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Do You Know Who I Am? Let Me Reintroduce Myself…

Do you ever look around you at the people who claim to know you and think: “Shit! Have you even met me? Do you know who I am?

I’ve been contemplating this very question and a mad realisation came over me… if they don’t know the real me, whose fault is that? Well, mine obviously… There is something I failed to tell them or let them see or make clear.

We all hide behind a mask of “I’ve got my shit together and I know what I’m doing and everything is A-Okay with my world,” until it isn’t and all of a sudden everyone backs away slowly going “who the hell is this girl and what the absolute f**k did she do with the woman I know.”

Let me be the first to redress the balance… Let me reintroduce myself:

Hi I’m Jo. I’m a 47 year old divorcee with a string of dysfunctional romantic connections behind me, I’m skint and I’m overweight and I’m trying hard to hold it together whilst supporting an elderly parent with the beginnings of what might be dementia…

…Hold on a minute though, because I’m also the incredibly lucky woman who supports countless other women all over the world to live their truth and find peace and happiness with what is, so they can feel empowered enough to change it into what they want it to be.

Yes I’m 47 but take a good look at the picture at the top of my website… no special lighting, no filter, no make-up… thats me! And the pic is a selfie I took on my mobile (cell) phone. If you can spot a wrinkle you win a prize! That’s peace.

Yes I’m currently single but after years of dealing with codependency and narcissitic or emotionally unavailable men, I’m so loving, loving me that it’s going to take one hell of an enlightened authentic individual to match my level of self-love and if he doesn’t show up what does it matter as long as I’m enjoying life.

Yes I’m skint but I used to be in a well paid management position that made me so miserable I got a migraine like clockwork at the same time every day and ended up being tested for adrenal cancer due to burn out… I’d rather be happy, healthy and broke than rich and dead!

Yes I’m overweight but I’m also a healthy-eating nutritionist who happens to like cake. I do yoga and tai-chi and though I’m a clumsy beginner at both, who resembles the hippos in tutus on Disney’s Fantasia more than the graceful swan I think I look like, I love it… and did I tell you I dance like I own the dance floor and managed to outdance some skinny dude in dance-off in Edinbrugh whilst having a ball out with the girls? What the hell has the size of a woman’s arse got to do with loving life?

Yes I’m struggling at present with the deterioration of my mum’s health but that woman taught me more about doing what makes you happy than any other person in my life, so I’m grateful everyday for the time we have together.

Now, let me tell you who I’m not…

I’m not the woman who is going to teach you how to get rich. Everybody and her aunt is trying to sell you a scheme or a strategy to make you millions on social media… it hasnt worked for me so far but i’m rich beyond words when it comes to my spiritual life.

I’m not the woman who is going to show you how to make yourself skinny and beautiful… you dont have to go far to find the endless brands selling you a pipedream about how you will will lose weight in days if you buy their product and how you will take 10 years off if you use their face cream… my skin care is super basic and from a high street drug store.

I’m not the woman who is going to promise you that the man of your dreams is just around the corner… I met him already, he was a self-centred arsehole with an ego the size of a continent and there is a reason he only exists in your dreams. The right guy will love the real you when you choose to love the real you first.

I’m not the woman who will tell you that you are never going to face a dilemma again or deal with the peaks and troughs of everyday life… (I’m still on the feckin’ rollercoaster)!

I’m the woman who already knows that you are enough, that you are, right now, the exact perfect version of you to be happy healthy and at peace with what is, that you are a woman of extraordinary character, bravery and tenacity, and at that very moment you begin to accept you for who you are, where you are and how you are… you’re gonna live a beautiful life filled with beautiful experiences.

I’m the woman who took my own high’s and lows (combined them with the experiences of all the women I have helped and supported over the years to go on to do some amazing things) and created a path to self-love… where I found my Wholly Grail.

Nice to meet you. I’d be honoured to help you start living your life as you! Where would you like us to start?

Jo x

October’s Oracle – Let Your Soul-Voice Ring Out

October’s Oracle holds the promise of personal authenticity and asks that you let your soul-voice ring out.

