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Self-Care Special: It Will Happen When It’s Ready

Battling with myself just now as to whether to write a Self-Care Special blog or give it a miss this week, I recognised in myself the familiar feeling of having pushed past my limit. Being Self-Full requires that you know when to rest and to know it will happen when it’s ready, life that is.

Deadlines are great for getting stuff done, they really are, but if you are the kind of person that has trouble listening to your soul’s voice and taking heed of your body’s requirements, then that deadline is goin to be the thing that you punish yourself with time and time again.

I’ve learned to honour the voice inside that tells me when enough is enough, so before I wrote this I took a few hours off to recoup some energy after a long week of juggling my own priorities and other peoples needs. We are in strange times at present and personal wellbeing is a high priority, as is managing stress. It is a fact that stress reduces the immune system and so its wise to manage your schedule in a way supports your long term dreams as well as your immediate well-being.

Nature is showing us that it has its own priorities and deadlines at the moment and funnily enough, they cannot be negotiated with. Crisis has a certain way of putting everything into perspective in a way that forces you to conform to the natural order. Your health has a natural cycle just like Mother Nature and when she says stop and rest, if you listen and act promptly, and you’re lucky enough, stop and rest won’t mean just STOP.

Get your hands on a copy of The Self-Full Living Workbook here and start prioritising your well-being today!

Everything has a timetable and you cannot force it nor can you hold it back so you may as well just get on board and go with the flow. It will happen when it’s ready.

To help you along the way though, try the following:

The universe will get you exactly where you need to be exactly when you are supposed to be there. I truly believe that. So as you glide into this week, can you let things happen in divine right timing and get out of your own way to take care of you first?

Let’s call it a challenge.

Love, Jo x

P.S. Did you see this week’s Dragon Reading? …and check out the Alignment Task for this week on my YouTube Channel.

Are You Finding Time To Do You?

Life is going to go in swings and roundabouts, peaks and troughs. Unlike the seemlessly perfect highlights of a social media lifestyle, quite often the universe has other plans and we end up neck deep in stuff that needs our attention and none of it seems to be ours. The question is, while it’s all happening, are you finding time to do you?

Self-Full Living isn’t about placing yourself in a bubble and becoming oblivious to the outside world and what it appears to need from you, its about finding balance between the demands of life, family and community and your own well-being, hopes, wishes and dreams.

In the last week or so, everything has gone a bit tits-up with my schedule as I’ve put everything on hold to renovate part of my mum’s house to make it accessible for her to come home from residential care. She’s very elderly now and her mobility is negligible. That means that I’ve been humping heavy furniture around, painting and decorating, de-cluttering years of stuff. My own goals have all had to go on hold, but I refuse to put my own health and self-care needs on hold because that just doesnt benefit anyone, including mum.

When you understand your own worth (Principle 1) and that taking care of your own well-being is the greatest gift you can give to anyone you love or who loves you (Principle 6), you begin to reconsider your actions, drop the martyrdom quest and start seeking win/win solutions for everyone involved. The biggest win/win you can gift the world is to aks yourself that question: are you taking time to do you? If the answer is no then you need to prioritise that now… no, not when the emergency or urgency is over, right now.

It doesn’t have to be dramatic or even noticeable to anyone else, simply take the time to eat well, eat fresh; rest when you are tired; spend 5 mins in meditation; stretch; hydrate. Do all of this deliberately and mindfully and pay attention to what your body needs, it will tell you (catch it on the whisper though or you will know its too little, too late).

Taking time to do you is not an indulgence, its a sacred contract you have with your own Source. Honour it. Honour yourself.

What is your mind, body and spirit asking of you today and how are you going to fulfill it’s request?

Love, Jo x

P.S. Here is the link to my Self-Full Living Workbook to help you understand your patterns and gaps in your current self-care practices. You might find it useful.

P.P.S Did you see the Dragon Reading for this week?

