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Being Self-Full Is The Most Difficult Choice

Last week was a week of firsts for many people I’m regularly in contact with, launching themselves way beyond the outer limits of their comfort zones into undiscovered country. I was no different. It got me thinking about when being Self-Full is the most difficult choice.

To others bravery, beforehand, can look like stupidity, absurdity and even recklessness, but on the otherside of the leap, once you launch yourself from the safety of the nest and realise you are flying, that’s when the world looks up and acknowledges how brave you were.

Self-Full Living is about managing your well-being and it could easily be mistaken for taking the gentle option by playing safe. But there is no safety in stagnancy and definitely no self-care in playing small. Sometimes it is the most difficult choices, requiring the most courageous acts, that rescue us from our patterns and set us free from the prisons that have slowly been sapping our vital force.

Self-Full Living is about realising you have a problem that is detrimental to your spiritual, mental, or physical health. It is identifying a habit, behaviour, relationship or environment that is dismantling the life you’ve built around you or crushing you at soul level. But it is more importantly about what you choose to do when you recognise it… do you say “that’s too hard” and do nothing, or do you make the difficult choice and be brave?

Being Self-Full is the most difficult choice because it often requires sacrifice and it often requires you to move away from what feels familiar or what feels comfortable.

Self-Full Living is about embracing self-care, but you may find that long-term well-being requires short-term pain.

My question to you is this: are you willing to launch yourself out of the nest and be the bravest version of you, so that your well-being can recover and your soul can once again shine?

What firsts are you bravely stepping into this week?

Let me know in the comments.

Love Jo xxx

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Weekly Oracle – You Already Know In Your Heart

This week’s combination has two dominant paths so you will have to use your discernment choosing which one applies to you… don’t be concerned, you already know in your heart of hearts the direction and the outcome you require.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, teams up with the emerald green heart chakra to bring you to a crossroads in your current path. Choosing interpretation one will lead you to another choice, another divergent path, whereas interpretation two will have you standing still for a while…

Interpretation one:

Imagine if you will that this Intuitive Chalice combo is the nearest you will get to The Lovers card in tarot. The Lovers offers you a choice (hence if you choose this option you will be choosing to choose). Having decided to go with this option you find yourself at the next crossroads where a major life choice is placed before you: for some it will be the offer of a relationship, for others a job, a house move, etc… the nature of the opportunity may already be clear or soon will be, but what also becomes clear after the initial surprise is that to take this opportunity you will be choosing one path before you and exiting the other that was your reality before.

Things will have to be left behind. Nothing will ever be the same. In some instances that’s not a bad thing, but in others it will definitely mean a period of loss, grief and mourning.

If you choose the option before you, your divergent paths will be named “what is” and “what could be” …will you go with your head or your heart. There is love in both directions but there is only the opportunity for expansion and the potential of living your hearts desire if you choose “what could be.” No promises, just potential.

You already know the answer: the heart wants what the heart wants. Without growth we wither and die. Expansion is essential for the soul’s well-being.

Interpretation two:

Now this combination on the flip side best describes the tarot’s Temperance card and a deep healing and need for balance.

Exploring the essence of Principle 6 we discover that it’s key message is about attending to one’s own needs for health, happiness and general wellbeing. The heart chakra is the energetic centre and balance point of your being, where we give and receive in equal measure and open to the flow of the universe. The Temperance card usually shows an angelic figure pouring liquid between two cups trying to find the perfect alchemical balance between elements. So, in our scenario this would be you standing at the crossroads and focusing on keeping everything in balance. “A little of this a little of that and maybe no one will notice if I’m still standing where I was trying to maintain the status quo.”

Here’s the paradox… both our scenarios might be available and if so you can only stand here for so long before interpretation one’s heart’s desire path falls off the table completely.

When the universe delivers your gateway to expansion, it only stays open for a short time and failing to step through can result in the gates closing whilst you check if you are up to the task. God’s message here is: “Here I come, ready or not!” Whatever form He shows up in.

