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Modus Operandi Part 6: Me Versus Myself

As this Modus Operandi series has progressed I hope you have begun to understand the difference between how you think you might be following the Wholly Grail Principles for inner peace as opposed to how you actually carry out your day to day life in opposition to your intentions. The title “Me Versus Myself” is true then for all these practices of self-defeating behaviours but never more so than when it comes to your health and self care.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, is vast in concept because it involves putting your own needs first in order to fill your cup ready to serve and share with others… that can mean intellectually, emotionally, creatively, professionally, intimately etc. Whatever way you give of yourself, if you fail to take care of your own basic needs by constantly placing others before yourself you will eventually drain the cup and become ill, ineffective and eventually unable to be of service to anyone… including yourself!

Some believe it selfish to put their own needs first, going without meals, without sleep, pushing hard to try to rescue others, failing to enforce personal boundaries and basically martyring themselves in the process to the point of burnout. Giving of yourself until there is nothing left will leave your dependents ultimately without the very person they depend on, so tell me: how does that work out to be less selfish?

Once the selfish aspect is dispelled we get to tackle the other side of denial, the side that says “I always take good care of myself” when actually you really don’t…

How nutritious is your diet, the very fuel for your body? Are you conscientiously equipping your physical vessel for the task ahead or are you so frenetic that you ram in whatever is in front of you without thinking just to provide fast but low grade energy to continue whatever you have currently deemed so much more important?

Do you rest your mind as well as your body adequately? Sleep when your mind is busy might as well be no sleep at all. I know a fair few people who survive on little or no sleep because deadlines and demands are put ahead of their health and others who spend so much time over-thinking and worrying that their quality of sleep is poor. Meditation, and a disciplined wind down practice can be of enormous benefit to this problem but here’s the thing: if you don’t adhere to Principle 1: I AM God, understanding your true worth and your value to the rest of humanity then you will never place yourself, your health and your happiness as a priority in your life.

I haven’t even touched the surface of being Self-Full here but you’re starting to get the picture.

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More later… x

 

Into The Swing – Reassess Your Priorities

If something pivotal has occurred in your life, no doubt things will look confusing for a time until you get into the swing of things.

Accepting new information or a new set of circumstances often involves integrating into your world something that wasn’t there before or even an absence of something that was. Schedules may go awry, routines become entangled and proverbial balls get dropped on the floor.

It’s perfectly acceptable to take time to find your new normal and more than acceptable – it’s absolutely necessary. In many cultures we call it the honeymoon phase, it’s where you get a temporary free pass… more accurately it’s the learning phase where everyone involved takes on the personality of the innocent fool, the student tip-toeing through life’s brand new classroom absorbing information, skills and new techniques as they go.

Reassess your priorities now based on Principle 4: I AM Truth. ¬†What this means is focusing on what’s true and pertinent for you at this stage in your journey. Some of those lovely balls that smash on the floor may actually be filled with nothing more than air and now you feel its time to leave them behind to concentrate on a more authentic version of your dream. Sure, you may feel like you are letting some folks down but the absolute truth of the matter is that you will never be able to please everybody anyway, so then far better to please yourself and allow others to adjust in their own way and go through the same process of reassessing their own priorities.

The world adjusts and organises itself daily to new parameters and this is no different.

It’s helpful to understand what your priorities actually are. In the Seekers section of the site this coming week I’m posting an article about achieving balance, in it will be a chart of all the relevant areas of life that are requiring your attention. It’s free to join as a Seeker here if you would like to take a look.

…For now though, enjoy the temporary chaos, it’s the most satisfying disarray you’ll experience… it’s called creating a new life.

More later… x

 

Get The Basics Right, The Fun Stuff Will Follow

We have arrived at the end of an energetically transformative week, which if you’ve taken advantage of, you could be feeling grounded in the present moment, poised for whatever’s next but neither relying on its arrival nor doubting that it will come. This place, here, in the now, is a wonderful environment filled with the power of infinite potential but it is not a place to wait… it’s a place to nurture that power by focusing on what’s important and immediate. Get the basics right, the fun stuff will follow.

So what are the basics?

Last Saturday’s oracle whose potency is evident right up until the end of the day, was about communicating your needs, and given the mildly antagonistic nature of last night’s super new moon, this is a perfect time for you to attend to those needs regardless of whether help is available. There is so much you can achieve between now and whenever the universe delivers your gift in whatever form it arrives.

