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Can A Spiritual Practice Improve Your Confidence And Wellbeing?

I get it. You are trying to live your best life and keep the whole show on the road in realtime, when someone comes along and tells you to adopt a spiritual practice. It sounds a bit woo woo and airy fairy and although you might be curious about the idea, you just don’t know if all this “alternative” stuff can actually help you get your shit together, or if it’s just designed to help you escape into fantasy for a little while. Can a spiritual practice improve your confidence and wellbeing?

I started my conscious spiritual journey reading tarot and exploring meditation over 22 years ago. I say conscious, because prior to that I had dabbled and had a keen intuition as far back as I can remember, but never sought to develop it until in my mid 20’s. So much changed for me at that time as I began to identify everything in my life that was out of alignment and integrity with what my inner being was feeling and pulling me towards. It took me years to understand that I had a choice – to follow the crowd or to follow my soul’s calling.

When you first start on the journey, light and dark come into very stark contrast, making the transition from what life is damanding of you, to you directing your life the way you want it, can be terrifying without the right guidance. It’s this dichotomy that makes us question whether a spiritual life and practice is right for us. I get that it is hard to see how you can actually make your life change to fit your new found understanding.

It took me just an instant to understand that the life I was creating was making me exhausted, ill, unhappy and really lonely, even when surrounded by countless people in my life, but it took me years to figure out how to transition into a life that filled me with energy, confidence, real connection (albeit on a smaller scale) and wellbeing that I could manage and replicate just by making small adjustments along the way.

I became the oracle, the interpreter of universal law and angelic wisdom, so that others can benefit from the years of work I had put into finding the spiritual path to freedom, empowerment, self-love and wellbeing. I created a life that didn’t include a spiritual practice but instead became a spiritual practice… the practice of listening to my own truth.

Can a spiritual practice improve your confidence and wellbeing? It really isn’t the right question. The question you should be considering is: can confidence and wellbeing become my spiritual practice? Now you are lining up with your soul’s purpose and asking for the universe to get behind your mission.

Once you make this distinction, every action you take in the direction of your intention… meditation, oracle cards, angelic connection, yoga… skydiving, partying, sex, cake… it all becomes a spiritual practice. You stop trying to distinguish between your day-to-day realtime, boots-on-the-ground existence and your connection to something bigger.

Your confidence and wellbeing will begin to improve the minute you stop trying to be something you were never designed to become. Stop trying to live upto the standards and expectations of others. Stop trying to fit the square peg in the round hole and stop beating yourself up for failing to be perfect.

Everything about you is perfect already… with the exception of the fact you forgot (and even that was a part of the greater plan).

If you are considering starting a spiritual practice of your own, ask yourself if it allows you to explore who you are and how you feel? Ask if it leaves room for you to adapt and transform as your connection to your own wisdom evolves? Ask if it restricts or expands your experience of your physical reality? All these questions will tell you if you are stepping into an empowering practice or giving your power away.

Will you always get it right? Nope! (I still get it wrong and I’m still on the path). We’re always on the path. What I can tell you is: the further you walk it hand in hand with Spirit, the more confident you will get and wellbeing will be yours no matter what storms come your way.

Explore the 7 Principles of the Grail as a spiritual practice.

Jo x

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August’s oracle – The Confidence to Grow

August’s Oracle – The Confidence to Grow, describes this combination from the Intuitive Chalice Oracle, which coincides with the launch of my new book, “Self-Full Living Workbook.” Strange then that it speaks to the confidence needed to be real in the face of potential praise or indeed criticism, the opposite ends of the spectrum when allowing yourself to be seen.

Principle 2: I AM Detached, keeps us fully present with what is. This is especially true for the tendency to project your expectations into the future or haul your experiences from the past, but there is also a lateral tendency the interlocks with Principle 4: I AM truth. This brings our focus back from attaching to other peoples potential reactions.

Detachment is the art of letting go of what you cannot control, with grace and with humility. Combine that with the vivid yellow of the Solar Plexus, aka the seat of personal power, you are led to the confidence to grow into whatever life’s next adventure might be.

Time moves in a linear fashion for us humans, and that straight line means that whatever you just did is already in the past. Now is a good time to honour your acheivement, of having completed it, learned from it, had fun with it, grown as a result of it… and then let it go to establish a life of it’s own, one where your happiness, confidence and wellbeing are neither dependent on it nor defined by it.

Let your next step be the one that inspires you and fills you with joy and excitement. Let your last step be the learning you needed to keep growing beyond what has been possible so far. There is no limit to your potential other than the limit you place on yourself… make sure you do not let your lateral and temporal vision distract you from the purpose of your endeavors, or your potential to be a guiding light for others who may well be following along your path.

You’re allowed to SHINE!

Jo x

Saturday Oracle – Inside And Outside

This week’s oracle kicks my ass  on a previous post and I can’t help but be impressed by the irony of it. A little while ago I wrote a piece called Preparing On Purpose that was all about self confidence in any given situation coming from recognition of the divine within… and I stand by that. This oracle though, is pointing toward the necessity of lavishing attention on your physical self to help support your ego-based self-conscious issues.

This is far from a negative week though, in its entirety it is encouraging you to get full-on body positive in order to fully embrace your bliss.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full connects with the energetic seat of personal power which is the exuberant yellow solar plexus to focus you in on pleasure over the coming days. This combination has a hedonistic feel to it but along with that comes the tendency to over-indulge.