P.P.P.S. And your alignment task is being uncovered here in the Alignment Reading.

Learn To Do It When You’re Ready.

I’m a day late and a dollar short (as they say). Not that anyone is keeping score. Sometimes you have to understand that in order to keep life in balance you have to learn to do things when you’re ready.

Discipline is a vital tool to keep the show on the road, but discipline should be built around your priorities, and in case you haven’t been paying attention, my priority is not getting the blog or the newsletter out on on time, its self-love and living a Self-Full life… and that’s exactly what I want for all of you too.

To be honest I’ve spent the new year in and out of the hospital visiting my mum who succumbed to yet another chest infection, luckily we caught it before it turned to pneumonia like it did last year (actually 2018 thinking about it). She’s back at the nursing home now in respite and feeling much better but as you can imagine, when your loved ones are sick, especially when they are elderly you go into high alert. I’m your perfect crisis management partner to be honest, I roll my sleeves up, get stuck in and do what needs doing… its when its over I’m FUBAR! Once the emergency dies down I have a hell of a job managing the adrenal spike and the fatigue that follows. I have healing techniques and startegies now that make it a faster job, one of which is to fully acknowledge and allow my own need for a time-out and some deep self-care. Another is to say no to everything that does not serve your wellbeing and to say “not yet” to everything that can wait.

We live in a society that puts so much pressure on us to conform and to deliver and we put even more pressure on ourselves. This people-pleasing nature is endimic especially in western culture and leads to burn-out and misery. It leads to codependency and power play in relationship dynamics and to a skewed way of measuring our own self-worth and value to society.

In tuth, if you learn to do it when you’re ready, whatever it may be, the resulting product of your time and attention will be far more potent, appreciated and filled with more of your vital creative force than if you serve from an empty cup.

All that being said, there is no newsletter this week and although the alignment readings and dragon readings are ready, they will not be posted to until this weekend.

You are on my priority list… you just aren’t quite as high up as my mum and my health & well-being!

Love, Jo x

P.S. Why not invest in spending a little time prioritising yourself this month and see how much more you have to give (when you’re ready)?

P.P.S You can become a member of my Patreon Channel for guided meditations to help you find balance and alignment and be more Self-Full… (I will be updating that with more content as soon as I’m able and all caught up).

Weekly Oracle – Love Me Right Now

With this week’s intense Super Full Moon Lunar Eclipse in Leo smashing its energy into us and Venus making eyes at Jupiter the Great Benevolent, I’m hardly surprised this combination is indicating that our inner-selves are demanding “love me right now!”

Principle 2: I AM Detached, awakens a part of us that is racing forwards to a time “when.” When I’m rich enough, thin enough, fit enough, when I have time enough, when I know enough… or worse still when I get back to how things used to be. It awakens you to the perfection of the moment however imperfect it might be. Now is all that exists for your soul and now is the time to embrace all the wonderful lessons and gifts that the emerald green heart chakra has to offer.

Love is the most important gift you can offer yourself this week, (well any week actually), it requires acceptance, forgiveness, tolerance and a true understanding of self-worth but more importantly it requires you to let go and stop withholding.

This week’s combination suggests this is a time where your propensity towards self-denial must be overcome regardless of all the made up excuses that override “why not now?” and “why not you?” The optimum time has arrived to give yourself all the things your soul has been crying out for, but most of all love.

Loving yourself and indeed allowing others to love you as you want to be loved is simply a matter of removing the obstacles you have put in place to protect you from your own fears, in this case around your readiness and the timing of the incoming energy.

“Love me right now” is the innocent cry of your inner child who doesn’t understand the constraints your other subconscious archetypes have placed around your ability to nurture yourself and be nurtured by others to the fullest potential in this and every moment.

