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Monday Mind Manoeuvre – Remember Who You Are

I will finish the last two parts of the Modus Operandi series a little later but something came up that I thought important enough and wanted to explore, it’s to do with losing yourself in a relationship and how to remember who you are.

Now before I go any further I should mention that I have a someone special and he tends to read all my posts (and then deny it) so on that note I want to say this is nothing to do with he and I (lest he panic that we have an problem) and simply about the plethora of counselling I’ve been doing in the last few days in every direction as well as observing among the masses on social media etcetera.

Now let me first get you into Wholly Grail territory by reintroducing Principle 1: I AM God, along with Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted. Theses two Principles are the basis of relating from an empowered state.

What you observe in your outer world is a reflection of how you feel in your inner world. Your outer world often affects how you feel… catch 22 you might think, but here’s the thing: how you feel is a result of what you think about what you perceive, so then it stands to reason that if you choose different thoughts the feelings will alter which will in turn transform what we observe.

That sounds complicated but truly when you remember nothing is personal even when it is aimed at you, it is just a projection of the thoughts and feelings of another that you receive according to your state of inner peace and empowerment. If you are feeling like a victim then everything will seem to be an attack, if you are feeling like a hero everything will appear to be an opportunity for learning and healing even if the outer circumstances are identical in each case.

Principle 1 asks that you see yourself as a spark of divinity and that you see that same light in everybody else regardless of the outer conditions.

Principle 7 asks that you let go of all attachments in order that healing may occur. This doesn’t mean walking away from relationships that are nurturing and mutually beneficial  most of the time, it means letting go of the fear that they might end. All things end, the question is, do you want to squeeze the life out of it quickly by gripping, manipulating and controlling or do you want to love and laugh and learn your way until death do you part?… That’s what it means: death simply means an ending, any ending.

Drop the victim stance by recognising you hold all the power… over yourself and what you choose to place your attention on. If you contrive to fix, change or manipulate the significant other in your partnership to see, do or be what you want then you are trying to exert your power over another and the battle will commence or the rift will widen… let them be who they are, even if they are currently in victim mode, don’t ever be tempted to meet them at the bottom, instead lift them with your example of understanding, compassion and gently hold the space for them to step out of their shadow and into the light where you will be waiting with open arms and an open heart… and maybe next time you slide down the scale and forget who you are they will do you the same courtesy.

Wishing you beautiful nurturing relationships today and always.

Big love until later… x

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For The Weekend – Learning The Art Of Forgiveness

I’ve travelled to hell and back over the course of this week. It was a most illuminating journey. Taking a small group through a higher ascension training last Sunday, I was allowed by spirit to see for the first time how many of the 7 gates I’d passed through (9 in some teachings), on the way to my own personal hell. And then shown how easily I could climb through the golden gates in the other direction by learning the art of forgiveness.

Principle 3: I AM Human, is the way home to redemption.

This is not a biblical dissemination of sinful behaviour, on the contrary, it’s about the pieces of ourselves that we trade for our vision of what will fill the emptiness we feel when disconnected from our own higher power. The gates include self-transgressions like loss of self-respect, self-worth, humiliation, degradation etc. and we rarely see the outward effects when we are mesmerized by the end goal… that thing that we want, in effect would never lead us into compromising our own integrity if it was ever actually worth having.

The first gate on the way to redemption is acceptance. Also the first step on the way to forgiveness. Acceptance is a state of surrender to what is… it’s the end of the slippery slope. Here you stop struggling and look into the mirror of your life, which is reflected in your surroundings and tangible so-called reality, but you take a look with humility and reverence. I say humility because you must claim ultimate responsibility, and reverence because although you may not enjoy what you see, the awesome power it took to build this reality is a power that flows through you… you have God within you and you can use it to create miracles too.

Now comes the hard part: turn your face to the heavens and away from what was leading you into hell. You may have been stripped naked little by little at every gate you passed through but God created you naked and as you realise that is where you are heading once again, He can wash you clean.

That did end up sounding quite biblical didn’t it?

Let me put it another way… you were born naked, screaming, shitting, pissing and puking and the world looked on and said “Ahhh how beautiful.” Consider this moment, no matter how much crap you appear to be covered in, to be another crack at the great game. Acceptance will lead you to responsibility, responsibility will guide you back to empowerment, empowerment to empathy, empathy to forgiveness and forgiveness will lead to liberation and to love.

Forgive yourself first, forgive those who opened the gates, forgive those who attempted to strip you naked and sully your innocent soul, forgive those who watched you fall, forgive those who laughed at your pain and then finally smile gently with compassion as you watch and wait for them to come to a place of acceptance that in order to open the gates they too had to be standing knee deep in the shit.

Help them out when they ask. That’s what the gates of heaven demand.

