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What To Do When Your Chalice Spills

There is one fundamental truth to the Grail Path that cannot be avoided when living a physical life, (which if you are reading this then presumably you are): You cannot keep the Grail. It will inevitable be upturned at some point in your life and you will need to begin to refill it from the bottom up. But do you know what to do when your chalice spills?

Loss of vital lifeforce

Put in plain language, life throws you curve balls in the form of challenges, endings, illness and a whole host of other shocks and spills that will cause your world to rock internally and transform right before your eyes. These are moment when you aren’t sure you can go on. It is certain that life will not allow you to go on the way you were before, because now your reality has shifted irrevocably and you have to learn a whole new set of rules in unfamiliar circumstances. Before any of that can happen in your outer reality, you have to heal the initial spill of your vital lifeforce …and that is going to take a beat.

When shock shows up in your world and your Grail cup is upturned, it’s a usual response to try to do one of two things:

  • Attempt to gather the scattered contents and get back what was lost or
  • Fill the chalice with anything and everything inappropriate to distract from the emptiness and avoid feeling that loss.

A more effective method

Let me just reassure you that neither of these responses is wrong… there is only instinct and survival under these circumstances, but there are more effective ways of recovery.

Try to understand that the sacred chalice is never completely empty even when it appears all is lost. There is residue clinging to the sides. Depending on how much self- work you have done on your path, that residue will either be supportive or detrimentaal to whatever you choose to refil the cup with. That residue is in the form of memories, beliefs, gratitude or regret for example. You first need to give the mind, body and spirit an opportunity to process the residue and that means being brave enough to stay empty for a time.

Honouring the void

Staying empty means leaving a void and that void is filled with healing nurturing potential. The longer we can honour the space, the more complete the healing, before we begin to refill the claice with new stuff. This doesn’t mean pushing away the offer of nurturance and support, but it does mean rejecting the more socailly acceptable distractions (usually offered by others to alleviate their own discomfort around your situation). this is going to take forgiveness and firm boundaries.

Instead, this is what to do when your chalice spills:

  • Give yourself permission to feel
  • Give yourself permission to be
  • Focus on the basics of self-care (Self-Full Living)
  • Don’t apologise for yourself
  • Don’t minimise your emotions to honour the feelings of others
  • Don’t compare your journey to anyone else’s
  • Ask for help from appropriate sources
  • Take time out until you are ready
  • Honour the sacred redirection the Divine is offering

The chalice often spills out of the blue. Occasionally we are aware of the incoming changes, but can do nothing to prevent them from occurring. The more you understand the Principles of The Grail Path the more tools you have to anchor your faith in your ability to heal and set the Chalice back upright, ready to refill after a time. You will be to go on to do the great things the Universe created you for, don’t doubt that for a second.

Love, Jo xxx

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Handling The Process of Liberation

I can’t begin to describe to you how difficult and yet strangely comforting the last week or so has been, as I have been launched unexpectedly into handling the process of liberation. The sudden death of a loved one around the time of the new moon, a change in direction over an elderly parent’s care and a hiccup in my own health, have all pushed me to re-embrace parts of myself that I had mistakenly cast aside in the melee of daily life.

Liberation is sometimes a gentle letting go of the things that we have outgrown, but oftentimes it comes as a shock ending of something that we naively believed would be there forever. Nothing in nature is permanent and we are therefore advised in every spiritual tradition to live in the now and attach to nothing.

Human nature though, has us forming bonds for our own survival, a hang up from the days when primative tribal mentality was still the norm across the entire globe.

As we are jolted by whatever means from our intrinsic trance-like state, just long enough to see clearly the bigger plan that is subtly shielded from us in order that we continue along our daily charade, we are forced to look at our own mortality and our own sense of posessive ownership of the things, people and connections around us. Even our own bodies are on loan from the universe, as a vehicle for exploring the realm in which we find ourselves. But it’s a beautiful game and one we were falling over ourselves to be a part of no doubt.

Handling the process of liberation though, is a game of slowing down and getting to grips with where you are. I have found myself speeding up, leaning into the experience of expelling the unwanted… not gripping, not resisting but in complete opposition… forcing the process to continue. Daring the universe in a bold “let’s just get on with it then” kind of attitude. It’s not the way.

If you are handling this letting go process or finding yourself in a grieving stage, be mindful that Source has a timetable, one that is designed for you to handle even if it feels like you are falling apart (or holding it together). You are not in control of the speed at which the universe purges your karma or even how long it will take to reach your destiny.

