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You’re Halfway There But Look How Far You’ve Come

As we entered July in the middle of last week it suddenly occurred to me that we had past the halfway mark in the year. Normally that floods me with a sense of “it’s all downhill from here,” but this year it feels different. A voice from the heavens was gently reminding me (to remind you) “You’re halfway there but look how far you’ve come.”

Call it what you will, but…

2020 so far has been remarkable. The forced alterations in our day to day lives have triggered a whole host of external and internal transformations that were somehow always destined to propel us along a new trajectory.

For me personally, that began around this time last year when I freed myself from a long term entanglement and began to rebuild my life the way I wanted it to be. This time for me, not for anyone else. It was transformed further when I jumped at the opportunities the universe sent my way, learning new skills and developing my long held dreams to serve more people in a way that honoured their stories as well as my own.

Finally finding balance

Perhaps sensing the incoming universal shifts earlier this year, I began to separate myself from even more unbalanced relationships, friendships and connections, reinforcing my personal and professional boundaries to protect my energy and align with the Principles I have spent years learning and developing.

It’s ok that it’s messy

The Grail is a blueprint for personal and spiritual happiness, wellbeing and peace but when you are so far off it, the journey back takes time and can look messy and uncomfortable to the outside world. I’ve been learning the path for years, but I only chose to walk it consciously the moment I began to say no to anything that is out of integrity with it.

Have I changed. Hell Yes!

Does that change please everybody in my life? Er?… No.

When Spirit reminded me: “You’re halfway there but look how far you’ve come,” I knew that another impending shift was just around the corner. I feel the phase coming to a close and a new one beginning. I’m well aware of the discomfort my clients and students go through when they begin this path in earnest, because I’ve lived it myself… but on the otherside of finding the Grail, is the self-love, peace and fulfilment you’ve been looking for. It may look very different from what you have imagined but it will feel better than you could ever have hoped for.

You are worth the effort

If you are struggling through life’s transitions at the moment, no matter what phase you are in, remember you are worthy of beautiful balanced connections and a life that will honour who you are at every level… and don’t settle for anything less than love, light and abundance. You’re halfway there but look how far you’ve come.

Love, Jo x

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Overcoming Fear However Long It Takes

It’s taken me years to get to this point. I’ve been putting off doing the things that scare me for so long that the actually transition from what was to what now is, seemed more like a tiny cosmic fart than a big deal, when it actually came down to it. Overcoming fear however long it takes, is your primary mission in following your own soul’s guidance.

Yes I’ve been putting off launching my Grail Temple Membership for about 5 years now. The technology has been in place on my website (I’ve even been paying for it to just sit there in the background), but I’ve only just this Solstice weekend finally hit the launch button and made it fully live to members.

We make such a big deal about the unknown in our own minds that we not only deprive ourselves of a learning experience but what we haven’t considered is that we deprive others as well. Especially when it comes to sharing our gifts with the world.

In Grail terms, we go through many stages of fear before we leap into the unknown. We ask the ineveitable questions:

  • Who am I to do that? (Principle 1)
  • What if it doesn’t work out and all turns to shit? (Principle 2)
  • Can I get over it if I fail? (Principle 3)
  • Will I be judged and will they get it? (Principle 4)
  • Will I become a slave to my own creation? (Principle 5)
  • How will it affect my health, happiness and wellbeing? (Principle 6)
  • What if I get nothing out of it when I put in so much? (Principle 7)

For me it was Principle 5 that tripped me up for years… I became a commitment-phobe and couldn’t reconcile the sheer amount of work it would take to manage and maintain the project, let alone create content for it. But then something dawned on me: I was doing all those things anyway but not actually in a way that would allow me to embrace Principle 7… there was no way for me to get anything out of it in return. My reserves were depleted and it was entirely my own doing. My fear didn’t stop me from giving, it just stopped me from receiving in balance.

The Grail is about overcoming fear however long it takes, so that you can live life in balance and remake your world the way you want it. It’s hard to see sometimes, just exactly what you are denying yourself in the name of self-preservation, or just exactly how much better life can be if you just let go of the handbrake and take the leap.

The transition was simple for me because over the years I was already delivering what I had always intended to… I just needed to package it in a more comprehensive way. But just because it was simple doesn’t mean it was easy… I still broke out in a cold sweat when I jumped!

If you want to learn how to overcome those questions and fears too, now you can, right here.

Love, Jo x

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What’s Happening With My Energy?

