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How To Handle The Downside Of Upleveling

I have to admit I really don’t this term that has become the watchword for raising your game and your vibration. What I’ve discovered I like even less are the potential pitfalls of the process, so here’s how to handle the downside of upleveling…

Growth happens in fits and starts in most forms of life, it is cyclical. That means that there is a stage of discomfort followed by a death of what was, a recovery phase that morphs into a growth spurt and eventually an adaptation stage which allows you to get used to and comfortable with the new level of living.

This cyclical pattern is recognisable in all forms of nature but we as human beings are really bad at consciously recognising which stage we are in or indeed honouring it as a natural part of our own evolution. We rebel against the discomfort of stagnation, we rebel against the letting go (Principle 5) required for death of the old to occur, we rebel against growth favouring what was comfortable and we rebel against the concept of acceptance (Principle 7), at least at first. This rebellion is based around the desire to control the uncontrollable (Principle 2) and the need to find meaning in chaos.

Here’s is how my guides explained it to me in order that I could get with the programme and navigate the excruciating parts of personal transformation:

You want change. We know you do because you have asked for so much, longed for so many new and expansive experiences. We want that for you too, but in order to be more, you must let go of the known and shed the skin of who you once were. You must effectively die to the old self in order to allow a new version of you to be born. You cannot live in the confines of self-imposed restriction with your wings pinned and fly among the high one’s at the same time.

In basic terms if you want to meet people, you have to go where the people are, if you want to learn new things you have to admit you don’t know them… discomfort is the natural predecessor of change and so your comfort zone is going to have to be exited.

If you want to know how to handle the downside of upleveling then you have to get comfortable with your own discomfort. you have to have your eye on your target and understand that the space between where you are and where it exists is an unknown quantity, so you are going to have to get brave, really brave! You are going to have show the universe that the thing you want, the state of being you desire, is worth the risk of feeling like you are out there on a limb, walking a path that may present as if nobody has every walked it before. You are going to have to accept that those you have walked beside might not want to come with you and so you are going to have to dig deep into your well of self-sufficiency to use solitude as a powerhouse for inspiration so that you don’t give into the loneliness of the narrow path ahead. And you are going to have to commit, I mean really commit to moving through the darkness with only your own light to lead the way.

The last stage of the journey is adaptation. This comes when we accept that there is no way back to the place where you began. You don’t belong there any more so you may as well make the most of this new place, this new level of evolvement. It begins with acceptance that nothing is ever going to be the same… and there it is, the key concept in how to handle the downside of upleveling is: acceptance.

Given time, you won’t even remember what all the fuss was about. This new you will eventually become the new normal… and then you’re going to start the process again.

Love Jo x

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Do You Know Who I Am? Let Me Reintroduce Myself…

Do you ever look around you at the people who claim to know you and think: “Shit! Have you even met me? Do you know who I am?

I’ve been contemplating this very question and a mad realisation came over me… if they don’t know the real me, whose fault is that? Well, mine obviously… There is something I failed to tell them or let them see or make clear.

We all hide behind a mask of “I’ve got my shit together and I know what I’m doing and everything is A-Okay with my world,” until it isn’t and all of a sudden everyone backs away slowly going “who the hell is this girl and what the absolute f**k did she do with the woman I know.”

Let me be the first to redress the balance… Let me reintroduce myself:

Hi I’m Jo. I’m a 47 year old divorcee with a string of dysfunctional romantic connections behind me, I’m skint and I’m overweight and I’m trying hard to hold it together whilst supporting an elderly parent with the beginnings of what might be dementia…

…Hold on a minute though, because I’m also the incredibly lucky woman who supports countless other women all over the world to live their truth and find peace and happiness with what is, so they can feel empowered enough to change it into what they want it to be.

Yes I’m 47 but take a good look at the picture at the top of my website… no special lighting, no filter, no make-up… thats me! And the pic is a selfie I took on my mobile (cell) phone. If you can spot a wrinkle you win a prize! That’s peace.

Yes I’m currently single but after years of dealing with codependency and narcissitic or emotionally unavailable men, I’m so loving, loving me that it’s going to take one hell of an enlightened authentic individual to match my level of self-love and if he doesn’t show up what does it matter as long as I’m enjoying life.

Yes I’m skint but I used to be in a well paid management position that made me so miserable I got a migraine like clockwork at the same time every day and ended up being tested for adrenal cancer due to burn out… I’d rather be happy, healthy and broke than rich and dead!