Be prepared to let go… don’t rush forward, don’t hold back… let nature take it’s course and you will arrive exactly where you are meant to be, exactly when you are meant to be there.

Now is the time to practice extreme self-care (Principle 6), self-love (Principle 1) and forgiveness (Principle 3).

Allow yourself to feel.

Jo x

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Weekly Oracle – Just Making Space

When The Sacred Chalice presents from the deck things really could go either way. It is neither a Principle nor an action and requires no chakra card to complete its combination… it is the message, the meaning and the answer.

Be prepared for your own sacred chalice to be spilled this week as some turn of events creates drama in your world. It doesn’t necessarily stand to reason that whatever comes along to turn your world upside down is a bad thing but whatever it is, it is a big energy and what spills from the chalice is just making space to be filled anew with something fresh.

As Pluto is now direct and Venus has just gone retrograde for a forty day review of where she’s already been, the new moon in Libra due on Tuesday also affecting the dynamic, it feels very much as though we are entering a time of reckoning where we dig deeper into issues of balance and fairness, so look to your relationships, finance and health to understand where this drama calls to you to take responsibility for bringing balance into that part of your life.

As a diagnostic tool, The Sacred Chalice denotes illness and burn out, so pay particular attention to your health at this time even though the drama could be a major windfall or exciting surprise (probably one you have been waiting for but gave up hope of getting). If you aren’t balanced, grounded and fully present, regardless of it being positive or negative, it could knock you on your arse emotionally, energetically and even physically.

When the chalice spills, (merely a metaphor for your inner reserves and resources being depleted), self-care is paramount. That being the case, take time to process whatever is taking place before reacting, before responding. Urgency maybe an illusion brought on by your temporarily weakened situation so remember you cannot serve from an empty vessel and the only urgent action this week is that you focus on you.

Apply Principle 6: I AM Self-Full… and when you feel able to, and your cup has been set straight and refilled, then you can engage in dealing with the, now much reduced, drama.

You are the chalice… set yourself shiny-side-up and do life on your terms, when you’re ready.

More later… x

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Experiencing An Internal Revolution

Everybody deals with emotional trauma in a different way. My immune system shuts down and become susceptible to illness… but it’s not my permanent or preferred place of residence.

I wanted to take this opportunity to guide you through healing from experiencing an internal revolution, that on the surface at least, can manifest as physical health issues.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full is the way back to vitality whenever your health is compromised physically, emotionally or even spiritually and begins with a very basic premise: “me first.”

Untie all the commitments, promises, deadlines, self-imposed pressures and superfluous tasks and get busy with what’s really important… healing. Feeling better. Nurturing your mind, body and spirit on every level.

Start with rest, complete rest. It doesn’t mean you have to take to your bed, rest can be simply snuggling by the fire with a good book, relaxing in a bubble bath or such like. Next comes nourishment. Healing from the inside out means feeding your body healing foods, foods filled with life force that are fresh and pure. Don’t forget the life giving elixir that is clean water either, your vital organs need to detox from the flood of poisons that brought you to this state.

Now you must purify what is feeding your mind. The external world can be detrimental to the sensitive empath when your system is overloaded so now is the perfect opportunity to detox your information intake: If at all possible you should unplug from the digital hive mind altogether and instead read an uplifting book or two. Doing a digital detox can also be effective if you de-clutter your feeds and bookmarks, for example you might unsubscribe from anything and anyone that causes you more stress, unfollow and unfriend any negative influences and choose new ones whose inspiration supports your healing path.

Then you need to be honest with those around you. Principle 4: I AM Truth is a powerful reclamation of Self. Just by stating “this is where I am and this is what I need” can go a long way towards releasing what’s draining you… you don’t always have to be the one with the answers, you don’t have to be the glue that holds society together… doesn’t it already feel so much better knowing that the only thing that you have to fix right now is you?

And now stretch… Yoga, Pilates, something gentle. A walk (when you’re ready) and then breathe… reconnect with nature, even if it’s just pottering in the garden. And create, be it art, music, poetry, baking a masterpiece… maybe even a vision board of your most beautiful dream, we all need to express our creative inner muse, so do that too.

Whatever you need to do to come back to you, that’s your only job to survive the alchemical side effects of the revolution as you recuperate and prepare for the next leg of the quest. That’s where I’m at.

More later… x

N.B. Always consult your GP/Physician with regards to any health concerns you may have.