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Being Self-Full Is The Most Difficult Choice

Last week was a week of firsts for many people I’m regularly in contact with, launching themselves way beyond the outer limits of their comfort zones into undiscovered country. I was no different. It got me thinking about when being Self-Full is the most difficult choice.

To others bravery, beforehand, can look like stupidity, absurdity and even recklessness, but on the otherside of the leap, once you launch yourself from the safety of the nest and realise you are flying, that’s when the world looks up and acknowledges how brave you were.

Self-Full Living is about managing your well-being and it could easily be mistaken for taking the gentle option by playing safe. But there is no safety in stagnancy and definitely no self-care in playing small. Sometimes it is the most difficult choices, requiring the most courageous acts, that rescue us from our patterns and set us free from the prisons that have slowly been sapping our vital force.

Self-Full Living is about realising you have a problem that is detrimental to your spiritual, mental, or physical health. It is identifying a habit, behaviour, relationship or environment that is dismantling the life you’ve built around you or crushing you at soul level. But it is more importantly about what you choose to do when you recognise it… do you say “that’s too hard” and do nothing, or do you make the difficult choice and be brave?

Being Self-Full is the most difficult choice because it often requires sacrifice and it often requires you to move away from what feels familiar or what feels comfortable.

Self-Full Living is about embracing self-care, but you may find that long-term well-being requires short-term pain.

My question to you is this: are you willing to launch yourself out of the nest and be the bravest version of you, so that your well-being can recover and your soul can once again shine?

What firsts are you bravely stepping into this week?

Let me know in the comments.

Love Jo xxx

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Letting Your Soul Speak

Have you ever noticed that when you are at your most relaxed, for example in dream state, that the things that have been filling your waking thoughts often show up in a new way? Letting your soul speak to you in this way helps you to cut through the clutter and go right to the heart of the question.

The soul voice doesn’t lie, that’s why as part of my Grail teachings I focus on soul-life alignment. When you begin to understand the way in which your soul speaks and the language it uses, you become attuned to the universal flow and life begins to open up.

For the last few days I have been talking about an “upper limit problem.” The term Upper Limit Problem (ULP) was coined by Gay Hendricks in his book “The Big Leap” and refers to the point where you have reached the highest level of your own comfort zone or perhaps just begun to crack through it. That is the point where the old self begins to sabotage your progress by any means necessary. Its the point where you’ve just had the best experience of your life and then you go and get sick, or you meet the guy of your dreams and the relationship is going so well that you go all paranoid and turn into a psycho, insecure bitch. It’s the point where you land your dream job and then start staying out late celebrating and then showing up late to work… the list goes on.

The reason I’m mentioning the ULP is that, after the last few days of discussing it, I had the most simple and yet extraordinary dream… a dream where I noticed that a ceiling tile had been moved slightly and there was a gap. Disliking anything seemingly out of place and being a little bit OCD about it, I decided to get a dining chair, climb up and fix the tile… the moment I touched it, the whole ceiling came down!

Now, in real life I don’t have ceiling tiles but that ceiling does symbolically represent an upper limit. My soul voice was showing me that I personally am worried about aproaching my own ULP. But for me, the crack in the ceiling was already unstable enough that even if I try to “fix it,” or go back to what was, it’s too late to turn back now and the whole damn thing is about to open up. That’s good news right? It means I’m beyond sabotaging the next step of the journey. As with any upper limit problem though, the part of me that fears change is on high alert and trying to sabotage progress regardless.

As I listened to my own soul voice through observing the continuing dream, I noticed that the real concern kept coming up for me. My soul showed me what my ego was afraid of, but as I observed how I felt about that, I realised that it wasnt as a big a deal as my small self was imagining. It was about how life has to change, how community has to change, how friendships will shift etc. All those things are a natural part of growth and those that grow with me are meant to stick around, those that don’t resonate with the new level of connection and consciousness will fall away… always with my love and gratitude. I’m fine with that level of flow.

