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February’s Oracle – Feeling Human Again

It’s a combination that I didn’t know when I selected the cards, would resonate so keenly in the month ahead. Joining together the energies of fallibility, even vulnerability with the gentle brush of compassion, this month’s Intuitive Chalice Oracle is asking us to keep our hearts open to healing until we start feeling human again.

Usually the combination of forgiveness and the healing of emotions brought on by either our own failure or the triggering acts of another, Principle 3: I AM Human asks you see the divinity behind the mask of frailty. I also asks that you honour that existence in the material plane demands that we learn through making mistakes and sometimes those mistakes hurt us or others.

The heart chakra has a magical quality when we allow it to open fully to unconditional forgiveness, because through time and compassion, through understanding and gentle letting go, it re-orients to the divine in every being. It is only in the seat of the ego that unforgiveness remains beyond the higher perspective of witnessing all humanity as children learning.

As I write this evaluation of the energies for the coming month, I am grieving. A shock, sudden departure from this world of a deep love, has me considering the most beautiful aspects of humanity even when the physical truth was less than desirable. All our brothers and sisters deserve our love and compassion and we deserve it for ourselves. Freedom exists in knowing what to hold onto and when suffering is a choice of simply letting go. Love remains and even increases beyond and behind the mask of humanity because there is no barrier or ego to impede its natural flow.

As you step through February, be mindful of the grudges you carry, the hurts you hold onto, the scars you use as badges of honour and the venom you use as a battle cry. It will not lift you to the place of peace you wish to reside in. Revenge will not bring you inner calm and the sanctuary of angelic wings to enfold you, it will bring you only separation from the most precious commodity that human beings have to trade, and that is love.

Forgive everyone, start with yourself. Offer love instead of anger or fearful rebukes. Now is the time to empty the poisoned chalice and refill it with that which serves your highest purpose… you were made to be a pure clear channel for light. You’ll soon be feeling human again.

Love, Jo x

P.S. My mini-course in forgiveness is coming late February, join my mailing list to be the first to know when its available.

Kicked The Codependency Habit? …What Next?

Its a question I had to ask myself recently: have I kicked the codependency habit? My answer was met with two distinct voices, one of whom was singing my praises and celebrating with a resounding “Yes!” While the other was desperately waving red flags and asking: “How will I know until I’m faced with another test?”

It’s been a bit of a harrowing and yet bitterly sweet few years, learning the true meaning of what it is to not just love myself more, but to truly respect my own divinity and worth at the deepest level. This concept is the basis for the first Principle in the Grail and the one from which the power to accept all the others is derived. It is also the foundation upon which all versions of personal happiness and sustainable success in life and love are built.

I knew that. Well, intellectually at least.

It is one thing to bandy about words and concepts like self-love, self-respect and self-worth, but it’s quite another to integrate the energy of, and begin to live by the highest frequency of these conscious programmes. Until you do, nobody else in your sphere will show you how to do it… its true that people can only love you to the extent that you love yourself and more importantly that they will inevitably love you the way you show them how. By that premise, until we have integrated and begun to consistently display the elements of reverence for our own divinity, nobody else is going to.

I’ve had a little internal conversation with the voice of my red flag bearer, about the true nature of her presence… you see the fact that she’s there flag-in-hand, tell’s me that I’m still very aware of the potential for codependent, even toxic relationships and connections that comes as a result of forgetting who I am, even for just a moment. And that because of her presence, I cannot forget… so I am lavishing just as much love on that part of me as I am on the part that knows she’s overcome the greatest test she was sent to endure and not only survived, but firmly decided that she’s a much better version of herself as a result of the journey.

What’s even more special is that I now know for sure that my capacity for forgiveness is infinite. I’m not talking about the words: “I forgive you,” (although they are a good place to start). I’m talking about the radical transmutation of all anger and resentment, all blame and all shame and the unltimate liberation from any sense of attachment or victimhood. Add to that, the fact that I know it’s all been a test and that new tests will arrive, shows indications that in knowing myself and accepting myself with the same openness and compassion I give to others, stems from the understanding that nothing in this world is ever personal

If its not personal, I can play with it more. Be easy with it, be easy on myself.