Interpretation three (am I not always telling you there is a third option?):

Choose both interpretations. If an opportunity presents for you to follow your heart’s desire, don’t hesitate! Yes you will be unbalanced by the dramatic life change, yes you will have to say goodbye to the known path but the Angel in that Temperance card isn’t holding a stagnant bowl of muddy liquid, she is sloshing fresh elixir from one sacred chalice to another trying to find balance… and you can do that too… that’s the entire purpose of The 7 Principles of The Wholly Grail: finding peace along the path.

The heart wants what the heart wants.

Looking back and saying “what if” is the saddest statement I can think of… looking back and saying “Holy Shit! What a ride” and then taking a breath to meditate sounds like a full life, lived without fear.

Follow your heart and find balance as you go.

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Back soon with some Grail Insights to remind you how… x

Something For The Weekend – Making Healthier Choices

Previous results can often influence future decisions. It is possible to lose confidence in your own ability to choose for your highest good if you consider yourself to have been marred by past mistakes. It’s perfectly understandable that you would have pause for thought in such circumstances but overthinking can render decision making impossible. So how can you ensure you are making healthier choices?

A bit of a perspective reshuffle might be in order at this stage before we go further…

Whatever the past mistakes, experience was born of them… as was resolve and flexibility and a knack for survival, so even if the outcome you intended did not come to pass, something even more valuable was reaped from the journey you took. Taking that into account and then applying Principle 3: I AM Human (and shit happens),  you can let go of the need for controlling the outcome and instead make decisions based on their potential for adventure rather than their guarantee of a specific destination.

Start by defining your success by the experience you  harnessed from the ride, from the people you encountered and connections you made, from the ingenuity you dug from deep within to navigate the obstacles and rapids along the way, your success is so much deeper and so much broader than the outcome and besides, your small self cannot possibly get your mind around the bigger picture that Source has planned and what role your success or perceived failure plays in its orchestration.

When you make your choice, whatever it is, remember that you can make another choice a few steps down the road when evidence starts to show up of how the first one is working out. Life is constantly giving you nudges to adjust your sails so one wrong move doesn’t have to be the end of the world… (and I suspect if it was, a new world would be born from the debris).

You will always know where you are and what adjustments need to be made by:

  • Your dominant thought patterns
  • How you feel emotionally
  • Your physical health
  • Your energy levels
  • External manifestations

To make healthier choices you can take the list above and then do a quick run down of the 7 Principles to come at the choice from a different angle…

  1. Am I aware of my power in this moment?
  2. Am I fully present with what is?
  3. Am I being influenced by my perceived mistakes?
  4. What is really true for me?
  5. How free do I feel in this moment?
  6. What are my immediate and long term needs?
  7. Am I allowing and accepting of change?

All of these triggers are meant to recalibrate you back to the centre of your own sovereignty and empowerment.

Let me know how you get on.

More later… x

Conscious Connection Part 1 – In My Wholeness

Let’s face it, relationships are the whole point of the ride and unless you are a seasoned hermit ensconced high upon a mountain and well provided for by self-sufficient means, your entire life is made up of various forms of connection, conscious or otherwise.

The next few posts are focused on how you might apply the Principles of The Wholly Grail to your current and future interactions to transform the quality of relating to a conscious level where all parties involved thrive from the balance attained. It takes commitment, self-knowledge and incredible will to move beyond where you are to a new way of relating if you are not already consciously connecting, but hang on in there, the rewards can be truly fulfilling.

Principle 1. Meet me in my wholeness. Honour me as the divine being that I am.

How you currently see the ‘other’ in your relationship is key to creating balance, respect and even reverence. If each partner was able to see God in the other and a genuine desire serve God existed within the framework of their spiritual make up, then the greatest care would be taken at every interaction. Imagine for a moment entering a sacred temple where a divine being was enshrined. The smell of incense wafting through the air, an ocean of floral tributes strewn upon the altar… in what state do you enter? Calmly? Serenely? In awe? Definitely with respect and reverence, right? Chances are that divine being is a statue dedicated to a saint or enlightened one… The significant other in your relationship isn’t an effigy but a living, breathing embodiment of Source energy, does that not deserve a higher degree of reverence?