I booted up my laptop this morning to write the weekly blog and this was the randomised screensaver that greeted me from the Google archive. I recognised it immediately. Not just because its geographical location is near where I live and apparently I have ancestors on my maternal grandfather’s side from there, but I recognised it more deeply on a soul level as to what’s happening with my energy right now.

Firstly, in case you are wondering what ungodly pheomenon this might be, it’s actually a beautiful piece of engineering at Ladybower reservoir in Derbyshire, UK. I always used to call it the plughole when I was little, (probably still would today if I’m honest).

Seeing the image on my screen this morning it reminded me of the way our personal energy, if unchecked, can just go down the plughole and into the great abyss, leaving us needing to work ever harder to bring ourselves back into balance through Self-Full focus and care. The truth is though, if we were much more discerning about how we use our resources (whether intellectual, emotional, physical or material) and consciously manage our focus and attention, then this great big monster-of-a-drain wouldn’t even register, because we each possess the means to direct the flow and even plug it if we need to.

So what’s happening with my energy? For me personally, my physical energy is doing fine at present, but I do recognise the signs that I am spreading myself too thin, and across too many different projects/platforms… it doesn’t feel like I’m doing any of them justice at the moment.

My passion and my purpose is to serve and to teach and to make a difference in the lives of those I reach… but it has to be a positive difference. It has to nourish me in return so that I can keep serving. You see, it doesn’t matter how much energy is pouring down the plughole as long as an equal or even greater amount is also pouring in. This is the nature of Principle 7 of the Grail. In order to balance the in and the out, the giving and the receiving, essentially the resourse management, I have had to take my foot off the gas in areas that are not nurturing me too in some way: mind,body or spirit.

Over the coming weeks I have decided that I need to increase my “selective” handling of the different ways in which I serve so that I have more to give and more importantly, the fewer ways I do so can have greater impact.

Now, we know what’s happening with my energy, what I want to know is: does the ‘monstrous devourer of life force’ pictured above, resonate for you in the same way it did for me today… and can you identify in your own life what the power drain might actually be? Perhaps it’s a job, a person, a relationship, a habit or even a thought pattern…. maybe it’s even just the endless bad news on social media?

What action are you going to take to plug the energy drain and reclaim your power? Let me know in the comments below.

Love, Jo xxx

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May Day Edition – Soften Back Into Flow

If you feel like you have been pushing against your natural rhythm of late, this will come as a validation of the inner call of the divine feminine present within all things that requires us to soften back in to flow.

The divine masculine uses language like “control” and “drive;” it propels us into a world that feels rushed and hurried, contrived and competitive. You maybe thinking that when we are all still obviously held within the confines of lockdown that those things are far from our current state, but how many of you have felt the need to hustle to catch up or keep up? How many of you have felt the pressure to adapt or fall by the wayside?

Personally I hit a wall last week, after being in the hustle stage for too long and pushing just a little too far too fast. I felt the familiar tug of fatigue creeping in and the discomfort of misalignment from my soul’s voice. For me that spells the beginning of wandering off the path into the danger zone and more importantly away from my own bliss.

Stepping back into the nurturing embrace of the divine feminine leaves room for that language to transform from “control” into “allow” and from “drive” into “flow.” Neither of these states is wrong, or right for that matter, all serves. It just has a more cooperative, collaborative, co-creative feel to it. You become the craft that flows whilst the universe controls and drives the vessel.

When we soften back into flow, we leave room for the miracles that were meant for us. We begin to demonstrate trust in a power higher than our own and become the instructed rather than always having to be the instructor. We allow the path unfold naturally without needing to dictate which direction it takes.

I invite you to join me in setting an intention for the beautiful, bountiful, fertile feminine energy of Beltane, when the May Day “Empress” is ripe with potential, to focus on bliss, gratitude and what is already present within our lives. To be open and receptive to the flow of energy that is bringing with it even more blessings and fresh opportunities until such time as the energy once again requires us to drive.

This balance or dance between the be and the do, the yin and the yang, the receiving and the giving… this is the nature of all relationships and the essence of Grail Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted. Let your heart soften back into flow, then notice all the gifts the universe is holding in reserve for you come rushing in.

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Happy May Day!

Love from Jo xxx

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P.P.S Did you see May’s Grail Oracle?

That Moment Just Before You Leap

I can’t escape the obvious underlying feeling at the moment that I’m about to proverbially jump off a cliff and test my wings for what feels like the first time. But what happens in that moment just before you leap?

