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How To Handle The Downside Of Upleveling

I have to admit I really don’t this term that has become the watchword for raising your game and your vibration. What I’ve discovered I like even less are the potential pitfalls of the process, so here’s how to handle the downside of upleveling…

Growth happens in fits and starts in most forms of life, it is cyclical. That means that there is a stage of discomfort followed by a death of what was, a recovery phase that morphs into a growth spurt and eventually an adaptation stage which allows you to get used to and comfortable with the new level of living.

This cyclical pattern is recognisable in all forms of nature but we as human beings are really bad at consciously recognising which stage we are in or indeed honouring it as a natural part of our own evolution. We rebel against the discomfort of stagnation, we rebel against the letting go (Principle 5) required for death of the old to occur, we rebel against growth favouring what was comfortable and we rebel against the concept of acceptance (Principle 7), at least at first. This rebellion is based around the desire to control the uncontrollable (Principle 2) and the need to find meaning in chaos.

Here’s is how my guides explained it to me in order that I could get with the programme and navigate the excruciating parts of personal transformation:

You want change. We know you do because you have asked for so much, longed for so many new and expansive experiences. We want that for you too, but in order to be more, you must let go of the known and shed the skin of who you once were. You must effectively die to the old self in order to allow a new version of you to be born. You cannot live in the confines of self-imposed restriction with your wings pinned and fly among the high one’s at the same time.

In basic terms if you want to meet people, you have to go where the people are, if you want to learn new things you have to admit you don’t know them… discomfort is the natural predecessor of change and so your comfort zone is going to have to be exited.

If you want to know how to handle the downside of upleveling then you have to get comfortable with your own discomfort. you have to have your eye on your target and understand that the space between where you are and where it exists is an unknown quantity, so you are going to have to get brave, really brave! You are going to have show the universe that the thing you want, the state of being you desire, is worth the risk of feeling like you are out there on a limb, walking a path that may present as if nobody has every walked it before. You are going to have to accept that those you have walked beside might not want to come with you and so you are going to have to dig deep into your well of self-sufficiency to use solitude as a powerhouse for inspiration so that you don’t give into the loneliness of the narrow path ahead. And you are going to have to commit, I mean really commit to moving through the darkness with only your own light to lead the way.

The last stage of the journey is adaptation. This comes when we accept that there is no way back to the place where you began. You don’t belong there any more so you may as well make the most of this new place, this new level of evolvement. It begins with acceptance that nothing is ever going to be the same… and there it is, the key concept in how to handle the downside of upleveling is: acceptance.

Given time, you won’t even remember what all the fuss was about. This new you will eventually become the new normal… and then you’re going to start the process again.

Love Jo x

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August’s oracle – The Confidence to Grow

August’s Oracle – The Confidence to Grow, describes this combination from the Intuitive Chalice Oracle, which coincides with the launch of my new book, “Self-Full Living Workbook.” Strange then that it speaks to the confidence needed to be real in the face of potential praise or indeed criticism, the opposite ends of the spectrum when allowing yourself to be seen.

Principle 2: I AM Detached, keeps us fully present with what is. This is especially true for the tendency to project your expectations into the future or haul your experiences from the past, but there is also a lateral tendency the interlocks with Principle 4: I AM truth. This brings our focus back from attaching to other peoples potential reactions.

Detachment is the art of letting go of what you cannot control, with grace and with humility. Combine that with the vivid yellow of the Solar Plexus, aka the seat of personal power, you are led to the confidence to grow into whatever life’s next adventure might be.

Time moves in a linear fashion for us humans, and that straight line means that whatever you just did is already in the past. Now is a good time to honour your acheivement, of having completed it, learned from it, had fun with it, grown as a result of it… and then let it go to establish a life of it’s own, one where your happiness, confidence and wellbeing are neither dependent on it nor defined by it.

Let your next step be the one that inspires you and fills you with joy and excitement. Let your last step be the learning you needed to keep growing beyond what has been possible so far. There is no limit to your potential other than the limit you place on yourself… make sure you do not let your lateral and temporal vision distract you from the purpose of your endeavors, or your potential to be a guiding light for others who may well be following along your path.

You’re allowed to SHINE!

Jo x

Weekly Oracle – Rewrite The Rulebook

As an oracle, it is the purpose of The Intuitive Chalice to map the flow of energy for the coming period, in this case the week ahead. It’s purpose is not to divine outcomes but rather to pre-empt potential opportunities to use the Wholly Grail’s Principles in order to elicit a more peaceful, powerful you. This week’s combination is suggesting that you rewrite the rulebook to create more freedom in your life.

Peace is a long-term objective here and unfortunately will likely be preceded by much upheaval before the new way of being is assimilated and fully normalised.