Before you can begin to grasp the significance of how you honour another, you must first recognise that you too are that same divine essence and worthy of reverence and respect. The phrase “meet me in my wholeness” requires that you embrace your own God-self, understanding that you hold the key to how others treat you. You set the standard of what is and is not acceptable to you. Setting and enforcing boundaries and expectations should be done gently and with the care afforded to a child in the process of learning a new skill or lesson and reaffirmed with your every action. Letting something slide is teaching the other that you do not respect your own divinity but overreacting and lashing out is also denying your own power by feeling you need to ‘fight’ for it rather than simply standing in it.

Nobody’s divinity is more or less than anyone else’s. Combine reverence with humility.

Principle 2. Meet me as I am in this moment. Who you once perceived me to be and who you project I may become do not exist in reality.

This is powerful stuff so take a second to read that last statement again… Meet me as I am in this moment, Wow!

How many times have you made assumptions about someone based on an old outdated set of criteria? Based on the opinions of another’s past experience or of one interaction that didn’t go according to expectations?  How much does history dictate the way you show up in a relationship? Every encounter with a partner, no matter how long the relationship has been in play has the potential to be a completely new experience. Let the baggage go and enter the next chapter with fresh eyes, as an observer of what is.

History is only one element of expectation. In order to meet anyone as they are in this moment you have to let go of any agenda of what you believe they may become. If you you meet that guy and think “I can change him, he just needs my guidance on social etiquette and slight wardrobe adjustment,” then you’re not seeing who he is. If you are seeing that girl and imagining what she’d look like if she shed a few pounds and dyed her hair blonde, then you are projecting an unreal potential onto her that has nothing to do with who she is. Acknowledge and accept what is before you without judgment and without wanting to change it and you are already beginning to create a conscious connection.

I hope that’s given you food for thought until the next post but if you want Personal Grail Guidance on Conscious Connection then check out my Valentine Offer available to the end of February here.

More later… x

Saturday Oracle – Wedded To Bliss

For the second week running the sunny yellow solar plexus has shown up in the oracle combination, this time teaming up Principle 6: I AM Self-Full. These two are asking you for a commitment to your own happiness, literally to be wedded to bliss.

This may sound like an unorthodox way of presenting it but in truth, if you don’t commit to your own happiness who will?

As the week progress you may find that you come to what my guardian angel refers to as a “divergent point.” This is a significant choice on your path that may not seem to be all that important at the time but may determine the direction of the next stage of your adventure in ways you cannot see at present. This may raise a dilemma because part of you wants to turn left, part of you wants to turn right and part of you wants to crawl under the nearest rock and make no decision at all (which is of course a paradox because making a choice to make no decision is still a decision).

Because the active Grail Principle is focused on Self-Fullness, essentially what’s best for you, you may find yourself facing anxiety over short-term comfort versus long-term happiness. The two don’t always go hand-in-hand.

This could be the ideal time to take your focus off any decision that needs to be made and instead focus on the “big bliss picture.” Let’s imagine for a moment that you have a dream that you really want to achieve. The dream contains the image of you experiencing pure joy, contentment and satisfaction… in fact beyond that: bliss. Now make a commitment to your “big bliss reality,” in other words the realisation or manifestation of that situation.

Now ask yourself if you are living that truth right now, physically experiencing your most precious dream of happiness. If the answer is no, then you have just ruled out option 3. Crawling under that rock doesn’t lead to you being wedded to bliss…. it leads to more of the same.

That just leaves left or right: short-term or long-term results.

Bliss is something you don’t have to put off until later down the road but that doesn’t exclude the long-term solution. The word commitment means in it for the long haul, but that doesn’t exclude the short-term solution either so here lies the dilemma and I cannot make that choice for you.

This week then is asking you to consider deep, consider long, consider quietly… do not be pressured to consider fast, but do consider yourself first.

It’s your happiness that’s at stake.

Wishing you a blessed week… x

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Creating Space To Grow

Creating space to grow is vital for the next adventure to commence. You didn’t get here by accident. Though you may not have actually intended your current set of life circumstances (or perhaps some of you did), every thought, belief and choice: unconscious or otherwise has led to where you are now and if you take just a moment to trace the path back, without becoming too enmeshed in the history, you will see which actions or inactions led to each step on the journey.

