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Self-Care Special: It Will Happen When It’s Ready

Battling with myself just now as to whether to write a Self-Care Special blog or give it a miss this week, I recognised in myself the familiar feeling of having pushed past my limit. Being Self-Full requires that you know when to rest and to know it will happen when it’s ready, life that is.

Deadlines are great for getting stuff done, they really are, but if you are the kind of person that has trouble listening to your soul’s voice and taking heed of your body’s requirements, then that deadline is goin to be the thing that you punish yourself with time and time again.

I’ve learned to honour the voice inside that tells me when enough is enough, so before I wrote this I took a few hours off to recoup some energy after a long week of juggling my own priorities and other peoples needs. We are in strange times at present and personal wellbeing is a high priority, as is managing stress. It is a fact that stress reduces the immune system and so its wise to manage your schedule in a way supports your long term dreams as well as your immediate well-being.

Nature is showing us that it has its own priorities and deadlines at the moment and funnily enough, they cannot be negotiated with. Crisis has a certain way of putting everything into perspective in a way that forces you to conform to the natural order. Your health has a natural cycle just like Mother Nature and when she says stop and rest, if you listen and act promptly, and you’re lucky enough, stop and rest won’t mean just STOP.

Get your hands on a copy of The Self-Full Living Workbook here and start prioritising your well-being today!

Everything has a timetable and you cannot force it nor can you hold it back so you may as well just get on board and go with the flow. It will happen when it’s ready.

To help you along the way though, try the following:

The universe will get you exactly where you need to be exactly when you are supposed to be there. I truly believe that. So as you glide into this week, can you let things happen in divine right timing and get out of your own way to take care of you first?

Let’s call it a challenge.

Love, Jo x

P.S. Did you see this week’s Dragon Reading? …and check out the Alignment Task for this week on my YouTube Channel.

Are You Finding Time To Do You?

Life is going to go in swings and roundabouts, peaks and troughs. Unlike the seemlessly perfect highlights of a social media lifestyle, quite often the universe has other plans and we end up neck deep in stuff that needs our attention and none of it seems to be ours. The question is, while it’s all happening, are you finding time to do you?

Self-Full Living isn’t about placing yourself in a bubble and becoming oblivious to the outside world and what it appears to need from you, its about finding balance between the demands of life, family and community and your own well-being, hopes, wishes and dreams.

In the last week or so, everything has gone a bit tits-up with my schedule as I’ve put everything on hold to renovate part of my mum’s house to make it accessible for her to come home from residential care. She’s very elderly now and her mobility is negligible. That means that I’ve been humping heavy furniture around, painting and decorating, de-cluttering years of stuff. My own goals have all had to go on hold, but I refuse to put my own health and self-care needs on hold because that just doesnt benefit anyone, including mum.

When you understand your own worth (Principle 1) and that taking care of your own well-being is the greatest gift you can give to anyone you love or who loves you (Principle 6), you begin to reconsider your actions, drop the martyrdom quest and start seeking win/win solutions for everyone involved. The biggest win/win you can gift the world is to aks yourself that question: are you taking time to do you? If the answer is no then you need to prioritise that now… no, not when the emergency or urgency is over, right now.

It doesn’t have to be dramatic or even noticeable to anyone else, simply take the time to eat well, eat fresh; rest when you are tired; spend 5 mins in meditation; stretch; hydrate. Do all of this deliberately and mindfully and pay attention to what your body needs, it will tell you (catch it on the whisper though or you will know its too little, too late).

Taking time to do you is not an indulgence, its a sacred contract you have with your own Source. Honour it. Honour yourself.

What is your mind, body and spirit asking of you today and how are you going to fulfill it’s request?

Love, Jo x

P.S. Here is the link to my Self-Full Living Workbook to help you understand your patterns and gaps in your current self-care practices. You might find it useful.

P.P.S Did you see the Dragon Reading for this week?

P.P.P.S. And your alignment task is being uncovered here in the Alignment Reading.

Why FOMO Will Kill Your MOJO!

Have you ever been in that situation where you are so scared of missing what’s available, that you expend all of your energy saying yes to everyone and everything? Let me tell you why FOMO will kill your MOJO!

The truth is, yes, the world is full of shiny things that we all want to experience, but I know that you’ve heard the expression “all that glitters is not gold.” In Grail terms, to maintain your vital essence, you must invest in only the things that will in turn invest in you, i.e. give back to you in a form that nourishes your spirit.

Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted is focused on the concept of balance and your mojo is dependent on your ability to steward your inner resources. What that means is, if you are always putting out and not open to receive what needs to come in, you will be depleted as fast as you can say yes to the next thing that is presented to you.

