Saturday’s oracle gave us a heads up about how other people’s truths don’t have to affect our forward momentum but we may be forgiven for imagining that it only applies to their opinions. Your truth is more readily apparent in your behaviour than in your actual words, so what are we to do about how others behave towards us?
The first thing you must recognise is that people treat how you allow them to. You set the standard for what you will and will not tolerate. How clear you are about your own boundaries is reflected in your behaviour… you can say what you find acceptable as much as you like but when you go ahead and accept less, that’s the cue others take and the level they rise to.
Do you find that people constantly break commitments they made with you, turn up late, forget to let you know, pay you less than you are worth, break your confidence, steal from you, disregard your needs, commandeer your time, encroach on your space…? You get the picture. Do you even notice when its happening?
How you respond to these infringements, even the minor ones, is sending a signal to other people as to how you are prepared to be treated and what is acceptable behaviour to you.
Today is a good day to do a thorough assessment of your own boundaries and level of self-worth. Observe how often someone makes a presumption on your time or resources (including your knowledge or training in any given area), how often they let you down on arrangements and agreements etc. Notice then how you respond to those transgressions. Is it normal for you to let it slide? Being understanding and compassionate of the other persons needs or circumstances is a noble quality of course but at what cost to you?
Once you have become more aware of your own participation in allowing these actions to occur, it’s time to adjust your settings… you will meet with resistance, especially if the perpetrators have been in your life for a while, it is really difficult to raise the bar once it has been set but it is not impossible, you just have to be prepared to let people fall away if they won’t adjust with you. Principle 2: I AM Detached reminds us to be present with what is, Principle 5: I AM Liberated reminds us to let go of what holds us captive. That being the case, what or who in the here and now is holding you captive in your old state of low self-worth by continuously crossing your boundaries?
Once you establish new ones, only your behaviour will determine their validity and endurance.
Adjust your settings today… x