The basics include first and foremost your most precious possessions: your body, mind and spirit. Attend to your personal care needs first, spend some time in nature listening to the birdsong and remembering how to breathe deeply, right down into the bottom of your lungs, exhaling the residue of what no longer serves you. Take time to appreciate the flowers… I’m happily playing in my garden doing just that after my help arrived early in the week in the form of a beautiful friend who worked like a machine helping me tame the neglect and half rebuild Eden… thank you Karen!

The basics include spending time with family: eat together, play together, put down your phones and devices and relearn how to talk to each other… laugh together.

Today is all that matters, leave tomorrow to take care of itself (I’ll be back with the Intuitive Chalice Oracle then).

Principles 2 & 6

Happy Friday… x

After The Storm

I love the smell of the air immediately after the storm. Everything is more alive, more vibrant, washed clean by the rain and in full colour. It’s a time when, as a child I would take off my shoes and walk along the York stone paving with bare feet just so I could feel the wet, cool, solid foundation reminding me that this moment counts.

This moment counts.

What you do with it is your choice. It could be life changing, life affirming or it could pass by as a simple moment of acknowledgment of all that there is… you don’t have to do anything of course, you can go on with your daily rounds without looking up, without truly, fully breathing in, and without a clue that the moment is passing you by.

Having selected Principle 6: I AM Self-Full as the lead card in Saturday’s Intuitive Chalice Oracle, I’m mindful of the focus energy this week on doing what’s right for you and doing it slowly and with purpose. It’s being compounded by the gentle new moon in Taurus arriving in the early hours of Wednesday morning (about 01:16am UK time). The emphasis for me is about focus: all or nothing, this and only this… It may seem like limiting choices and expression of variety but for now at least, that way lies scattered thinking and dispersed intentions. I am my primary focus. My needs are paramount.

The storm has passed and it’s time to ponder the emergence of fresh perspective and tend to the fundamentals like health, home and happiness.

Whatever storms you have been facing have blown away the cobwebs and the chaos has transformed into a fertile landscape for planting new seeds. Some of those seeds you rescued from what went before, some you have dreamed anew but the only thing that matters now are the dreams you’ve dreamed for you.

Take off your shoes, put your feet on the ground, breathe, smile… and draw the moment inward until it fills you.

Happy Monday… x

 

Saturday Oracle – Being All In

Difficult decisions can only be made once you understand what motivates your choices.

We make arrangements, agreements, commitments spoken and unspoken, we fulfil responsibilities and obligations that these contracts, conscious and unconscious bring with them, but do we actually understand and honour the most sacred contract there is? That is the one we have to ourselves.

This week’s oracle teams up Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, with the emerald green of the heart chakra to highlight for us this fundamental and yet often neglected vow of taking care of our own needs.

Ask yourself as you step into the week ahead who you are doing it for? Who you get out of bed for, go to work for, cook for, make yourself beautiful for? Ask who you cry for, smile for, yearn for and strive for? You will come up with many answers from your kids to your boss to your clients to your lover to your dog… but the ultimate truth is you do it for you.

Your kids bring you joy, love, a sense of continuity and even immortality. Your boss is just the guy or girl that pays the wages that fund your lifestyle. Your clients’ happiness gives you a sense of fulfilment and purpose. Your lover makes you feel special (hopefully), provides physical attention and acts a mirror to your hopes, dreams and aspirations, as well as fulfilling your need for connection and companionship and that urge to pair off that dates back to Adam and Eve, and was fortified by Noah’s deliberate loading strategy for his big wooden boat thing. Your dog… well who knows why we humans are so attached to four-legged furry things but it’s mostly because they love you unconditionally for who you are no matter how shit your hair looks or whether you’re a flatulent toad in your down time. At the route of every obligation, contract or commitment is the fact that it benefits YOU!

Now that we’ve cleared that up, give yourself a little while to let it percolate and come at this oracle afresh.

Self-Full Living is the art of providing for one’s own needs. You either do it consciously or unconsciously.

The heart chakra is the centre of balance in the energy system, it’s the healing heart where unconditional love comes from, it provides a safe space in which to exist, that’s what it means to hold someone in your heart, you give them a space to heal, to be whole. Now imagine for a moment that you are the person you are holding within that centre of life affirming, healing love… everything you do this week must be about you so take that temporary time out, let it breathe (whatever it is) whilst you have a word with yourself about your motives.