It’s not an exercise in self punishment or judgment but rather a learning process for future development. If you are drawn to working with angels, like me, then Archangel Jeremiel would be the perfect angel to call upon to help you do a  fearless evaluation of the journey so far. Call upon him in meditation before you begin to retrace your steps. Once you have a clear picture of what brought you to this place in  life you can begin to choose more consciously where to focus to direct the flow in the present towards a deliberately intended future.

The next step however, is to make room for that future to enter by recognising that something new cannot exist where the old fills the space… health cannot live where unhealthy habits dwell, love cannot enter where the space is filled with fear, prosperity cannot find room in a miserly hoard etc.

Let’s take the example of love and relationships…

When you look around you do you see fulfilling, mutual, supportive, uplifting connections to those you surround yourself with? If the answer is yes then you are very fortunate indeed simply because there is no greater currency than love. If on the other hand you feel that your companions take more than they give or disrespect your boundaries in some other way then you have to ask yourself whether or not you keep them around just out of fear of the alternative of being alone? It’s a tough question to face and you may flinch at the thought of creating space by dropping partners, friends and companions…but that’s not the formula here… what is more important is adjusting how you treat yourself. When you love yourself completely and uncompromisingly, you no longer accept less from anyone else. When you respect yourself completely and uncompromisingly, others follow suit and those that don’t will naturally fall away leaving room for new companions to step in mirroring back your love.

If you berate yourself constantly, pull yourself down, neglect your emotional needs, cave in on your boundaries: your time, your personal space, your possessions, your intellectual property, your standards and principles, even your personal truth… then you send a signal to those around you that its ok for them to do the same.

When you have taken a look at how you arrived here with Jeremiel’s help, start creating space to grow by weeding out those behaviours and beliefs that hold you apart from your deepest and dearest wishes. Self-love is the key to your conscious onward journey into your Wholly Grail.

Principle 1: I AM God

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full

Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted

More later… x

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Monday Mind Manoeuvre – Just Below The Surface

There is something I’m not seeing at the moment. I’m aware of it on the subtlest level like it’s hidden just below the surface or skulking about just outside the door of my perception, but the more I try to see or even listen for evidence of its existence the more elusive it becomes. It’s a bit like my guides and angels are whispering amongst themselves and stop whenever I enter the room or start paying attention. This is what happens when you are about to leap from one stepping stone to another (but the next stepping stone is as yet unclear).

It isn’t psychic paranoia as you might think, it’s just the energy of the universe lining up opportunities and options and trying to juggle the inner workings of manifestation process while attempting to keep up with your ever changing set of criteria. Think of it like this…

It’s Christmas Eve and Santa is doing his best to get your order delivered but the elves can’t read your list because you’ve scribbled out and rewritten it so many times. They are confused about what to put in the sack and just when they think they have it right and Santa gets all the way down your chimney, just as he is bending to place the package under the tree the elves radio in with a message saying you just sent in a different order in the form of a wish and the list has automatically updated… “abort mission, repeat, abort mission.”

That almost imperceptible whispering you think is happening is actually the universe’s version of Santa standing in the next room on the radio to head quarters trying to work out whether the package can be salvaged or if he needs to return to base to start on the new order.

Yes I know it’s a bit early for Christmas analogies but it was the only one that seemed to fit.

My awareness of that “something” going on is simply an internal request to get clear, to be observant, not just of my environment and the gifts being delivered but more importantly the thoughts going on within. Every thought creates a prayer field: the energy that emanates from you at the frequency that attracts its manifest likeness. In order to get Santa (or whatever form the delivery service takes) to deliver what you want or the help you need to achieve it, you must be absolutely clear about what you are asking for.

My problem is that in the midst of uncertainty I’m asking for safety and security whilst asking for adventure at the same time, trying to rebuild the fallen Tower whilst hoping for the Knight of Wands to whisk me off into the sunset, donning the mantle of the Queen of Pentacles whilst sitting on the throne of the High Priestess. Perceived stability over unprecedented risk.