By letting your soul speak you give yourself an opportunity to catch yourself before the saboteur takes over the operation and, who knows? You might just realise you love the new space more once that ceiling comes down and you see the sky is the limit.

Let me know in the comments:

  • What is your soul trying to tell you through your dreams?
  • What “Upper Limit Problem” are you facing right now?
  • What’s you inner saboteur up to at the moment?

Let’s get you back in alignment and put that sneeky little sucker back to bed!

Love Jo x

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Discernment in a Time of Separation

Is the current climate of separation tempting you back into situations that you know you left for a reason?

After a week of very telling conversations, I felt drawn to write a piece today that would minister to those tempted to return to unfulfilling situations simply because the circumstances we are all experiencing at this time might be clouding judgment. Honouring yourself means exercising discernment in a time of separation.

Loneliness and the discomfort of coping alone might be a factor in the decisions we make at present, but do you remember why you moved on from those you are now considering returning to? Has anything really changed other than the feeling that you don’t want to do life by yourself?

The Grail Path requires you to place yourself as the sovereign of your own life. Ultimately this means that you step into power and take responsibility for the life, love and wellbeing that you want. It’s easy to romanticize the past and look through rose tinted glasses when things feel hard. This is especially so at present when, if you know anything about astrology, Venus has just entered shadow before retrograding for the longest period in 12 years. She isn’t asking you to go back to what was though, she’s asking you to go back and learn from those relationship mistakes and master it this time.

If you are focused on the past, thinking it was the good old days, then you are wandering into dangerous territory with Principle 2: I AM Detached. If you are projecting into the future thinking things will be different this time, then you better be sure that you have done the work. At the core of your decision needs to be the clarity of what you want, need and expect… not from others but FOR yourself. There is a big difference. If you are expecting others to provide for your needs, you are not being Self-Full and you are setting yourself up for disappointment, especially if that same person came nowhere close to fulfilling your requirements last time around.

Ask yourself these questions before you jump back into a relationship, friendship, partnership, situationship or entanglement again:

  • What has changed about you?
  • How are you going to handle the situation differently this time?
  • Have you clearly understood what the other person’s expectations of you are?
  • Are you prepared to meet those expectations?
  • Have you got a clear understanding of what your boundaries are and how to enforce them?
  • Have you made your boundaries clear to the other person?

Notice that all these questions are focused around you. You cannot control, or even accurately measure, the other person’s growth since the last time you connected (or parted), and although I am all about forgiveness (Principle 3), forgiveness is not free reign for more of the same.

The book I’m currently writing focuses heavily on this subject and guides you to honour your self-worth and remember that you are God presented in human form (Principle 1). If you allow yourself to accept less than reverence and respect from another in any of your relationships, then you allow the desecration of your most Sacred-Self.

Discernment in a time of separation needs for you to honour your own vulnerability and sit with it. If, when all this separation falls away and you return to your most powerful, you want to return to old relationships too, do so from a place of empowered respect for your heart and soul and not from the disempowered lonely ego, craving comfort, (that ultimately knows that familiarity leads back to discontent).

If you need more guidance at this time why not book a session?

Love always, Jo x

Have you seen the Dragon Reading this week? …and the Alignment Task is out later today too.

Rewite Your Story From Powerless to Powerful

Do you keep telling the same story of your “lot in life” that just isn’t serving you? I feel you, I really do. I’ve got lots of ways of describing myself, what I’m capable of and what I’m not, how my life is and how it always has been. It’s time to get super-conscious and rewrite your story from powerless to powerful so you can finally step into the life you want to live rather than assuming that is what other people do.

The last few days and even week’s have been difficult for many, but those who choose to use the time to their advantage might find it truly transformative. I personally feel this is a potent opportunity if you know where to focus your attention. I was lucky enough to have the angels show me exactly where to focus whilst I was being really Self-Full, indulging in a spot of meditation.