Commitment is an all or nothing deal. Fear is the enemy of commitment. Maybe, you’re afraid of losing? Maybe you’re afraid of winning? Maybe you’re afraid of losing yourself in the vastness of a love so deep and so powerful that it consumes you? But it’s your love… The love you lavish upon yourself. Whatever you pour it into, whoever you pour it into, you ultimately are pouring into yourself. Do you love yourself enough to give life and love your best shot?

Take the time, make the space, and then asked the question…

Am I all in?

Because if you’re not all in, you’re out.

More next week… x

 

Getting To The Finishing Line Without Breaking A Sweat

How did Friday arrive without me noticing?

I’ve done a really stupid thing with my schedule over the next week or so, I’ve forgotten to leave room for me. Have you ever done that? Squeezed every last drop out of your waking hours on paper and then thought to yourself “shit I’ve not left any time for my own priorities or to just be.”

The thing is, I had my head down in full focus mode and time became an irrelevant notion that was limitless and I made it my friend, so when it came to booking in requests from clients, from family, from friends, and adding prior commitments into the mix I simply looked up, saw a space on the calendar and said yes… I never once thought to take a back step and ask myself what my own agenda for the week was and what I hoped to achieve with it…. I never looked at my own big picture.

My time the last few days seemed limitless because I was on task and on purpose, and the universe expands resources when you are focused on fulfilling a goal aligned with Spirit’s intentions for you. It’s like getting to the finish line without breaking a sweat, as per my mantra “clear me a path swiftly and simply into the slipstream towards my miracles.” But you have to pay attention to the big picture because that’s the miracle your slipstream is flowing towards.

Ok so I took my eye off the ball and I won’t be back on task now until the back end of next week, but at least I’m aware of it and can deliberately link into Principle 2: I AM Detached, the Principle that unravels the whole idea of time being finite because it demands that you plant yourself firmly in this moment and enjoy every minute of the process as it unfolds making it my friend once again… that’s what the slipstream truly is.

Have an amazing weekend x

I’ve Reached My Limit

I’ve been thinking a lot about priorities of late and more specifically what mine are, and then out of the blue at about 1.30 this morning I had a moment of sudden clarity that I’d had everything upside down…

It sometimes takes an emergency to help you re-evaluate your plans for the future and where you yourself fit into them, what you’re willing to accept and where your boundaries truly are. The last two days have been a bit of a whirlwind albeit a short-lived one that have seen the foundation’s of my own reality get a little shaken like the proverbial tower in the tarot deck… luckily the tower didn’t fall this time but it’s only a matter of time before it does… Life is so very precious… love is a gift… family is everything.

My priorities have had me testing the strength of my roots and calculating what I was prepared to give up for something apparently greater for quite some time and I know now what the answer is…

Have you every been in a position where you have had to choose one way of life over another, one person over another, one location over another? I’ve been freeing myself up from all my ties and anchors for years in order to make that choice an easy one but in the early hours of the morning I realised something… I don’t want to. There is something in my current life that I love so very dearly that to leave would be the end of who I truly am… that’s not to say that there isn’t a place for my dreams to arrive and set up camp here, I’ve left the door open and made a space, in my life, in my heart, in my schedule and even in my home to create something amazing, but right here has something for me that the rest of the world is missing and until the inevitable day that she no longer exists in physical form… I’m home.

When you evaluate what’s really true for you, start by focusing on what you already have that you love before you ponder what you haven’t yet got that you would like… that new thing will come with needs, boundaries and conditions… make sure you don’t give up yours to achieve it… your dreams may have to be malleable to accommodate what already exists in your reality. I always ask “What are you prepared to give up?” Well, I’ve reached my limit. Nothing more for now… I’ve been accommodating enough and now it’s someone else’s turn to do the compromising and meet me half way.

Principle 1: I AM God (and I matter)

Principle 2: I AM Detached (and what’s present is what’s important)

Principle 4: I AM Truth (and I won’t ignore what’s true for me now)

Principle 5: I AM Self-Full (and this is what I need).

Priorities change… forgive me if I move you down the list… though you are pretty high up there, the only person at the top… is me.

More later… x

Is That It?

It’s the 1st Monday of the month and that makes it challenge day! I don’t know why I picked the 1st Monday to issue a Grail Challenge but that seems to be how it fell.