Yes I’m overweight but I’m also a healthy-eating nutritionist who happens to like cake. I do yoga and tai-chi and though I’m a clumsy beginner at both, who resembles the hippos in tutus on Disney’s Fantasia more than the graceful swan I think I look like, I love it… and did I tell you I dance like I own the dance floor and managed to outdance some skinny dude in dance-off in Edinbrugh whilst having a ball out with the girls? What the hell has the size of a woman’s arse got to do with loving life?

Yes I’m struggling at present with the deterioration of my mum’s health but that woman taught me more about doing what makes you happy than any other person in my life, so I’m grateful everyday for the time we have together.

Now, let me tell you who I’m not…

I’m not the woman who is going to teach you how to get rich. Everybody and her aunt is trying to sell you a scheme or a strategy to make you millions on social media… it hasnt worked for me so far but i’m rich beyond words when it comes to my spiritual life.

I’m not the woman who is going to show you how to make yourself skinny and beautiful… you dont have to go far to find the endless brands selling you a pipedream about how you will will lose weight in days if you buy their product and how you will take 10 years off if you use their face cream… my skin care is super basic and from a high street drug store.

I’m not the woman who is going to promise you that the man of your dreams is just around the corner… I met him already, he was a self-centred arsehole with an ego the size of a continent and there is a reason he only exists in your dreams. The right guy will love the real you when you choose to love the real you first.

I’m not the woman who will tell you that you are never going to face a dilemma again or deal with the peaks and troughs of everyday life… (I’m still on the feckin’ rollercoaster)!

I’m the woman who already knows that you are enough, that you are, right now, the exact perfect version of you to be happy healthy and at peace with what is, that you are a woman of extraordinary character, bravery and tenacity, and at that very moment you begin to accept you for who you are, where you are and how you are… you’re gonna live a beautiful life filled with beautiful experiences.

I’m the woman who took my own high’s and lows (combined them with the experiences of all the women I have helped and supported over the years to go on to do some amazing things) and created a path to self-love… where I found my Wholly Grail.

Nice to meet you. I’d be honoured to help you start living your life as you! Where would you like us to start?

Jo x

Weekly Oracle – Love Me Right Now

With this week’s intense Super Full Moon Lunar Eclipse in Leo smashing its energy into us and Venus making eyes at Jupiter the Great Benevolent, I’m hardly surprised this combination is indicating that our inner-selves are demanding “love me right now!”

Principle 2: I AM Detached, awakens a part of us that is racing forwards to a time “when.” When I’m rich enough, thin enough, fit enough, when I have time enough, when I know enough… or worse still when I get back to how things used to be. It awakens you to the perfection of the moment however imperfect it might be. Now is all that exists for your soul and now is the time to embrace all the wonderful lessons and gifts that the emerald green heart chakra has to offer.

Love is the most important gift you can offer yourself this week, (well any week actually), it requires acceptance, forgiveness, tolerance and a true understanding of self-worth but more importantly it requires you to let go and stop withholding.

This week’s combination suggests this is a time where your propensity towards self-denial must be overcome regardless of all the made up excuses that override “why not now?” and “why not you?” The optimum time has arrived to give yourself all the things your soul has been crying out for, but most of all love.

Loving yourself and indeed allowing others to love you as you want to be loved is simply a matter of removing the obstacles you have put in place to protect you from your own fears, in this case around your readiness and the timing of the incoming energy.

“Love me right now” is the innocent cry of your inner child who doesn’t understand the constraints your other subconscious archetypes have placed around your ability to nurture yourself and be nurtured by others to the fullest potential in this and every moment.

Expect big questions and surprise situations this week where you may be faced with opportunities that require you to leap towards what your soul truly wants, but be wary of your conditioned response of saying no to life because you don’t believe you are ready for it or the timing seems a little off… The Universe doesn’t make mistakes with timing…. if your heart wants to say yes to love in all its forms then recognise that self-love means not allowing your head to overrule your feelings just because your calendar seems a bit full.

Prioritise your heart’s desire.

If your life is out of balance and you are putting your heart’s desires on hold, why not invest in a Transformative Grail Session with me?