Let me tell you about my meditation…

I entered a room where Archangel Michael and Archangel Gabriel were waiting to greet me. In this room were four chairs. Now these weren’t just any chairs, they were big plush wing-back leather chairs in fire engine red. They were facing each other and each had a glass and chrome side table with a glass and jug of water. These were the chairs the panel of experts sit in at a symposium, or the judges on The Voice!

Because they were all facing each other, I knew it wasn’t about being judged so I assumed the former. Michael motioned me to sit down and I realised I was one of the experts! Me! But as I sat (and sat a while longer) I realised nobody else was coming and that the other chairs were still empty. Four chairs but I only chose one…

As far as the angels were concerned there were 3 other areas of my life that I believed I had no control over because I kept telling myself that I knew nothing about those things. The message was clear, I need to become the expert in all areas of my own life if I’m going to live it the way I want to. And, I’m going to have to start telling the story that way too.

One of the key areas that I’ve had a story of powerlessness around for that last few years is money. I’ve been telling myself for years that I’m not good with it and I don’t really know what to do with it. I remember back to working in the leisure industry, I used to tell my boss I would run her any department she asked, but if she put me in charge of finance I would bakrupt her inside a week! I’m still telling that same old bullshit story now and the universe is done listening to it… (enter angelic intervention stage left). One of my big red chairs was for the “expert on personal finance” because until we learn how to steward a resource, the universe cannot bring it to you.

The moment I understood the lesson I began learning everything I could about stewarding personal resources including my money, time, energy, etc. I am already willing to accept the expert label in my role as Soul-Life Alignment Specialist & Grail Guide (spirtiual teacher to the layman), but that’s only one chair. I’m not willing to identify with the old paradigm anymore. I’m rewriting my own story from powerless to powerful! If any of this resonates or sounds like you, you need to get educated in the areas you feel you have no control over.

You might be wondering what this has to do with The Grail Path? When you rewrite your story from powerless to powerful, from incompetent or victim to expert, you automatically begin to align with a new frequency that attracts the manifestations that match your description. The Grail isn’t an airy fairy spiritual concept that has no baring on your day to day reality, it is the blueprint for consciously creating your reality as heaven on earth. Both Principes 5 & 6 are about stewarding resources and Principle 1 is all about how we identify with our own worth.

(I will also be introducing The 4 Pillars of The Grail shortly, they will break down the connection between spirit and matter for you even further. Look out for that here on the website in the next few weeks).

Money is energy… and I for one am open to receiving an abundance of it and every other form of high vibe energy into my life.

So, what I really want to know is:

  • What story have you been telling yourself that isn’t working for you?
  • Which of your expert chairs are you going to learn to fill next?
  • What action are you taking to fill your learning gap in that area?
  • What would you like the new story to sound like?
  • And… how can I help?

Let me know in the comments below.

For now though, I’m wishing you a productive and powerful week ahead.

Jo x

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That Moment Just Before You Leap

I can’t escape the obvious underlying feeling at the moment that I’m about to proverbially jump off a cliff and test my wings for what feels like the first time. But what happens in that moment just before you leap?

Spiritaully speaking, the angels begin to gather and the Divine starts making plans for your landing… because you will land. How and when, are a matter of physics and the laws of the universe, like the law of consequence and the law of attraction… but the law of gravity does not negotiate no matter how hard you bargain.

For me, this moment signifies readiness to commit to The Grail Unfiltered. It means that as I go forward, the mask is coming off. The veil is being lifted and the soft underbelly of my own journey through the ups and downs of embracing its teachings and yet still falling asleep on the job as-it-were, are about to be front and centre so that I can better guide you to understand how it can only work for you, it can only change everything, if you stay conscious every step of the way.