Discernment is key to developing your spiritual mojo muscle. You have to get really good at saying no to what doesn’t ultimately serve you. If you have been experiencing mojo fatigue through prolonged FOMO (fear of missing out), then you have already had enough experience of what serves and what doesn’t. Think about all the times you said yes and then came away feeling disappointed. All the times you put energy into something or someone to realise that you got nothing out of it that was valuable. Let me give you an example: I’ve been going to MBS events for years. Sometimes to browse, sometimes to attend workshops. Every time I go of late, I leave feeling like I spent money I didn’t have on stuff that didn’t serve and instead of coming away with a sense of upliftment, I was left feeling drained and disappointed. I keep going because I have FOMO… “what if there is something new and exciting this time?”

Of course that’s just my story, I still wholehearted believe that MBS shows are a treasure chest of teachers and healers if you are just beginning this journey… in fact I can highly recommend a few!

Hearing from a few people this week feeling overwhelm and myself being a Grail teacher encouraging Self-Full Living, I have to tell you that your choices need to reflect your ultimate goals. Ask yourself always: “Does this opportunity take me closer to where I want to be?” If the answer is yes, then go for it, because the progress itself will be enough to fuel up your Grail cup and reinvigorate your waning mojo, the benefits are obvious and appropriate. If however the choice before you is merely a distraction from what’s not working in your life then you will find that once you have been distracted and its over, you will have to go back to what’s not working in your life and have gained nothing, potentially having instead used up vital resources, energetic and material, in order to be distracted.

FOMO is real, but so is balance. If you want to know the real reason FOMO will kill your mojo, its that you haven’t yet honed in on what it is you are actually trying to achieve. You get to choose what will serve your highest good and if it isn’t filling you up, it’s simply emptying you out.

Love, Jo x

P.S. If you want to get lined up with your soul path this week, check out the Alignment Reading here.

P.P.S. Did you see the Dragon Reading yet? It’s heralding big changes… click the link to watch now.

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Learn Something Fundamental About Boundaries

When you are moving through life with the intention of contributing and being of service to others in ways that can really positively affect their day-to-day well-being, it’s vital that you first learn something fundamental about boundaries.

Knowing where you end and they begin, knowing what’s yours to carry and what belongs to others is a skill. A skill, that if not acquired, leads to the overwhem of heavy burdens that Spirit never meant for you to carry. Your soul-lesson then is knowing what to say no to and what is within your remit.

I was once channeling my angelic guides at an event when asked about why certain things kept happening over and over again to the lady who had posed the question. Archangel Azrael was kind enough to respond with the following annotized remarks: “When we step in or intervene in another’s karma, we accept the responsibility for the lesson and so must carry the karma ourselves.” in very basic and almost cynical terms it means that “no good deed goes unpunished.”

Before you let that stop you from actually helping though, you must understand that it is possible to put someone on the path to their own salvation without actually having to walk the path for them. It is possible to support someone and hold the space for their process without actually going through the process instead.

How you choose to help and even if you choose to help others is totally your business, but in the interest of Self-Full Living, learning the extent of your karmic responsiblility is a profound tool to magically turn you from being a martyr to your generosity into a master of balanced giving and receiving.

The lady I was channeling for at the time was stuck in a constant loop of bailing someone out of their own repetitive mistakes simply because she hadn’t given her friend the courtesy of believing in her power to overcome her own karma. In her eagerness to be of service, she actually stole the opportunity for the other person to learn her soul lesson. The very next time the lesson came up for her to overcome, she instead went to her friend who obliged by sorting it our again… until the time came when she was asking why me and wondering why she was exhausted and now in full on victim mode.

You have to love yourself enough to say no to other people’s drama and at the same time, love them enough to believe in their infinite capacity to overcome their karma. you really do empower people when you say: “It’s time for you to shine. Show us what you’re made of!”

Do you need to learn something fundamental about boundaries? The Principles of The Grail can help you to see everyone, including yourself, as the powerful co-creators we are.

Love, Jo x

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I’m Goin Nowhere Without This One Thing

I can’t even begin to tell you how my last week has been going… one day so hectic that I was juggling two laptops, one video editing and uploading, the other creating a blog post whilst also balancing a paintbrush upcycling my office desk, all in the relative chaos of a room makeover, but only half of the organisational implementation story that is going into planning 2020 at Jo Jerodene HQ (also known as my kitchen/diner). It was only when I stopped the process on Thursday night that realised: I’m going nowhere without this one thing…

On Thursday evening’s I teach a small group of ladies who have been with me for years, on their continuing spiritual development journey. Its a very relaxed group and also allows me to dive deep into my own spiritual practice, especailly important when I’ve been neck high in 3D business planning and the mundane world all week. This week was especially poignant though because I found myself in meditation slamming the brakes on the metaphorical train I was riding, refusing point blank to go anywhere without God!