Always remember you get to choose how you interact with others but it has to start with how you honour yourself. To do that you have be brave enough to say goodbye to anything that doesn’t honour you. Be unafraid of losing even the most precious of connections. If you do lose it, it was never love.

If you’ve kicked the codependency habit but are still unsure if the next adventure will go the same way, love yourself enough to say no until you no longer feel the need to silence your red flag waving reminder of how far you’ve come. She’s not your inner-wound, she’s your standard-bearer and she’s setting your standards way higher than you ever thought you were worthy of. She’s going to make sure you are attracting only the crystal clear mirror of your own self-love in another human being.

Honour her first and foremost. The red on that flag is the depth and passion of your beautiful heart. It deserves nothing less in return.

Jo x

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Conscious Connection Part 1 – In My Wholeness

Let’s face it, relationships are the whole point of the ride and unless you are a seasoned hermit ensconced high upon a mountain and well provided for by self-sufficient means, your entire life is made up of various forms of connection, conscious or otherwise.

The next few posts are focused on how you might apply the Principles of The Wholly Grail to your current and future interactions to transform the quality of relating to a conscious level where all parties involved thrive from the balance attained. It takes commitment, self-knowledge and incredible will to move beyond where you are to a new way of relating if you are not already consciously connecting, but hang on in there, the rewards can be truly fulfilling.

Principle 1. Meet me in my wholeness. Honour me as the divine being that I am.

How you currently see the ‘other’ in your relationship is key to creating balance, respect and even reverence. If each partner was able to see God in the other and a genuine desire serve God existed within the framework of their spiritual make up, then the greatest care would be taken at every interaction. Imagine for a moment entering a sacred temple where a divine being was enshrined. The smell of incense wafting through the air, an ocean of floral tributes strewn upon the altar… in what state do you enter? Calmly? Serenely? In awe? Definitely with respect and reverence, right? Chances are that divine being is a statue dedicated to a saint or enlightened one… The significant other in your relationship isn’t an effigy but a living, breathing embodiment of Source energy, does that not deserve a higher degree of reverence?

Before you can begin to grasp the significance of how you honour another, you must first recognise that you too are that same divine essence and worthy of reverence and respect. The phrase “meet me in my wholeness” requires that you embrace your own God-self, understanding that you hold the key to how others treat you. You set the standard of what is and is not acceptable to you. Setting and enforcing boundaries and expectations should be done gently and with the care afforded to a child in the process of learning a new skill or lesson and reaffirmed with your every action. Letting something slide is teaching the other that you do not respect your own divinity but overreacting and lashing out is also denying your own power by feeling you need to ‘fight’ for it rather than simply standing in it.

Nobody’s divinity is more or less than anyone else’s. Combine reverence with humility.

Principle 2. Meet me as I am in this moment. Who you once perceived me to be and who you project I may become do not exist in reality.

This is powerful stuff so take a second to read that last statement again… Meet me as I am in this moment, Wow!

How many times have you made assumptions about someone based on an old outdated set of criteria? Based on the opinions of another’s past experience or of one interaction that didn’t go according to expectations?  How much does history dictate the way you show up in a relationship? Every encounter with a partner, no matter how long the relationship has been in play has the potential to be a completely new experience. Let the baggage go and enter the next chapter with fresh eyes, as an observer of what is.

History is only one element of expectation. In order to meet anyone as they are in this moment you have to let go of any agenda of what you believe they may become. If you you meet that guy and think “I can change him, he just needs my guidance on social etiquette and slight wardrobe adjustment,” then you’re not seeing who he is. If you are seeing that girl and imagining what she’d look like if she shed a few pounds and dyed her hair blonde, then you are projecting an unreal potential onto her that has nothing to do with who she is. Acknowledge and accept what is before you without judgment and without wanting to change it and you are already beginning to create a conscious connection.

