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Understanding Your Motives – In It For The Long Game

There is an energy at present that centres around the culmination of a lot of years of focus. The potential now is so intense that whatever happens next is either the end of the beginning or the beginning of the end – make or break so to speak. That kind of intensity though can cloud judgment, force reactive behaviour and in some cases cause you to run towards an outcome or even away from it depending on your dominant archetypal energy.

Whatever this main focus of attention is, you can bet that all the other aspects of day to day life have taken a back seat and that imbalance is already occurring. (If you’re a member, I will be addressing this imbalance in the Seeker’s section this week. You can join for FREE here).

Here though, I would instead like to concentrate on one potential stressful factor that could become the trigger for one of those reactive behaviours: Have you forgotten why?

Understanding your motives for any action is the purest way to ensure you meet the challenge in a ‘success focused’ way.

Let’s take a new relationship as an example. Whether it be a romantic relationship or a business partnership or any other meeting of minds and hearts, it takes two parties to have the same agenda in order to bring about the desired outcome. Factor in free will, personal schedules, historical baggage, poor communication or misunderstandings and the whole process takes much longer.

Now baring in mind that we are feeling the universal flow bringing things to a pinnacle, all these trifles will no doubt be raising cortisol levels and pushing all the internal fear buttons… so now remember: “Why?”

You’re in it for the long game.

You’re not trying to get somewhere, this IS the relationship. It’s not where it is going but it is where it is, it is what it is, and what it is is growing… a work in progress, a masterpiece of manifestation. Look how far you’ve come.

The momentary surge of ‘now or never’ is just an illusion of time. The time is indeed right for this next step but this next step is simply another step in the story, beautiful now and heading towards many more beautiful things.

Be assured that what you feel under all the uncertainty, the reason you began this quest, that bit is real; the fear, the stress and the urgency are symptoms of insecurity that arise when your “what?” becomes the focus instead of your “why?”

Patience combined with the absolute clarity of the vision that began this journey will carry you through the next few days… and then the next part of the adventure will commence… it has been promised.

Principle 2: I AM Detached

More later… x

 

Saturday Oracle – Being All In

Difficult decisions can only be made once you understand what motivates your choices.

We make arrangements, agreements, commitments spoken and unspoken, we fulfil responsibilities and obligations that these contracts, conscious and unconscious bring with them, but do we actually understand and honour the most sacred contract there is? That is the one we have to ourselves.

This week’s oracle teams up Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, with the emerald green of the heart chakra to highlight for us this fundamental and yet often neglected vow of taking care of our own needs.

Ask yourself as you step into the week ahead who you are doing it for? Who you get out of bed for, go to work for, cook for, make yourself beautiful for? Ask who you cry for, smile for, yearn for and strive for? You will come up with many answers from your kids to your boss to your clients to your lover to your dog… but the ultimate truth is you do it for you.

Your kids bring you joy, love, a sense of continuity and even immortality. Your boss is just the guy or girl that pays the wages that fund your lifestyle. Your clients’ happiness gives you a sense of fulfilment and purpose. Your lover makes you feel special (hopefully), provides physical attention and acts a mirror to your hopes, dreams and aspirations, as well as fulfilling your need for connection and companionship and that urge to pair off that dates back to Adam and Eve, and was fortified by Noah’s deliberate loading strategy for his big wooden boat thing. Your dog… well who knows why we humans are so attached to four-legged furry things but it’s mostly because they love you unconditionally for who you are no matter how shit your hair looks or whether you’re a flatulent toad in your down time. At the route of every obligation, contract or commitment is the fact that it benefits YOU!

Now that we’ve cleared that up, give yourself a little while to let it percolate and come at this oracle afresh.

Self-Full Living is the art of providing for one’s own needs. You either do it consciously or unconsciously.

The heart chakra is the centre of balance in the energy system, it’s the healing heart where unconditional love comes from, it provides a safe space in which to exist, that’s what it means to hold someone in your heart, you give them a space to heal, to be whole. Now imagine for a moment that you are the person you are holding within that centre of life affirming, healing love… everything you do this week must be about you so take that temporary time out, let it breathe (whatever it is) whilst you have a word with yourself about your motives.

Commitment is an all or nothing deal. Fear is the enemy of commitment. Maybe, you’re afraid of losing? Maybe you’re afraid of winning? Maybe you’re afraid of losing yourself in the vastness of a love so deep and so powerful that it consumes you? But it’s your love… The love you lavish upon yourself. Whatever you pour it into, whoever you pour it into, you ultimately are pouring into yourself. Do you love yourself enough to give life and love your best shot?

Take the time, make the space, and then asked the question…

Am I all in?

Because if you’re not all in, you’re out.

More next week… x