This weekend, ask yourself how many gates you’ve passed through? Meditate with the Sumarian Goddess Ishtar, she will help you do a fearless assessment of what you blindly gave up for your goal.

More later… x

Knowing When To Let Life Happen

Emotion and personal conviction often compel us to act, sometimes on instinct, without thought or care for the potential consequences. That becomes more profound when survival is at the heart of the action required, be it our own or that of someone you either love or feel particularly protective of such as an infant, the infirm, or elderly.

Being able to stand back and understand the bigger picture is a real skill when such a compulsion takes over.

Why would you want to stand back in such circumstances?

Taking a moment to think about how your behaviour will impact someone else’s life and giving your higher perspective time to override your ego is never going to be easy in a drama-rich event but unless it’s life or death, and I mean that literally, you could actually be doing more harm than good by interfering.

Knowing when to let life happen can often be the most empowering thing you can do for another human being. It allows them to reach outside their own comfort zone and achieve new heights in their own evolution… like when a child first falls off a bike. They get hurt sure, it’s heart-wrenching, yep, but they also have a new found understanding of how not to do it and they learn the most important lesson of all… how to fail.

Failure is the first step towards humility in success and the first taste of the contrast it will take to truly savour a victory and celebrate every minor achievement in their road to becoming who they were always meant to be. So ask yourself this question: “Will you jumping in to help actually slow down their progress with the bigger picture?”

The same power that exists in you, exists in them too. It may be at different stage of evolution but then you had to learn didn’t you? You got knocked on your arse, didn’t you?

We think karma is a form of punishment, but the truth is its one of the biggest blessings that the universe offers… like riding a bike, it’s about learning to find your balance.

Principles 1, 2, 4 & 7

More later… x

A Gently Pointing Wing

Archangel Azrael, my guardian, guide and friend, spoke plainly to me yesterday as I did my morning meditation: “I stand and watch you each day. Sometimes I whisper guidance, occasionally I catch you when you fall, but mostly I just watch you. What would you have me watch you do today?” I thought about it for a moment and then reeled off the basic tasks I had to complete during the day as he listened patiently… nothing exciting in the list but then I hadn’t planned anything other than dealing with loose ends and daily stuff. His response was just enough though, to propel me into a completely different mindset and send me off in an unexpected direction via a gently pointing wing…

All he said was: “It takes just one decision to live your best life.”

Now I don’t know about you but when the Angel of Death turns up and basically tells you he’s bored of watching your everyday merry-go-round, I’m going to take notice and re-evaluate what step I take next!

The angelic realm are witness to our hopes,  our dreams, our efforts, actions and failings and they must stand by until we ask for help (or until we are in danger of buggering up the Divine Plan). They don’t judge and they don’t scold if you take an imagined wrong turn but they do feel complete compassion when you choose to berate yourself for missing the mark or for not living up to a standard that you set for yourself… probably based on someone else’s achievements.

Azrael didn’t tell me he was bored, he told me I held the power to achieve my own dreams… I could have been offended if my ego had responded but I’ve had him around for so long that I knew he was encouraging me to simply change one thing and be blessed.

Principle 3: I AM Human, and sometimes I need a little help from the angels.

How do you respond to divine guidance?

More later… x

 

A Warrior’s Determination

Blame is the most disempowering action I can think of in this quest for personal peace. Taking responsibility for one’s own choices, even the perceived mistakes, (of which there are actually none in reality), affords you the luxury of reclaiming those parts of yourself that you left scattered along the way and re-integrating the energy they hold.

Blame is usually the product of two areas of The Wholly Grail: one hidden mechanic and the other one of the Principles. When you step out into the world wearing your shiny knight’s armour you can look the part very easily but it’s what’s under that armour that determines the noble character of the knight. If however the “victim” archetype lurks beneath on the Grail Knight’s chain mail then taking responsibility is the last thing on his or her mind. The victim feeds on blame.

Principle 3: I AM Human is the section of the Grail that deals with the concept of forgiveness. When we blame others for what happens to us we hold them to a higher standard than ourselves and we undo the balance of power in their favour. Now, as children, adults would be responsible for our care, thereby having power over us, but as adults we ultimately have the ability to choose for ourselves.

Please don’t misunderstand me, being the victim of another’s abuse of power is not the same as adopting a victim mentality. The former, when taking on the hero’s stance, can overcome whatever bad things have happened to them with grace and a warrior’s determination but the latter will be crippled by the most simple obstacle by spinning into a disintegrating cycle of “why does this always happen to me?”

Forgiveness comes in many forms but it’s the one sure way to let go of the past and create a new heading based on emotional freedom… it’s about how much baggage you’re willing to take on this journey.

Who can you forgive today and how much excess can you put down?

More later… x

P.S. Look out for details of The Path of Petals course that I will be posting early next week if you’re interested in progressing your spiritual journey towards enlightenment and self-mastery.

