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Graduating From A Soul Lesson

It was a toss up today between writing about this intentional subject or veering off into the topic of dealing with overwhelm and overcommitment, which is kind of where I feel I am at the moment. Graduating from a soul lesson though feels like the theme most relevant to my own evolution and the overwhelm is a temporary imbalance brought on by entusiasm for a million projects at once.

I was reminded this morning by a friend who inadvertently, whilst asking about one of her own soul-lessons, got me thinking about how far I had come and how I have emotionally let go to such a degree that the old patterns of being triggered by old stories don’t even apply anymore.

Healing has taken the form of extreme self-love a recognition of the life I want and the compromises I’m just not willing to make to achieve it. More importantly, that making those compromises previously, was actually pushing me further and further into the opposite of the of what I most wanted. Some people will never be able to give you what you want, it’s up to you to give it to yourself.

I came acoross a post recently from someone who has played an important role in my own soul’s evolution, especially when it comes understanding to love (and being loved well). I recognised that old hurts and disappointments have given way to gentle gratitude and an underlying wish for him to heal. I have no need to be involved in his healing, at least not anymore, the simple wish is enough… I’ve served my time, I’ve passed my higher consciousness exams and I’m quietly celebrating my graduation from a soul lesson that almost broke me, almost destroyed my life, but ultimately compelled me to seek a higher love and install the compassion programme deep into my psyche, firstly for myself and then for him and those that went before. It birthed me into a new level of service.

Engaging Principle 7 of The Grail through fully understanding Principle 1, (supported and accomplished by applying the other 5 keys to balance and fulfilment), set me free from a pattern that led in a circular motion toward more of the same. You can do it too.

Whatever pattern you have been trying to break free from in your life, whether it was in relationships, behaviours, beliefs or whatever, know that when you start focusing on self-love and don’t be afraid to let go of the familiar, then give yourself time with compassion, you will eventually break loose and graduate from your own soul lesson.

Jo x

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Our Honoured Teachers – Relationship Edition

As you walk your path through life, sometimes aware of the Grail, sometimes holding it and sometimes oblivious to the abundance available to you, you find yourself side by side with those meant to show you the way and others meant obscure it. Our honoured teachers all have significance to the journey… some more than others.

Can you give credit to the people who have shifted your life in significant ways without needing to place good and bad labels on the methods by which those changes were introduced?

Our honoured teachers come and go as parents, children, siblings, friends, co-workers etc. but none perhaps so significant as those we willingly give our hearts to. Lovers, spouses, potential lovers and those who came close, all have a unique message for our personal growth. We were not meant to walk the path alone and will always seek our own reflection in others.

Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted is the last in the set of Wholly Grail Principles… it requires balance, give and take, the mastery of the other Principles, but none so much as the first, Principle 1: I AM God. This simple acknowledgment of the divine in all life reminds us that you and I are not separate from each other, I honour you as a teacher because I see you in me, I see me in you, we are the same and it is through rediscovering that over and over that the greatest lessons occur.

You too are someone’s honoured teacher. You have hurt and you have healed many on the path, sometimes consciously, sometimes unconsciously. There were times when you deliberately drained or spilled the Grail of another and there were times when you couldn’t possibly know how little they had left to give. It was never your responsibility to refill anyone’s cup but your own… as it was the responsibility of each companion to only attend to theirs.

Another honoured teacher is just up ahead. They may have a familiar face or the face of a stranger, it is of no consequence the outer shell… all teaching is cyclical until the blessing is extracted and the lesson is complete. As your next teacher approaches, remember the cyclical nature of The Wholly Grail… Principle 1 is the key and Principle 7 is the lock.

May your heart be open and all your teachers be honoured… x

Saturday Oracle – Trigger Happy

Consider this week’s combination an early intervention. When Principle 2: I AM Detached does the tango with the royal blue throat chakra, chances are that your sensitivity is exaggerated and you are about to get triggered by someone’s thoughtless (or deliberate) words… and you aren’t going to be happy!

Perhaps the title is actually the antithesis of what this week is about but that’s because it’s advice rather than a prediction. You see, if you take the advice of Principle 2 and get detached and stay present in the moment with what is, then being triggered by a statement or comment from another is far less likely.

