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Modus Operandi Part 6: Me Versus Myself

As this Modus Operandi series has progressed I hope you have begun to understand the difference between how you think you might be following the Wholly Grail Principles for inner peace as opposed to how you actually carry out your day to day life in opposition to your intentions. The title “Me Versus Myself” is true then for all these practices of self-defeating behaviours but never more so than when it comes to your health and self care.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, is vast in concept because it involves putting your own needs first in order to fill your cup ready to serve and share with others… that can mean intellectually, emotionally, creatively, professionally, intimately etc. Whatever way you give of yourself, if you fail to take care of your own basic needs by constantly placing others before yourself you will eventually drain the cup and become ill, ineffective and eventually unable to be of service to anyone… including yourself!

Some believe it selfish to put their own needs first, going without meals, without sleep, pushing hard to try to rescue others, failing to enforce personal boundaries and basically martyring themselves in the process to the point of burnout. Giving of yourself until there is nothing left will leave your dependents ultimately without the very person they depend on, so tell me: how does that work out to be less selfish?

Once the selfish aspect is dispelled we get to tackle the other side of denial, the side that says “I always take good care of myself” when actually you really don’t…

How nutritious is your diet, the very fuel for your body? Are you conscientiously equipping your physical vessel for the task ahead or are you so frenetic that you ram in whatever is in front of you without thinking just to provide fast but low grade energy to continue whatever you have currently deemed so much more important?

Do you rest your mind as well as your body adequately? Sleep when your mind is busy might as well be no sleep at all. I know a fair few people who survive on little or no sleep because deadlines and demands are put ahead of their health and others who spend so much time over-thinking and worrying that their quality of sleep is poor. Meditation, and a disciplined wind down practice can be of enormous benefit to this problem but here’s the thing: if you don’t adhere to Principle 1: I AM God, understanding your true worth and your value to the rest of humanity then you will never place yourself, your health and your happiness as a priority in your life.

I haven’t even touched the surface of being Self-Full here but you’re starting to get the picture.

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More later… x

 

Monday Mind Manoeuvre – Remember Who You Are

I will finish the last two parts of the Modus Operandi series a little later but something came up that I thought important enough and wanted to explore, it’s to do with losing yourself in a relationship and how to remember who you are.

Now before I go any further I should mention that I have a someone special and he tends to read all my posts (and then deny it) so on that note I want to say this is nothing to do with he and I (lest he panic that we have an problem) and simply about the plethora of counselling I’ve been doing in the last few days in every direction as well as observing among the masses on social media etcetera.

Now let me first get you into Wholly Grail territory by reintroducing Principle 1: I AM God, along with Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted. Theses two Principles are the basis of relating from an empowered state.

What you observe in your outer world is a reflection of how you feel in your inner world. Your outer world often affects how you feel… catch 22 you might think, but here’s the thing: how you feel is a result of what you think about what you perceive, so then it stands to reason that if you choose different thoughts the feelings will alter which will in turn transform what we observe.

That sounds complicated but truly when you remember nothing is personal even when it is aimed at you, it is just a projection of the thoughts and feelings of another that you receive according to your state of inner peace and empowerment. If you are feeling like a victim then everything will seem to be an attack, if you are feeling like a hero everything will appear to be an opportunity for learning and healing even if the outer circumstances are identical in each case.

Principle 1 asks that you see yourself as a spark of divinity and that you see that same light in everybody else regardless of the outer conditions.

Principle 7 asks that you let go of all attachments in order that healing may occur. This doesn’t mean walking away from relationships that are nurturing and mutually beneficial  most of the time, it means letting go of the fear that they might end. All things end, the question is, do you want to squeeze the life out of it quickly by gripping, manipulating and controlling or do you want to love and laugh and learn your way until death do you part?… That’s what it means: death simply means an ending, any ending.