Spiritaully speaking, the angels begin to gather and the Divine starts making plans for your landing… because you will land. How and when, are a matter of physics and the laws of the universe, like the law of consequence and the law of attraction… but the law of gravity does not negotiate no matter how hard you bargain.

For me, this moment signifies readiness to commit to The Grail Unfiltered. It means that as I go forward, the mask is coming off. The veil is being lifted and the soft underbelly of my own journey through the ups and downs of embracing its teachings and yet still falling asleep on the job as-it-were, are about to be front and centre so that I can better guide you to understand how it can only work for you, it can only change everything, if you stay conscious every step of the way.

That moment just before you leap is filled with trepidation and what ifs. It is filled with calculations and negotiations and in truth, none of that really matters because the universe has a plan of it’s own and you have no clue if that plan is for you to crash and burn as sport or for you to fly so high that you leave a mark on the sun.

I have to believe that the universe is a benign force with no intention other than to channel through me and you, the secrets it holds, in hope that humanity can find balance and re-enter the garden we were placed into before we thought we knew better.

That moment just before you leap can be much better served with prayer:

I live to serve. Let me do so with an open heart and a clear mind, free of the fears that I might fail in my mission and free of the confines of being too afraid to try. Let me enter the arena and take my place among those who stood here before in the fire of their own truth. Let my truth be Thy truth and let me be a clear channel for healing and transformation in Thy name.

So be it.

I am unsure when my next post will arrive. I am unsure what it will contain. What I am sure of, in this moment before I leap, is that a new life is beckoning me.

If you are on the verge of testing your wings, feel free to switch your fear to faith and by all means use my prayer.

Jo x

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Self-Care Special: It Will Happen When It’s Ready

Battling with myself just now as to whether to write a Self-Care Special blog or give it a miss this week, I recognised in myself the familiar feeling of having pushed past my limit. Being Self-Full requires that you know when to rest and to know it will happen when it’s ready, life that is.

Deadlines are great for getting stuff done, they really are, but if you are the kind of person that has trouble listening to your soul’s voice and taking heed of your body’s requirements, then that deadline is goin to be the thing that you punish yourself with time and time again.

I’ve learned to honour the voice inside that tells me when enough is enough, so before I wrote this I took a few hours off to recoup some energy after a long week of juggling my own priorities and other peoples needs. We are in strange times at present and personal wellbeing is a high priority, as is managing stress. It is a fact that stress reduces the immune system and so its wise to manage your schedule in a way supports your long term dreams as well as your immediate well-being.

Nature is showing us that it has its own priorities and deadlines at the moment and funnily enough, they cannot be negotiated with. Crisis has a certain way of putting everything into perspective in a way that forces you to conform to the natural order. Your health has a natural cycle just like Mother Nature and when she says stop and rest, if you listen and act promptly, and you’re lucky enough, stop and rest won’t mean just STOP.

Get your hands on a copy of The Self-Full Living Workbook here and start prioritising your well-being today!

Everything has a timetable and you cannot force it nor can you hold it back so you may as well just get on board and go with the flow. It will happen when it’s ready.

To help you along the way though, try the following:

The universe will get you exactly where you need to be exactly when you are supposed to be there. I truly believe that. So as you glide into this week, can you let things happen in divine right timing and get out of your own way to take care of you first?

Let’s call it a challenge.

Love, Jo x

P.S. Did you see this week’s Dragon Reading? …and check out the Alignment Task for this week on my YouTube Channel.

Are You Finding Time To Do You?

Life is going to go in swings and roundabouts, peaks and troughs. Unlike the seemlessly perfect highlights of a social media lifestyle, quite often the universe has other plans and we end up neck deep in stuff that needs our attention and none of it seems to be ours. The question is, while it’s all happening, are you finding time to do you?

Self-Full Living isn’t about placing yourself in a bubble and becoming oblivious to the outside world and what it appears to need from you, its about finding balance between the demands of life, family and community and your own well-being, hopes, wishes and dreams.

In the last week or so, everything has gone a bit tits-up with my schedule as I’ve put everything on hold to renovate part of my mum’s house to make it accessible for her to come home from residential care. She’s very elderly now and her mobility is negligible. That means that I’ve been humping heavy furniture around, painting and decorating, de-cluttering years of stuff. My own goals have all had to go on hold, but I refuse to put my own health and self-care needs on hold because that just doesnt benefit anyone, including mum.