More next week… x

Monday Mind Manoeuvre – Adjust Your Settings

Saturday’s oracle gave us a heads up about how other people’s truths don’t have to affect our forward momentum but we may be forgiven for imagining that it only applies to their opinions. Your truth is more readily apparent in your behaviour than in your actual words, so what are we to do about how others behave towards us?

The first thing you must recognise is that people treat how you allow them to. You set the standard for what you will and will not tolerate. How clear you are about your own boundaries is reflected in your behaviour… you can say what you find acceptable as much as you like but when you go ahead and accept less, that’s the cue others take and the level they rise to.

Do you find that people constantly break commitments they made with you, turn up late, forget to let you know, pay you less than you are worth, break your confidence, steal from you, disregard your needs, commandeer your time, encroach on your space…? You get the picture. Do you even notice when its happening?

How you respond to these infringements, even the minor ones, is sending a signal to other people as to how you are prepared to be treated and what is acceptable behaviour to you.

Today is a good day to do a thorough assessment of your own boundaries and level of self-worth. Observe how often someone makes a presumption on your time or resources (including your knowledge or training in any given area), how often they let you down on arrangements and agreements etc. Notice then how you respond to those transgressions. Is it normal for you to let it slide? Being understanding and compassionate of the other persons needs or circumstances is a noble quality of course but at what cost to you?

Once you have become more aware of your own participation in allowing these actions to occur, it’s time to adjust your settings… you will meet with resistance, especially if the perpetrators have been in your life for a while, it is really difficult to raise the bar once it has been set but it is not impossible, you just have to be prepared to let people fall away if they won’t adjust with you. Principle 2: I AM Detached reminds us to be present with what is, Principle 5: I AM Liberated reminds us to let go of what holds us captive. That being the case, what or who in the here and now is holding you captive in your old state of low self-worth by continuously crossing your boundaries?

Once you establish new ones, only your behaviour will determine their validity and endurance.

Adjust your settings today… x

Appeasing Your Restless Spirit

The tendency towards wanting to leapfrog over your current position to the next chapter of your story can cause you untold and unnecessary disharmony. Where you are right now is crucial to the ever unfolding plot and if you were to bypass this delicate scene set up the vital clues to the mystery of your life would be absent from your onward journey.

All that being said, if you are trying to move forward without acknowledging where you are then the chances are that where you are has you unsettled. Appeasing your restless spirit is as easy as telling yourself: “Where I am has a valuable gift for me to acknowledge and accept” or “Where I am today has something to teach me that will serve me well tomorrow.” Then it’s just a matter of exploring the current terrain for clues.

Exploration in this case doesn’t have to be frantic or even energetic… for example: my current terrain is forcing me to retreat and take time out to recover from a few very stressful and life changing months. I’ve been fighting against that because I have stuff I want to do, to create, to share etc… but the universe has other plans for me right now and other opportunities ahead that would suit me far better. Pushing against the flow is exhausting so retreat for a while I must… and today I am feeling very blessed for the opportunity to rest.

Instead of attempting to change where you are, allow your exploration of it to be deep and slow, remembering always that the current terrain to be understood is internal and that external circumstances are merely highlighting your inner belief systems. Meditation and prayer are my recommendation for appeasing your restless spirit, in which you can set up an open and honest dialogue with your higher self, the part of you which remains constantly connected to The Divine. Search for the blessing and sit with it for a while… The story will progress at the speed its supposed to once all the relevant pieces take their place.

Check out The Wholly Grail’s Principle 2: I AM Detached

More later… x

 

A Stranger In A Strange Land

I’ve been absent from posting updates and insights for a couple of weeks due to a distinct lack of internet facilities during my house moving escapades. Though I’ve moved less than a couple of miles up the road I have to admit I’m currently feeling like a stranger in a strange land. Every noise is unfamiliar and the things I once took comfort in and was inspired and healed by, like the hundreds of birds in my old creaky elder tree at the top of my garden, are now absent from my days.

I’m finding joy in new things now… the view from my bedroom window which looks for miles towards giant wind turbines in the fields and fascinates me for a few minutes each morning, the murder of crows that welcomed me to the house when I first came to view it (as if Odin himself showed me the way). It’s not pretty, not by any sense of the word, but inside hides a little gem that has everything I need and a comfy place to create something new.