 

Come To This Crossroads

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. The next step I take, though not the first step, for I have journeyed all my life to come to this crossroads, will be a step born of love and a step into surrender…

Until now I always seem to have been moving towards something, someone, somewhere, a destination that holds no guarantees, but in the last few days along the last few steps, steps that have slowed with each foot I put forward as if the quality of the ground beneath me was whispering gently to me “not this way” and I had only just, for the first time in a long time managed to understand that those whispers were not about how I should walk, which shoes I should wear, how long or how fast my stride was… but just a simple instruction that the road ahead was not the road for me. That perhaps the destination itself was right where I am, right who I am and right now?

The road I’ve been walking has been painful to tread. Some days I didn’t know if I could walk another step, some days the very ground beneath my feet fell away and some days it reared up to challenge me: to slap me down and break me. I never gave up the path because I believed it led somewhere, to something important but the path is endless, it comes without reward and without respite until you understand that the journey itself is the reward, and the respite is the series of moments along the path where you stop to smell the flowers, where you share the path with companions and the laughter sparks a series of unprecedented miracles of consciousness. But the road has ultimately been a road I’ve walked alone and it led me here…

The next step I take will be my first one without chains. I am striving no longer to become but am instead letting go in order to be.

I may let go of old ideas. It’s ok.

I may let go of old practices. It’s ok.

I may let go of old goals. It’s ok.

I may let go of old behaviours. It’s ok.

I may let go of you. It’s ok.

In order to walk a path that doesn’t yet exist, to blaze a new trail of discovery, I can carry only what is mine… and the ground beneath my feet has not yet learned how to whisper “this way” or “that way” and that’s ok because the whisper from my soul grows louder by the moment and that message is clear: “My darling you already are.”

The path I choose is not the path of pain, it is not the path of despair, it is not the path of fools… I choose the path of petals.

The Path of Petals is my new ascension training course for self discovery and self-mastery that I will be delivering starting this March for anyone who is interested in joining and who lives locally to Sheffield UK. More details will be available soon and an online version will follow.

More later… x

Appreciation Is Far More Empowering

Right and wrong are concepts that fall within the realms of what is considered socially acceptable, but sometimes being told you have been a bad or good girl/boy has nothing to do with majority consensus and is in fact a patronising attempt by one or more individuals to control another.

Do you fall under the title of people pleaser?

This in itself may sound patronising but I just had the misfortune to witness a crap tv show (which I should have turned off but it’s what I call car crash television: it’s a travesty but you can’t look away) in which a beautiful Golden Retriever was the co-star of the show. The number of times the main character said “good boy” whilst scratching that cute pooch’s ears was worthy of the scriptwriter being handed his or her cards… but that’s not the point…

That dog was so happy to be told he was a good boy just because he knew how to fetch.

As its Monday, many of you will be facing situations, perhaps in work, where someone appears to have all the power…  how people handle power is an amazing insight into their personalities. Treating people how you want to be treated is key to building mutual respectful relationships, so before you praise someone think how you do it… its far more likely to be well received if you simply express appreciation or gratitude for the actions they have taken rather than an opinion on whether it was good or bad. Appreciation is far more empowering than approval.

So if you answered yes to the “are you a people pleaser?” question, then the chances are you are waiting with bated breath for any ounce of approval… this is a sign you’ve given your power away. Don’t despair, it’s easy enough to take it back. I have a face for that… it usually involves raised eyebrows slightly furrowed in the middle. I developed the face as a team member and then manager of a large team of employees. People get the face once and they don’t make that mistake again.

Principle 4: I AM Truth, takes courage and a good sense of who you are without the need for fitting into the good graces of others and usually requires you to let go of your fear of disappointing someone and what you might lose as a result.

Now be a good girl/boy and leave me some feedback.

Or

I’d appreciate your feedback on this post…

Which feels better?

You have the power to decide.

More later… x

First Monday Challenge – When Not To Compromise

Along the path we often find ourselves, having completed a stage of the journey, reflecting on the lessons and blessings that came with it. We consolidate the ups and downs into wisdom by combining the new knowledge and the visceral experience, the memory of the pain and the pleasure into a metaphorical talisman of protection to remind us what pitfalls to avoid the next time around…

But this path is a tricky little sucker in that it disguises those same patterns with new faces, locations, situations and scenarios just to see if you are paying attention. The moment you complete the lesson, that’s when the test comes.

As its the first Monday of the last month of the year, no doubt you have had many lessons and many blessings since the year began, no doubt replete with many successes and many failures… the need for universal balance dictates that it should be so. So what of today’s challenge?

