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February’s Oracle – Feeling Human Again

It’s a combination that I didn’t know when I selected the cards, would resonate so keenly in the month ahead. Joining together the energies of fallibility, even vulnerability with the gentle brush of compassion, this month’s Intuitive Chalice Oracle is asking us to keep our hearts open to healing until we start feeling human again.

Usually the combination of forgiveness and the healing of emotions brought on by either our own failure or the triggering acts of another, Principle 3: I AM Human asks you see the divinity behind the mask of frailty. I also asks that you honour that existence in the material plane demands that we learn through making mistakes and sometimes those mistakes hurt us or others.

The heart chakra has a magical quality when we allow it to open fully to unconditional forgiveness, because through time and compassion, through understanding and gentle letting go, it re-orients to the divine in every being. It is only in the seat of the ego that unforgiveness remains beyond the higher perspective of witnessing all humanity as children learning.

As I write this evaluation of the energies for the coming month, I am grieving. A shock, sudden departure from this world of a deep love, has me considering the most beautiful aspects of humanity even when the physical truth was less than desirable. All our brothers and sisters deserve our love and compassion and we deserve it for ourselves. Freedom exists in knowing what to hold onto and when suffering is a choice of simply letting go. Love remains and even increases beyond and behind the mask of humanity because there is no barrier or ego to impede its natural flow.

As you step through February, be mindful of the grudges you carry, the hurts you hold onto, the scars you use as badges of honour and the venom you use as a battle cry. It will not lift you to the place of peace you wish to reside in. Revenge will not bring you inner calm and the sanctuary of angelic wings to enfold you, it will bring you only separation from the most precious commodity that human beings have to trade, and that is love.

Forgive everyone, start with yourself. Offer love instead of anger or fearful rebukes. Now is the time to empty the poisoned chalice and refill it with that which serves your highest purpose… you were made to be a pure clear channel for light. You’ll soon be feeling human again.

Love, Jo x

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Don’t Take It With you – Find Freedom Through Forgiveness

Being able to find freedom through forgiveness sounds impossible when you are holding onto so much anger and resentment from whatever betrayal you feel has been perpetrated against you, but I’m asking you, for your own sake, please don’t take it with you into the next year.

As it happens, every single moment of every single day is an opportunity to begin again with a clean slate, but for some reason, we as a species have agreed upon the arbitrary date of January 1st to be the beginning of a new cycle (personally, I see the Solstice as being a more natural point but it matters not). This New Year then can be heavily symbolic of all our hopes and dreams for a fresh start.

The single biggest threat to your new beginning though, is your inability to let go of the past and to carry it and all its associated judgements with your into the next cycle.

I cannot imagine holding onto the pain of past disappointments and wearing them like a badge of honour as what I had to endure… who would that make me? Unforgiveness is a mark of victimhood long after the incident is long since gone. It is the repeat pattern of self-imposed torture and the reinvigorating of the painful emotions associated with what is no longer current… worse still, it is your complicity in continuing to wield the weapon that was originally used to harm you… you therefore repeatedly energetically self-harm on the behalf of your abuser who has nothing to do other than to sit back and enjoy your suffering if they are so inclined.

Forgiveness is a lesson not in divinity but in humanity. To be human is hard, its also terrifying at times because where once you, as a soul, were invincible and eternal, you have now been thrust into a fragile, vulnerable outer shell that appears to have a finite existence and no recollection of the truth of who you are or why you came. The separateness from those around you has you seeking to connect but scrambling to remain apart for fear that some of your finite resources might be usurped even if those resources are your energy and your reputation (and your pride and your false sense of the definition you have givien to yourself). You’ve lost perspective because you forgot that what hurts you hurts the whole and what hurts the whole ultimately hurts you and so you endeavour to perpetuate the bile of anger and spew it at those who hurt you… becoming a mirror of their actions instead of a transmuter of all lower vibrations… a light guiding others back to wholeness.

You didn’t come to carry pain, you came to expand through the experience of it and every other sensation, seemingly good or bad. You came to be a good student and a co-creative bridge-builder between heaven and earth… but you cannot build bridges whist you are burning them down and closing your heart to all experiences that might be reminiscent of something that turned sour once upon a time. Please don’t take it with you.

