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Weekly Oracle – You Have To Keep Listening

Last week’s oracle never made it to being published on the site. The cards were selected, the subject matter considered at length… and then life got in the way. What I can tell you is that the royal blue throat chakra that appears in this week’s combination was the focus of last week’s cards too. Obviously it has something important you need to hear… and that’s kind of the point: you have to keep listening.

The appearance of the throat chakra in The Sacred Chalice Oracle represents self-expression, communication in all its forms and the ability to transmit truth between beings. Whether that communication is written, spoken, gestured or symbolized is irrelevant and the quality of the message being shared is the blessing that requires attention.

When we pair this powerful energy centre with Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, there is an emphasis on the free-flowing nature of unobstructed heart-centred communication and in particular your ability to receive it in the context with which it was intended.

We put limitations on what we are willing to hear, how we are willing to hear it and how we interpret the essence of the message, always based our level of understanding (which falls under the remit of another Grail Principle but they often work in unison with each other hence the beauty and complexity of The Wholly Grail). It is our ability to fully receive what is being offered to us as a gift to aid our own growth and understanding that forms the basis of the incoming energy this week. Can you listen without prejudice to the heart of another?

Principle 7 asks us to give and receive in equal measure so it’s worth noting that if you want to be heard, you first must listen. Listening to what another is trying to communicate, often in the only way they know how, or the only way they feel they can at present is a gift you can offer them and yourself… you do not have to react, respond or take any of what is expressed personally, (the essence of last week’s missing oracle combination in fact), instead seek only to understand and allow for connection to grow.

It is my belief that trust is built on open two-way communication so you have to keep listening. Use this week to reassure loved one’s that you still are, no matter how hard the message that’s trying to get through.

More later… x

Weekly Oracle – To Everyone’s Benefit

I love the energy of this combination, it feels comforting and caring like the sensual pillow talk of committed lovers, where no subject is off limits and everyone feels safe enough to be heard and not judged… communication to everyone’s benefit.

When Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted shows up, it wants to remind you of the need for balanced giving and receiving in all things. The heart’s capacity for flow is endless, the more it gives the more receptive it becomes so long as that giving is without any other agenda than love.

Love is a universal energy that cannot be contained, so an open heart allows that abundance to move freely between recipients.

When we pair this Principle to the royal blue throat chakra, we corral this flow of love into its communication form allowing us to speak from a loving perspective and to listen with a loving perspective. 

When lovers communicate in the sanctity of relationship, they do so under the unwritten rule that that level of intimacy is private, sacred, and that whatever is said will remain safe in the heart of the other.

The week ahead is a time where heartfelt mutual conversation can take place, that allows intimacy to flow between two hearts, giving each an opportunity to express what has been locked beneath the surface for some time. This doesn’t have to occur between lovers, it can be between friends, family, colleagues, etc, the theme being: “I feel heard and in return I hear you.”

This, to everyone’s benefit.

Drop the agendas, just allow honesty to flow without pretension or fear of judgement. The heart already knows what the throat chakra wants to express and have mirrored back through the filter of your chosen partner in this dance.

More later… x

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First Monday Challenge – I’s, You’s, We’s

I realise it’s been several months since I wrote a First Monday of The Month Challenge but I felt compelled to get back in the game today, not because I feel you need challenging of course, life does that for you, but rather because I feel challenged myself.

The theme here is emotional honesty without responsibility. Responsibility for how others perceive your expression of personal thoughts, feelings and heart stirrings, even when they are illogical, irrational and appear at first glance to affect another being. Your thoughts and feelings need no explanation but the way in which you communicate them may be the key to allowing others a peek under the bonnet without feeling threatened by what they see or hear and may also be instrumental in opening the door to more authentic and intimate relating.

I is the most profound and powerful opening statement you can use during authentic discourse. I want, I feel, I think, I AM… all of these take responsibility for self and ownership of what’s being expressed, whereas if your conversation commences with You, you effectively place responsibility upon another. Rightly or wrongly this can be an inflammatory start to an interaction. Likewise, We, means you have decided to speak for another and made an assumption that they think, feel or choose the same as you do… also inflammatory if done without consent.

Now I’ve got that out of the way, I can get to the challenge, or at least what I am finding challenging: people who tell me how I feel, what I think and what I should want. More challenging though is when those same people go on to further accuse that those feelings, thoughts and wants (that they have decided for me) are having some form of impact upon their lives… at no point being forthcoming about their own thoughts, feelings, wants and behaviours, which are somehow wrapped up and disguised in the projections they already attributed as being all mine!