Containing the combination of Principle 4: I AM Truth, which in short says: “I need nobody’s permission to be fully myself,” with the royal blue throat chakra that holds sovereignty over self-expression and communication, this month you are positively encouraged to share with the world your inner truth in a way that is unmodified for the benefit of social constraint.

Can you be unapologetically you?

You are always going to be too much for some people, you are always going to shine too bright for others… there will always be those who seek to diminish or criticize you in some way and so this month you may need to get beyond brave and be you anyway.

You can no longer continue to be small or play small so that others will either not notice you or decide you’re insignificant enough to leave be… you have a message, a mission and a magical life to live that requires you to be front and centre of your own life’s stage.

The good news is this: they don’t have your perspective so their opinion is not needed and probably not even relevant. What you failed to notice before now is that if they don’t like it, it probably wasn’t meant for them, and those it was meant for have been patiently waiting for you to start sharing your story so that they may follow the path and avoid the pitfalls that only you can tell them about.

You have to start focusing on your authentic soul-voice. It’s unique to you. Your soul has travelled a path through lifetimes that no other living being has traversed and no matter how wise or knowledgeable your critics may seem, no matter how learned or experienced, qualified or certified they may be in their field… you are the only expert on your story and your story may well be a lifeline to someone else who is navigating their own road at this time.

Say thank you to those who might try to mould you in their image, but then follow up with the phrase: “Your concern is appreciated but not required.” You’ve tried it their way and you lost your way.

Get naked and vulnerable.

I don’t mean take your clothes off, I mean take your mask off and show the world who you are. When you let your soul-voice ring out, your story becomes your rallying cry and your truth becomes your colours. Whatever your message might be, whatever your art might be, you dont have to hide it anymore. The Divine has your back and this month you’re ready to be more than you allowed yourself to be up until now!

I, for one, am looking forward to hearing your story.

Jo x

September Oracle – Now Free To Be Me

The September Oracle – Now Free To Be Me, is all about stepping into true power over your life and your personal physical world.

This combination of Principle 4: I AM Truth, teamed with the red of the base or root chakra pulls into focus your authenticity about your physical life, your health and even your status in the world.

The base chakra, having the slowest moving energy is concerened with what’s solid, tangible, you might even say real. So when you look at that from the perspective of Principle 4, you step into a place of really owning what’s yours. Unapologetically You.

You might find that you have been through a period of hiding in order to protect something sacred within that wasn’t yet healed or ready to come into the light. Though it may already have been obvious to the outside world you may have shyed away from situations where it (whatever it was about you) may have become noteable. This then is a time where acceptance has played a role in your own transformation and you have decided to truly embrace your own power, your own path and even your own mistakes.

The world around you is beginning to respond differently this month as you engage with it in a different way and what you are now manifesting is based in truth and no longer in fear.

This combination may also signify taking charge of your health issues or beginning to love and accept your own body after a long time rejecting your form. Self-love is one of the first steps towards empowerment, so let this be your guide.

One more, and perhaps most important aspect of the combination is that you are no longer bound by the opinions of others to make you feel safe, secure or accepted. All of that embodied confidence is now shining from within your own soul like a beacon lighting your way towards ever increasing, self-renewing love for who you have become and are still becoming.

Congratulations!

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Weekly Oracle – Barefaced And Brazen

This week’s combination brings us a double whammy, when the truth of who you are is expressed barefaced and brazen with no holds barred and no inhibitions about the judgments you may be subjected to in return.

The sheer personal power present in this combination propels you towards a “Fuck it! This is me!” move towards liberation.

Principle 4: I AM Truth, asks where in your life you are restricted or controlled by the opinions of others that do not actually resonate with your own beliefs. It asks you to stop and consider what ideas, patterns and behaviours you have unconsciously adopted about your world, your place in it and how you should think, speak and behave in order to conform to the socially accepted standard of what’s deemed normal.

When we dress that energy up in the royal blue of the throat chakra, you cannot help but speak out against this type of personal oppression that you have inadvertently fallen prey to.

