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7 Signs You’re Taking Your Power Back

You might not have noticed the subtle shifts over a long period of time that your boundaries were systematically being eroded away. It’s only when you hit that point where you find yourself saying: “Wait a minute, how the hell did I get here?” that you actually stop and consciously begin to take back control of your life. Here are the 7 signs you’re taking your power back.

1. Who do you think you are?

The first sign is that you notice the liberties others are taking by overriding your choices, decisions and your free will. That wake up call has you asking (usually in your head at first): “Who do you think you are?” This is when you begin to remember who you are and that your personal sovereignty, or your ability to literally “lead” your own life, have been superceded by someone who wrongly assumes they have authority over you. You might start seeing partners, friends, sibling and co-workers in a whole new light when this realisation kicks in. I had a friend many years ago who thought she had the right to tell me what I could and could not afford to buy… very publicly! Later she began to tell me who I could and could not be friends with… needless to say she is no longer a friend and has been relegated to my “Who do you think you are?” pile.

2. The ancient history trap!

Loyalty is a very noble trait, but what happens when that loyalty, shared history and the guilt associated with letting go, grab a hold of your ability to expand and grow into a new empowered version of you? Well, the second of those 7 signs you’re taking your power back is that you are no longer being emotionally blackmailed by the people who are holding you hostage by your past shared experience. Blame, shame, guilt and other associated negative emotions, are a sign that someone is bound by a scenario that should have been left in the vaults of history. It doesn’t mean we cannot hold fond memories or learn from that history but we certainly cannot live there. When you can lovingly say to someone: “Meet me here where I am, or let me go.” You are growing and your power is flowing. You don’t have to stop caring or loving them, you just can’t stop your own journey because someone else wants to stay rooted in what was.

3. Everybody hurts!

Wow! (I have that song going around in my head now). Here’s the thing, ultimate power flows back to you the moment you realise that everybody is either hurting or hurting somebody else. That is a part of the human condition… the more we feel pain the more potential for us to inflict it on others. It doesn’t make it right, no, it just makes it less personal. When you take pain personally, you give your power to the pain or to the person inflicting it, instead of keeping your own power for yourself. When you begin to see it as a universal condition, you get to transcend it and return to inner peace. Suffering is a choice. This realisation allows you to turn the other cheek, act from a place of forgiveness and it also stops you from perptuating that same low energy in revenge, or in another direction. Your lack of response is within your power. Your forgiveness is the ultimate power that ends the cycle.

4. The vulnerable and the brave!

Authenticity is an all or nothing kind of deal. If you are willing to go all in and be your whole self in a raw and vulnerable way, you are setting yourself up to retrieve all the wasted energy you have been redirecting towards hiding your dirty little secrets! You know, like that junk drawer that has all your crap hidden in it whilst the rest of you kitchen looks like a Pintrest shot… life is like that too. And I mean everyone’s life. I once had a conversation with a friend of mine who was about to have a movie made about him. I remember him saying to me “I’m going to have to be whiter than white now…” (perhaps not the most PC wording but if that offends you then you’re not reading the right post and you haven’t met me yet). My response to him was this: “No you don’t, you just have to be honest about your shortcomings.” It made him stop in his tracks. I could hear the cogs turning in his mind and the relief starting to kick in. Who you are, what you think… that’s yours. Nobody else’s opinion counts, but if you hide it to appear to be something else, then your power is going to get sapped protecting you from being found out as an imposter. You take back your power when you say, “This is me. This is who I am. This is all there is… but I’m growing every single day so watch this space.” Now that’s brave.

5. Simplified and streamlined

Nothing says, “I’m taking my power back,” faster than the declutter! This is the systematic simplification of all areas of life and the need to streamline your time, energy, space and material resources. Let’s face it, life has become overcomplicated enough in our constant strive for more more more. We work harder and longer to afford bigger and better and we quickly lose track of what provides real value in our lives. You are taking your power back the moment you recognise where the energetic drains exist in your reality and begin to exorcise the surplus to rquirements stuff, plugging the leaks. These can be commitments, relationships, physical clutter, chores, etc. It can be scaling back on your outgoings and becoming a conscious comsumer… just a couple of months ago, I went through all my email subscriptions and saved myself a mountain of time and energy sifting through the inbox each day. I did the same with my bank account and saved a shit-load of money I didn’t know I was wasting. When you start streamlining, you start telling the universe that you know the value of your resources and you have the power to redirect them towards your highest good. Now you’re taking charge!