Principle 5: I AM Liberated, takes the idea of ownership and highlights where the things you own begin to own you but also that the structures and guidelines that you either set or bought into have become too restrictive and in some form have morphed into your own personal prison.

When we add the royal blue throat chakra into the mix there are questions surrounding how we communicate and what truth we are attempting to share.

The week ahead seems to be a time when you are realising that what was once true for you is now an uncomfortable shadow of who you used to be and that living by the same rules and retelling your old story is no longer authentic to who you have become.

Setting yourself free, essentially liberating yourself from the confines of the old box, is going to require you to start telling a new story… one which you may not know all the details of yet but what you do know is that you aren’t that same person anymore and accepting the same level of engagement from those around you won’t wash anymore.

There will be losses and that has to be okay if you want to be all you can be. Growth means shedding the old skin and that’s not always a pretty process.

Rewriting the rulebook could include anything from rebranding your business to starting a new one altogether that is more in line with your newly evolving soul position. It might mean asking for a raise at work, demanding more from a relationship, saying no to the demands of others, etc. One thing is for sure: how you express yourself at this time is key establishing the new framework by which you intend to reference your position within your own life. Reinvention means nothing if the outer expression is the same.

You tell the story of who you are and of who you are becoming… if you want others to adhere to the new rules, you need to know what they are (and enforce them).

Rewrite the rulebook from a place of compassion, but for yourself foremost.

If you would like help in shedding your skin and breaking out of the old life you can book a breakthrough session with me here.

More later… x

She Served Me Well, Now Let Her Die

Interesting title for a Monday morning don’t you think? This is a concept that last week became so clear to me, almost in stark contrast to the understanding I’ve integrated through years of self-discovery, but it’s an all-over liberating feeling.

Who I have been, where I have been, what I have done and achieved or not achieved, that version on of me no longer exists… she served me well, now let her die.

Nobody panic. I’m not about to shuffle off the mortal coil (at least I hope not). This simple statement is a testament to an even simpler truth: I’ve evolved.

We mostly begin new situations with a resume or curriculum vitae of what entitles you to be here, as if breathing requires justification or certification of competence but in so reciting your life experience you dwell on past manifestations of yourself and you quite frankly can’t be that person again. It’s like attempting to fill a glass from a fast flowing river with the exact same water twice… once it’s passed you by its gone forever.

Letting the old self die is a celebration of growth not a thing to be mourned. You have been gifted with knowledge and wisdom, skills and life hacks as a result of the experiences you have traversed, but if you are looking now to experience a new set of circumstances in your life then you simply cannot keep telling the old story of you.

Today was created from yesterday, if you keep repeating yesterday’s story then tomorrow will look exactly like today. That’s terrific if today is exactly what you hoped your life would look like but after a while stagnation will ruin even your most precious dream…

Just like the fast flowing river we are meant to flow to the ocean, which then evaporates and makes clouds, which fall as rain and start a new cycle all over again. The fresh rain doesn’t keep banging on about what happened when it used to be the vast ocean and the ocean appreciates but never mentions the rain.

Who you are today needs no excuses, no justification, no preamble… let your innate kindness, light and loving heart speak for itself. Let your wit and wisdom keep pace with the pack… a history can be exaggerated but a genuine intent always finds its place.

She served me well, now let her die.

Principles 2 and 4.

More later… x

Carefully Handling My Wobbly Bits

Despite the title I assure you that this is a spiritual/self-awareness post, honest…

As I write this I’m preparing a lesson for a meditation class about creating change. I am experiencing unprecedented internal transformation at present and the process feels very comfortable for the most part simply because, having dived into the depths of self I have faced the true nature of what it is I actually wish to change in my life…

Over the last couple of days though I have had an unusually high number of conversations with friends, colleagues, and clients who are frantically transforming the external decor… from hair and wardrobe to phone and vehicle to address and interior design. Then last night it occurred to me that I too had been browsing the old paint swatches looking for the right hue to brighten up my living environment. What’s going on?

It’s simple. We grow or we die… growth is change.

The dilemma arrives when we use external change to temporarily numb the issues that are really requiring our attention. These sweeping statements of material upgrade are our 3rd dimensional attempt to force the new in our lives.

Change is always happening, but you cannot always see what is being morphed into a new and unfamiliar shape, causing apprehension and internal wobble, so we do what we can to imitate control over our lives to give ourselves the reassurance that change is good when in effect it is neither good nor bad it is simply necessary for growth, for survival.

I’ve decided that slapping some paint on the kitchen is a harmless way of carefully handling my wobbly bits while ever I’m conscious that that’s all it is.  So go forth and dye your hair, clear out your wardrobe, redesign your garden… whatever floats your boat in the moment… but don’t hide from the truth of what’s really requiring your attention underneath the surface glitter.

… And speaking of hair, let’s keep it positive today people!