Whatever your name for your higher power is… (normally I opt for the less formal “Big G”), when your world and your business revolves around your spiritual principles and the deep soul lessons you’ve learned from connecting with the higher realms, angels and messengers of the Divine, to suddenly be propelled into a high intensity level of logic and action in a very real-world form, is really disconcerting. No wonder I pulled the emergency brake to check Spirit was on board with the changes I’m making.

The clear message I got from Big G was: “I want you on that train!”

We forget sometimes that the Divine flows through everything, no matter how seemingly 3rd dimensional or how 5th, 6th, 7th… and on. Principle 1 of The Grail should be reminder enough, it says: “I AM God.” So the fact that I’m on the train means that Big G is on the train… in fact Big G is the bloody train and if it’s hurtling at 6 million miles an hour toward a bright new horizon then its because Spirit deems it so.

The trick is to find balance between the daily hustle and the more reverent spiritual practices, between the doing and the being, between the service and the Self-Full Living. Just taking that short excursion into meditation gave me the clearest indication of my soul’s truth and what I needed most. That’s what it means to be truly soul-led.

If you need help balancing your daily grind with your your Self-Full mind, body & soul practice then why not give my book “Self-Full Living Workbook” a whirl. It’s available through Amazon via the link.

You might also like to join our Facebook Community for Women Soul-Led & Self-Full where we’re starting a 7 Self-Full Living Challenge on this blog’s publish date!

It’s easy to get so engrossed in the day to day that you don’t leave room for what really nourishes you… and I’m going nowhere without this one thing… Me!

Love Jo xxx

Learn To Do It When You’re Ready.

I’m a day late and a dollar short (as they say). Not that anyone is keeping score. Sometimes you have to understand that in order to keep life in balance you have to learn to do things when you’re ready.

Discipline is a vital tool to keep the show on the road, but discipline should be built around your priorities, and in case you haven’t been paying attention, my priority is not getting the blog or the newsletter out on on time, its self-love and living a Self-Full life… and that’s exactly what I want for all of you too.

To be honest I’ve spent the new year in and out of the hospital visiting my mum who succumbed to yet another chest infection, luckily we caught it before it turned to pneumonia like it did last year (actually 2018 thinking about it). She’s back at the nursing home now in respite and feeling much better but as you can imagine, when your loved ones are sick, especially when they are elderly you go into high alert. I’m your perfect crisis management partner to be honest, I roll my sleeves up, get stuck in and do what needs doing… its when its over I’m FUBAR! Once the emergency dies down I have a hell of a job managing the adrenal spike and the fatigue that follows. I have healing techniques and startegies now that make it a faster job, one of which is to fully acknowledge and allow my own need for a time-out and some deep self-care. Another is to say no to everything that does not serve your wellbeing and to say “not yet” to everything that can wait.

We live in a society that puts so much pressure on us to conform and to deliver and we put even more pressure on ourselves. This people-pleasing nature is endimic especially in western culture and leads to burn-out and misery. It leads to codependency and power play in relationship dynamics and to a skewed way of measuring our own self-worth and value to society.

In tuth, if you learn to do it when you’re ready, whatever it may be, the resulting product of your time and attention will be far more potent, appreciated and filled with more of your vital creative force than if you serve from an empty cup.

All that being said, there is no newsletter this week and although the alignment readings and dragon readings are ready, they will not be posted to until this weekend.

You are on my priority list… you just aren’t quite as high up as my mum and my health & well-being!

Love, Jo x

P.S. Why not invest in spending a little time prioritising yourself this month and see how much more you have to give (when you’re ready)?

P.P.S You can become a member of my Patreon Channel for guided meditations to help you find balance and alignment and be more Self-Full… (I will be updating that with more content as soon as I’m able and all caught up).

Weekly Oracle – Just Making Space

When The Sacred Chalice presents from the deck things really could go either way. It is neither a Principle nor an action and requires no chakra card to complete its combination… it is the message, the meaning and the answer.

Be prepared for your own sacred chalice to be spilled this week as some turn of events creates drama in your world. It doesn’t necessarily stand to reason that whatever comes along to turn your world upside down is a bad thing but whatever it is, it is a big energy and what spills from the chalice is just making space to be filled anew with something fresh.