I hope that’s given you food for thought until the next post but if you want Personal Grail Guidance on Conscious Connection then check out my Valentine Offer available to the end of February here.

More later… x

The Good Friday Guide To Conflict Resolution

Do you think JC would have ended up on a cross if people actually knew how to resolve their differences?

I have to confess my post has little or nothing to do with Easter or the crucifixion story, it just seems appropriate to mention Master Jesus at this time of year and ask what he would do… unfortunately for him he was unable to make the other party hear him (probably because Mercury had slid fully into its impression of Michael Jackson’s moonwalk going backwards across the sky and sending communication into a tailspin of misunderstanding, misinterpretation, misrepresentation… in fact just ‘mis’sing the point entirely.

So conflict resolution then?

From a Wholly Grail perspective we may have to throw every one of the 7 Principles at the issue but lets start with Principle 4: I AM Truth…

This Principle should not be deliberately used to prove who is right and who is wrong, it is a universal statement, available to all to make the point that from any one persons point of reference the truth looks very different and so your truth and mine may not essentially match. Let’s start there.

We all make assumptions during conflict about what the other persons agenda is, we imagine their motives from our personal perspective… we are inevitably wrong. Just ask.

“What do you want?”

“What outcome are you hoping for?”

“How do you see this situation resolving itself?”

Remember now that all external conflict is a reflection of an internal conflict that we each have going on too. A battle between your higher self and your ego is in progress all with the intention of protecting your best interests… they just don’t know how to agree on the best course of how to make that happen, so externally you do battle with whatever appears to be threatening your sense of safety.

Victory in conflict is an illusion. For someone to be the victor, someone else has to be the victim… for every winner there is a loser, unless the warring parties learn to listen, and to be honest in their representation of the real issues underlying the antagonism they have towards each other.

Resolution is never the hidden agenda. Winning is. That’s the thing that needs to be determined: “What’s your definition of winning?”

Only compromise can create true resolution and that has to be about two parties coming together to create a win/win scenario.

Love must be the agenda.

This is where we slap in Principle 2: I AM Detached, this allows us to let go of the tight hold we have on our chosen outcome. Follow it with Principle 1: I AM God, without being able to recognise the divinity in your opponent you will never be able to see them as anything but your opponent and therefore you will never truly recognise that you were always on the same team: family.

Now we need the final piece… Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, quite simply the perfect balance of give and take.

Whilst this is all very well, the vital ingredient is this:

It takes two people to pull up a chair at the negotiation table… you cannot force a closed mind open, so if that doesn’t work, one must take JC’s approach and turn the other cheek… (and someone ends up crucified).

More later… x

 

Shouldn’t We Honour What Unites Us?

Apparently it’s International Women’s Day. That’s exciting isn’t it? A whole day just for celebrating the women of the world. I’m all for celebrating diversity and uniqueness, I really am, but isn’t it time we stopped drawing attention to what makes us different and started focusing on what makes us the same? Shouldn’t we honour what unites us?

Every time we create a new day for this or day for that, we say “hey world, you and I are not the same and this is why we are at war with each other and within ourselves.”

The very first Principle of The Wholly Grail simply states: I AM God. It’s not a religious statement, it’s not an elitist manifesto, it’s a declaration of unity paying attention to the divine nature of each and every living being, in fact not just every living being but everything in existence. If you aren’t comfortable with the word God then feel free to interject your own favourite word for The Indescribable Power… I don’t think it has a preference, the name we give it is just one more tool we use to divide us and promote disunity.

Today I would like to honour not just women, but respect, equality and compassion for everyone, for all things, in fact let’s make every day International Compassion Day, International Respect Day… in fact scratch that, let’s go for Universal Compassion and Respect Day!

To open our hearts to the beauty that exists around us and to venerate the light in all things would surely eradicate the need for us to stand up for the rights of any group or individual because their rights would be a given and therefore never questioned. It may be a naive wish, but the point behind all National and International “Days” is to give a voice to the oppressed or forgotten and to shout out “We matter!”

We all matter. The Divine doesn’t make mistakes.

Happy Universal Compassion and Respect Day x