The universe is sending you an end of year test:

You’ve said goodbye to much, closed the door on some, closed the book on others… you’ve left the gate open for hopes and dreams but slammed your heart shut to potential pain… and here you are, another year gone. Some of you are celebrating an extraordinary year and others are sinking into despair and wondering why you’re here again…

Your challenge, should you choose to accept it is to recall all the times this year you were afraid to take a risk, afraid to step beyond you comfort zone. Don’t dwell there in victim mode asking “why me?” simply acknowledge you had a choice and thus empowering yourself to see a different choice when that opportunity arises again. Now, having done your retrospective risk assessment, look back at all the times you’ve compromised over the last year, all the times you caved in under either external pressure or internal habit or addiction… again, don’t dwell there, just acknowledge and accept that you had a choice in that moment however much it appeared otherwise and empower yourself to choose more wisely next time the opportunity arises.

Now then… The universe has decided that the lesson is complete. You will be tested this week, maybe even today… based on all you’ve learned, it’s your job to know when to take a risk or when not to compromise.

If you closed your heart to pain, you closed it to life and to love and to joy as well… when you shield your heart centre you will never be able to take a risk never learn to fly in an incredible leap of faith and you will constantly compromise on everything.

Isn’t it time your talisman was heart-shaped, open, trusting and full of wonder? Let love in.

Principle 3: I AM Human and Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted.

More later… x

Greet The Sun

Did you choose how to greet the day today?

Our experience moment to moment, day to day can appear to be one of only two things: living or life happening to you.

If you are currently in a state of disempowerment then the chances are that life is happening to you and fooling yourself into believing that you have no say in the matter will only magnify the feeling. Whilst it is true to say that there are a multitude of events and circumstances that are happening around us without our apparent input such as the sun came up this morning, your outlook at that miraculous occurrence will be the judge of your experience…

Did you greet the sun upon waking with a groan that indeed you were being forced to participate in another round of “a day in the life of…” or did you decide that with that sunrise came an opportunity to make a real difference in your life, in the lives of others?

You may think that making a shift between these two states is the equivalent of personality surgery or that something would need to drastically change in order for you to feel positive about a Monday morning and you would be right, something would need to change: You! You would need to be that change, make that change and recognise that waiting for life to change around you is as disempowering as it gets. If you are waiting for the universe to serve you a miracle then you need to know that the universe is encouraging you to become the miracle.

Start by one small internal shift, just one: instead of yearning for all the things you don’t have, feeling disappointed, celebrate all the things that you do have by showing them some genuine love.

Everything that exists in your life right now is your creation, whether you actively participated in its creation or sat back and complained without intervention… it’s all yours so start loving it… and watch how much life starts to love you back.

Gratitude is the key to a beautiful life.

Principles 1, 2 & 7

More later… x

The Final Hurdle – Unravelling Independence

If you’ve been following this series of posts you now have the basic keys to unlock your heart centre to receive God/Yourself. That sounds like a strange statement to make if you’re coming at this from scratch but how many of you actually understand your own divine nature? And more to the point, how many of you actually hold yourself dear to your own heart?

The final hurdle in the quest to occupy your own heart space is fully accepting responsibility for yourself, your health, your happiness, your actions, your feelings and of course your life, then taking steps to fulfil the highest potential in each.

We so often give over that honour to others in a bid to share ourselves but an inability to assess where you end and another begins is a recipe for co-dependency and allows some of the other hurdles to rear up and take root, like adopting the opinions of others to fit in, blaming and unforgiveness, and dependency also breeds entitlement and ownership…

Don’t get me wrong, what we want create here is interdependency rather than independence, the difference being that no man is an island and belonging, bonding and human interaction is at the very heart of human experience and probably the reason we incarnate in the first place but being capable of and actively taking care of ones own needs eliminates social imbalance and the hierarchical structure in many interactions.

We all need someone. I’m too short to reach the top cupboards and whilst married to a very tall guy, I let him reach the pots down for me but now I’m divorced I bought a step ladder… I didn’t sit there and cry because I couldn’t do it myself. That’s a very basic representation and its not a true reflection of the power of being Self-Full… when you meet your own needs to the absolute best of your abilities, you enlist the help of powerful supporters: the unbreakable laws of the universe. When you put yourself at the top of your list and make choices based on your own needs, (taking into account those who have no choice but to depend on you: children, the elderly or infirm), then you also become an inspiration to those who are trying to start their very own Grail Quest.

Try, for the next 7 days, if you do nothing else in this series, to place yourself at the top of your own list… The pressure it takes off of your loved ones will be a massive relief.  There are those who will buck against this shift in your priorities, change is after all challenging but the quest, this life, isn’t for the faint hearted…

Some will see this change as selfish and those are the people with whom you are in a power struggle or refuse to become self-full in their own right… and that’s a whole other series for us to explore.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full

Once you’ve scaled the final hurdle, your heart opens and you know you are worthy…

Welcome home… x