As Pluto is now direct and Venus has just gone retrograde for a forty day review of where she’s already been, the new moon in Libra due on Tuesday also affecting the dynamic, it feels very much as though we are entering a time of reckoning where we dig deeper into issues of balance and fairness, so look to your relationships, finance and health to understand where this drama calls to you to take responsibility for bringing balance into that part of your life.

As a diagnostic tool, The Sacred Chalice denotes illness and burn out, so pay particular attention to your health at this time even though the drama could be a major windfall or exciting surprise (probably one you have been waiting for but gave up hope of getting). If you aren’t balanced, grounded and fully present, regardless of it being positive or negative, it could knock you on your arse emotionally, energetically and even physically.

When the chalice spills, (merely a metaphor for your inner reserves and resources being depleted), self-care is paramount. That being the case, take time to process whatever is taking place before reacting, before responding. Urgency maybe an illusion brought on by your temporarily weakened situation so remember you cannot serve from an empty vessel and the only urgent action this week is that you focus on you.

Apply Principle 6: I AM Self-Full… and when you feel able to, and your cup has been set straight and refilled, then you can engage in dealing with the, now much reduced, drama.

You are the chalice… set yourself shiny-side-up and do life on your terms, when you’re ready.

More later… x

P.S. It’s World Dragon Day!… The Dragon Oracle Video will be out later this evening at https://jojerodene.com/the-oracle/

Weekly Oracle – Invincibility Or Idiocy?

The cards didn’t want to play when I went to select them last night, but reluctantly they surrendered up a storyline for the current energies… and I’m not entirely sure whether that smacks of invincibility or idiocy?

When Principle 1: I AM God, crosses paths with the blood red of the base chakra, we somehow confuse our Divine eternal nature with immortality. This can lead to reckless behaviour and endangering ourselves on very physical level either through deliberate action or lack thereof leading to neglect.

This is a week to recognize that your divine nature is the very thing that makes your physical vessel worthy of self-respect and self-care, rather than the thing that means it is exempt from needing it, and impervious to deteriorating as a result of not bothering.

If there are health issues, however minor and seemingly non-urgent, then put them on your priority list this week. Give the Divine you, the care he or she needs in order to operate at maximum capacity out in the world.

This is not the week to drive 1000 miles with a collapsed lung, carry on to a business meeting whilst suspected of a DVT in your leg, or proceed to test your new product whilst a festering bite is turning into blood poisoning… extreme examples, I know, but all true stories from the path. Not only is that masochistic its also incredibly selfish… you may think you are invincible but deep down you know it’s not true. That project you think is the be-all-and-end-all will be small comfort to those you leave behind when your divine nature pops off back into the great unknown just because you were reckless with the beautiful gift you were given to house it.

Principle 1 means taking care of the opportunity you, as God, have created to dance in human form… your physical, unique, never-to-exist-in-this-shape-again form. Don’t squander it because you are far too busy to notice the most precious thing you were given is in need of your attention. I don’t know… Invincibility or idiocy? You decide.

More later… x

P.S. Check out this week’s free Dragon Reading here (updated and available from Saturday evening)

Weekly Oracle – Deep In The Darkness

I have to admit I’m hesitant with this week’s oracle, firstly because the combination is exactly the same as last week’s and secondly because I’ve struggled to get a handle on why that is the case.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full came flying back out of the pack as I was shuffling them and I assumed I’d just been butter-fingers so I put it back in, shuffled again and laid them out to hover over with my hand to feel the energy… The cards felt very ‘quiet’ except for one that sent a shooting pain straight through my palm… you guessed it: Principle 6 was insistent on being present for us again…

Then I went to pick a challenge/chakra card. There was nothing coming from them at all. I tried both hands, I tried reshuffling, I eventually went to get a crystal dowsing pendulum to see if I could get a reaction. I sat down, breathed and tried again… The slightest movement occurred above one card: the deep indigo of the 3rd eye or brow chakra… last week’s exact combination. Was it that I didn’t cover it completely enough in last week’s post or was this a brand new burgeoning energy that needed deeper exploration? Then it struck me…

This is a week of being blind.

Deep in the darkness where we have no concept of what’s close by, what’s incoming or if we will ever see the light again, must be how people felt in less enlightened times about an eclipse… and who can blame them?

Falling at the latter end of this coming week, the Blood Moon or Thunder Moon might feel like a foreboding omen as the rest of what’s going on in the skies intensifies the ego’s fear factor to a point where insanity or at the very least depression can really take a hold of you. Don’t Panic! It will pass. The full moon eclipse conjunct retrograde Mars in Aquarius is going to very likely have you fighting invisible demons and even creating a few that didn’t exist before. Venus is opposing Neptune making you feel like everything you want is an illusion or an impossible dream and so this intense combination will blind you to the possibilities.