Drop the victim stance by recognising you hold all the power… over yourself and what you choose to place your attention on. If you contrive to fix, change or manipulate the significant other in your partnership to see, do or be what you want then you are trying to exert your power over another and the battle will commence or the rift will widen… let them be who they are, even if they are currently in victim mode, don’t ever be tempted to meet them at the bottom, instead lift them with your example of understanding, compassion and gently hold the space for them to step out of their shadow and into the light where you will be waiting with open arms and an open heart… and maybe next time you slide down the scale and forget who you are they will do you the same courtesy.

Wishing you beautiful nurturing relationships today and always.

Big love until later… x

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Modus Operandi Part 5: Everything Else Is Just Gravy

As you’ve probably worked out by now if you’ve been reading this series: there are 7 parts to this Modus Operandi theory I’ve been exploring. Today it’s worth exploring under the hood of ownership, there’s what we actually need and then everything else is just gravy.

Coming from a perspective of lack we cling to everything in a desperate bid to create a sense of safety. From the perspective of competition we accumulate stuff as a representation of how well we’re doing. Each of these reasonings is fundamentally flawed and in opposition to other Grail Principles. For example: if you embrace Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, you will place yourself in the flow of abundance, giving and receiving in equal measure and all of your needs are effortlessly met. If you embrace Principle 4: I AM Truth, your status in comparison to the next individual becomes obsolete as we understand that uniqueness is beyond comparison.

We accumulate more and more, building the prison of fear… not through having and appreciating beautiful, useful, life enhancing things but through the fear of losing them and the lengths we go to to maintain and keep them, to protect them which we lie to ourselves about how we are protecting ourselves, protecting our assets… but are they assets or are they liabilities?

I’m by no means anti material wealth, in fact I’d love a bigger house, nice car (and chauffeur), the latest gadgets, enormous bank balance and all the trimmings but what don’t want is the fear that comes with holding onto them…

So what do you keep telling yourself about what you have own and why you need to keep it? What is you Modus Operandi when it comes to justifying why you have to work so hard to make ends meet?

When you look at your bills do you instantly worry that you need to earn more to cover it… or do you recognise that you simply need to ‘own’ less and reduce stress, live free.

When you shift out of denial and get clear about what you actually need versus “everything else is just gravy” you let go of the attachment to all things, then lack, grasping, fearful behaviours and worry energy give way to peace, contentment, flow and abundance.

Start this weekend with a fearless inventory of your ‘must haves’ and your ‘nice to owns’, you’ll be amazed at how much pressure it takes off. Principle 5: I AM Liberated.

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Wishing you a liberated life… x

Modus Operandi Part 4: Essential Expression

The fourth part in the Modus Operandi series explores essential expression of one’s real feelings. Consider the alternative for a moment…

Under the exterior polish of every human being is a complex thought producing engine. Some of those thoughts are mediocre at best and pass by like fluffy clouds floating across a blue sky, others though are intense reaction provoking thoughts bringing inner storms and turbulent emotions.

It’s sometimes easy to let the storm blow over, to let it pass without incident, to weather it out so to speak, but when the thoughts stirring up those storm clouds are triggered by repetitive occurrence then action must be taken to address the real cause of the storm… sometimes the action is from within, in which case the essential expression might be the need to ask for help, sometimes however the trigger for these emotions is external and in this case essential expression means open and honest communication with the culprit, whether they be a deliberate antagonist or an unwitting one.

How many of you walk through life answering the “how are you?” question with “Fine thank you”?

Are you?

It’s not a trick question it’s an indication of your Modus Operandi… I know that many people who ask you how you are are doing do so rhetorically and have no genuine desire to know exactly how you feel, that’s their Modus Operandi. We adopt an “everything’s rhetorical” attitude to conversation in order to not make anyone feel uncomfortable as a result of this disinterested interaction compounded by the emoji culture that we have accepted, nay – embraced.

Real feelings stay hidden, the world becomes more trapped person by person, relating becomes more plastic encounter by encounter and connection becomes only possible when aided and numbed by varying degrees of substance abuse… and our minds and hearts become sicker and lives become perceivably less valued.