6. The castle caretaker

We only get one life. There’s a theory that each of us has a predetermined number of heartbeats before we move onto the next one… but none of us know how many that is. On the other hand, you could also argue that the better we take care of ourselves, the longer we get to enjoy it. One thing is for sure, the more you understand and provide for the needs of your own physical vessel, your “castle” you might say, the more efficiently it’s energy flow and regeneration will be. All too often in these days of modern medicine, do we ignore the needs of our bodies or abdicate responsibility for our own wellbeing, in favour of handing our care over to others to fix it when it goes wrong. As the castle caretaker, its your job to ensure regular maintenance and restoration of the place you call home: your body, mind and spirit. Sure there will be times when the caretaker has to call the plumber or the electrician when something goes wrong, but because she’s is in control of the day to day care (and she does an exemplary job of it), professional intervention is more of a simple collaboration than major surgery. Self-care and how seriously we take it on a daily basis, can be the difference between taking back your power or having it taken out of your hands completely. Yes its hard work for the caretaker to stay on top of the job, but the reward is a lifetime living in a beautiful castle. Your health gives you freedom, freedom is the power over your own life.

7. Investing in what invests in you

The last of those 7 signs you’re taking your power back is that you have withdrawn your energy and attention from everything and everyone that doesn’t contribute to your wellbeing. This is not a transactionary motive, you see value in all its forms, it is more of a conscious balancing of the unconditional giving and receiving that you allow to flow in your life. In the past, as your boundaries began to deteriorate, almost imperceptibly at first, you will have no doubt begun to give far more than you received. This, resulting in an energetic depletion across the board. Relationships in particular will have begun to show this imbalance glaringly as time went on. You were the one making the sacrifices and compromises, carrying the burden of responsibility and probably the bags! The”Who do you think you are?” energy in the first sign will be obvious… but now you are also so much more aware of who does nurture your needs and meet you with a balanced investment, giving to you in equal measure to what you are giving to them. Your connections and support systems no longer require you to provide more and more, instead they become mutally beneficial and everyone contribute to the wellbeing of the whole.

Recognising the 7 signs you’re taking your power back

You may not be all the way there yet. There will be times when you think you have cracked it and then you recognise a boundary or two being overstepped. It’s a fine balancing act, one that takes practice and dedication. Once you do understand the 7 signs though, which if you have been following for a while, you will also recognise as the 7 Principles of The Grail, you will have also equipped yourself with the tools to personal freedom, inner peace… and to creating better relationships.

Which sign is shouting at you today?

Leave me a comment if you recognise any of the signs in your own life at the moment. Maybe you need a little help to claim that power back for yourself? I’d be happy to support you on the journey here if it resonates.

Jo x

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Weekly Oracle – You Already Know In Your Heart

This week’s combination has two dominant paths so you will have to use your discernment choosing which one applies to you… don’t be concerned, you already know in your heart of hearts the direction and the outcome you require.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, teams up with the emerald green heart chakra to bring you to a crossroads in your current path. Choosing interpretation one will lead you to another choice, another divergent path, whereas interpretation two will have you standing still for a while…

Interpretation one:

Imagine if you will that this Intuitive Chalice combo is the nearest you will get to The Lovers card in tarot. The Lovers offers you a choice (hence if you choose this option you will be choosing to choose). Having decided to go with this option you find yourself at the next crossroads where a major life choice is placed before you: for some it will be the offer of a relationship, for others a job, a house move, etc… the nature of the opportunity may already be clear or soon will be, but what also becomes clear after the initial surprise is that to take this opportunity you will be choosing one path before you and exiting the other that was your reality before.

Things will have to be left behind. Nothing will ever be the same. In some instances that’s not a bad thing, but in others it will definitely mean a period of loss, grief and mourning.

If you choose the option before you, your divergent paths will be named “what is” and “what could be” …will you go with your head or your heart. There is love in both directions but there is only the opportunity for expansion and the potential of living your hearts desire if you choose “what could be.” No promises, just potential.