Communication is a tricky business when hidden agendas, egos and personal wounds are involved, that’s why this is a week where you should endeavour to take everything at face value and not read into or between the lines of any information coming your way… at the same time you should aim for your own verbal or written offerings to be immaculate in content so as not to press buttons or be misunderstood or misinterpreted by others.

At the end of the day you control your own reactions so take a moment when a trigger steals your happy to check in on reality:

This is also a week where responding rather than reacting to a trigger with respect, kindness and compassion for self and the person who presented you with this unique opportunity for healing can actually be a genuine moment for connection and understanding.

In order to do this you must first understand that the throat chakra relates to all aspects of communicating: both speaking and listening. When you choose to listen with your heart (which is just another way of saying from a compassionate perspective) you begin to understand far more than you would from an analytical point of view.

Though I recommended taking everything at face value so as not to take anything personally this week, the alternative is to look far deeper but remember that everything you hear is a reflection of the wounds and triggers of the orator rather than being about you. This is not an excuse to use this insight to harm the delivered of the message but rather to initiate a truly open channel for healing.

The Oracle at Delphi says above the entrance “Know Thyself.” If you understand where and what your triggers are then they can no longer be sore spots that cause pain and instead become deep wells filled with wisdom… then you will always be Trigger Happy.

More next week… x

Saturday Oracle – Free Your Mind

The human psyche appears to be an infinite wellspring of replenishing capabilities. It has no limits to its power and potential for creating and recreating endless possibilities, save your ability to set it free to imagine greater. Free your mind… and the rest will indeed follow.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, the aspect of The Wholly Grail that puts your own well-being at the pinnacle of your priorities, teams up with the deep indigo brow chakra this week and this combination can spell deep depression… or at least it would if I hadn’t felt such sweet relief in the energy of the cards, so in sharp contrast this is more likely a week when the mental prison doors swing open and you set yourself free of the gloom that has recently had a dark hold on you.

A free mind is a gift to be cherished and would often indicate that Principle 4: I AM Truth is at play, whereby you choose the tone of your thoughts according to your beliefs. This week’s combination however is fully focused on your ability to heal yourself in mind, body and spirit whatever ails you simply by changing your thoughts about it.

Many teachers who use this technique as a central hub to their entire life’s work, take Louise L Hay for instance, are easily accessible via books and YouTube if you need help getting started but in basic terms, what you think, you become.

Because the body is obedient, the mind has control but what we often fail to recognise is that the mind is obedient too, to the consciousness (to a certain extent). It will put up a fight at first when you try to tell it the opposite of what it has held as sacrosanct for so long but that’s because it has been conditioned for the entirety of your lifespan what to think and believe… literally brainwashed. Now it’s time for a new day, a new set of beliefs that can promote wellness, happiness, abundance, love, connection and a more beautiful life. Begin training your thoughts with affirmations such as: “I am happy, healthy, loving, loved and live in peace with abundant resources.” Or: “I am strong, flexible, comfortable and overflowing with vital energy.” Or you could start with simple acceptance: “I am perfect as I am. I love myself unconditionally. Who I am, where I am and how I am are all expressions of divine perfection in this time and place on my journey to becoming.”

If you have been affected by depression recently, take heart that the universal energy is shifting and as long as you take positive, affirmative self-healing action, now is a time when you can truly free your mind and step into your well-being.

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More next week… x

 

Saturday Oracle – Feel Into This Moment

Contrary to how it might appear, this combination of Principle 2: I AM Detached and the healing emerald green of the heart chakra are not suggesting that you detach from your feelings, this is actually an instruction to feel into this moment.

The heart may be craving space this week and looking for escape but the tendency maybe to search for that space through time by surfing back through memories and dwelling too long in a place that no longer exists. Conversely you may project so far forward to escape the intensity, that you lose sight of how to connect and co-create in the present… then there is the third mistake: placing your heart energy laterally, not through time but through space, perhaps to somewhere or someone that is absent, abroad and unseen.

