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Don’t Take It With you – Find Freedom Through Forgiveness

Being able to find freedom through forgiveness sounds impossible when you are holding onto so much anger and resentment from whatever betrayal you feel has been perpetrated against you, but I’m asking you, for your own sake, please don’t take it with you into the next year.

As it happens, every single moment of every single day is an opportunity to begin again with a clean slate, but for some reason, we as a species have agreed upon the arbitrary date of January 1st to be the beginning of a new cycle (personally, I see the Solstice as being a more natural point but it matters not). This New Year then can be heavily symbolic of all our hopes and dreams for a fresh start.

The single biggest threat to your new beginning though, is your inability to let go of the past and to carry it and all its associated judgements with your into the next cycle.

I cannot imagine holding onto the pain of past disappointments and wearing them like a badge of honour as what I had to endure… who would that make me? Unforgiveness is a mark of victimhood long after the incident is long since gone. It is the repeat pattern of self-imposed torture and the reinvigorating of the painful emotions associated with what is no longer current… worse still, it is your complicity in continuing to wield the weapon that was originally used to harm you… you therefore repeatedly energetically self-harm on the behalf of your abuser who has nothing to do other than to sit back and enjoy your suffering if they are so inclined.

Forgiveness is a lesson not in divinity but in humanity. To be human is hard, its also terrifying at times because where once you, as a soul, were invincible and eternal, you have now been thrust into a fragile, vulnerable outer shell that appears to have a finite existence and no recollection of the truth of who you are or why you came. The separateness from those around you has you seeking to connect but scrambling to remain apart for fear that some of your finite resources might be usurped even if those resources are your energy and your reputation (and your pride and your false sense of the definition you have givien to yourself). You’ve lost perspective because you forgot that what hurts you hurts the whole and what hurts the whole ultimately hurts you and so you endeavour to perpetuate the bile of anger and spew it at those who hurt you… becoming a mirror of their actions instead of a transmuter of all lower vibrations… a light guiding others back to wholeness.

You didn’t come to carry pain, you came to expand through the experience of it and every other sensation, seemingly good or bad. You came to be a good student and a co-creative bridge-builder between heaven and earth… but you cannot build bridges whist you are burning them down and closing your heart to all experiences that might be reminiscent of something that turned sour once upon a time. Please don’t take it with you.

You do not have to invite the individual that caused you harm into your orbit again, you do not have to formally say the words “I forgive you” to them at all. Forgiveness is a deeply personal act of recognising the fallibility, frailty and vulnerability in another human being that caused them, always through fear, to act out, and then remembering the power within you to let go of what doesn’t serve your highest good and allow light back in to heal the space where the darkness was once poisoning you from the inside out.

How to find freedom through forgiveness will be the subject of one of the workshops I will be running in early 2020. If you haven’t managed to leave it behind in 2019 then I would be honoured to guide you through the healing process. Look out for details soon.

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Love Jo x

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Weekly Oracle – Unapologetically You

The expected, socially recognisable and acceptable version of you might be brought into question this week when you embrace your innate sexuality and sensuality in a drive to become more balanced between mind, body and spirit.

This shift is neither planned nor in any way contrived but instead flows from a natural healing of the rift between who you are and who the world assumes you to be, between the thought-led, over-analysing, living from the neck up version of you to the instinctual, vital, physical being that shifts fully into the realm of having a human experience.

Principle 3: I AM Human, is the aspect of The Wholly Grail that deals with forgiveness for the seemingly unacceptable traits and behaviours that we as human beings often display, but this is a surface representation of a much deeper truth held within this Principle, a truth that belies the social norm as a mere construct we invented so nobody would be offended or made to feel uncomfortable by other members of the species. The truth is that all behaviour stems from somewhere and from something, a trigger fuelled by either love or by fear, therefore nothing is ever actually wrong.

I must ask the question then: does the love of Self somehow overwrite the love of others or vice versa? (Just ponder it for a moment).

The vibrant orange of the sacral chakra is positively fizzing as this week progresses, bringing your natural sexy-self to the fore in ways that, in order to accommodate, you must turn a blind eye to the world’s expectations of you and shine out what has been hidden for an age… confidence, freedom, playfulness, alluring charm, flirty abandon… it’s time to be unapologetically you.