When working with The Wholly Grail Principles for any length of time, you recognise the first step on the road to joy is acceptance, followed closely by gratitude. The process from where you are to where you want to be often encompasses letting go, embracing loss and subsequently experiencing grief, but the key is to remember that all in this life is temporary and the less tightly you hold on the more you flow from one vision to the next… hopefully leaving a trail of magic behind you as you go.

Magic is present in abundance in my new home (now), simply because I carry it with me. The Grail is me and the magic is the Grace of pure Source energy that fills me as I allow it to flow through me.

Change is constant. Allow your life to flow with magic by embracing it, accepting it and being grateful for the new opportunities it brings.

Principle 2: I AM Detached and Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted

More later… x

Saturday Oracle – Effortless Exchange Of Energy

Receptivity is a vulnerable state for many, that stems somewhat from a sense of being unworthy of the gift being bestowed or of the apparent generosity of the being that delivers the gift on the universe’s behalf, but this is a week for the effortless exchange of energy as the universe serves up the very thing that provides for your needs.

Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, meets the red base chakra in this week’s combination offering you a miracle… The form it takes depends on what you most need for your physical protection at this time. Don’t misunderstand me, you are not in any danger, the universe has always been one step ahead of you, but your lower mind has conjured up evidence of some threat or other that often accompanies great change.

As the base chakra tends to your safety, security, health and material wealth, this gift will offer you relief where one of these areas feels uncertain. It may be a physical offer of help from another, advice or the delivery of, to or from what you need.

Where this Principle would normally have you questioning whether to take the gift on offer, there is a huge difference between want and need. This is a need. The effortless exchange of energy comes as you don’t think twice before gratefully accepting the benevolence coming your way in the exact form you need it, as if you were dying of thirst in a desert and the universe provided a well right before you couldn’t possibly take another step. When the need is great, acceptance is without question.

You spent last week being honest about what your needs are… this is the week to get them met.

Wishing you a permanent reprieve from whatever ails you.

More next week… x

Saturday Oracle – Releasing A Tether

The emerald green heart chakra shows up again this week highlighting that healing and growth are taking place but this time it partners with Principle 3: I AM Human. This Principle leads the way to forgiveness and acceptance aiding you in releasing a tether to a wounding that no longer serves you.

Imagine if you will, a large wooden chest in which you keep all your memories, perhaps physical objects that hold significance to you. Each item holds energy and that energy can either be positive or negative depending on how you view the person or situation in which the significance of the trinket became struck… it’s essentially a talisman.

Now imagine that your heart is that wooden chest. It is equally as full of energetic attachments that hold significance for you and keep you tethered to a point of powerful influence… the influence can be positive such as an uplifting memory, or negative in the case of wounding.

Your heart chakra is indeed a treasure chest to and from which unconditional love flows and each talisman colours the purity and intensity of that love. That being the case, why would you fill the chest with energy that poisons all the other talismans within?

This is a week to sift through your points of attachment and be ruthless in letting go of all that sours the whole. In energetic terms this requires forgiveness. The past cannot be altered now, it has gone. Acceptance is the first step in forgiving… it happened, it’s over. The next powerful action is extracting the blessing. This can usually only be done in retrospect which is what all the items in your treasure chest are, it can also only be done from a perspective of neutrality whereas the ego: the wounded self, sees only from a fixed point of reference i.e. “it’s all about me.”

Forgiveness sets you free and creates space in your heart for more love to flood in and shine out, so take this week to make room. If the lesson and the blessings have been assimilated then the memory or the talisman no longer has power and no longer has a place in your life, if however you cannot let go and cannot forgive then you have failed to perceive the greater plan and the acceleration of your story that resulted from it…you still have some inner work to do.

Remember, forgiveness stretches to all parties, to all time zones, through all lifetimes and every dimension, like love it is unconditional so start by forgiving yourself.

There maybe one particular person or circumstance that is highlighted this week, served up for your attention and forgiveness so that you can finally let it go and be free.

Have a blessed week… x

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Monday Manifestation Moment – Leaving Room

Manifestation seems to be the whole world’s favourite pass time at the moment but it’s nothing new, the world of the world is in fact all a product of manifestation so feeling like we’ve invented it is just as silly as claiming responsibility for the creation of the Earth itself. Creation is an on going process of which we have been given an active design-led role and also a front row seat in witnessing the unfolding of what is quite probably the biggest spectacle in the universe, well this sector anyway. Leaving room for the performance to thrill you is the part we forget.