That moment just before you leap is filled with trepidation and what ifs. It is filled with calculations and negotiations and in truth, none of that really matters because the universe has a plan of it’s own and you have no clue if that plan is for you to crash and burn as sport or for you to fly so high that you leave a mark on the sun.

I have to believe that the universe is a benign force with no intention other than to channel through me and you, the secrets it holds, in hope that humanity can find balance and re-enter the garden we were placed into before we thought we knew better.

That moment just before you leap can be much better served with prayer:

I live to serve. Let me do so with an open heart and a clear mind, free of the fears that I might fail in my mission and free of the confines of being too afraid to try. Let me enter the arena and take my place among those who stood here before in the fire of their own truth. Let my truth be Thy truth and let me be a clear channel for healing and transformation in Thy name.

So be it.

I am unsure when my next post will arrive. I am unsure what it will contain. What I am sure of, in this moment before I leap, is that a new life is beckoning me.

If you are on the verge of testing your wings, feel free to switch your fear to faith and by all means use my prayer.

Jo x

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Here is the link to this week’s Dragon Reading video and here is the Alignment Task for the week too… (it goes live Monday afternoon).

Decide The Outcome Now

When I first began teaching The Wholly Grail back in 2012 I had no idea where I wanted to take it or how it would even be received. In fact, for a long time I simply did as Spirit asked and hoped for the best. The clear message now though, is decide the outcome now.

We are living in strange times. The world outside seems to have been turned on its head and many of us are feeling like our way of life is under serious threat. It could give rise to feelings of despondency and fear or it could give rise to a new found determination to find a fresh way of being that supports our greatest hopes and our health & wellbeing whilst also supporting our planet. This choice to focus on the vision we want for ourselves is the undercurrent for all mankind but also for me and my work.

In the last week, whilst the madness ramped up outside, I finally took the decision to go all in on a long held dream and took a leap of faith into the void to see if the universe would catch me. I had to consider all the aspects of the Grail in order to step up to the edge then let go. This is what I decided:

  • I am worthy of it… in fact I am the only one that can achieve this, because it’s my dream.
  • Me learning to fly or fall are the universe’s job… I only had to decide to be brave enough to jump and spread my wings.
  • All of my past failures were fuel for my future success… but not if I couldn’t forgive myself and others for the pain.
  • It had to be all me if I was going to do it… what everyone else thinks is just their opinion.
  • I am prepared to give up what I have to have what I need… clinging to what feels safe is the death of creativity.
  • I’m taking full responsibility for my own happiness and growth… they are the key to my well-being.
  • When I go all in, I expect those I go all in with to go all in with me… no more accepting less than I’m worth

…which brings me back to the first Principle. That is what these statements are, The 7 Principles of The Grail and they are how I decide the outcome now of my future path.

My leap was a personal triumph, a spiritual calling and a sound business decision. For you it could be anything from your health and well-being to your relationships. When you are at the beginning of a new chapter in your life, you have to decide the outcome now because if you don’t, how will you steer your ship towards the beautiful horizon you are dreaming of?

What are your intentions for the week/month/year ahead? Love yourself enough to decide the outcome now… and then take the leap of faith into the ocean of potential.

Get in touch if you need the courage to go all in!

Jo x

Here’s the link if you didn’t see the Dragon Reading this week? And don’t forget the Alignment Reading, it’s available from Monday afternoon.

Self-Care Special: It Will Happen When It’s Ready

Battling with myself just now as to whether to write a Self-Care Special blog or give it a miss this week, I recognised in myself the familiar feeling of having pushed past my limit. Being Self-Full requires that you know when to rest and to know it will happen when it’s ready, life that is.

Deadlines are great for getting stuff done, they really are, but if you are the kind of person that has trouble listening to your soul’s voice and taking heed of your body’s requirements, then that deadline is goin to be the thing that you punish yourself with time and time again.