You may find that for a long time now you have asking yourself what is true for you and what is, at the core of your being, the genuine article… when the energy of this duo comes up its a sign that you are beginning to assimilate the answers and no longer willing to contribute to the illusion by pretending.

This week then, be prepared to speak your truth no matter how raw, how unpopular, no matter who it offends and whose reality is shaken by your bravery. Remember though, this is not about your opinions about others. This is not an opportunity to demean or belittle those in your orbit, it is a declaration of personal truth, about you, your expectations your ideas, desires, and non-negotiable principles, your boundaries and your intentions… it is a self-expressed rebranding of who you appear to be, bringing appearances into alignment with both your light and your shadow.

Yes, some people will freak out. Yes, some people will fall away. Yes, some people will attempt to put you back in your box… No, it doesn’t have to dictate your next move. Barefaced and brazen simply means without a mask and uninhibited.

Be prepared to be you, no matter what.

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More next week… x

Weekly Oracle – Sincerely Seen

Some combinations double up to increase their potency and this is just such a pair. Principle 4: I AM Truth, teamed up with the royal blue throat chakra ensures that whoever it refers to is sincerely seen.

What does it mean to stand in your truth, to be all that you are and nothing left out, no pretension and an unyielding integrity, refusing to bend to the changing winds around you?

It doesn’t mean inflexibility or an inability to evolve or grow, it simply means that this is the time when you quit morphing into the form that best pleases the needs of those around you. Instead of being assimilated into the assumed shapes and ideal pictures of other’s expectations you begin assimilating your own wisdom and projecting a fully integrated self into the world around you.

Basically put, you are ready to be you without fear of judgement.

There is a secondary aspect to this combination that is based around the way we communicate what we want… again it breaks through the barriers erected by our fear of judgement and allows emotional honesty to be shared. How we perceive others as they too risk vulnerability in being sincerely seen, is yet another facet of this powerful combination.

Truth in stark clarity is either oozing from you this week, plain for all to witness, or else you are being confronted with the absolute essence of another’s real side… unadulterated, raw, pure, truth. If it is yours, do not flinch or dim your light before those who cannot handle your truth… if you are being honoured with the truth of another, be the person who says “I see you, I hear you, and you are loved anyway.”

Love has no conditions and the truth will set us free.

More later… x

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Weekly Oracle – Heartfelt Honesty

It’s not often that The Intuitive Chalice Oracle offers up a perfect combination for laying yourself bare, vulnerable in your emotional authenticity, but this week’s duet is heralding a window of opportunity for heartfelt honesty.

Principle 4: I AM Truth, lends itself to opening up to what, until now, has remained hidden about your feelings for fear of being judged, rejected, ridiculed or shunned. The power of the emerald green heart centre is swelling with such intensity that the truth in what you feel can no longer be contained and your courage is rising up to take a leap of faith… to be seen no matter what.

There is no telling what truth is hidden inside your heart, only you can know that for sure, be it overwhelming romantic inclinations, the desire to create art, the joy of new discoveries or the sadness for that which has moved on… what is sure is that being seen, being heard, is the first practical step towards expansion and either manifesting a tangible shift, or healing.

I have to say that the energy, to me, seems to be focused on revealing how you really feel about another. It feels big. It feels overwhelming. The heart chakra is the point of balance where love flows to, through and from you, if you hold onto that emotion (the accumulation of energy in the heart chakra) within, unable to flow or to be expressed, either verbally, creatively or through giving to others, it becomes twisted and painful, souring within and eventually causing dis-ease depression and illness.

E-Motion or energy in motion has to keep moving, keep expanding, it has to be shared as a genuine creative force in the universe. As it is expressed via the honest interpretation of one’s experience it provides release, transformation and perhaps even opens a gateway towards cooperation and connection.

Putting yourself out there is risky business… but you have to ask yourself what you are risking by holding it in? 

Love is waiting to be expressed by whatever means you feel compelled to deliver it. Someone has been waiting to hear your heartfelt honesty. The opinions of those that judge were never really worth worrying about anyway.