All these expressions of attachment are draining your ability to heal emotionally and allowing the very energy that fuels your internal wisdom and creative drive, to escape into the ether.

Your story is being built in the centre of your chest this week and only by detaching from everything else and becoming fully present with what you feel, no matter how painful it might at first appear, can you alchemize that power into a force for change.

The space you crave will reveal itself when you sit with what is, when you open your heart no matter how broken, swollen or bruised to the enormity of what is… and what is is life, a powerful transformative surge from where you’ve been to where you are going… but you can only arrive when you accept where you are.

Silence the mind, stop searching. You have found what you were looking for within the emerald temple of the heart, sacred space within to dwell, to heal, to craft a new reality born of the reconciliation of all the pieces of self that were dispersed by the passing of time and taken far away by those who travelled to other realms, physical and non-physical, with whom we invested something less than unconditional love… but love all the same.

This week remove your energetic hooks and chains from all others everywhere, every when. Take back what has essentially always been yours. This moment has power… but only if you give up trying to escape from it, only if you stop resisting it, only if you feel into this moment and recognise yourself in all your glory right at the heart of it.

At the heart of you.

More next week… x

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Healing Your Life Through Exclusion

My insights are a reflection of how I use the Wholly Grail in everyday life (or forget to) for healing, peace and gaining a deep understanding of firstly myself and then of others. The quality of the writing inevitably varies depending on which phase I’m in and what I’m feeling about it. Wisdom comes through accepting that all has value and even the darkest experiences show the way towards the light if you so choose to search for it. If the Holy Grail we all instinctively search for: inner peace and enlightenment, is a place within, where connection to our own spirit and ultimately God or whatever your particular name for All-That-Is may be, then the seven Principles that make up The Wholly Grail are the quest to remember our wholeness and that we never were separated from it in the first place.

What essentially masks that fundamental truth is the multitude of external moving parts distracting you from the foundation of your faith, which is simply that everything is as it should be regardless of the temporary discomfort. Acceptance is key to transforming the balance of power the external world appears to have over you, exclusion is the initial step to retrieving the power that is been drained.

Healing your life through exclusion is basically the process of disconnecting or detaching from all influences that cause you harm… detoxing from external drama.

Imagine if you had an allergy to chocolate. Eating chocolate might make you really ill at best, kill you at worst… it stands to reason that you would eliminate all chocolate products from your diet, right? You’d quickly become super vigilant at reading labels in the supermarket and return any items that contained your particular toxin to the shelf… it’s the same with external drama, get super conscientious about reading the labels, the warning signs and the red flags, put it down and back away slowly.

No man/woman is an island of course, you cannot completely remove all negative stimulation, to do so would create just as much drama within when isolation became a trigger for your discomfort, this is why discernment is a necessary skill to learn quickly on the Grail path.

Having received the shocking news of the death of a close family member this week it has been necessary for me to begin healing through exclusion. Normally my ‘take control’ attitude would have me charging in, taking care of business, but my guidance at present is to stand back and as gracefully as possible continue to tend to the details of my own life, to continue to do the simple things, fully aware that drama is occurring within my field of vision, compassionate and loving towards those suffering, but mindful all the while that their drama can intensify my own and that I have a choice to heal faster by honouring my truth.

Overcoming grief requires practicing all 7 Principles but healing your life through exclusion requires mainly one: I AM Self-Full (Principle 6)

More later… x

For The Weekend – Learning The Art Of Forgiveness

I’ve travelled to hell and back over the course of this week. It was a most illuminating journey. Taking a small group through a higher ascension training last Sunday, I was allowed by spirit to see for the first time how many of the 7 gates I’d passed through (9 in some teachings), on the way to my own personal hell. And then shown how easily I could climb through the golden gates in the other direction by learning the art of forgiveness.

Principle 3: I AM Human, is the way home to redemption.

This is not a biblical dissemination of sinful behaviour, on the contrary, it’s about the pieces of ourselves that we trade for our vision of what will fill the emptiness we feel when disconnected from our own higher power. The gates include self-transgressions like loss of self-respect, self-worth, humiliation, degradation etc. and we rarely see the outward effects when we are mesmerized by the end goal… that thing that we want, in effect would never lead us into compromising our own integrity if it was ever actually worth having.