When you understand your own worth (Principle 1) and that taking care of your own well-being is the greatest gift you can give to anyone you love or who loves you (Principle 6), you begin to reconsider your actions, drop the martyrdom quest and start seeking win/win solutions for everyone involved. The biggest win/win you can gift the world is to aks yourself that question: are you taking time to do you? If the answer is no then you need to prioritise that now… no, not when the emergency or urgency is over, right now.

It doesn’t have to be dramatic or even noticeable to anyone else, simply take the time to eat well, eat fresh; rest when you are tired; spend 5 mins in meditation; stretch; hydrate. Do all of this deliberately and mindfully and pay attention to what your body needs, it will tell you (catch it on the whisper though or you will know its too little, too late).

Taking time to do you is not an indulgence, its a sacred contract you have with your own Source. Honour it. Honour yourself.

What is your mind, body and spirit asking of you today and how are you going to fulfill it’s request?

Love, Jo x

P.S. Here is the link to my Self-Full Living Workbook to help you understand your patterns and gaps in your current self-care practices. You might find it useful.

P.P.S Did you see the Dragon Reading for this week?

P.P.P.S. And your alignment task is being uncovered here in the Alignment Reading.

Why FOMO Will Kill Your MOJO!

Have you ever been in that situation where you are so scared of missing what’s available, that you expend all of your energy saying yes to everyone and everything? Let me tell you why FOMO will kill your MOJO!

The truth is, yes, the world is full of shiny things that we all want to experience, but I know that you’ve heard the expression “all that glitters is not gold.” In Grail terms, to maintain your vital essence, you must invest in only the things that will in turn invest in you, i.e. give back to you in a form that nourishes your spirit.

Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted is focused on the concept of balance and your mojo is dependent on your ability to steward your inner resources. What that means is, if you are always putting out and not open to receive what needs to come in, you will be depleted as fast as you can say yes to the next thing that is presented to you.

Discernment is key to developing your spiritual mojo muscle. You have to get really good at saying no to what doesn’t ultimately serve you. If you have been experiencing mojo fatigue through prolonged FOMO (fear of missing out), then you have already had enough experience of what serves and what doesn’t. Think about all the times you said yes and then came away feeling disappointed. All the times you put energy into something or someone to realise that you got nothing out of it that was valuable. Let me give you an example: I’ve been going to MBS events for years. Sometimes to browse, sometimes to attend workshops. Every time I go of late, I leave feeling like I spent money I didn’t have on stuff that didn’t serve and instead of coming away with a sense of upliftment, I was left feeling drained and disappointed. I keep going because I have FOMO… “what if there is something new and exciting this time?”

Of course that’s just my story, I still wholehearted believe that MBS shows are a treasure chest of teachers and healers if you are just beginning this journey… in fact I can highly recommend a few!

Hearing from a few people this week feeling overwhelm and myself being a Grail teacher encouraging Self-Full Living, I have to tell you that your choices need to reflect your ultimate goals. Ask yourself always: “Does this opportunity take me closer to where I want to be?” If the answer is yes, then go for it, because the progress itself will be enough to fuel up your Grail cup and reinvigorate your waning mojo, the benefits are obvious and appropriate. If however the choice before you is merely a distraction from what’s not working in your life then you will find that once you have been distracted and its over, you will have to go back to what’s not working in your life and have gained nothing, potentially having instead used up vital resources, energetic and material, in order to be distracted.

FOMO is real, but so is balance. If you want to know the real reason FOMO will kill your mojo, its that you haven’t yet honed in on what it is you are actually trying to achieve. You get to choose what will serve your highest good and if it isn’t filling you up, it’s simply emptying you out.

Love, Jo x

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Finding Balance When The World Keeps Spinning

I have to admit there is more than just a little irony in this article because I’m finding balance when the world keeps spinning figuratively, literally and perceivably.

I relaunched the blog last week along with a new Facebook group for women, a new email list, several different video offerings including exclusive Grail content and the return of my YouTube Dragon Readings, which I adore doing so much. So to all intents and purposes, the world really speeded up for me after I had taken quite a significant amount of time out to explore my direction, whilst also managing my own emotional healing journey and looking after my elderly mum who has been in and out of hospital for over a year now.

