Tag Archives: Internal Shift

That One Thing You Do

(Reposted from July 5th)

I’ve been exploring for myself the polar opposites of resistance and receptivity over the last couple of days and its thrown up some evidence of the route to what can only be described as my joy zone.

I don’t know that I ever really saw it as a tangible thing before, a place even, but I’ve noticed that it has distinct walls and boundaries like a huge castle with a drawbridge, a moat and everything. Imagine if you will the very tentative steps you might take across the rickety wooden, (rotten in some places) bridge, over a muddy moat full of goodness knows what, obviously an analogy for your deep emotions, some of which are hidden even from you; passing beneath a gargantuan rusting portcullis that noisily begins to lower as you enter into this space that is protected from that stuff on the outside.

Does this sound like the joy zone or does it sound like a giant prison of your own making and not much fun at all?

That one thing you do – that image that you create – that scene that you set, it’s the difference between resistance to the journey and receptivity of the adventure… The difference between opening your heart to the unknown or running from it… The difference between finding the joy or embracing the fear.

Imagine now if you will a huge bouncy castle, a rainbow of sunny colours making up its walls. It is afloat at the centre of an azure blue swimming pool, the drawbridge is made from plastic inflatable stepping stones that threaten to tip you splashing into the blue beneath if you so much as put one foot wrong… The bouncy castle sports a plastic zip up entry flap to keep its guests from falling out all over the place which will be securely fastened the moment you cross its threshold…

Now tell me the truth… you’ve already got your swimming costume on haven’t you?

The scene has exactly the same elements: castle, walls, sealed gate, precarious crossing and deep water… but add some colour to your imagination and the joy zone is much more enticing.

The joy zone is a place inside your mind, the external conditions are accepted or rejected according to how you perceive from your current state of receptivity… i.e. you add the colour.

I’ve got to admit, my castle isn’t always bouncy but that doesn’t mean I won’t find joy in it… if you are looking for joy, you will find it… providing you’re looking past the external conditions towards that one thing you do.

Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted

More later… x

Carefully Handling My Wobbly Bits

Despite the title I assure you that this is a spiritual/self-awareness post, honest…

As I write this I’m preparing a lesson for a meditation class about creating change. I am experiencing unprecedented internal transformation at present and the process feels very comfortable for the most part simply because, having dived into the depths of self I have faced the true nature of what it is I actually wish to change in my life…

Over the last couple of days though I have had an unusually high number of conversations with friends, colleagues, and clients who are frantically transforming the external decor… from hair and wardrobe to phone and vehicle to address and interior design. Then last night it occurred to me that I too had been browsing the old paint swatches looking for the right hue to brighten up my living environment. What’s going on?

It’s simple. We grow or we die… growth is change.

The dilemma arrives when we use external change to temporarily numb the issues that are really requiring our attention. These sweeping statements of material upgrade are our 3rd dimensional attempt to force the new in our lives.

Change is always happening, but you cannot always see what is being morphed into a new and unfamiliar shape, causing apprehension and internal wobble, so we do what we can to imitate control over our lives to give ourselves the reassurance that change is good when in effect it is neither good nor bad it is simply necessary for growth, for survival.

I’ve decided that slapping some paint on the kitchen is a harmless way of carefully handling my wobbly bits while ever I’m conscious that that’s all it is.  So go forth and dye your hair, clear out your wardrobe, redesign your garden… whatever floats your boat in the moment… but don’t hide from the truth of what’s really requiring your attention underneath the surface glitter.

… And speaking of hair, let’s keep it positive today people!

More later… x

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