More later… x

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First Monday Challenge – I’s, You’s, We’s

I realise it’s been several months since I wrote a First Monday of The Month Challenge but I felt compelled to get back in the game today, not because I feel you need challenging of course, life does that for you, but rather because I feel challenged myself.

The theme here is emotional honesty without responsibility. Responsibility for how others perceive your expression of personal thoughts, feelings and heart stirrings, even when they are illogical, irrational and appear at first glance to affect another being. Your thoughts and feelings need no explanation but the way in which you communicate them may be the key to allowing others a peek under the bonnet without feeling threatened by what they see or hear and may also be instrumental in opening the door to more authentic and intimate relating.

I is the most profound and powerful opening statement you can use during authentic discourse. I want, I feel, I think, I AM… all of these take responsibility for self and ownership of what’s being expressed, whereas if your conversation commences with You, you effectively place responsibility upon another. Rightly or wrongly this can be an inflammatory start to an interaction. Likewise, We, means you have decided to speak for another and made an assumption that they think, feel or choose the same as you do… also inflammatory if done without consent.

Now I’ve got that out of the way, I can get to the challenge, or at least what I am finding challenging: people who tell me how I feel, what I think and what I should want. More challenging though is when those same people go on to further accuse that those feelings, thoughts and wants (that they have decided for me) are having some form of impact upon their lives… at no point being forthcoming about their own thoughts, feelings, wants and behaviours, which are somehow wrapped up and disguised in the projections they already attributed as being all mine!

Here is the thing, nobody knows how anyone else will react in any given situation, nobody has the inside info on the prognosis of any particular interaction or unfolding. Regardless of what you learn or witness in another, unless you are God you have no real understanding of what drives, motivates or even puts the brakes on for anybody else and so all you can really do is be open, be honest, stay in your own lane, take ownership of and responsibility for your own feelings, thoughts and choices and communicate them authentically in the first person, compassionately and gently without placing or accepting fault or blame which are basically diversionary tactics that delay the crucial information being shared, heard and understood.

The only way to know if you are on the same page is to acknowledge openly which page you are on and listen without prejudice to which page the other is currently contemplating.

If you aren’t prepared to share your “I’s” your “You’s” will never become successful “We’s.” That’s perfectly fine, but for the sake of everyone involved, communicate that too, (it’s okay to be reading a completely different book).

Principles 3, 4 & 7

More later… x

The Kiss Of Death

(…and why I had to stop)

Standing in the interior castle courtyard and not wanting to ignore any detail of the unfolding story, this time when Death came riding around me on his white horse I stood motionless awaiting his next move.

The skeletal features of this armoured figure somehow staring without eyes into my very soul as he dismounted the powerful mare and stood before me. His presence so much gentler, settling and reassuring than I had assumed, but why I was surprised by this when my entire spiritual journey has been guided by the Archangel of Death, I don’t know.

Death leaned in and removed my hood, softly kissing me on the forehead before handing me the single white rose he carried as an emblem, signifying the resilience of the spirit. Climbing back on his horse he turned to me and nodded before he sped away across the courtyard and disappeared into the mist.

I’d been kissed by death.

Of course it was merely a meditation but the symbology was so intense that I had to write about the experience and how it is shaping my reality today.

The Death card in a traditional tarot deck has all the hallmarks of the image I described above: the armoured (sometimes cloaked) skeleton on a horse and the symbol of the white rose. The skeleton being the most resilient part of the human body and the rose, which each year is pruned down to just its own skeleton only to return back stronger the following season with even more abundant blooms… this is the cycle of death and rebirth, of transformation occurring only when all superfluous clutter is sufficiently cleared away to reveal the hardiest most resilient part, the foundation of what is worthy of growth.

That’s why I had to stop. I couldn’t see the roses for the weeds, and the beauty I had cultivated privately and professionally was in danger of being lost. Death kissed me to show me I had pruned away enough now and what remained was the beautiful rose already in bloom that I just couldn’t see.

