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Apples and Pears

I see it more and more these days and it leads me to ask the question: is a character assassination of your opponent really the best way of getting your argument heard?

It pains me that as human beings we continuously feel the need to climb on the backs of others to get further up the life ladder when simply asking might offer us the leg up we need.

Why is it necessary then to make someone else appear to be in some way wrong and that you are in fact the one that is right. You may be the one that’s right for a small proportion of the audience but you will never be a good fit with some of the others… it’s all about fruit.

Yes fruit!

Apples and pears to be exact… now I’m not talking about the Cockney rhyming slang for stairs (though stairs are a good metaphor for ascension), what I’m referring to is the sublime and beautiful differences between the two. Now as you know if you’re keeping up I favour the pear… a symbol of my goal and perhaps destiny. That doesn’t mean I don’t like apples mind, it just means that given the choice I’m going to choose the pear. Now if you are a pear there is no point in trying to be an apple and you will serve no one and nothing by trying to convince the world that apples are bad (they tried that in the bible and Eve still got stuck in)… By the same token if you’re an apple what would you have to gain by imitating a pear? Or for that matter shouting from the rooftops “Eat me! The pear is bad!”

You see… fruit!

Preference and the people’s right to choose cannot be swayed by character assassination, on a subconscious level we enlightened folk see right through it… if you say to me (being the contrary bleeder that I am) “don’t believe that other guy…” I’m going to go straight and find out what that other guy was saying so that I can decide which argument feels, at its essence, to resonate more with me. Your big mistake in that instance was simply to draw my attention to the other guy because until you shouted “Hey! Eat me, the pear is bad…” I hadn’t looked up from the orchard to exclaim : “Wait a minute… What pear? Where?”

So now, you think a certain way, look a certain way, have invested in a certain set of core beliefs… they are not going to be the same as anybody else’s exact configuration and that is exactly what makes you unique. As a pear you stand out in a line of apples, no apology necessary… but if you stand there telling everyone that the apples are sinful then who exactly is portraying the role of the proverbial “bad apple”? If you stand there pretending to be an apple then you’ll stand out for all the wrong reasons… like being a fake!

Keep being you, stay authentic, understand that in the line up of apples, eventually the right people will notice and soon enough you will be surrounded by slowly ripening pears and the apples will become irrelevant to your journey without you needing to threaten them with the cider press.

Finding your tribe is about patience kindness and a willingness to stand out before you fit in.

Principle 4: I AM Truth… and I respect that yours my differ from mine.

More later… x

The Third Hurdle – Unravelling Authenticity

Over the last couple of posts we shed light on the fallacy that is time and uncovered blame’s hold over forgiveness. Today let’s look at the truth.

The search for approval is a battle that is seldom won without some form of compromise or radical transformation through learning, it is a search that often tramples over authenticity.

Embracing your own personal truth can be a scary prospect when it sets you up in opposition to the truth of another… without faith in your place on the path, your connection to the God force flowing through you, this apparently irreconcilable difference of opinion or point of view will cause you to question what you hold dear and even question your sanity at times. The first thing you have to embrace is the discomfort… don’t automatically assume that someone has to be right and someone has to be wrong… if only the universe was quite so black and white.

Authenticity is holding the faith with what you know to be true whilst allowing room for growth through new learning. It’s not about being right it’s about being faithful. Have I used the word faithful enough? Who are you dishonouring by allowing your position to be toppled by a loud voice or a heavy hand? Only yourself and God, after all you are God remember? God lives in your faith, and driving a wedge between you and what you instinctively know to be true to your heart (between God and your heart) for the sake of fitting in, being liked or pleasing someone else will ultimately lead to separation… which if you have paid attention to the last couple of posts is the same as low self-worth, separation from God/Yourself will lead to resentment which in turn will lead to separation from the very person or people that you compromised your truth to remain attached to… sad turn of events that what you traded for, you ultimately lost. Is it worth it?

Authenticity has little to do with winning (sounds familiar), it has nothing to do with oppression of free will, it has everything to do with celebrating difference, variety, and in some cases even uncertainty. Uncertainty leads to invention and invention to evolution… growth.

But we feel the need to be heard, don’t we? God hears you, he witnesses your position and can clearly define the journey you undertook to reach your current state of understanding and from His/Your perspective all is as it should be but God walked the path with everyone else too and their positions, though different from yours are just as perfect in their conclusions as yours are.

When you expect approval from any external source, you set yourself up for disappointment and rejection. This is not an indication that your truth is wrong, it is proof that your audience already has a truth of its own and either it is not yet ready to hear, or it is not open to embrace something new.

Listen with respect to opinions of others but recognise that true wisdom leads you home to God… if it feels like leaving yourself behind, let it go.

The third hurdle – unravelling authenticity, is simply about communicating dispassionately, without holding any attachment to how you are being perceived… don’t go changing!

Principle 4: I AM Truth

Look out for The Fourth Hurdle next week and in the meantime I’ll be back tomorrow with a free reading from The Intuitive Chalice Oracle… x