If you are trying to perfect your prayer field, the only way is to get real still for little while, empty yourself of all the requests and preferences and instead allow the voice deep inside you, that part of you that is Source, who is also Santa’s boss, (Principle 1 : I AM God), to help you create a vision for your life that lives up to your Divine Blueprint, regardless of the how and the when. Meditate upon that vision everyday until it becomes so emblazoned within your brow chakra that every action you or the universe takes leads you closer to it…

That feeling that something’s just below the surface is an indicator that clarity needs to be gained and choices need to be made. (Principle 4: I AM Truth). Your cosmic support team are awaiting instructions.

Happy Monday… xxx

 

Sir Lancelot’s Dilemma – Should You Choose Loyalty Over Fulfilment?

Remember those legends of Grail Knights of old, when chivalry was a way of life and loyalty the most precious asset to have and bestow? Remember the legendary royal court of King Arthur, and Sir Lancelot’s dilemma when it came to his love for Guinevere versus his loyalty to his king? What to do, eh?

It might be stuff of legend but it’s a common theme in today’s society… I’m not talking about stealing another man’s wife, that’s a conversation for a completely different website, what I’m talking about is a subtler dilemma that still asks whether you should go after your desires even if it means disappointing someone you care for deeply?

We all put real stock in relationships and connections. Words like loyalty, fidelity, dependability and reliability all smack of the attachment of expectations and for the most part, even unwritten, unspoken vows exist between individuals or groups of people without ever causing a big problem. Most of us are decent human beings who live by a code of personal ethics that preclude us doing harm to each other purposefully or consciously either by physical or emotional means. For example: we assume trust, confidentiality, etc. and the longer we know someone, the closer the connection, familial or otherwise, the more we assume those unspoken laws will be in effect… just ask a football fan that dares to cheer on someone else’s team or a girlfriend that dares to fancy the boy her friend likes… it’s a minefield of dos and don’t.

But what about Sir Lancelot?

His destiny, wrapped up in his desire, wrapped up in the karma of all three participants was on the line when he chose to betray his king… was he right to do so?

I’m sure we will all have an opinion on the right or wrong answer but here’s the Wholly Grail’s take on loyalty:

Principle 4: I AM Truth… it simply means that what is right for you in the here and now is the only right answer and if you deny yourself by abstaining from your most precious dream for what you feel may, or may not hurt, disappoint, confound or annoy someone else then you will have committed a betrayal that you yourself may not be able to live with.

Go after your dreams. Not everyone will support you. Some may take it personally and believe it was all about them, but at the deepest level of your soul, when the call comes, your truth is the only truth worth acting on.

Couple of small caveats to interject at this point:

1) If you know someone is going to get hurt by your actions then check your motives and double check them…  if destiny is calling, answer, if however your primary purpose is causing pain, trust me when I tell you karma’s a bitch.

2) Principle 4 comes with a sub-heading: “I reserve the right to evolve.” This means that what is right for you today may not be right for you tomorrow so look to the long term and weigh up if you can live with the consequences before you take the final leap.

In the end, desire and compulsion made Sir Lancelot’s dilemma irrelevant… destiny was calling… is it calling to you too?

Have a blessed week ahead … x

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Wednesday Wake-Up Call: Killer Cake And The Candle

The light of my life is celebrating a birthday today so this cake and candle story is for him, but the moral of this story is nothing to do with birthdays and it applies to all those of us who know how it feels to want something you cannot have…

Imagine if you will, that after feeling poorly for quite some time you pay a visit to your doctor:

You: “Doctor Doctor, I feel so poorly I don’t know why.”

Doctor: “If you ever eat another piece of chocolate cake it will kill you!”

Stunned, stricken and downright heartbroken that the most beloved food substance you can get you mouth around is now not only forbidden but lethal to you, you wander home through a haze of tears… Upon arriving home your mum is waiting for you. She knows how low you’ve been, she’s worried for you and has decided to cheer you up… as you open the door, there she is standing with a giant homemade (yes you’ve guessed it) chocolate cake, complete with a candle and everything!