You do not have to invite the individual that caused you harm into your orbit again, you do not have to formally say the words “I forgive you” to them at all. Forgiveness is a deeply personal act of recognising the fallibility, frailty and vulnerability in another human being that caused them, always through fear, to act out, and then remembering the power within you to let go of what doesn’t serve your highest good and allow light back in to heal the space where the darkness was once poisoning you from the inside out.

How to find freedom through forgiveness will be the subject of one of the workshops I will be running in early 2020. If you haven’t managed to leave it behind in 2019 then I would be honoured to guide you through the healing process. Look out for details soon.

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Love Jo x

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Weekly Oracle – Mending What’s Meaningful

The ancient Chinese divination system, the I-ching, which roughly translated means “book of changes,” is made up of 64 hexagrams that navigate the twists and turns of life in a very elegant narrative that I find quite beautiful. This week’s Intuitive Chalice combination reminds me of Hexagram 18, also known as “Repairing what is spoiled” or simply “decay.”

We live in such a throwaway society in th 21st century that nothing really appears to be sacred enough to save anymore, whether that be things, ideas, relationships… easy come, easy go. But this week is highlighting the need to make amends, literally.

Principle 3: I AM Human recognises the frailties of humanity and offers us redemption through forgiveness and atonement, as we are asked also to recognise the frailties in our global brothers and sisters, forgiving them for their trespasses as it were. Mending bridges and healing differences, first within our own shadow and then in all external connections, is key in freeing ourselves from lower vibrational and potentially toxic emotions like blame, shame and guilt.

The blood red base or root chakra governs manifest reality or tangible forms and structures including the physical body and the planet we live on. 

Something very real needs healing this week and in order to heal it, there must be some form of recognition of the broken nature in which it presents itself, and not only that, but to truly atone for it’s current state you must acknowledge your own part in it’s decay.

Mending what’s meaningful shows great respect for the time it takes to build certain structures in our lives such as homes, businesses, families, friendships and relationships whilst also paying attention to the fragility of all that exists in manifest form and how quickly it can fall into ruins through neglect or inattention.

You have the power to fix what is broken so that it may continue to serve and support you along your onward journey.

Now is the time to care for what cares for you.

More later… x

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Weekly Oracle – Nothing You Can Say

The truth is an amazing thing, they say it’s sets you free (whoever they might be), but what about when you are so afraid of being judged for it? What about when your level of self-criticism is so ingrained that you whole-heartedly believe that your truth, your secret, is so abhorrent to you that others must also deem it so… and not only that but ostracize you as a result?

Now what if I told you that there is nothing you can say that cannot be forgiven?

This weeks combination of Principle 3: I AM Human, and the royal blue of the throat chakra suggests the revelation of hidden truths that you some level of shame about.

Don’t panic! It is far more likely that you are the one opening up about your hidden truth by making some form of confession as opposed to the skeleton leaping out of the closet uninvited.

As afraid as you might feel of revealing this vulnerable part of yourself or your story, it’s quite possible that the unconditional outpouring of love and understanding you receive in response will have you recalibrating your internal dialog and beliefs about how good or bad you thought you were.

Of course none of this episode should be forgotten… shame, guilt and blame are debilitating thought patterns that have only served to crush your spirit and rob you of your light… The truth is the light shining in the darkness and key to healing. Make amends if you feel you are able, apologise if there is an opportunity or someone else was hurt, but more importantly than that: don’t repeat the mistake.

Freedom from all those lower feelings and vibrations is the primary purpose of the exercise but in order to benefit from that you must forgive yourself first.

So this week, if you are presented with the opportunity to fess-up and set the record straight then take it as a sign from the universe that the greatest gift has been bestowed upon you and know that regardless of who you are and what you think you’ve done, you deserve love and you are loved.

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More next week folks… x

 

 

Saturday Oracle – All Feelings Aside

Tina Turner said it best when she declared “What’s love got to do with it?” That seems to be where we are this week as the combination of Principle 2: I AM Detached with the emerald green heart chakra requires of us to put all feelings aside.

The answer to Tina’s question is in fact “everything,” but this is the kind of love that has no attachments and no expectations.

Putting one’s feelings aside in order to transcend the obstacles and historical baggage that has thus far prevented you from reaching the highest potential for a situation is paramount this week to open up doorways and provide new energy to important ideas.

