You’re going to upset some people, it’s inevitable. You cannot please all of the people all of the time… and why should you? Of course saying that, you don’t need to deliberately go out of your way to piss people off either, well at least not if you are reading this from a 5th dimensional, compassionate perspective, but here’s the thing: you want to live an empowered, fulfilling life and I’m guessing that it hasn’t always lived up to your expectations, right? Well, there’s a reason for that…
You, the old you that is, have gathered an entourage of devotees. Trust me you have! They are family, friends, neighbours, loved ones, work colleagues, the local newsagent and the kid behind the checkout at your local store to mention but a few and they have an expectation that you live up to your end of the bargain and don’t disturb the status quo. You, being that creature of habit, act a certain way, behave in certain patterns… for example, you eat the same cereal, buy and read the same newspaper and magazines, you take a predictable amount of time in the shower, even the girl on the phone at the Chinese takeaway knows in advance when and what you’re going to order… predictable see? Now this expectation of you that your devotees have become accustomed to, what happens when you change it up?
Once is a blip, twice is a phase, but three times, well now that’s a problem… and your devotees are going to go hell for leather trying to correct your course back to the familiar. It’s their comfort zone you see. “But I’ve already bought the cereal” “What do you mean your having a bath?” “The Times? Are you serious? You know there aren’t as many pictures right?” “Fruit? Are you sure you don’t want Hobnobs, they’re on offer?” Meanwhile at the local Golden Dragon, the girl on the phone’s been let go, due to lack of business… your business.
You’re going to upset some people, it’s inevitable. None of them can see this journey from your perspective, none of them are walking in your shoes or have felt your pain or heard your silent cries for help. When they can’t persuade you to revert to old patterns they will become angry with you, blame you and secretly or not-so-secretly wish for your failure… forgive them, they are acting out from their own discomfort regardless of yours.
Nobody said it would be easy becoming the greater you, but once the greater you becomes the norm, the devotees will take one of three paths: they’ll rise up and join you up there in your new personal heaven, they will look on from the side lines in quiet envy or they’ll fall by the wayside to be replaced by a whole new set of devotees… the kind who recognise a true Grail Knight when they see one, because they too have undergone the struggle to be who they are and have survived the battle for individuation.
Principles 3, 4 & 5
More later… x