Expect big questions and surprise situations this week where you may be faced with opportunities that require you to leap towards what your soul truly wants, but be wary of your conditioned response of saying no to life because you don’t believe you are ready for it or the timing seems a little off… The Universe doesn’t make mistakes with timing…. if your heart wants to say yes to love in all its forms then recognise that self-love means not allowing your head to overrule your feelings just because your calendar seems a bit full.

Prioritise your heart’s desire.

If your life is out of balance and you are putting your heart’s desires on hold, why not invest in a Transformative Grail Session with me?

More next week… x

Weekly Oracle – The Way Home To Self

I’m noticed a pattern. When The Sacred Chalice shows up in a reading it likes to hang around for a while and rarely stays for just one week and so there was no surprise when it presented itself again today. Following last week’s energy of the Chalice being spilled to make room, this week feels like recovery.

There are times in life when we quietly move in a peaceful direction back to wholeness without feeling the need to chat about where we are at or what we are doing. This time of recovery, of going within, is the way home to self. 

“Quiet” and “peacefully” are not ways of describing withdrawal from daily life though, on the contrary, though differences maybe subtlety noticeable, for all intents and purposes you seem to be doing what you’ve always done except for the fact that you are nurturing in private a renewed sense of purpose, direction and an increased level of self love that demands nothing short of you now living your best life in the here and now.

The Wholly Grail is what remains when you remove all distractions, disempowered thinking and searching beyond what is. It is what you find once you empty the cup and realise the essential truth of what truly fills it, and how to prioritize that as a way of life rather than an occasional intrigue.

If illness came your way recently, now you will begin to recover, if loss or grief came your way, then this is a time where the blessings begin to reveal themselves and the light returns, if chaos ensued, then now calm will begin to be restored as a new version of you is born from what was into what is yet to become. This rebirth is a gentle process and you may not quite understand yet on a conscious level just exactly why you feel different… but you are different. You get to choose now if you will go back to how it used to be, or if you really love yourself enough to become more.

How you define more of course is your business, don’t allow the world to dictate that… you just learned what it takes to fill your cup… to keep it full, in constant self-renewing fresh energy is your life’s work now. So do that.

Check out Principle 6 as a way to start.

More later… x

Conscious Connection Part 3 – Make Space For Us

In this run up to Valentine’s Day Conscious Connection series I have been sharing The Wholly Grail in a way that applies directly to relationships. Any relationships, but of course the romantic kind are high up on that list at the moment. If you missed the previous parts you can read Part 1 here and Part 2 here.

In part 3 I’m drawing your attention to another two Principles, so let’s get started:

Principle 5. Make space for us. Where there is only you and yours, I cannot exist. Where there is only me and mine, you cannot exist.

Life is full, I know. It is filled with things and busy-ness, obligations and responsibilities. I have mine, you have yours… and there will always be more stuff incoming. The burden of life’s offerings will bury us… Us. Us is thing. We are a thing, but a thing needs space, space to be, space to grow, space to become. Space in your mind, space in your heart, space in your schedule, space in your life and your home… without space we cannot be a thing.

You and I have a responsibility to the thing that has been born between us. It’s growth, its health, its very survival depends on the care we give it. Notice that your responsibility is not to me, nor mine to you but to the tender creation of a third entity that we have created… this thing called relationship. Without space, consideration and care it will die.

Principle 6. Whatever makes you happy. That’s your only job. For when you fulfil your own requirements for health, happiness and well-being, our commitment to each other is one of shared joy and creation.

You were not put out on this earth to fulfil my every need or to bolster my ego and it was never my calling to carry your insecurities and frailties either… we were put here together at this time to acknowledge and mirror back our own wholeness to and through each other, to amplify the innate power of divine healing and creativity to transform the world through love.

When you take care of yourself you are at your most powerful and magnetic… alluring, sexy. And when you are temporarily unable, I will show you the way back to you through healing… not because you are my responsibility but because I love you and I choose to still see you in your power.

Valentine Offer on Conscious Connection Personal Guidance available until the end of February here.

