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Modus Operandi Part 4: Essential Expression

The fourth part in the Modus Operandi series explores essential expression of one’s real feelings. Consider the alternative for a moment…

Under the exterior polish of every human being is a complex thought producing engine. Some of those thoughts are mediocre at best and pass by like fluffy clouds floating across a blue sky, others though are intense reaction provoking thoughts bringing inner storms and turbulent emotions.

It’s sometimes easy to let the storm blow over, to let it pass without incident, to weather it out so to speak, but when the thoughts stirring up those storm clouds are triggered by repetitive occurrence then action must be taken to address the real cause of the storm… sometimes the action is from within, in which case the essential expression might be the need to ask for help, sometimes however the trigger for these emotions is external and in this case essential expression means open and honest communication with the culprit, whether they be a deliberate antagonist or an unwitting one.

How many of you walk through life answering the “how are you?” question with “Fine thank you”?

Are you?

It’s not a trick question it’s an indication of your Modus Operandi… I know that many people who ask you how you are are doing do so rhetorically and have no genuine desire to know exactly how you feel, that’s their Modus Operandi. We adopt an “everything’s rhetorical” attitude to conversation in order to not make anyone feel uncomfortable as a result of this disinterested interaction compounded by the emoji culture that we have accepted, nay – embraced.

Real feelings stay hidden, the world becomes more trapped person by person, relating becomes more plastic encounter by encounter and connection becomes only possible when aided and numbed by varying degrees of substance abuse… and our minds and hearts become sicker and lives become perceivably less valued.

Principle 4: I AM Truth, is the Wholly Grail’s gateway to essential expression and conscious communication. It asks that you step into your authenticity and be your whole self regardless of the state of your evolution and understanding, regardless of the judgments of others. It asks that you allow every Soul you encounter to do the same without your judgment.

Being your whole self, expressing both the inner storms and the inner sunshine without censor, gives permission for all those you encounter to step into their authentic essence too, we begin again to connect on a deeper level, we allow understanding to guide us towards a Modus Operandi that is based in unconditional love.

What inner truths are buried within you that need essential expression?

More later… x

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The Good Friday Guide To Conflict Resolution

Do you think JC would have ended up on a cross if people actually knew how to resolve their differences?

I have to confess my post has little or nothing to do with Easter or the crucifixion story, it just seems appropriate to mention Master Jesus at this time of year and ask what he would do… unfortunately for him he was unable to make the other party hear him (probably because Mercury had slid fully into its impression of Michael Jackson’s moonwalk going backwards across the sky and sending communication into a tailspin of misunderstanding, misinterpretation, misrepresentation… in fact just ‘mis’sing the point entirely.

So conflict resolution then?

From a Wholly Grail perspective we may have to throw every one of the 7 Principles at the issue but lets start with Principle 4: I AM Truth…

This Principle should not be deliberately used to prove who is right and who is wrong, it is a universal statement, available to all to make the point that from any one persons point of reference the truth looks very different and so your truth and mine may not essentially match. Let’s start there.

We all make assumptions during conflict about what the other persons agenda is, we imagine their motives from our personal perspective… we are inevitably wrong. Just ask.

“What do you want?”

“What outcome are you hoping for?”

“How do you see this situation resolving itself?”

Remember now that all external conflict is a reflection of an internal conflict that we each have going on too. A battle between your higher self and your ego is in progress all with the intention of protecting your best interests… they just don’t know how to agree on the best course of how to make that happen, so externally you do battle with whatever appears to be threatening your sense of safety.

Victory in conflict is an illusion. For someone to be the victor, someone else has to be the victim… for every winner there is a loser, unless the warring parties learn to listen, and to be honest in their representation of the real issues underlying the antagonism they have towards each other.

Resolution is never the hidden agenda. Winning is. That’s the thing that needs to be determined: “What’s your definition of winning?”

Only compromise can create true resolution and that has to be about two parties coming together to create a win/win scenario.

Love must be the agenda.

This is where we slap in Principle 2: I AM Detached, this allows us to let go of the tight hold we have on our chosen outcome. Follow it with Principle 1: I AM God, without being able to recognise the divinity in your opponent you will never be able to see them as anything but your opponent and therefore you will never truly recognise that you were always on the same team: family.

Now we need the final piece… Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, quite simply the perfect balance of give and take.

Whilst this is all very well, the vital ingredient is this:

It takes two people to pull up a chair at the negotiation table… you cannot force a closed mind open, so if that doesn’t work, one must take JC’s approach and turn the other cheek… (and someone ends up crucified).

More later… x

 

Challenge Day – Moonwalking Across The Heavens

It is of course the 1st Monday of the month and so challenge day is upon us… As your friendly neighbourhood Grail guide it would normally be my job to set such a challenge for you but universally speaking I believe that the bar has already been set.