The heart chakra when fully open allows love as an energy to flow through unimpeded and without strings attached, but the human heart is also capable of holding onto so much pain, heartbreak and memory that it shields itself quite understandably from further emotional damage. This memory of what was takes a person back to the very moment of the wounding and causes one to relive it over and over again, keeping it fresh and alive… it has many names: resentment, holding a grudge etc, all of which are examples of closing your heart but further than that they are examples of ignoring Principle 2, living in the present moment with what is, not what was or the potential of what might be. Applying the following Principle 3: I AM Human, the part of The Wholly Grail that deals with forgiveness, is often a process that requires more time,  reassurance and even proof when we stay with past occurrences and transgressions, keeping them alive in our current energetic experience.

This week then holds a portal open for an incoming opportunity that requires you to cast aside your feelings and apply a dispassionate approach that works to everyone’s benefit, but it also has a healing aspect of applying an innocent mind (and heart) to all interactions and relationships. Drop any suspicious tendencies and allow circumstances to play out as they will and others to show you there true intentions in the now. That’s not to say you should put yourself in obvious danger or take any unnecessary risks… but the truth is that love from a transpersonal standpoint, doesn’t have to have any. Wonderful alliances can be formed this week when you put all feelings aside.

More next week… x

Monday Mind Manoeuvre – Shattering Mirrors

There may well be a tendency to fret and struggling when your reality begins to shift, it’s natural to want to hold onto what feels stable and so become fearful and distressed if your equilibrium is threatened, but was it ever a nurturing equilibrium? Now that the shattering mirrors are revealing little less than lies hidden beneath, isn’t it time you began building foundations that aren’t made from glass?

Every relationship, friendship and acquaintance you have is a reflection of who you are, but when you begin to transform, when you begin to value yourself more, these reflections begin to distort and that distortion eventually either shatters the glass of the reason or need for them to be connected to you, or it transforms those reflected in the mirror to new versions of themselves and indeed of the relationship.

When you apply self-love to your every action and begin to value your Wholly Grail, manipulation, usury and co-dependency begin to evaporate.

As difficult as it is to recognise that your connections to some people were born of need, perhaps from both parties, anger and resentment are useless depleting emotions that will serve to keep you stuck, as are guilt and shame. The way through is forgiveness for all mistaken interactions and gratitude for all the lessons, after all, this individual or group of individuals played a role so well as to be the mirror that reflected back your best and worst attributes offering you the tools by which to heal yourself and grow (however painfully in the moment or blindly in the past).

Bless those that remain, bless those that have fallen away, don’t struggle with those whose mirrors are beginning to shatter… just carefully clean up the glass and bless them too… new mirrors are forming around your elevated frequency and so a new reality is being born and new connections and relationships are beginning to enter your view.

Nothing is permanent in this life.

Principle 1: I AM God 

Principle 3: I AM Human

Principle 4: I AM Truth

More later… x

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Saturday Oracle – Beyond A Karmic Connection

The Universe may just be about to offer you the chance of a lifetime and it involves a very difficult choice: to leave behind the painful mistakes of yesterday and travel beyond a karmic connection, or to hold onto the bitterness and blame of situations long since relegated to the halls of history and forever be trapped by unforgiveness.

This week’s oracle is a little unusual in that it contains two challenge or chakra cards. This is because when selecting the cards by the force of the energy flowing through them, I couldn’t differentiate the level of power they each had. What was obvious to me though was the polarity of the energy within each… Principle 3: I AM Human acts as a back drop to the magnetic dance being performed by the two challengers. It’s underlying message is one of fallibility and forgiveness, it smacks of repetitive patterns and the free will fuck-ups that we as a species and as individuals are destined to make in the name of learning and evolution… and it takes some of us longer than others.

In the first instance I chose the chakra card that offered the frequency of pain. Simply because I understood that its polar opposite would offer relief and therefore the cure for the first. The card turned out to be the vibrant orange sacral chakra. Pulling this card with Principle 3 speaks of repetitive relationship mistakes and the pain of co-dependency. Like the Devil in a tarot deck, temptation, entrapment, emotional bondage and repetition have been feeding disappointment born of expectation up to a point but this karmic connection, call it a soul mate relationship if you will, has now played out its dark side and this karmic lesson is complete.