I’ve learned to honour the voice inside that tells me when enough is enough, so before I wrote this I took a few hours off to recoup some energy after a long week of juggling my own priorities and other peoples needs. We are in strange times at present and personal wellbeing is a high priority, as is managing stress. It is a fact that stress reduces the immune system and so its wise to manage your schedule in a way supports your long term dreams as well as your immediate well-being.

Nature is showing us that it has its own priorities and deadlines at the moment and funnily enough, they cannot be negotiated with. Crisis has a certain way of putting everything into perspective in a way that forces you to conform to the natural order. Your health has a natural cycle just like Mother Nature and when she says stop and rest, if you listen and act promptly, and you’re lucky enough, stop and rest won’t mean just STOP.

Get your hands on a copy of The Self-Full Living Workbook here and start prioritising your well-being today!

Everything has a timetable and you cannot force it nor can you hold it back so you may as well just get on board and go with the flow. It will happen when it’s ready.

To help you along the way though, try the following:

The universe will get you exactly where you need to be exactly when you are supposed to be there. I truly believe that. So as you glide into this week, can you let things happen in divine right timing and get out of your own way to take care of you first?

Let’s call it a challenge.

Love, Jo x

P.S. Did you see this week’s Dragon Reading? …and check out the Alignment Task for this week on my YouTube Channel.

Turning Theory Into (Sacred) Practice

Life moves in cycles. We go through experiences that allow us to absorb new learning and as that learning crystalises into wisdom, we are asked to move into the next stage of evolution which is defined by us walking our talk, turning theory into (sacred) practice.

I say sacred practice because there is no line between the spiritual and the material when you choose the Grail Path, everything becomes as holy interaction with the divine and moreover, in every encounter can be witnessed the hand of God at work.

If you choose to walk the Grail Path you are making a commitment to your own soul to act upon the guidance that it reveals to you as and when alignment is achieved. This is often more about the balance of divine timing and personal choice points than anything else. One thing that is sure, is that you will either have to take the leap or be pushed.

Turning theory into sacred practice requires faith in an outcome that you cannot see and also in letting go of the security that you perhaps felt was in place in order to allow life to flow towards a greater expansion. Each of the magical keys to personal freedom and peace, known here as the 7 Principles of The Grail, are not just great ideas but are edicts for reclaiming inner and outer freedom through self-love when put into practice in real life.

  • Self-worth
  • Presence and focus
  • Forgiveness
  • Authenticity
  • Stewardship over ownership
  • Self-care as a priority
  • Balance and reciprocity

Only by implementing these practices into your daily experience can you truly begin to find the empowerment that you are seeking, freeing yourself from co-dependency and unfulfilling recurrent stories.

Walking your talk is going to feel uncomfortable, especially if you are changing something late in the game to fit with this new found integrity. The discomfort will fade though as you continue to refill your sacred chalice through consistency and commitment to your soul’s requirements.

When your light is rising it isn’t always a pretty process… but neither is the messy process of birth… and that’s what this is.

Keep growing.

Love, Jo x

Check out this week’s free readings on YouTube: The Dragon Reading here and The Alignment Reading here

Are You Finding Time To Do You?

Life is going to go in swings and roundabouts, peaks and troughs. Unlike the seemlessly perfect highlights of a social media lifestyle, quite often the universe has other plans and we end up neck deep in stuff that needs our attention and none of it seems to be ours. The question is, while it’s all happening, are you finding time to do you?

Self-Full Living isn’t about placing yourself in a bubble and becoming oblivious to the outside world and what it appears to need from you, its about finding balance between the demands of life, family and community and your own well-being, hopes, wishes and dreams.

In the last week or so, everything has gone a bit tits-up with my schedule as I’ve put everything on hold to renovate part of my mum’s house to make it accessible for her to come home from residential care. She’s very elderly now and her mobility is negligible. That means that I’ve been humping heavy furniture around, painting and decorating, de-cluttering years of stuff. My own goals have all had to go on hold, but I refuse to put my own health and self-care needs on hold because that just doesnt benefit anyone, including mum.