As a non-astrologer myself but a keen dabbler nevertheless, I have been all too aware of the tricky little f**ker that is Mercury in retrograde, pretending it is harmless whilst moonwalking across the heavens. Now for those of you who have chosen to remain sheltered from the wisdom held in the movement of the stars let me put it in layman’s terms for you: Mercury apparently governs communication in all its forms as well as having a hand in with the technology involved in the modern day methods of delivering such communiques. Now had we been living in 1916, ┬ájust 100 years ago that would probably mean that the postman’s bicycle got a puncture or the horse needed a good blacksmith… around 50 or so years later some fella would be robbing the post train… but today, well!…

So me, what do I decide to do?

For approximately 3 weeks, 3 times a year Mercury pretends like its starring in a Michael Jackson video, dragging all manner of haywire technical shenanigans with it and that’s my cue to attempt to understand a whole new digital platform for communicating sacred Grail text with you!

At the time of writing this post I have spent hours weighing up options, confusing myself senseless, undergoing mind-numbing long pauses while my internet buffers and crashes and then taunting me with promises of the answers I’m seeking before it laughs loudly in my face and asks “did you mean platform shoes?”

Anyway here is the thing I’ve learned in the last few days of cosmic cruelty:

1: Timing is everything… Principle 2: I AM Detached

2: An open mind makes learning easier… Principle 4: I AM Truth (and I reserve the right to evolve).

3: Laugh at your mistakes… Principle 3: I AM Human

Right then, consider this your universal challenge: don’t take anything personally… nothing is as it seems.

More later… x

Remarkably Unremarkable

Hey you! Yes you. How long has it been since we were able to communicate without barriers? How long since we opened our hearts and our minds without pretence or hidden agenda? Why is it do you think that we do that, feel the need to hide from each other, shield our innermost hopes dreams and aspirations? Why is it that we hide in plain site the things that mean most to us?

Fear is an epidemic, so I’m told, spreading from one of us to the next by means of energetic transfer without us actually consciously being aware of it… “he’s hiding something, I must therefore fear his motives and guard my own” when the truth is that he is hiding his own fear… Fear begets fear and so on.

So what is it we are hiding exactly? The answer is fairly simple and remarkably unremarkable: Love, we’re hiding love!

We hide from it when we don’t think it comes in the format we want, we hide from it when there’s a chance it might be rejected by someone else who is also hiding from it, we hide from it when it’s too intense because we’ve hidden from it for so long we can’t handle being loved, loving or even witnessing love. We fear love. Fear is the opposite of love but love is the one thing we all want and the one thing we all hold at arms length…

So then, what are you afraid of? What are you hiding from? When was the last time we didn’t let fear dictate how much love flows between us?

No, I don’t know either, but I do know this: I love you… and I’m not afraid of it.

Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted

More later… x

 

The Emissary

Grail Oracle 1Grail Oracle Blue

Once again the royal blue of the throat chakra is prominant in this combination as it joins forces with the first Principle of The Wholly Grail: I AM God. The Emissary is the remover of obstacles as the walls that previously stood in the way of open inter-relating have been smashed down by mutual respect and candor.

When you know your worth, not monetary but something much more fundamental than that: your divine essence, you suddenly recognise that within every living thing too, leaving room for each individual to become all that they can be and actively participating in the healing of previous blocks.

Have you ever been in that situation where you’ve thought to yourself “I might as well stop talking because nobody’s listening”? Do you remember the days when the phrase “Talk to the hand…” was really popular? These are prime examples of a lack of respect, firstly for yourself and secondly for whomever you are communicating with (or not)… The Emissary has wiped away the emnity and opened channels of communication symbolising not only a healing of past hurt but also the opportunity to express real truth; meaningful, compassionate, heartfelt truth, and in doing so heralding a creative partnership where once stood only fearful apprehension.

This is the beginning of the peace talks… grab the energy and ride it to its conclusion (and make sure its conclusion is built on love).

More next week… x

 

To be so Naked

On the first Monday of every month I like to set my fellow Grail Knights a challenge, after all that’s what a quest is: a series of challenges to be overcome that when read as a story, your life story in this case, create an epic adventure. Of course you don’t need me to set you challenges as they come fairly thick and fast in their own right. Challenge promotes creativity.

Creative solutions are the product of an open, free mind and that’s what I’m challenging you with today. I’ve found myself conforming to certain beliefs, certain ways of thinking about my own life and the people within it, ways of communicating and understanding each other. We all do it, we become accustomed to routine, but I suddenly realised yesterday that the information I was absorbing from the personal messages I receive from those near and dear may not be what I think they are, in fact they may not have even been aimed at me in the first place!

We love to jump to conclusions as communication is far from an exact science… we all know that what’s being said is only about 10% of the message and the rest is hidden in subtext, how it’s said, what didn’t get said etc. It’s all a bit complicated really, not to mention confusing, so here’s the thing: not just for today but for the whole of February, now that Mercury is direct and we can no longer blame it’s retrograde manoeuvres for our inability to make ourselves understood, I challenge you to find a creative solution to the multitude of ways in which you miscommunicate your intent and allow your truth to be up front and in full view.

It takes a very brave and very special kind of Grail Knight to be so naked and vulnerable but Principle 4: I AM Truth is your guide and friend.

More later… x