Here is where the polar opposite energy stream emanating from the emerald green of the heart chakra comes into play in a dynamic plot twist that offers a higher karmic lesson that you can choose to accept in this lifetime or roll over into the next. This is the lesson of unity.

We cannot separate the Principle from the cure and therefore the way through, should you choose to accept the new evolutionary mission now, is forgiveness.

Forgiveness in this case is not a word or even a sentiment, it requires the complete surrender of every painful memory or action that has passed between the divine masculine and divine feminine in the previous karmic cycle, not through dismissal but through acceptance. It requires ceremonial definition as an absolute ending to what was, in order to become what will be.

Unity requires, no, demands the execution of the old paradigm of competition as the now complementary (no longer opposing) forces align to face the next test together… a test that the universe has designed to be unachievable as individuals.

Of course you can choose to forego the new karmic adventure and carry on as you were. Stepping through this gateway, though agreed upon by all parties prior to incarnation, is still and always will be subject to free will.

In summary then: that was then, this is now… choose unity or choose separation but the old story has come to its natural end and the way of the heart is the doorway between levels of consciousness. If you choose to remain on your side of the portal your life will continue along its current trajectory, if you choose to step through you will ascend to a higher level of love than you have ever before experienced in your fragile human form.

I suspect the decision might take a little time… have a great week.

More later… x

Saturday Oracle – Releasing A Tether

The emerald green heart chakra shows up again this week highlighting that healing and growth are taking place but this time it partners with Principle 3: I AM Human. This Principle leads the way to forgiveness and acceptance aiding you in releasing a tether to a wounding that no longer serves you.

Imagine if you will, a large wooden chest in which you keep all your memories, perhaps physical objects that hold significance to you. Each item holds energy and that energy can either be positive or negative depending on how you view the person or situation in which the significance of the trinket became struck… it’s essentially a talisman.

Now imagine that your heart is that wooden chest. It is equally as full of energetic attachments that hold significance for you and keep you tethered to a point of powerful influence… the influence can be positive such as an uplifting memory, or negative in the case of wounding.

Your heart chakra is indeed a treasure chest to and from which unconditional love flows and each talisman colours the purity and intensity of that love. That being the case, why would you fill the chest with energy that poisons all the other talismans within?

This is a week to sift through your points of attachment and be ruthless in letting go of all that sours the whole. In energetic terms this requires forgiveness. The past cannot be altered now, it has gone. Acceptance is the first step in forgiving… it happened, it’s over. The next powerful action is extracting the blessing. This can usually only be done in retrospect which is what all the items in your treasure chest are, it can also only be done from a perspective of neutrality whereas the ego: the wounded self, sees only from a fixed point of reference i.e. “it’s all about me.”

Forgiveness sets you free and creates space in your heart for more love to flood in and shine out, so take this week to make room. If the lesson and the blessings have been assimilated then the memory or the talisman no longer has power and no longer has a place in your life, if however you cannot let go and cannot forgive then you have failed to perceive the greater plan and the acceleration of your story that resulted from it…you still have some inner work to do.

Remember, forgiveness stretches to all parties, to all time zones, through all lifetimes and every dimension, like love it is unconditional so start by forgiving yourself.

There maybe one particular person or circumstance that is highlighted this week, served up for your attention and forgiveness so that you can finally let it go and be free.

Have a blessed week… x

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Modus Operandi Part 3: A Promise Is A Promise

If you didn’t catch the previous Modus Operandi posts (still available in the site’s archive) I’ve been exploring where our intentions to walk the path of enlightenment differ from our actions. Often we are in some form of denial about how effective our daily practice actually is and blinded to the occasions where we drift from our Higher Self’s encouragings.

Today then let me draw your attention to your failures… as if they need me to point them out. That’s the problem: we are so quick to intellectually and emotionally return to the scenes of our apparent inability to succeed that we fail to acknowledge the valuable lessons along the way. Principle 3: I AM Human, is the gateway towards forgiveness. Forgiveness of self as well as everyone else… for everything. In forgiving, we make a promise to ourselves to let go of the hurt, the shame, the self-abusive mind chatter and the limiting stories that go along with the prior failure… and a promise is a promise.