The first gate on the way to redemption is acceptance. Also the first step on the way to forgiveness. Acceptance is a state of surrender to what is… it’s the end of the slippery slope. Here you stop struggling and look into the mirror of your life, which is reflected in your surroundings and tangible so-called reality, but you take a look with humility and reverence. I say humility because you must claim ultimate responsibility, and reverence because although you may not enjoy what you see, the awesome power it took to build this reality is a power that flows through you… you have God within you and you can use it to create miracles too.

Now comes the hard part: turn your face to the heavens and away from what was leading you into hell. You may have been stripped naked little by little at every gate you passed through but God created you naked and as you realise that is where you are heading once again, He can wash you clean.

That did end up sounding quite biblical didn’t it?

Let me put it another way… you were born naked, screaming, shitting, pissing and puking and the world looked on and said “Ahhh how beautiful.” Consider this moment, no matter how much crap you appear to be covered in, to be another crack at the great game. Acceptance will lead you to responsibility, responsibility will guide you back to empowerment, empowerment to empathy, empathy to forgiveness and forgiveness will lead to liberation and to love.

Forgive yourself first, forgive those who opened the gates, forgive those who attempted to strip you naked and sully your innocent soul, forgive those who watched you fall, forgive those who laughed at your pain and then finally smile gently with compassion as you watch and wait for them to come to a place of acceptance that in order to open the gates they too had to be standing knee deep in the shit.

Help them out when they ask. That’s what the gates of heaven demand.

This weekend, ask yourself how many gates you’ve passed through? Meditate with the Sumarian Goddess Ishtar, she will help you do a fearless assessment of what you blindly gave up for your goal.

More later… x

Tiptoe On A Knife Edge

Balance is in full focus today as we arrive at the Spring Equinox (autumn if you’re in the Southern Hemisphere) that seemed to creep up on us whilst we were occupied with everything and nothing. One of two points in the calendar where the light and the darkness share precisely the same amount of moments and we pivot towards a new dominance. As we tiptoe on a knife edge seasonally, so too do we have an emotional choice to make… do we favour the darkness or the light.

The oracle combination I pulled at the weekend mirrored this shift from healthy exploration into potential addition and sets the scene for this post. Though it appears at first glance to have a sinister undertone it is in fact an invitation to understand that within you exists that point of perfect balance, liminal space, neither light nor dark, just sublime equilibrium, a pause between breaths, when you are neither one thing nor the other and power runs through you without resistance or hindrance… and then trust, faith, belief and innocence give way to fear on this knife edge… fear of falling.

When you fear something you create it.

Where you had balance you resorted to your conditioned state of believing that you needed something to maintain it, that someone might try to take it from you and you must protect it. And in that moment you veer to the left or to the right and the sharp line you were treading begins to wobble as you flail about trying to regain your centre but falling at this stage is inevitable… just as surely as tomorrow the light, the daylight hours will gain ground in the north and the darkness or night will take back dominion over the south.

It’s a subtle shift, a tilt you may not notice at first, but opposing forces must continue to circle around each other so that the elaborate game of life goes on.

Take time to honour and notice the shift within. Whatever state you are moving from or to emotionally, physically, intellectually, geographically… what ever area of your personal experience is evolving, observe, respect and bless this point of transition.

Take a moment today to assess where you’re at. Don’t panic, don’t struggle, balance will be restored naturally when you relax and trust that you are exactly where you need to be. Principle 2: I AM Detached will help you stay present with what is and Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted allows giving and receiving in equal measure… or in other words: perfect balance.

More later… x

Saturday Oracle – Too Much Of A Good Thing

Is it possible to have too much of a good thing?

After last week’s oracle encouraged us to embrace the wild side, this week’s combination seems a little concerned that we might just go from indulgence to over-indulgence to compulsive and addictive negative behaviours.

Principle 3: I AM Human teams up with the bright yellow solar plexus to bring us a bit of a dual message here: on the one hand there’s the addiction to potential self-abuse which I’ll come to in a moment and on the other, there’s the underlying reason for it… failed expectations.