More later… x

 

 

First Monday Focus – Just One Thing

Wow! First Monday of the month again. I normally issue a challenge for just such an occasion but to be honest life is currently challenging enough so instead how about we do a First Monday Focus? In this case, focus on just one thing…

In the middle of massive transformation at home, I’ve just received a request for help from someone reaching out on social media who appears to also be dealing with uncertainty at this time and from conversations I’ve had with others too, it’s  seems commonplace at present that people are struggling with overwhelming circumstances compounded by fear, doubt and a crippling inability to make decisions that they trust.

We are in “All or Nothing” mode at the moment, thanks to the recent Full Moon and Venus in Scorpio, and the tendency is to try to change or settle everything at once. When it seems as if everything is in turmoil you could be forgiven for creating even more overwhelming circumstances by attempting to fix every aspect of life in a vain attempt to keep all those lovely balls up in the air in some kind of pointless juggling act. It’s ok for some of them to fall on the floor so you can concentrate on just one important thing…

That thing is going to be personal to each of you, for me its finding somewhere to live. For the lady who reached out to me, it may well be the same, but for some it may revolve around improving health, finding a job etcetera, but when all around you feels uncertain, it’s your basic needs that take precedence over every other decision you need to make.

Improving your situation often requires action, but the focus for today is simply deciding which one thing you intend to take action about. Creating that focus will bring the clarity you are asking for.

Leave all the negative self talk and the coulda shoulda woulda accusations to one side… however this situation occurred, it did so with the sole purpose of propelling you towards greater action, blessings and lessons exist within the core of your circumstances. You have everything you need within you in a wealth of hidden potential and resilience to improve the hand you have been dealt one step at a time. Don’t forget to ask the universe for help too.

Things to remember:

Principle 1: you create your own reality… so get creative!

Principle 2: where you are right now is the only place you can create from so leave the past behind in order to build for the future!

Principle 3: stop beating yourself up,  that is simply wasting energy and resources on a detrimental activity.

Principle 4: nobody else’s opinion is going to give you what you’re looking for, decide what’s important for yourself.

Principle 5: let go of all unnecessary and superfluous clutter to free up some mental, emotional and material resources.

Principle 6: concentrate on basic needs, your safety, health and well-being are your primary assets

Principle 7: accept help where it is offered and offer help where you can… helping others reminds you how useful and powerful you are even when you’ve forgotten how to trust yourself.

Remember that the above Principles are the path to The Wholly Grail but the Grail lives within you not in your illusion of external reality.

Right then, on this happy Monday, I’m wishing you miracles with just one thing (but you get to choose which one…  so choose wisely).

More later… x

 

Modus Operandi Part 6: Me Versus Myself

As this Modus Operandi series has progressed I hope you have begun to understand the difference between how you think you might be following the Wholly Grail Principles for inner peace as opposed to how you actually carry out your day to day life in opposition to your intentions. The title “Me Versus Myself” is true then for all these practices of self-defeating behaviours but never more so than when it comes to your health and self care.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, is vast in concept because it involves putting your own needs first in order to fill your cup ready to serve and share with others… that can mean intellectually, emotionally, creatively, professionally, intimately etc. Whatever way you give of yourself, if you fail to take care of your own basic needs by constantly placing others before yourself you will eventually drain the cup and become ill, ineffective and eventually unable to be of service to anyone… including yourself!

Some believe it selfish to put their own needs first, going without meals, without sleep, pushing hard to try to rescue others, failing to enforce personal boundaries and basically martyring themselves in the process to the point of burnout. Giving of yourself until there is nothing left will leave your dependents ultimately without the very person they depend on, so tell me: how does that work out to be less selfish?

Once the selfish aspect is dispelled we get to tackle the other side of denial, the side that says “I always take good care of myself” when actually you really don’t…

How nutritious is your diet, the very fuel for your body? Are you conscientiously equipping your physical vessel for the task ahead or are you so frenetic that you ram in whatever is in front of you without thinking just to provide fast but low grade energy to continue whatever you have currently deemed so much more important?