Here is the thing, nobody knows how anyone else will react in any given situation, nobody has the inside info on the prognosis of any particular interaction or unfolding. Regardless of what you learn or witness in another, unless you are God you have no real understanding of what drives, motivates or even puts the brakes on for anybody else and so all you can really do is be open, be honest, stay in your own lane, take ownership of and responsibility for your own feelings, thoughts and choices and communicate them authentically in the first person, compassionately and gently without placing or accepting fault or blame which are basically diversionary tactics that delay the crucial information being shared, heard and understood.

The only way to know if you are on the same page is to acknowledge openly which page you are on and listen without prejudice to which page the other is currently contemplating.

If you aren’t prepared to share your “I’s” your “You’s” will never become successful “We’s.” That’s perfectly fine, but for the sake of everyone involved, communicate that too, (it’s okay to be reading a completely different book).

Principles 3, 4 & 7

More later… x

Saturday Oracle – Trigger Happy

Consider this week’s combination an early intervention. When Principle 2: I AM Detached does the tango with the royal blue throat chakra, chances are that your sensitivity is exaggerated and you are about to get triggered by someone’s thoughtless (or deliberate) words… and you aren’t going to be happy!

Perhaps the title is actually the antithesis of what this week is about but that’s because it’s advice rather than a prediction. You see, if you take the advice of Principle 2 and get detached and stay present in the moment with what is, then being triggered by a statement or comment from another is far less likely.

Communication is a tricky business when hidden agendas, egos and personal wounds are involved, that’s why this is a week where you should endeavour to take everything at face value and not read into or between the lines of any information coming your way… at the same time you should aim for your own verbal or written offerings to be immaculate in content so as not to press buttons or be misunderstood or misinterpreted by others.

At the end of the day you control your own reactions so take a moment when a trigger steals your happy to check in on reality:

This is also a week where responding rather than reacting to a trigger with respect, kindness and compassion for self and the person who presented you with this unique opportunity for healing can actually be a genuine moment for connection and understanding.

In order to do this you must first understand that the throat chakra relates to all aspects of communicating: both speaking and listening. When you choose to listen with your heart (which is just another way of saying from a compassionate perspective) you begin to understand far more than you would from an analytical point of view.

Though I recommended taking everything at face value so as not to take anything personally this week, the alternative is to look far deeper but remember that everything you hear is a reflection of the wounds and triggers of the orator rather than being about you. This is not an excuse to use this insight to harm the delivered of the message but rather to initiate a truly open channel for healing.

The Oracle at Delphi says above the entrance “Know Thyself.” If you understand where and what your triggers are then they can no longer be sore spots that cause pain and instead become deep wells filled with wisdom… then you will always be Trigger Happy.

More next week… x

Saturday Oracle – Shine A Light On It

They say the truth will set you free and this combination is the gateway to illuminating what that truth might be as we shine a light on it.

Principle 4: I AM Truth, teaming up with the Royal Blue throat chakra is a double whammy on the honesty and authenticity front. As we step into the week ahead it is imperative that you are clear, firstly about what your own needs are and secondly in how you communicate those needs to others.

Verbal brilliance is required in order to get your needs met. Not in a dazzlingly supercilious way, but in a simple, concise and frank account of the elements involved. Be who you are. There is no reason to dress up your intentions or beat around the bush. Everyone involved will be relieved by the simplicity of having all the facts at hand.

There is a secondary meaning in this combination and that is: you don’t know what you don’t know… there is a good chance that your burning questions will be answered this week as you connect with someone who can “shine a light on it” for you. New information may throw up more questions and you should be right up front about asking them.

The energy of the week is efficient, matter of fact, organised and fast paced… you will stay in the driver’s seat while you stay true to yourself and make sure everyone knows they stand.

Wishing you verbal brilliance all week long… x

Ps. Grail insights may be thin on the ground for a little while as I deal with some close to home issues that require my attention. Back soon. Please share this post (as I don’t have time right now) x

Weekend Wonderment – Navigating The Narrowest Channel

(Reposted from June 30th)

The path of least resistance isn’t always obvious until you step foot upon it. Oftentimes we agonize over the choices laid out before us, trying to discern between a rock and a hard place but usually between a rock and a hard place is sliver of light, a chink in the armour of reality that we observe as the boarder or boundary between options instead of an option in its own right. Navigating the narrowest channel is simply a matter of taking the brakes off and allowing Source to carry you toward the next set of options.

