest in spending a little time prioritising yourself this month and see how much more you have to give (when you’re ready)?

P.P.S You can become a member of my Patreon Channel for guided meditations to help you find balance and alignment and be more Self-Full… (I will be updating that with more content as soon as I’m able and all caught up).

Weekly Oracle – Just Making Space

When The Sacred Chalice presents from the deck things really could go either way. It is neither a Principle nor an action and requires no chakra card to complete its combination… it is the message, the meaning and the answer.

Be prepared for your own sacred chalice to be spilled this week as some turn of events creates drama in your world. It doesn’t necessarily stand to reason that whatever comes along to turn your world upside down is a bad thing but whatever it is, it is a big energy and what spills from the chalice is just making space to be filled anew with something fresh.

As Pluto is now direct and Venus has just gone retrograde for a forty day review of where she’s already been, the new moon in Libra due on Tuesday also affecting the dynamic, it feels very much as though we are entering a time of reckoning where we dig deeper into issues of balance and fairness, so look to your relationships, finance and health to understand where this drama calls to you to take responsibility for bringing balance into that part of your life.

As a diagnostic tool, The Sacred Chalice denotes illness and burn out, so pay particular attention to your health at this time even though the drama could be a major windfall or exciting surprise (probably one you have been waiting for but gave up hope of getting). If you aren’t balanced, grounded and fully present, regardless of it being positive or negative, it could knock you on your arse emotionally, energetically and even physically.

When the chalice spills, (merely a metaphor for your inner reserves and resources being depleted), self-care is paramount. That being the case, take time to process whatever is taking place before reacting, before responding. Urgency maybe an illusion brought on by your temporarily weakened situation so remember you cannot serve from an empty vessel and the only urgent action this week is that you focus on you.

Apply Principle 6: I AM Self-Full… and when you feel able to, and your cup has been set straight and refilled, then you can engage in dealing with the, now much reduced, drama.

You are the chalice… set yourself shiny-side-up and do life on your terms, when you’re ready.

More later… x

P.S. It’s World Dragon Day!… The Dragon Oracle Video will be out later this evening at https://jojerodene.com/the-oracle/