Today really is a challenge for me this month because I’m dealing with a five specific personal dilemmas that are taxing my brain a little more that usual and all seem to have come to a head at the same time, they involve: work, relationships in one form or another, time management, health and Divine Service… some of these issues overlap and some stand alone but each has an effect on the others and today it’s imperative that I get my head around prioritising each to bring balance back to an otherwise beautiful day.

Getting caught up in an intricate web of how-to’s can bring life and order to a standstill pretty quickly when you allow the overwhelm to kick in and I for one am pretty fed up with allowing things to get that far so here’s your challenge and certainly the one I’m employing today:

Stop, relax, pray for guidance and then allow time to meditate upon the answers.

What do you mean “Is that it?” Yes, that’s it!

Your challenge is to find silence for just a short time in which perspective can flood back to you along with the answers to all your dilemmas. Give it to God. After all, that part of you that is Him already knows what to do.

Principle 1: I AM God.

More later… x

Ps Happy Lughnasadh, Happy Yorkshire Day, Happy Birthday to my late dad, Happy August and of course Happy Monday!

The Lifeboat

Grail Oracle 5Grail Oracle Red

This week’s free Intuitive Chalice Oracle combines Principle 5 of The Wholly Grail: I AM Liberated with the blood red energy of the base or root chakra and it looks set to be a make or break week in one fashion or another…

When Principle 5 makes an appearance it shows that we have become slaves to the things we worked so hard for, mix that with the base chakra and not only do we confirm the material nature of those things and the, perhaps false sense of security they provide, but also that the building pressure is causing real physical harm and maybe even illness.

The ship is sinking under the mountain of stuff… financial pressures, obligations, property, and even people that rely on you and though you may be attempting to bailout as fast as you can, one man, one bucket and an entire ocean liner doesn’t quite add up to smooth sailing.

The problem we see here is that you are looking in the wrong places to fix the problem… bringing in more stuff to supplement the bailout. In real terms this looks like working harder, hiring in more help, taking on more projects to increase revenue etc but that just compounds the issue and increases the load on an already overtaxed vessel… in this case you.

You can save yourself or you can try in vain to save the ship and effectively go down with it… saving yourself means adopting an attitude, NOT of “We’re gonna need a bigger boat,” but instead “We’re gonna need a smaller one.”

Apparently a captain always goes down with his ship… what a bloody numpty! Live to sail another day by taking only what you need and jumping in “The Lifeboat” unless of course the lifeboat was taking up valuable cargo space on the ship and in trying to save your whole overwhelming existence it became the very first casualty???

You are being faced with the very real opportunity to put your life back in balance this week… don’t blow it by opting for more stress and by the same token ensuring your personal prison becomes inescapable. Time for a full scale de-clutter of you priorities.

More next week… x

The Dancer’s Dual

Grail Oracle 3Grail Oracle Red

A few weeks ago The Sacred Chalice card came out of the set and though at the time I suspected it was in positive mode I also explained that it had a negative side that if chosen from the deck may mean that you are hitting rock bottom and in need of rebuilding energetically from scratch (see The Sacred Chalice here). The reason I bring it up now is that this combination is leading you down the garden path to exactly that, unless you make changes now to correct your course.

The Dancer’s Dual is a combination of Principle 3: I AM Human and the blood red of the base or root chakra.

The base chakra is your connection to your body’s physical state and energy, the chakra’s health is directly related to the provision of material and physical needs such as food, shelter, safety and also adequate rest. When out of balance it can, at its worst create exhaustion as well as produce negative feelings of ¬†irritability, anger, rage and resentment (usually when those needs are not being met).

Combining this energy drain with the “Human” and therefore fallible factor suggests that a lack of forgiveness and a hurt ego are involved here and that conflict is at the root cause of the depletion.

There’s a famous dance, it’s called the tango… it’s full of passion and angst. She pushes him away, they struggle and strut, he drags her back, spins her around etc… it’s all very dramatic but the biggest problem with this dancer’s dual is that as spectacular as it looks to the outside world, when played out between two people as a real life struggle with real life aggression and ego involved, the dance has anything but a beautiful ending, the symbolic red rose held between the teeth of one of the participants ends up chewed up and spat out and the two dualists, through a lack of that forgiveness, end up exhausted having squandered vital resources defending their position.

Of course there is another layer to the combination that only occurred to me last night and that is that all the petty disputes and quarrels between family, loved ones, partners etc. mean exactly squat when someone gets sick… poignant for me today.

I hope you have the opportunity to embrace the forgiveness needed this week before drastic intervention puts everything in perspective for you.

More next week… x