Difficult decisions can only be made once you understand what motivates your choices.
We make arrangements, agreements, commitments spoken and unspoken, we fulfil responsibilities and obligations that these contracts, conscious and unconscious bring with them, but do we actually understand and honour the most sacred contract there is? That is the one we have to ourselves.
This week’s oracle teams up Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, with the emerald green of the heart chakra to highlight for us this fundamental and yet often neglected vow of taking care of our own needs.
Ask yourself as you step into the week ahead who you are doing it for? Who you get out of bed for, go to work for, cook for, make yourself beautiful for? Ask who you cry for, smile for, yearn for and strive for? You will come up with many answers from your kids to your boss to your clients to your lover to your dog… but the ultimate truth is you do it for you.
Your kids bring you joy, love, a sense of continuity and even immortality. Your boss is just the guy or girl that pays the wages that fund your lifestyle. Your clients’ happiness gives you a sense of fulfilment and purpose. Your lover makes you feel special (hopefully), provides physical attention and acts a mirror to your hopes, dreams and aspirations, as well as fulfilling your need for connection and companionship and that urge to pair off that dates back to Adam and Eve, and was fortified by Noah’s deliberate loading strategy for his big wooden boat thing. Your dog… well who knows why we humans are so attached to four-legged furry things but it’s mostly because they love you unconditionally for who you are no matter how shit your hair looks or whether you’re a flatulent toad in your down time. At the route of every obligation, contract or commitment is the fact that it benefits YOU!
Now that we’ve cleared that up, give yourself a little while to let it percolate and come at this oracle afresh.
Self-Full Living is the art of providing for one’s own needs. You either do it consciously or unconsciously.
The heart chakra is the centre of balance in the energy system, it’s the healing heart where unconditional love comes from, it provides a safe space in which to exist, that’s what it means to hold someone in your heart, you give them a space to heal, to be whole. Now imagine for a moment that you are the person you are holding within that centre of life affirming, healing love… everything you do this week must be about you so take that temporary time out, let it breathe (whatever it is) whilst you have a word with yourself about your motives.
Commitment is an all or nothing deal. Fear is the enemy of commitment. Maybe, you’re afraid of losing? Maybe you’re afraid of winning? Maybe you’re afraid of losing yourself in the vastness of a love so deep and so powerful that it consumes you? But it’s your love… The love you lavish upon yourself. Whatever you pour it into, whoever you pour it into, you ultimately are pouring into yourself. Do you love yourself enough to give life and love your best shot?
Take the time, make the space, and then asked the question…
Am I all in?
Because if you’re not all in, you’re out.
More next week… x