If it rains this week, consider taking off your shoes just to dance through the warm puddles… kiss like you mean it, beam smiles at strangers, let the wind blow your skirt up, go skinny dipping, make glorious love, dive deep into your senses…

… or you could stay locked in your headspace and thoughts that you will be judged for being vulgar and so forcibly removed from this Garden of Eden just because you took a huge bite of that big juicy apple and let the juice run down your chin whilst laughing your sexy arse off!

This week’s oracle is a reminder that you are perfect, beautiful, unique and capable of connecting with your whole being not just through a meeting of minds. Get back in your body and be unapologetically you.

More next week… x

What Would Love Do?

Joy is contagious. In order for that to be so, there must be somewhere for it to spread to. Sharing is an integral part of building relationships, families, communities, etc, the sharing of oneself and ones gifts and talents especially and sharing joy, more so.

Not everyone wants to share though. In some cases it would seem that some people are incapable of allowing others to participate in the spoils of happiness… you may have one of these people in your life, indeed you may even be one. Be gentle with this bruised soul for in excluding others from their joy they exclude themselves from the cumulative effect of group bliss… singularly, joy will dissipate quickly, but many contributors build the contagion’s potency until it becomes almost unstoppable.

The solitary victor shares joy only as a means to gloat: to express superiority, and sniffs at the joy and success of others. The solitary victor is competitive, derogatory, critical and judgmental, looking down upon the creations of those who may once have seen him or her as a role model… A Grail Knight? Of course… but a lost one. We are all Knights on a Grail pilgrimage just trying to get to a place of inner safety, peace and true joy… true joy not needing justification, quantification or validation.. it just is. The solitary victor perusing this overflowing cup from a fearful stance is not your enemy but instead is a wounded soul in need of love, so…

What would love do?

Principle 3: I AM Human simply requires forgiveness and Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted asks that love be given unconditionally, regardless of how hard someone makes it to love them.

More later… x

The Second Hurdle – Unravelling Forgiveness

In the last post we removed the time chasm from the healing process bringing God a step closer to your heart and you’re already on your way home… but four hurdles remain between you and the Grail. Today then let’s uncover the truth behind being human.

To truly forgive anyone including yourself involves letting go of the need to win. Failure is a comparison and comparison leads to inadequacy, inadequacy leads to low self-worth, and in an attempt to deflect that feeling of separation from God, which is what low self-worth actually is: believing you are separate from or less than the whole, leads to blame.

Blame, like time, is a redundant concept that holds you apart from your power, whether you blame yourself, someone else or even God is simply you expecting to see miracles whilst your eyes are closed. Everything in your world is a mirror of your perception of who you are in this moment… shit, that’s powerful magic! You created it all. Now instead of beating yourself up for the stuff you didn’t get just how you want it, take this masterpiece as a piece of living proof that its simply your perception that is flawed… now there is nothing to forgive is there?

I know, I know, what about the crap that others sling at you? The external illusory world is a mirror. You are the projection and it is the reflection. How others treat you is a perfect indicator of how you allow yourself to be treated… your perceived worth. You can choose to languish in self-pity because someone is treating you badly or you can choose to up your internal value by not putting up with it anymore. It’s not about them remember so if at this stage you want to stamp your feet and say “I refuse to tolerate your behaviour…” then you will get one of two reactions (reactions means mirror to your actions), the first being they may recognise they have acted  in a deplorable manner and immediately change their ways and the second being them seeing your statement about what you refuse to tolerate as a challenge and so doling out more of the same to test your integrity.

We kick and scream and stamp our feet against injustice in that attempt to win, to be seen as right and in our need to place blame, we want others to take responsibility for their behaviour towards us because then we’ll feel vindicated or worse still, justified in our administering of punishment, but none of this will free us, or get us over the second hurdle – unravelling forgiveness. Master Jesus asked us to turn the other cheek. It’s not weak, it’s not running away, it’s simply accepting that every projection of how this failure, wound or slight is affecting you is creating a sharper reflection…

Forgiveness is letting go, moving on, closing the wound without the need for the action to be acknowledged, commiserated, celebrated or the scar in anyway drawn attention to.  The words “I forgive you” will not heal you if they are said with the expectation of gratitude. Let your actions speak and allow the degradation perpetrated by others be a reflection of their integrity not yours… walk away, go in peace.

Principle 3: I AM Human

More later… x