The realisation in the moment of forgiveness is that you went there but you don’t have to go there again, you know what lies down that road now. In reality though, we see the “I know how this turns out” and we think “what’s the point in resisting?” Why then is it so common for us to break those promises we make to ourselves?

As it’s Monday, a full moon and a lunar eclipse no less, I think today is a fabulous day to make a promise to yourself to not break any more promises you make to yourself. No matter what the past actions or outcomes, your soul is urging you to explore a different way of being, and to everyone else your word is your bond… you are just as worthy of being treated with that much respect especially from yourself.

Start by making an inventory of all the things you’ve promised yourself recently, reassess which ones are relevant to your present situation and plans for a brighter future and then take a look at your motives: is it for your highest good and that of those around you? Pick 3 things from your list that you can start now… don’t plan (if you’re anything like me then you’re a great planner and it can often be a form of further procrastination or an affirmation of how far from the target you currently are), just take the first step followed by small measured actions, you can always create the plan along the way. Yes I know that “failing to plan means planning to fail” in all that success training… but admit it, you tried that didn’t you?

The last thing to now is listen to yourself, your thoughts and your excuses. Remember now that forgiveness, “I AM Human” is not an excuse for not trying your best this time, but it is a full pardon for not quite hitting the mark last time around.

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Happy Monday… x

Taking The Path Of Least Resistance

It’s more important than anything else that you might do, to do it because it makes you happy. Now the fact that we often surround ourselves with details that come with obligations, people that come with agendas, wants and needs that come with conditions etc, makes finding that joy a little more difficult because it’s obscured by superfluous stuff.

Let’s say for instance that you fall in love… that’s a biggy isn’t it? We imagine that love will make us happy don’t we? Supposing though, that the person you fall in love with turns out to be exactly what people warned you about and that your rose tinted, see-the-best-in-everyone-especially-the-romantic-interest glasses, have finally been removed… what action now will make you happiest?

Let’s make the scenario even more complicated: what if the romantic interest was heavily into playing games of hide and seek, which you suspect are more about his emotional insecurity and the fact that he’s got a history of failed relationships behind him than the outward appearance of him just being an abusive narcissist with a god complex, and what if after remembering that his prey (you) is not a pathological masochist, but in fact someone who deserves to be treated with gentleness and respect, what if he suddenly began the seeking process again and all traces of the monster were stored away for the next time he got scared? What would make you happy now?

Love doesn’t go away but like all energy it has the capacity to transform.

Taking the path of least resistance is not always clear because choosing joy now can lead to pain later if you are not vigilant. In our scenario it’s worth noting that reaching out, though forgiveness releases all parties from lower vibrations like resentment and bitterness, allowing the hidden monster back into your life just because he smiles and says please (or not), wouldn’t be an act of forgiveness it would be an act of stupidity. You can respect a shark and still know to keep out of the sea where it’s swimming.

So let’s take a look at the real path of least resistance. Abstinence now can lead to joy later. Finding happiness in abstinence, through acceptance of your own strength and self-love, rather than from the temporary relief from grieving that reconnecting might bring, leads to celebration… achieving the things you put on hold whilst neck deep in the drama leads to more happiness still.

We mostly search for relief from a lack of understanding by asking “why?” “Why did you do that?” or whatever, “Why me?” or “Why won’t you give up?” is a good one, but ultimately none of those questions will change anything. Accept where you are, let go of what has proven over and over again to be painful and unhealthy and walk away… set both of you free… you don’t need to save the next woman from the monster, that’s her lesson to learn… save yourself, trust me you can’t save him, he doesn’t believe the monster exists.

My mum once told me that monsters weren’t real. Now I know the truth: every little boy and girl contains the capacity to become a monster or to become a Grail Knight that knows better than to engage in a contest with the ones that were so damaged that the monster had no choice but evolve to protect them.

My path of least resistance is to send real love to my ex monster from a safe distance, to send healing and understanding to a damaged little boy, but to cut off all methods of contact and flow towards my own happiness… happiness that doesn’t depend on him or on knowing why.

A very personal post today, I know. I hope it inspires at least one of you to find another way that doesn’t depend on abusive relationships.

More later… x