The solar plexus is the seat of personal power and the house of the ego. When it takes a metaphorical beating it seeks to self-sooth and suppress that feeling. People take to all sorts of numbing techniques to achieve this from overeating, shopaholism, alcoholism and drug abuse to name but a few… what start out as a fun time, a treat or an indulgence, when taken to the extreme, become a dangerous spiral towards self-destruction.

As this week opens, so too do potential reminders of personal failure and disappointment that will, while you’re attempting to escape from or forget, have you racing towards the distractions, that you hope will fill the gaping hole that seems to be forming in the pit of your stomach.

There is a way back to balance and it begins with recognising your patterns. Principle 3: I AM Human, is a key reminder of the need for forgiveness, first and foremost of self. When you acknowledge that you are human and therefore perfectly imperfect, you give yourself permission to let go of the self punishment. Forgiveness is not an ideal its a healing aspect of grace, but it takes the courage to first admit that some things are out of your control… like the past… like the future… There is a much bigger energy at play than the human aspect of each of us as individuals and when we bow to this Higher Power, admit to the pain we’ve been until now trying to numb and allow this all encompassing energy fully into our lives, Spirit fills the spaces with pure light and love and there is nothing left to try to fill….

This is the true meaning of an overflowing cup… (not the one you filled with calories or worse as a substitute).

Let God in.

More next week… x

Saturday Oracle – A Glance Back Towards Yesterday

Principle 4: I AM Truth is standing on the precipice of the vibrant orange sacral chakra this week asking for you to reclaim your integrity within a close relationship or following the end of one as you’re guided to take a glance back towards yesterday.

I wasn’t surprised by this combination as my vague knowledge of astrology is very aware that Venus is turning retrograde around now and being the planet of love, desire, passion, relationships, intimacy and connecting, all the things associated with the sacral chakra they in a highlighted position at present. The idea that the celestial love goddess appears in the sky to be travelling backwards doesn’t invite you to go backwards as such but instead to review and reflect with a view to heal. But that’s enough astrology, let’s get back to the Principle in question…

I AM Truth. What the heck does that mean?

Inside you, at a deep level you have access to your own truth. Some of us have buried it under blame, projection, deflection, ego, anger and a few other useless emotions and tactics that help us to avoid taking responsibility for where we are and how we got here.

Something valuable, I’d go as far as to say beautiful, has been lost because the truth was painful. Owning your truth even if it’s potentially going to be scorned upon by others is sign that your Grail and your self-esteem are intact. The opinions of others are just that, and though it may be true for them it doesn’t have to be so for you. Your actions have had consequences and you’ve cast aside the opportunity for unity, connection, intimacy, friendship, co-creation and commitment, even family because your pride had you lashing out to protect your reputation… underneath all the bluster you knew what was true but you chose to destroy something, someone. It may not be as dramatic as that… you’ll know when you glance back with compassion, for yourself if for nobody else.

This week’s energy flow has potential. I said at the beginning that this Principle is standing on a precipice, does that mean you can fix it? Retrograde Venus is hoping you will learn from it for sure but the other party has drawn a line and you have no way of crossing it now. A negative aspect of Principle 4 is that communication is all but blocked so attempting to rescue the remains of what’s been lost is damn near impossible. But this reading is about learning so that you can apply truth to all your dealings. Understanding how to open yourself up to emotional intimacy is about understanding that in vulnerability lies strength. The most magical relationship is the one in which there is no blame, where honesty is a given not a currency to be traded and where the more ammunition you give your loved one the more bullets they have to protect your love with instead of loading the gun and firing it at you.

Now then, since the new moon last week, we have entered a portal in which the end of a karmic cycle occurs. It remains open, like the precipice, until the full moon on the 12th March. I suggest you take a leap of faith, dive into the orange abyss and retrieve you… that way when the next potential love affair enters your orbit, all of you, your entire being will be ready to enter the arena and surrender to another human being who is ready to surrender to you.

Right I’m off to celebrate and eat cake with my lovely mum who is 80 years young today!

More next week… x