Principle 4: I AM Truth, is the Wholly Grail’s gateway to essential expression and conscious communication. It asks that you step into your authenticity and be your whole self regardless of the state of your evolution and understanding, regardless of the judgments of others. It asks that you allow every Soul you encounter to do the same without your judgment.

Being your whole self, expressing both the inner storms and the inner sunshine without censor, gives permission for all those you encounter to step into their authentic essence too, we begin again to connect on a deeper level, we allow understanding to guide us towards a Modus Operandi that is based in unconditional love.

What inner truths are buried within you that need essential expression?

More later… x

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Modus Operandi Part 3: A Promise Is A Promise

If you didn’t catch the previous Modus Operandi posts (still available in the site’s archive) I’ve been exploring where our intentions to walk the path of enlightenment differ from our actions. Often we are in some form of denial about how effective our daily practice actually is and blinded to the occasions where we drift from our Higher Self’s encouragings.

Today then let me draw your attention to your failures… as if they need me to point them out. That’s the problem: we are so quick to intellectually and emotionally return to the scenes of our apparent inability to succeed that we fail to acknowledge the valuable lessons along the way. Principle 3: I AM Human, is the gateway towards forgiveness. Forgiveness of self as well as everyone else… for everything. In forgiving, we make a promise to ourselves to let go of the hurt, the shame, the self-abusive mind chatter and the limiting stories that go along with the prior failure… and a promise is a promise.

The realisation in the moment of forgiveness is that you went there but you don’t have to go there again, you know what lies down that road now. In reality though, we see the “I know how this turns out” and we think “what’s the point in resisting?” Why then is it so common for us to break those promises we make to ourselves?

As it’s Monday, a full moon and a lunar eclipse no less, I think today is a fabulous day to make a promise to yourself to not break any more promises you make to yourself. No matter what the past actions or outcomes, your soul is urging you to explore a different way of being, and to everyone else your word is your bond… you are just as worthy of being treated with that much respect especially from yourself.

Start by making an inventory of all the things you’ve promised yourself recently, reassess which ones are relevant to your present situation and plans for a brighter future and then take a look at your motives: is it for your highest good and that of those around you? Pick 3 things from your list that you can start now… don’t plan (if you’re anything like me then you’re a great planner and it can often be a form of further procrastination or an affirmation of how far from the target you currently are), just take the first step followed by small measured actions, you can always create the plan along the way. Yes I know that “failing to plan means planning to fail” in all that success training… but admit it, you tried that didn’t you?

The last thing to now is listen to yourself, your thoughts and your excuses. Remember now that forgiveness, “I AM Human” is not an excuse for not trying your best this time, but it is a full pardon for not quite hitting the mark last time around.

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Happy Monday… x

Modus Operandi Part 2 – Have You Wandered Off?

Continuing a theme from the other day, I thought we might once again explore our Modus Operandi, our method of operating in the world, asking this time: “have you wandered off?”

When studying the seven Principles of The Wholly Grail, believing ourselves to be fully embracing and honouring them, we often find that what we imagine ourselves to be doing and what we are actually doing are two different things…

I’m currently a good case and point. Presently succumbed to a minor bout of adrenal fatigue due to prolonged stress that I didn’t keep in check. I say minor because luckily I recognised the signs and took steps (Principle 6: I AM Self-Full) to detach from my stressors and to self-heal through rest, meditation, and bringing my full focus back to the present moment… I had wandered off into the future and stayed there too long, a place with no substance and certainly no sustenance.

Principle 2: I AM Detached gives us an instruction to remain present. Now, whilst we are attempting to manifest something into our lives we must point our attention to an imagined future and often make plans or take steps in the present to move in that direction, but if you are constantly pulled to what is promised or equally as detrimental: what has already gone, then we create stress, anxiety and worry energy that depletes the adrenal energy and forms an unsolvable conundrum within the forebrain, a problem that cannot be reconciled and therefore becomes a loop that brings us back to the same question over and over.