You already know the answer: the heart wants what the heart wants. Without growth we wither and die. Expansion is essential for the soul’s well-being.

Interpretation two:

Now this combination on the flip side best describes the tarot’s Temperance card and a deep healing and need for balance.

Exploring the essence of Principle 6 we discover that it’s key message is about attending to one’s own needs for health, happiness and general wellbeing. The heart chakra is the energetic centre and balance point of your being, where we give and receive in equal measure and open to the flow of the universe. The Temperance card usually shows an angelic figure pouring liquid between two cups trying to find the perfect alchemical balance between elements. So, in our scenario this would be you standing at the crossroads and focusing on keeping everything in balance. “A little of this a little of that and maybe no one will notice if I’m still standing where I was trying to maintain the status quo.”

Here’s the paradox… both our scenarios might be available and if so you can only stand here for so long before interpretation one’s heart’s desire path falls off the table completely.

When the universe delivers your gateway to expansion, it only stays open for a short time and failing to step through can result in the gates closing whilst you check if you are up to the task. God’s message here is: “Here I come, ready or not!” Whatever form He shows up in.

Interpretation three (am I not always telling you there is a third option?):

Choose both interpretations. If an opportunity presents for you to follow your heart’s desire, don’t hesitate! Yes you will be unbalanced by the dramatic life change, yes you will have to say goodbye to the known path but the Angel in that Temperance card isn’t holding a stagnant bowl of muddy liquid, she is sloshing fresh elixir from one sacred chalice to another trying to find balance… and you can do that too… that’s the entire purpose of The 7 Principles of The Wholly Grail: finding peace along the path.

The heart wants what the heart wants.

Looking back and saying “what if” is the saddest statement I can think of… looking back and saying “Holy Shit! What a ride” and then taking a breath to meditate sounds like a full life, lived without fear.

Follow your heart and find balance as you go.

Check out my new page The Oracle for more FREE or personal guidance along the path.

Back soon with some Grail Insights to remind you how… x

When The Message Gets Lost In The Noise

Let me ask you something:

Do you know what The Wholly Grail is?

Do you know what it’s for?

Do you know how it might serve you?

I’ve spent a couple of days this week sorting through the vast resources I’ve amassed in the creation of The Grail teachings and realised just how much there is that takes away from its simple but powerful message. I had failed to notice the effect of when the message gets lost in the noise. That being the case I’d like to clarify, in case you missed the point, the power of The Wholly Grail…

Your health, happiness, wellbeing and peace are the fundamental requirements for a balanced life. The Wholly Grail or that state of balance and fulfilment, is broken down into 7 easy Principles or statements, concepts that must be present in order to retain your balance in a hectic, demanding lifestyle without depleting your personal power.

The Wholly Grail is complete (hence wholly), in its ability to reset your thinking and belief systems, reclaim your boundaries, identify and understand your undermining behaviours and power drains so as to reclaim yourself as whole (also hence wholly).

Every aspect of your daily life is a spiritual adventure and has the potential to fuel your soul or deplete it… you can choose to perceive it as love-filled and joyous or arduous and contentious. The former allows you to realign to peace and fill the spirit (or proverbial Grail cup or chalice), the latter depletes your reserves and has you declaring yourself as a victim of circumstance. One has you living in faith, the other in fear.

You might feel presently stuck in a situation you don’t believe you can change. I get it, when you’ve been there a while it’s hard to see which way to go… The 7 Principles will help you identify both your light and your shadow and by accepting both you get to choose your perfect path back to peace and even bliss… isn’t that worth doing the work for?

All the info is here on the site and the basics are free. If you feel like you need extra help getting started or you are facing a sticky dilemma and don’t know where to begin, I’m here to point you in the right direction… just think of me as your Grail Guide. You can book a personal guidance session here.

Wishing you a “cup full of love” on your path back to peace.

Jo… x

 

Understanding Your Motives – In It For The Long Game

There is an energy at present that centres around the culmination of a lot of years of focus. The potential now is so intense that whatever happens next is either the end of the beginning or the beginning of the end – make or break so to speak. That kind of intensity though can cloud judgment, force reactive behaviour and in some cases cause you to run towards an outcome or even away from it depending on your dominant archetypal energy.