I got to contemplating how the world just keeps on spinning no matter what we go through, not because it just came to me in a flash, but because in the midst of this (though I’d like to call it a finely honed and precision relaunch), in reality, chaotic and frenzied return to my Grail work, I seem to have developed a rather queer inner ear imbalance that causes everything to look like it is spining.

I remember this feeling from years ago when I used to enjoy alcohol. You know that awful sensation you get when you’re pissed out of your face and you lie down, then the room starts pretending to be the waltzer at the fairground… and there’s you, clinging on for dear life in case you go flying off the end of the bed?

Yeah, that feeling!

Well, that’s me at the moment, minus the alcohol.

Inner ear infection? Maybe. Virus? Possibly. The onset of vertigo? Potentially… whatever it is, it’s timing couldn’t be more inconvenient or it’s message more poignant: something is out of balance.

If I also take into account my physical reaction to the imbalance, it gives a clue to what I might be responding to energetically. I keep veering off sideways and falling over! A sideways move instead of moving forward?

Imbalance in our our lives occurs for all sorts of reasons and often when we think we are moving forward we are actually not really tackling the one thing that the universe wants us to face. In my case I have taken massive action to deal with all the peripheral stuff that supports my soul’s mission, but I have yet to actually tackle the main event. I’ve side-stepped the difficult bit in favour of the pretty trimmings and the universe has said: “Oi! do you think We can’t see what you’re doing?”

Finding balance, for me, is now having to come from multiple angles:

  • I’ve had to get really Self-Full.
  • I’ve had to stop and assess where I’m at.
  • I’ve had to say no to everything that isn’t “On Purpose.”
  • I’ve had to acknowledge where fear is leading me into denial.

When I listen to my own soul’s voice and really hear what it is asking me to heed, I automatically begin to unravel the difficulties I get myself into, and I do that by returning to the Grail time and time again… I ask myself if I can honestly say I am living the “I AM” statements that make up the 7 Principles and then I seek to understand if not, why not?

  • Do I really accept myself for who I am?
  • Am I fully present with what is or am I projecting?
  • Am I blaming myself or another for what is (or was)?
  • Am I being swayed by opinion rather than holding fast to my truth?
  • Am I holding on so tightly to what I have that I’ve become it’s captive?
  • Am I taking responsibility for caring for my own needs?
  • And am I somehow restricting the flow of abundance from the universe?

I can honestly say that there are more than a few on the list that are requiring another look for me and the most important step is remembering that every time we embark on a new leg of the journey, we are required to revisit the Grail.

The Grail is peace, balance, joy, fulfilment… and because the world keeps spinning, it keeps getting knocked over and requires that you reset it… that doesn’t mean it’s not fun, and I’m having lot’s of that at present trying to find the right formula for tackling the big things and the little things, at the core and the periphery…

I’m finding balance when the world keeps spinning!

Jo x

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Weekly Oracle – Let’s Get Started

I physically felt the energy of this week’s combination way before I selected the cards. It is the combination of the “wide open channel.” I knew this was the green light and Spirit’s message was simply “Let’s get started.”

Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, allows for the unrestricted two way flow of energy, essentially giving and receiving in equal measure and the balance of input with output.

The vivid violet crown chakra is highlighting that the input being referred to is inspiration and insight from the collective consciousness or higher realms, denoting that there is a potential for pure, clear channelling of wisdom, grace and healing this week.

When we are able to successfully balance the energy in the crown without need to shape or restrict what comes through, using our creativity to instead find a way to give it back to the world, that’s we become an effective Instrument of The Divine.

If you have been aware for some time that you have a mission and a divine life purpose, this week you may find that you are finding new ways to implement it, to take the abundance of inspiration that is flooding in and transform it into a unique form that makes it accessible to the world so that it in turn might inspire others.

You might find yourself fashioning the first chapter of that book you’ve always wanted to write, putting brush to canvas, composing a masterpiece of modern music or starting a new business… the possibilities are endless but one thing is for sure: almost immediately the inspiration is received you will be moved to act.

Allow it to filter through you in it’s purest form, don’t tamper with it to fit the mainstream or the critics… Source doesn’t want another version of the “been there, done that.” Only you can download the message the way it was intended… when the message comes through someone else, it’s inflections will be different as will the tone, texture and interpretation.

The Intuitive Chalice Oracle’s message to you this week is: The mission has been assigned, now let’s get started.

If you need help identifying the mission and you are near South Yorkshire, UK this February 10th, you might like to join my Co-Create With Spirit Workshop… details here.

Have a blessed week of co-creation x