Take communications between two parties for example. In difficult situations where there appears to be much at stake and neither side is entirely sure of how the other will react to direct approach; face to face negotiation/reconciliation has proven a logistical improbability, convenience, timezones, the rising expectations versus many misunderstandings making phone calls potentially explosive interactions, what does it leave? A narrow channel of creative expression written in the name of universal wisdom (Principle 4: I AM Truth) in hope that the target audience may be paying attention? It might not be a guaranteed option but it is certainly the path of least resistance until such time that another option or opportunity presents itself.

Sometimes that channel becomes so tight though, cutting off parts of the previously available slipstream, that the path of least resistance begins to change direction. In the communication scenario, supposing that the information, however limited it may previously have been, becomes obscured or hidden from view? Less universal and accessible? Communication may slow to a drip or completely unless the embargo is somehow lifted or another way around the obstacles is found.

Perhaps in this case the path of least resistance is to let go completely and accept that all good things come to an end. Source has a plan and when obstacles keep showing up to block your progress maybe it isn’t just another test, maybe it’s a celestial stop sign, like an oracle or omen you cannot read, or a map that doesn’t show north.

For my own journey, currently filled with new learning and potential in many areas, the path of least resistance in others has begun to narrow significantly. Though the slipstream still exists and a miracle is still possible, if the messages cannot get through the magic stops.

I’m optimistic that God will show me a new path, a wider path with increased incoming flow (Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted)… whether that flow will come from the same origin or a new source of inspiration I don’t know, but I’m open to surfing the channel that has least resistance… for too long I’ve been trying to fight against a current that’s been flowing in opposition to my chosen destination but I cannot fight no current at all.

A rock, a hard place, the path of least resistance… what’s your chosen path this weekend?

More later… x

 

 

Saturday Oracle – The Language Of Self-Love

You’ve be been on an inward journey lately, not that those around you will have noticed. This particular spiritual pilgrimage into your most heartfelt hopes and dreams has caused you to reassess, re-evaluate, redefine and refine what you want from the next phase of your life. That sharpening of focus has helped you to understand where you have compromised your own needs, perhaps through the fear of what others may think, or through fear of what might have to be transformed for you to embrace true success.

Success doesn’t look like what you imagine others think it should look like… but you’re assuming you know what others think.

This week’s combination has Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, partnering with the linguistic acuity of the royal blue throat chakra, centering our oracle message on the need to communicate clearly ones own needs.

During the recent period of reflection you may have stumbled upon clarity about the goal but you will also have a greater understanding about the fact that we rarely achieve our dreams alone, and that often a vision of success includes others. The trick is to get everyone on the same page, pulling in the same direction and whatever other cheesy sayings mean working together to achieve the same outcome.

Now the fact that being Self-Full requires you to consider your own needs, has may of us scrambling for cooperation because we somehow mistake Self-Fullness for selfishness, this is wrapped up in a low self-esteem and depleted sense of self-worth. We all deserve to have our needs met. Unfortunately we feel it necessary to skirt around the issues and use subtle manipulation instead of just simply asking, as a result of this egoic deficiency.

Selfishness is expecting your needs to be met at the expense of someone else’s… but what if your needs are mutual? How will you know if your needs are mutual unless you risk being vulnerable and actually state what you really want require or desire?

This week is the time to stop beating around the bush and tell those that matter, that are crucial to your success, whatever that looks like, how important they are in the plan and what you need from them. Then ask them if they are willing to be the yin to your yang or the yang to your yin… you will never know if you don’t ask.

The language of self-love usually starts with “This is how I feel, and this is what I want.” It’s gentle, clear, honest and simple. To get your needs met, everyone relevant needs to know what your needs are.

Happy Self-Full Summit Week… x

 

 

Saturday Oracle – Devoid of All Chattels

Grail Oracle 5Grail Oracle Blue

Imagine for a moment that you were devoid of all chattels… all earthly possessions, status, history, etc. Who would you be?

As the effects of yesterday’s eclipsed full moon in pieces drift away we still have a few days left in Mercury’s retrograde grip before the tight hold on our communicative skills is lifted… but before that happens you are being given a rare opportunity…

Now is the time to say what needs saying, no holds barred, allowing your words to be guided, not by need, or by results, or the expectation that they will pay dividends but because it’s been held within you for fear of loss for so long.

I’m not suggesting for a moment that words don’t have consequences, indeed they are mightier than the proverbial sword, the consequences are not yet written but the result of withholding is and has been all too evident.

Principle 5: I AM Liberated, combined with the royal blue of the throat chakra is charging your oracle this week with final stages of the portal to set yourself free.

Speak with compassion and don’t be afraid of what you might lose, you have far more to gain in your honesty, knowing that what comes was made by your magic and what stays was always meant to be yours. Belongs and status have nothing to do with humanity or wisdom… you matter, as do your thoughts and feelings.

More next week… x