So there mum is, standing with the killer cake and the candle having no clue about your diagnosis, presenting you innocently with your nemesis… what do you do?

Just because you know the cake is bad for you, do you love it any less? In fact knowing that you cannot have it, does that make it even more desirable? Eating one piece could blow your proverbial candle out and you are now standing there distraught, knowing that not only are you going to have to abstain from this temptation but you are also going to have to let your mum down and explain the dilemma… or you could just eat it and die happy from your addiction, couldn’t you?

You might wonder what all this has to do with the Principles of The Wholly Grail? Principle 6: I AM Self-Full is not always a clear choice, it usually comes down to a toss-up between short term gratification and long-term health. As my own mum, now 80 years young, points out regularly, if you can’t have the things you love then what’s the point of living anyway? As we point out to her, there are plenty of other things she loves that aren’t bad for her that would give her longer to enjoy them… it’s a choice.

So, for this special Wednesday, weigh up the costs of desire versus detriment, addiction versus advice, Self-Fullness versus self-indulgence and decide if you can’t live with it or you can’t live without it.

It’s all about choice. And it’s your candle!

What’s your personal “killer cake?” (Mine is the birthday boy… Happy Birthday Sunshine)!

More later… x

 

 

First Monday Challenge – Revealing The Master Illusionist

After a lot of consideration I decided to follow this train of thought to see where it led me. Being the first Monday of the month, shying away from whatever is challenging is against my self-declared process and so we must be prepared to dive deep down the rabbit hole in search of our own answers and face head on what scares us the most. In my case that would be in revealing the master illusionist.

First let us understand the illusion a little better…

Someone has led you back to the point where you fall asleep and forget that you’ve been here before. I don’t mean in the reincarnation sense of having lived a physical life in a different time in a different body, though that would demonstrate this cycle on a lager scale, I mean you are going around and around with something, never really moving forward but instead being lulled into believing you are making progress when really you are being controlled, manipulated, placated. Like placing a dummy (pacifier) into the mouth of a crying baby and whispering “there there,” as the child settles and sleeps believing, at least temporarily, that the very thing that made them cry has been solved.

The master illusionist is a comforter and the means’ by which he or she comforts are mere distractions from that which would bring permanent relief and escape from the repetition of pain and peace…

Addiction is an easy hook by which to control. The promise of the substance provides a lure, the provision of a small sample of the craved for poison buys the illusionist time… is it a drug, alcohol, food, videogames, sex and romance, shopping? That temporary relief provides the “Ah yes, this time I will have what I want and this feeling I have now is proof that it’s on its way.” And now you’re asleep once more. You’ve forgotten that you’ve had a taste of this so-called proof before and you’ve forgotten that however many times you’ve repeated “it will be different this time,” here you are again.

Revealing the master illusionist is simple: who benefits from keeping you in denial of your true situation? Who now has perceived limitations as an excuse for stilted expansion? Who has created an infrastructure set up to withhold connection and intimacy? Who has ensured nobody has expectations of them that cannot be fulfilled thus negating the chance of failure, rejection and ridicule?

There will always be mirrors of the illusionist, others sent to highlight the original, those who have identified the strings, bonds and chains. They will, offer samples of the things you crave, take advantage of the devoted clientele you provide, but the true face of the master illusionist is the one that seeks out a new source of poison when a vendor dries up, the one that finds replacement numbing agents to lull you back to sleep when the pain of being awake gets to unbearable. The master illusionist will always be YOU… and the illusion will always be that you are helpless to help yourself. Only the poison changes form and whatever form it takes you convince yourself it holds all the power.

Today’s challenge is to stay awake, even if you partake of your own particular poison, do so with your eyes wide open and acknowledge the decision consciously.

At every moment through today and this week when you choose to indulge in distraction or addiction, repeat the words “I know what I’m doing and I’m choosing to do it anyway… at least until I find a permanent solution and my freedom no longer frightens me.”

Principles 3 & 5. Later this week I might go deeper into why we fear freedom.. but for now…stay awake.

More later… x