Do you rest your mind as well as your body adequately? Sleep when your mind is busy might as well be no sleep at all. I know a fair few people who survive on little or no sleep because deadlines and demands are put ahead of their health and others who spend so much time over-thinking and worrying that their quality of sleep is poor. Meditation, and a disciplined wind down practice can be of enormous benefit to this problem but here’s the thing: if you don’t adhere to Principle 1: I AM God, understanding your true worth and your value to the rest of humanity then you will never place yourself, your health and your happiness as a priority in your life.

I haven’t even touched the surface of being Self-Full here but you’re starting to get the picture.

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More later… x

 

Into The Swing – Reassess Your Priorities

If something pivotal has occurred in your life, no doubt things will look confusing for a time until you get into the swing of things.

Accepting new information or a new set of circumstances often involves integrating into your world something that wasn’t there before or even an absence of something that was. Schedules may go awry, routines become entangled and proverbial balls get dropped on the floor.

It’s perfectly acceptable to take time to find your new normal and more than acceptable – it’s absolutely necessary. In many cultures we call it the honeymoon phase, it’s where you get a temporary free pass… more accurately it’s the learning phase where everyone involved takes on the personality of the innocent fool, the student tip-toeing through life’s brand new classroom absorbing information, skills and new techniques as they go.

Reassess your priorities now based on Principle 4: I AM Truth.  What this means is focusing on what’s true and pertinent for you at this stage in your journey. Some of those lovely balls that smash on the floor may actually be filled with nothing more than air and now you feel its time to leave them behind to concentrate on a more authentic version of your dream. Sure, you may feel like you are letting some folks down but the absolute truth of the matter is that you will never be able to please everybody anyway, so then far better to please yourself and allow others to adjust in their own way and go through the same process of reassessing their own priorities.

The world adjusts and organises itself daily to new parameters and this is no different.

It’s helpful to understand what your priorities actually are. In the Seekers section of the site this coming week I’m posting an article about achieving balance, in it will be a chart of all the relevant areas of life that are requiring your attention. It’s free to join as a Seeker here if you would like to take a look.

…For now though, enjoy the temporary chaos, it’s the most satisfying disarray you’ll experience… it’s called creating a new life.

More later… x

 

Get The Basics Right, The Fun Stuff Will Follow

We have arrived at the end of an energetically transformative week, which if you’ve taken advantage of, you could be feeling grounded in the present moment, poised for whatever’s next but neither relying on its arrival nor doubting that it will come. This place, here, in the now, is a wonderful environment filled with the power of infinite potential but it is not a place to wait… it’s a place to nurture that power by focusing on what’s important and immediate. Get the basics right, the fun stuff will follow.

So what are the basics?

Last Saturday’s oracle whose potency is evident right up until the end of the day, was about communicating your needs, and given the mildly antagonistic nature of last night’s super new moon, this is a perfect time for you to attend to those needs regardless of whether help is available. There is so much you can achieve between now and whenever the universe delivers your gift in whatever form it arrives.

The basics include first and foremost your most precious possessions: your body, mind and spirit. Attend to your personal care needs first, spend some time in nature listening to the birdsong and remembering how to breathe deeply, right down into the bottom of your lungs, exhaling the residue of what no longer serves you. Take time to appreciate the flowers… I’m happily playing in my garden doing just that after my help arrived early in the week in the form of a beautiful friend who worked like a machine helping me tame the neglect and half rebuild Eden… thank you Karen!

The basics include spending time with family: eat together, play together, put down your phones and devices and relearn how to talk to each other… laugh together.

Today is all that matters, leave tomorrow to take care of itself (I’ll be back with the Intuitive Chalice Oracle then).

Principles 2 & 6

Happy Friday… x