Whatever this main focus of attention is, you can bet that all the other aspects of day to day life have taken a back seat and that imbalance is already occurring. (If you’re a member, I will be addressing this imbalance in the Seeker’s section this week. You can join for FREE here).

Here though, I would instead like to concentrate on one potential stressful factor that could become the trigger for one of those reactive behaviours: Have you forgotten why?

Understanding your motives for any action is the purest way to ensure you meet the challenge in a ‘success focused’ way.

Let’s take a new relationship as an example. Whether it be a romantic relationship or a business partnership or any other meeting of minds and hearts, it takes two parties to have the same agenda in order to bring about the desired outcome. Factor in free will, personal schedules, historical baggage, poor communication or misunderstandings and the whole process takes much longer.

Now baring in mind that we are feeling the universal flow bringing things to a pinnacle, all these trifles will no doubt be raising cortisol levels and pushing all the internal fear buttons… so now remember: “Why?”

You’re in it for the long game.

You’re not trying to get somewhere, this IS the relationship. It’s not where it is going but it is where it is, it is what it is, and what it is is growing… a work in progress, a masterpiece of manifestation. Look how far you’ve come.

The momentary surge of ‘now or never’ is just an illusion of time. The time is indeed right for this next step but this next step is simply another step in the story, beautiful now and heading towards many more beautiful things.

Be assured that what you feel under all the uncertainty, the reason you began this quest, that bit is real; the fear, the stress and the urgency are symptoms of insecurity that arise when your “what?” becomes the focus instead of your “why?”

Patience combined with the absolute clarity of the vision that began this journey will carry you through the next few days… and then the next part of the adventure will commence… it has been promised.

Principle 2: I AM Detached

More later… x

 

Experiencing An Internal Revolution

Everybody deals with emotional trauma in a different way. My immune system shuts down and become susceptible to illness… but it’s not my permanent or preferred place of residence.

I wanted to take this opportunity to guide you through healing from experiencing an internal revolution, that on the surface at least, can manifest as physical health issues.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full is the way back to vitality whenever your health is compromised physically, emotionally or even spiritually and begins with a very basic premise: “me first.”

Untie all the commitments, promises, deadlines, self-imposed pressures and superfluous tasks and get busy with what’s really important… healing. Feeling better. Nurturing your mind, body and spirit on every level.

Start with rest, complete rest. It doesn’t mean you have to take to your bed, rest can be simply snuggling by the fire with a good book, relaxing in a bubble bath or such like. Next comes nourishment. Healing from the inside out means feeding your body healing foods, foods filled with life force that are fresh and pure. Don’t forget the life giving elixir that is clean water either, your vital organs need to detox from the flood of poisons that brought you to this state.

Now you must purify what is feeding your mind. The external world can be detrimental to the sensitive empath when your system is overloaded so now is the perfect opportunity to detox your information intake: If at all possible you should unplug from the digital hive mind altogether and instead read an uplifting book or two. Doing a digital detox can also be effective if you de-clutter your feeds and bookmarks, for example you might unsubscribe from anything and anyone that causes you more stress, unfollow and unfriend any negative influences and choose new ones whose inspiration supports your healing path.

Then you need to be honest with those around you. Principle 4: I AM Truth is a powerful reclamation of Self. Just by stating “this is where I am and this is what I need” can go a long way towards releasing what’s draining you… you don’t always have to be the one with the answers, you don’t have to be the glue that holds society together… doesn’t it already feel so much better knowing that the only thing that you have to fix right now is you?

And now stretch… Yoga, Pilates, something gentle. A walk (when you’re ready) and then breathe… reconnect with nature, even if it’s just pottering in the garden. And create, be it art, music, poetry, baking a masterpiece… maybe even a vision board of your most beautiful dream, we all need to express our creative inner muse, so do that too.

Whatever you need to do to come back to you, that’s your only job to survive the alchemical side effects of the revolution as you recuperate and prepare for the next leg of the quest. That’s where I’m at.

More later… x

N.B. Always consult your GP/Physician with regards to any health concerns you may have.