In order to fully embrace Principle 2, you have to jolt yourself loose from the infinite possibilities that only time and God can resolve, which is not always easy when loved ones and those with whom you have a shared vision constantly draw your attention to the potential in an effort to build excitement… excitement and suspense are both indicators that you are once again being pulled forward… and so starts the feedback loop again… compounding yet more stress. There will always be those who help to fuel your drama for their own ends.

Personally, I work a bit like a pressure cooker, every so often under these circumstances I will “blow off steam,” usually right before stress makes me ill. This tendency towards becoming a stress head was what led me to define the Grail in the first place.

So then, what’s your Modus Operandi? Have you wandered off too far into the shadow world of tomorrows or yesterdays?

You can use “I AM Detached” as an affirmation to help bring you back to the present moment, but it’s worth monitoring for a little while, maybe a day, where your mind wanders off to when you aren’t paying attention… that’s where all your energy is leaking and your Grail cup is spilling its precious life affirming contents.

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More later… x

Modus Operandi Part 1 – Don’t Tell Me Show Me

The seven Wholly Grail Principles are tools by which to create inner peace, harmony, health and happiness, but they can only achieve that if you are willing to embrace them and apply them. Many of us are willing and even believe that to a certain extent we are doing the work but when push comes to shove it turns out that denial is the reality. If your Modus Operandi matches the Grail, don’t tell me show me.

Your method of operating is your truth. What that means is, no matter how much you affirm any of the 7 “I AM’s,” if you do the opposite then you’re not faithfully following the path.

Take heart, the path is the path of life and most of us are just making it up as we go along, so even affirming a Principle is the first step to getting back on the path and course correcting towards enlightenment and more tangibly wellbeing.

So what is your M.O?

Let’s take Principle 1: I AM God… This simple yet provocative statement is revealing who you truly are behind your human facade. It says “I AM Divine Light,” “I AM Worthy…” It announces to your peers (of which everyone is a candidate simply because the affirmation “I AM God” applies to everyone and everything), that you respect yourself and you understand that you have a valuable role to play in the unfolding universe.

So, you can quote the Principle as a reminder or as an accolade but if your actions are to do the opposite, like say allowing yourself to be disrespected, constantly belittling and berating yourself, accepting less than you’re worth or less than your share, then your Modus Operandi is leading you down a road towards imbalance, resentment and unhappiness… not the Grail.

Spend just 10 minutes today assessing where in your life you say “I AM God” or something similar but consistently settle for less than a divine being is worth. A declaration of worth is just hot air otherwise.

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More later… x

Fuelling Intention – Don’t Waste The Magic

I’m not usually one to be lost for words but there’s a reason I didn’t post a blog yesterday. Have you ever heard the idea that the more you talk about what’s happening the more you give away the power for it to happen? The power fuelling intention – don’t waste the magic… The Faerie Magic!

Today is Lammas, or Lughnasadh if you prefer… it’s summer harvest and therefore a day to reap the fruit. (If you’ve been reading for a while then you’ll understand why I’m hoping for a pear harvest).

More importantly for me it would have been my dad’s birthday today had he made it this far, so I’m very aware that his energy is around today, mainly because my thoughts are with him and because during this time of harvest, when my own faerie magic is finding a form to take, manifesting my own hopes, dreams and wishes, my ancestral line are adding their magic into the mix to provide weight to Destiny’s endeavour.

We were always going in this direction and every one of our ancestors that dared to tread the path before us did so to lead to this point, everything they did, including my pop’s early departure… it was part of my preparation for this dance…and the dance will pave the way for whatever or whoever comes next.

Take today to honour those that came before. I know there are national and international holidays to do that but today being the first harvest, it’s a day where we reap the abundance that they created, that they stepped aside to leave behind for us. It’s a day where gratitude should be our guide and sharing our only goal.