To use this energy properly, which is the desire to direct love upon oneself, you must first ask what constitutes long term benefit as opposed to short term gratification.

We are swinging into the summer season now so minds are turning towards holidays and getting “beach ready.” We are focusing on romance and generally how best to regain our playfulness that hides throughout the winter months under layers of woolly jumpers and weather worn faces… but with this shift in agenda comes a shift in confidence, and all too often we begin to berate ourselves for not being perfect (whatever distorted image of perfection we may actually be clinging to).

The Solar Plexus governs our ego, our digestion and therefore eating habits, our ability to assimilate information, our ability to accommodate abundance, our natural childlike state of joyous abandon… bliss. If a healthy sense of self confidence lives here then you’re in for a week of excitement getting ready for the fun that is set to follow, if however you struggle with loving yourself then unnecessary worries are going to befall you.

Self-Full Living is the art of taking care of one’s own needs inside and outside, now is the time to do that. Give yourself the best fighting chance of shedding the inhibitions by spending this week deliberately tending to your own body’s and your ego’s needs: Pamper, exercise, eat well, practice self-appreciation affirmations, update your wardrobe based on what looks great and feels comfortable rather than what the label says (or the number on it)…if you look and feel great you will take some of the concern away from impromptu invitations to embrace life to the full.

You deserve to jump into the next phase with your full being in a state of bliss. Get ready now!

Wishing you a week of increased self-esteem and playful preparation… x

Preparing On Purpose

Be prepared. What does that even mean? As the motto of a boy scout it seems like a worthwhile pursuit, but how exactly do you expect to be prepared for the unexpected?

You are prepared, at least as well as you can be, for whatever life has to throw at you, simply because you have spent your entire life preparing for this moment… yes, this one.

Everything that has ever happened to you, every person you have ever met, every conversation you have ever participated in, everything you have witnessed, experienced, learned and done, has been in preparation for this moment. You see, God does nothing by accident. If you look back at your life you can clearly see the synchronicity of each event and how it smoothly led to the next which eventually brought you to this place. And no matter how ready (or not) you felt to undergo each transition through initiation by fire, you got here… that means you were ready and life had prepared you for the level of success or failure it required to get you to the next step…

Success or failure?

Yep! That’s what I said. Only The Great Unseen has the big picture and so what you see, as success may actually be the opposite of the catalyst you need to move the pieces across the cosmic chessboard towards your destined outcome, big picture success could require small detail failure, at least for now. But win or lose, the experience is the preparation for the next bit.

Now of course the boy scouts could be referring to the contrived concept of preparing on purpose….

Imagine for a moment you’re about to go on a first date. What does preparation look like then? Oh my goodness the lengths we go to, just in case: scrubbed, shaved, waxed, buffed, plucked, preened… moisturised, manicured, and that’s all before we select the perfect outfit… do we wear super-sexy, girl next door, casual, formal? What about shoes? Oh yeah, and do we go for the Bridget Jones knickers or the matching skimpy set? Now if you’re a boy I’d imagine the process is similar if a little less lengthy and stereotypically more focused on whether your car is waxed and buffed than your body, but what’s the point of all of this?

Are you now preparing on purpose for every possible eventuality or are you simply focusing on the external causes of your own lacking self-esteem in an attempt to convince yourself that you can cover up your imperfections? If that’s the case than I suggest that your preparation time would be better spent on learning to appreciate how beautiful you are from the inside out. Nothing is more attractive that confidence, self- love and the ability to shine your Divine essence in spite of outward appearance.

This applies to all events and encounters… you are ready now for whatever Big G sends your way…. if you aren’t ready, it won’t arrive anyway. Remember this: you are in exactly the right place at the right time, with all the appropriate training and wherewithal for whatever is coming your way. Succeed or fail, win or lose… this moment is yours. Don’t waste it on wondering if you have the right knickers on. If it’s worth all the fuss then the fuss won’t matter.

Principles 1, 2 & 6, included above, can be found here.

More later… x

Undesirable Ingredients

It takes a whole host of specially selected ingredients to refine your life into the story of peace and joy you are looking for. Ingredients like compassion, tolerance, patience, generosity and gratitude… but what strikes me even more deeply today is what you must leave out.

There are a so many contributing factors that can steal the contents of your personal Grail leaving you in a state of emotional turmoil or at the very least unrest, and all of these undesirable ingredients are based around how you view yourself in relation to everything else going on around you.

Confidence is a word that invokes an image of cockiness or arrogance but it’s true meaning is much more to do with recognising your worth… when you take self-doubt, guilt, comparison, jealousy, (and maybe even the seven deadly sins) out of the equation, and replace them with one simple alternative: faith, everything starts to transform back into its natural beautiful flow.

I’m not talking about faith in something outside of yourself, I’m referring to faith in yourself, faith in your ability to survive any and all shifts and bumps that life will throw your way… and I say “will” because it’s inevitable with so many moving parts, sooner or later one of those parts will roll your way and either become an asset or a trip hazard and when it does you can view it with absolute faith that the challenge is for your highest good or you can break under the pressure of self-doubt.

I’m opting for confidence this week… I’m pulling out my mixing bowl, selecting my optimal ingredients and blow me if I don’t create cake!

Principle 1 is going remind you who you are and what you’re worth…

Principle 2 is going to release you from your fear of any outcomes…

Principle 7 is going to ensure the bi-directional flow of love which is all you need for a perpetually overflowing Grail cup.

More later… x