The arrival of Death was not a signal of losses to come, but the beautiful gift of knowing that the losses are over and the new beginning has arrived. This time, with nothing but that which is worthy of growing. 

Arriving back in the castle courtyard this morning, I was flanked by white rose bushes in full bloom, lining the path to my destination. I’m home.

Principle 4: I AM Truth and Principle 5: I AM Liberated.

More later… x

Weekly Oracle – Nowhere Fast

Principle 4: I AM Truth has represented for the second week running, asking us to identify the authentic voice within. You may already be aware of the multiple choices being presented to you about the direction you should take at this time, each with a different voice arguing for its validity and even necessity. But only one truth will lead you to the outcome you desire: coming home to your heart.

The emerald green heart chakra is the point of balance within. The only part of you that keeps time with your soul and your purpose, it never loses sight of your goal. While all the other energy centres are swayed this way and that by incoming information, the heart remains neutral, ever present, and when open it allows for the bidirectional flow of universal love to fuel your desires. The heart is the compass that always points true north… but it’s so very quiet and not at all showy so it often gets drowned out by the neighbouring transmitters and receivers acting out the various forms of fear related information you have assimilated as truth.

The ego quashes the happy, playful, optimistic spirit with the fear of lack and loss and poverty, with the need to fit in and be somebody, the need to have an opinion that matters or a face that fits… or the right accessories or accent… to be seen as having the answers, being useful, blah blah blah… all of which comes from measuring where you stand against your expectations which aren’t your expectations in the first place, rather some societal cartoon of a life well lived. And all the while your heart is keeping your desire and your soul mission alive.

This week you are being asked to stop what you’re doing and recognise that you are actually going nowhere fast while ever you are ignoring the truth within your heart. 

Unburden all that doesn’t serve your primary purpose and go towards your truth. 

I know, some of you think you don’t know what it is, but you sure as hell know what it’s not! Don’t reach for short term gratification, your heart knows there is work to do and it knows that the fast and easy option is the distraction. Your heart knows that you will meet with resistance from external sources but it doesn’t fear rejection or humiliation because the prize for courage is freedom. Your heart will never give up on your purpose because it knows nothing else. Only when you resist your heart’s desire will it begin to give up on you… and that looks like grief, regret, despair and eventually physical illness and deterioration.

When your last day on Earth arrives, even if you never quite got there, let go completely knowing you never gave up on what you loved and you spent a full life chasing it, closing the gap, always expanding towards something that meant everything…

…or you could just keep going nowhere fast.

More later… x

Weekly Oracle – You Can’t Ignore It Now

You can keep ignoring that still small voice inside until it becomes a scream or an undeniable truth… and you can’t ignore it now.

Divine guidance comes to us in many ways, often as just an idea or fleeting inspiration, but when it does it can ignite a spark within that soon becomes a raging fire and with that fire the momentum of manifestation begins to gain pace…

Principle 4: I AM Truth joins forces with the vibrant yellow solar plexus chakra this week where the seat of our personal power is housed. The ego, or “fearful voice” may have had you second guessing what your heart knew to be true for a million different reasons up until this point: fear of being different, fear of being judged, fear of being wrong etc etc, but you have reached a point where you are being asked to risk being seen minus the mask.

Individualisation is a pretty scary concept when it means potentially stepping away from what is expected, and most of us (those reading this anyway) like to think that we stand out from the crowd and do our own thing, but in reality we just joined a different crowd with a different set of rules and criteria for membership… but essentially still a framework for civilized relating. What if this crowd doesn’t like you to upset the apple cart either? What if this crowd doesn’t like your face, your message or your mess? 

What if you were brave enough to say “This is who I am” without feeling the urge to conform?

As this week progresses don’t be surprised if the truth of who you are, how you feel or what you think comes splurging out from its hiding place in one big beautiful chaotic avalanche that cannot be suppressed any longer, or indeed if you are faced with the truth of another that they kept cleverly hidden for such a long time.

When all said and done, you probably weren’t fooling anybody anyway.

Mercury has gone direct, it’s time to get the truth out in the open… you can’t ignore it now.

More later… x

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