Whatever your intentions turn into, know that they are paving the way for future generations and that one day in the distant future a harvest will be born of your sacrifice too. Don’t waste the magic.

More later… x

 

Into The Swing – Reassess Your Priorities

If something pivotal has occurred in your life, no doubt things will look confusing for a time until you get into the swing of things.

Accepting new information or a new set of circumstances often involves integrating into your world something that wasn’t there before or even an absence of something that was. Schedules may go awry, routines become entangled and proverbial balls get dropped on the floor.

It’s perfectly acceptable to take time to find your new normal and more than acceptable – it’s absolutely necessary. In many cultures we call it the honeymoon phase, it’s where you get a temporary free pass… more accurately it’s the learning phase where everyone involved takes on the personality of the innocent fool, the student tip-toeing through life’s brand new classroom absorbing information, skills and new techniques as they go.

Reassess your priorities now based on Principle 4: I AM Truth.  What this means is focusing on what’s true and pertinent for you at this stage in your journey. Some of those lovely balls that smash on the floor may actually be filled with nothing more than air and now you feel its time to leave them behind to concentrate on a more authentic version of your dream. Sure, you may feel like you are letting some folks down but the absolute truth of the matter is that you will never be able to please everybody anyway, so then far better to please yourself and allow others to adjust in their own way and go through the same process of reassessing their own priorities.

The world adjusts and organises itself daily to new parameters and this is no different.

It’s helpful to understand what your priorities actually are. In the Seekers section of the site this coming week I’m posting an article about achieving balance, in it will be a chart of all the relevant areas of life that are requiring your attention. It’s free to join as a Seeker here if you would like to take a look.

…For now though, enjoy the temporary chaos, it’s the most satisfying disarray you’ll experience… it’s called creating a new life.

More later… x

 

Understanding Your Motives – In It For The Long Game

There is an energy at present that centres around the culmination of a lot of years of focus. The potential now is so intense that whatever happens next is either the end of the beginning or the beginning of the end – make or break so to speak. That kind of intensity though can cloud judgment, force reactive behaviour and in some cases cause you to run towards an outcome or even away from it depending on your dominant archetypal energy.

Whatever this main focus of attention is, you can bet that all the other aspects of day to day life have taken a back seat and that imbalance is already occurring. (If you’re a member, I will be addressing this imbalance in the Seeker’s section this week. You can join for FREE here).

Here though, I would instead like to concentrate on one potential stressful factor that could become the trigger for one of those reactive behaviours: Have you forgotten why?

Understanding your motives for any action is the purest way to ensure you meet the challenge in a ‘success focused’ way.

Let’s take a new relationship as an example. Whether it be a romantic relationship or a business partnership or any other meeting of minds and hearts, it takes two parties to have the same agenda in order to bring about the desired outcome. Factor in free will, personal schedules, historical baggage, poor communication or misunderstandings and the whole process takes much longer.

Now baring in mind that we are feeling the universal flow bringing things to a pinnacle, all these trifles will no doubt be raising cortisol levels and pushing all the internal fear buttons… so now remember: “Why?”

You’re in it for the long game.

You’re not trying to get somewhere, this IS the relationship. It’s not where it is going but it is where it is, it is what it is, and what it is is growing… a work in progress, a masterpiece of manifestation. Look how far you’ve come.

The momentary surge of ‘now or never’ is just an illusion of time. The time is indeed right for this next step but this next step is simply another step in the story, beautiful now and heading towards many more beautiful things.

Be assured that what you feel under all the uncertainty, the reason you began this quest, that bit is real; the fear, the stress and the urgency are symptoms of insecurity that arise when your “what?” becomes the focus instead of your “why?”

Patience combined with the absolute clarity of the vision that began this journey will carry you through the next few days… and then the next part of the adventure will commence… it has been promised.

Principle 2: I AM Detached

More later… x