It’s this front row where you get to see all the small details up close, the ones you’ve worked so hard on during the production phase of the great story, translating abstract inspiration into tangible, workable scripts for all the players to follow that your performance might play out on the great stage of life… but you forgot that the players are themselves scriptwriters.

You don’t recognise this part of the story. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you know where you are right now. The script you wrote has been discarded and all the leading roles a ad-libbing their hearts out… you have no choice now but to get off that front row seat and take your place on the stage.

As its Monday and you’re probably far to busy to understand all the metaphor, let me be clear:

New information can only be accepted when you leave room to learn. New wisdom comes from participation in the changes that new information results in. Acceptance is a product of a humble attitude to the Divine Plan, to which non of us humans have the full script, just the bit of it we are individually writing with every choice that we make. Chaos is only chaos from the inside, from the all-seeing perspective it’s all beautiful and just as it should be, just as it was, just as it always shall be… Manifestation in motion.

Whatever life throws at you today, you are privileged to be playing a central role in the biggest stage production ever imagined.

Bravo!

Principles 2 & 4

More later… x

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Friday Confession – No Longer Hiding The Source Of All Light

Is Friday a good day for a confession? Well ready or not, here I come. The truth, as it is for me, cannot remain suppressed. I’m no longer hiding the source of all light.

I’ve previously been holding back on some of my posts simply to avoid upsetting someone. Knowing that my words can trigger insecurities in those with whom I have a close or karmic connection, and avoiding conflict as best I can by occasionally pussyfooting around issues that might be deemed contentious or taken personally, misread or deliberately twisted to mean something else…

How many of you do that? How many of you dim your light, lower your voice, stay hidden, just so you won’t rock a boat that you are actually being held to ransom in? (That’s a metaphor obviously).

Principle 2: I AM Detached is the part of the Grail that I find often trips up all who begin the journey consciously. At its core it refers to unhitching your attention from a specific outcome, whether that be a repeat of what’s gone before or a desired future destination doesn’t actually matter, when you specify how you want things to turn out you manipulate the path towards it.

By withholding a part of who you are, effectively dimming your sparkling essence, you are manipulating how people see you. Sometimes it’s to protect them from their own shortcomings but more accurately it’s to protect you, either from your own fear, or deeper than that, your fear that their shortcomings and therefore reactions to who you truly are might cause them to dislike you, ridicule you, argue with you, get angry at you or abandon you.

This is where Principle 4: I AM Truth kicks in. They have to do what they have to do. They will always act or react from their own truth however different from yours that may be. Once you have let go of your attachment to the outer goal though, their reaction no longer holds any sway over you. That’s not to say you want to deliberately hurt anyone or offend anyone. If causing harm is your intent then you’re reading the wrong blog. What it does mean though is that you no longer have to continue trading your comfort for someone else’s.

And now we arrive at Principle 3: I AM Human. The art of forgiveness begins with the recognition of a fragile being. That’s what an ego is, it’s a child in pain doing its best to protect itself from the world it perceives as a harsh environment in which it has to fight for it’s own place in existence. The ego, when it feels attacked, slighted or unheard, loses sight of the Soul parent to which its bound and has no concept of how to truly protect itself in a peaceful manner so then it must fight to stay alive, to take power away from its perceived threat… it has forgotten that it has access to the power of the universe through its Soul-Self and will therefore usurp the light from wherever it shines externally… The ego sees only through physical eyes and cannot observe anything through the eyes of the heart. You must love the child despite its attack on you, only love can save it, anger reinforces the cycle of fear.

You are the source of all light. God shines through you (each and every one of you), but His frequencies change and become unique with you as a filter. Not everyone will be attracted to your light frequency (your truth). Some will be repelled by it, others will attempt to reconcile the difference by changing their frequency to harmonise, whilst others still, will try to force yours to match theirs… but the rainbow of truth that is humanity, it’s diversity, is the whole truth. From God’s eye view the pattern is perfection.

Now, to those who love me but would have me fit their mould I say this…

When we arrive at Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, we will have adopted an attitude of balance where we can truly see the beauty in all the light frequencies that blend and dance in a constant exchange of give and take. We will begin to learn from each other instead of taking from each other, we will begin to cherish the exposure to a beautiful array of fresh new ideas that compliment and contrast causing co-creation and eventually a brand new truth, a blended truth that has a frequency all of its own, it has a name…

It’s called love.

More later…x

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