Now Principle 6 is about self-care first and foremost so my absolute best advice around this time is

  • Don’t struggle
  • Don’t jump to conclusions
  • Don’t lash out or react
  • Don’t listen to the fearful thoughts about impossible dreams
  • Do take care of your mind, body and spirit

The last one of these is super important and the first step is breathe, meditate and practice mindfulness (Principle 2: I AM Detached) by staying present with what is.

Blindness in its metaphorical sense isn’t a bad thing, you cannot possibly know everything that’s in store for you and just around the corner… God has been giving you hints for months about where you are heading and what is heading for you but now that it is just around the corner, the corner is in the way of your field of vision and so now is the point of greatest doubt and with doubt comes a crisis of faith and with a crisis of faith comes a greater loss of perspective and with this loss of perspective comes the feeling that you are going mad.

You are not.

Change is imminent. Prepare for a miracle.

On a side note: because Principle 6 deals with physical health too and the brow chakra affects the eyes, you might want to get them checked out if you are having any symptoms. I’m saying this because my mum is off for an eye operation this very week to remove a cataract and because I’m sat here writing this without my glasses, which up until a few weeks ago wouldn’t have made much difference but a have no idea what I’ve just written because it’s all very blurry!

Deep in the darkness is where new life gestates, its nothing to be afraid of.

Check out my video to help navigate the energy here.

More next week… x

Weekly Oracle – The Invisible Is Invincible

It’s feeling like an incoming “9 of Swords” kind of week, where you are tying yourself up in knots battling invisible demons, and you should know by now that the invisible is invincible.

The 9 of Swords is a tarot card that describes worry, anxiety and even nightmares brought on by our own fears and ‘catastrophic’ thought patterns being blown out of all proportion… you can learn more about the incoming storm over on my Priestess In Practice page (until the new moon eclipse) …but what does that have to do with this Grail combination?

The Solar Plexus is the chakra that handles digestion in all forms, that includes not only the food we take in but also the information and energy. Imagine if you will that this energy centre works a bit like a parking sensor on a vehicle, extending its range out through 360 degrees to see what’s happening in your environment and giving you an early warning of anything you could potentially crash into or what might crash into you so to speak. Because of the range of this sensor you may be aware on a very subtle level of trouble brewing out in your existential or environmental surroundings but there is no evidence in your day to day reality so your mind starts taking over and makes shit up! Chances are its happening but it’s happening to someone else you are connected to and isn’t likely to touch you other than to bear witness. Empathy is a blessing but can be a curse if you have no clue how to be dispassionate about what is occurring.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full... it does what it says on the tin: deals with fulfilling the needs of the Self. Anxiety and worry can be so energy draining and all-consuming that your proverbial cup empties and you scatter your vital resources all over the place. What’s interesting is that when Principle 6 shows up in a diagnostic reading it refers directly to your health and the solar plexus to diet and nutrition, so this combination is also a warning that whilst you are focused on battling the invisible demons on the outside of your energetic perimeter, you are also succumbing to your inner demons of addiction, overindulgence and dietary self-abuse.

Stress is very often met with addiction and any number of methods of drowning out the feelings or attempting to control the uncontrollable… like I said, the invisible is invincible.

Top tips for this week then:

  • Focus only on what’s happening in front of you
  • Concern yourself with only what’s yours to carry
  • Get out of your head and out of denial
  • Plan your nutritional intake, shop for it and stick to it
  • Ditch the toxins you’re consuming (physically & energetically)
  • Practice mindfulness by embracing Principle 2
  • Don’t be afraid of your feelings (they are messages from spirit)
  • Meditate, oxygenate (breathe) and exercise to reduce anxiety
  • Step away from all drama and those who bring it
  • Give what you cannot control to Source and the angels.

Remember that you become the invincible one when you place your energy squarely in the light and decide your outcome. When you journey into the realm of the invisible you have no substance or power there… but you lose power here too when you aren’t present and centred in your body, you become a spectator and eventually a victim of the ultimate 10 of Swords experience, also known as rock bottom (The Sacred Chalice in its negative form). Let’s take control, bypass this outcome and go straight back to the ace… clarity, understanding, everything into the light where shadows dissolve and positive action can be taken. In other words: when a butterfly sets off your parking sensor, don’t jump out of your vehicle, leaving the doors wide open to chase after it… you will never catch it and when you return to the vehicle you will find it ransacked, filled with unwelcome guests or burnt out completely!

The storm will pass, don’t let it take your health with it.

More next week… x