When you understand your own worth (Principle 1) and that taking care of your own well-being is the greatest gift you can give to anyone you love or who loves you (Principle 6), you begin to reconsider your actions, drop the martyrdom quest and start seeking win/win solutions for everyone involved. The biggest win/win you can gift the world is to aks yourself that question: are you taking time to do you? If the answer is no then you need to prioritise that now… no, not when the emergency or urgency is over, right now.

It doesn’t have to be dramatic or even noticeable to anyone else, simply take the time to eat well, eat fresh; rest when you are tired; spend 5 mins in meditation; stretch; hydrate. Do all of this deliberately and mindfully and pay attention to what your body needs, it will tell you (catch it on the whisper though or you will know its too little, too late).

Taking time to do you is not an indulgence, its a sacred contract you have with your own Source. Honour it. Honour yourself.

What is your mind, body and spirit asking of you today and how are you going to fulfill it’s request?

Love, Jo x

P.S. Here is the link to my Self-Full Living Workbook to help you understand your patterns and gaps in your current self-care practices. You might find it useful.

P.P.S Did you see the Dragon Reading for this week?

P.P.P.S. And your alignment task is being uncovered here in the Alignment Reading.

Why FOMO Will Kill Your MOJO!

Have you ever been in that situation where you are so scared of missing what’s available, that you expend all of your energy saying yes to everyone and everything? Let me tell you why FOMO will kill your MOJO!

The truth is, yes, the world is full of shiny things that we all want to experience, but I know that you’ve heard the expression “all that glitters is not gold.” In Grail terms, to maintain your vital essence, you must invest in only the things that will in turn invest in you, i.e. give back to you in a form that nourishes your spirit.

Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted is focused on the concept of balance and your mojo is dependent on your ability to steward your inner resources. What that means is, if you are always putting out and not open to receive what needs to come in, you will be depleted as fast as you can say yes to the next thing that is presented to you.

Discernment is key to developing your spiritual mojo muscle. You have to get really good at saying no to what doesn’t ultimately serve you. If you have been experiencing mojo fatigue through prolonged FOMO (fear of missing out), then you have already had enough experience of what serves and what doesn’t. Think about all the times you said yes and then came away feeling disappointed. All the times you put energy into something or someone to realise that you got nothing out of it that was valuable. Let me give you an example: I’ve been going to MBS events for years. Sometimes to browse, sometimes to attend workshops. Every time I go of late, I leave feeling like I spent money I didn’t have on stuff that didn’t serve and instead of coming away with a sense of upliftment, I was left feeling drained and disappointed. I keep going because I have FOMO… “what if there is something new and exciting this time?”

Of course that’s just my story, I still wholehearted believe that MBS shows are a treasure chest of teachers and healers if you are just beginning this journey… in fact I can highly recommend a few!

Hearing from a few people this week feeling overwhelm and myself being a Grail teacher encouraging Self-Full Living, I have to tell you that your choices need to reflect your ultimate goals. Ask yourself always: “Does this opportunity take me closer to where I want to be?” If the answer is yes, then go for it, because the progress itself will be enough to fuel up your Grail cup and reinvigorate your waning mojo, the benefits are obvious and appropriate. If however the choice before you is merely a distraction from what’s not working in your life then you will find that once you have been distracted and its over, you will have to go back to what’s not working in your life and have gained nothing, potentially having instead used up vital resources, energetic and material, in order to be distracted.

FOMO is real, but so is balance. If you want to know the real reason FOMO will kill your mojo, its that you haven’t yet honed in on what it is you are actually trying to achieve. You get to choose what will serve your highest good and if it isn’t filling you up, it’s simply emptying you out.

Love, Jo x

P.S. If you want to get lined up with your soul path this week, check out the Alignment Reading here.

P.P.S. Did you see the Dragon Reading yet? It’s heralding big changes… click the link to watch now.

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