More later… x

P.S. if you would like to explore what’s really ripe for transformation then my brand new Path of Petals course is starting in early March.  Check out Training and Courses on main menu.

The Most Significant Other

Directly ahead of you is a gateway. Story has it this ancient portal is enchanted and all who cross the threshold shall be changed forever. None that cross have ever returned, so then nobody can verify the truth of this faerie tale…

You have options now: the magical doorway to who knows where or, the path back from whence you came. One thing’s for certain, you may only remain here in this place between places for a short amount of time… time is a mysterious creature whom it would appear is eating up the path behind you as history disappears into myth and legend and as the monster eats, so too do your options slide into an irrevocable darkness that will continue to exist only within the recesses of your mind and memory.

It glows ahead of you, this slice through the fabric of reality, offering enticement to the uninitiated, promises of gold and fame, love and adoration, a path where all lack is left behind in the other dimension… this one, the one from which you have not yet dared step, but beware, beyond this gateway, secrets become realities and those daydreams of reward are merely that… or are they?

And the monster that is time is fast approaching. Will you, won’t you, step through the doorway of promises and dreams?

All who pass here must do so unarmed, naked and vulnerable, for this is a gateway of the soul, an initiation to burn away the lower heavy nature of the ego, of fear and of fight… only love shall pass this floral framed temporal aperture into a new day, beyond the dark moon, beyond the dark night…

What waits beyond the threshold? Step through with certainty that to pass through to the other side is to meet the most significant other that shall ever grace your path… for who you shall become awaits beyond the glow of tomorrow and I for one would love to meet her…

More later… x

Symbol of My Success

Many years ago when I first began my formal spiritual education, my then teacher, a wise old bird by the name of Janet instructed me and a group of fellow meditatees (not sure that’s even a word but I like it) to plant a seed symbolically in our minds that each time we entered a visualisation we should water, nurture, care for and tend. After several weeks most of the group had grown various beautiful flowers but me, I managed unintentionally to grow a mighty tree. Now you might imagine it was a sturdy oak as that’s an obvious statement of strength, health, longevity and ancient wisdom but no, mine was a pear tree.

This tree grew strong and contained many messages for me, for example often I would visit the tree and a ribbon would be tied around the trunk, the colour of which, as a colour therapist, had varied and poignant meanings. Wildlife used the tree as a haven and they too provided wisdom through their totem interpretations, all of which helped to shape and guide my growth and development. The most significant symbol within that sacred tree though was one solitary pear… the idea that my hard work would pay off and bare fruit.

The health, strength and even the survival of that magnificent pear tree were totally at my mercy in those early days and this week the tree has shown up for me again, bearing a single pear and asking for me to nurture its growth. It’s roots are strong, its grown exponentially in stature and that singular fruit is my only true goal… but to bring that fruit into reality I now have to mirror the techniques of watering, caring, nurturing and tending first for myself and then for my goal, that it too may bare fruit.

That pear has always been the symbol of my success.

This week I’m intending to let the pear be my guide as I explore with you simple steps to Self-Full Living, that you may also be watered, nurtured, cared for and tended… refuelled and ready to bring your goals into the light.

Are you ready for a week of exploring Principle 6: I AM Self-Full?

Watch for the pear… x

A Simple Trick To It

Are you fulfilling your potential? Actually whilst we’re on the subject do you even know what your potential is? It’s something that is often mistakenly compared to success and can be the cause of great sadness if you are wandering around in a personal wilderness asking yourself the question “oh where oh where has my potential gone?” as if it’s a thing that can be lost or for that matter defined by another person…

Potential means not yet discovered, limitless possibilities waiting to be tested and boundaries waiting to be pushed, smashed even. Potential is the moment before the truth becomes apparent.

Sadness arrives when when you refuse to try… as a Grail Knight, it may be your potential to battle and tame dragons, build castles, or in real terms overcome your fears, turn them into allies and create a life full of joy, peace and abundance that is impervious to outside opinion or criticism, but the world keeps telling you that you should live up to your elusive potential and you keep listening (and feeling somewhat inadequate as a result) don’t you? That’s because you are waiting to be defined by another, by the media, by the job title you hold, by a partner, a parent etc… but here’s the thing, it’s your potential not theirs.

If you want to start exploring what yours might be there is a simple trick to it, do more than you did last time. Go further than you did last time, learn something that you didn’t know yesterday, create because your heart wants to, explore possibility and don’t be tempted to define it… You don’t know what your potential is because you haven’t reached it yet and that’s because the limits to what’s possible change every day… it’s called growth. Sadness happens when you accept that what you achieved yesterday is all you can do. Wrong. What you achieved yesterday was all you could do yesterday… today is a brand new day.

Principle 4: I AM Truth… but my truth, like my potential is not fixed… and I reserve the right to evolve.

More later…x

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