Do you remember why you first connected with someone? What it was that drew you towards a relationship/friendship/partnership with them?
Over time everything evolves to a point where it then begins to decay, like the seasons: spring is a time of new beginnings, learning, growth; it transforms into a summer of celebration when everything is in full bloom; which gives way to autumn when we first harvest the abundance before decay commences and we allow the natural cycle to wither into winter, a time in which that which is no longer working dies and all else sleeps a restorative sleep and regeneration occurs. The seed of what has passed prepares to germinate into a fresh new beginning when the inevitable cycle begins anew.
Don’t go kidding yourself that anything in existence is immune from this cycle, relationships included.
It can be difficult when things begin to move into an autumn/winter phase, especially as we never really know what can survive or indeed whether we even want it to, so the process can feel like an agonising dismantling of the structures you believe define you… but they do not define you and this recognition begins the awakening of your individuation.
All relationships whether good, bad or indifferent, act as a mirror for your own self examination and understanding. You become an explorer, an adventurer, a seeker and learner at the beginning… allowing your natural childlike curiosity to lead you through uncharted waters; you thrive in your own beauty and vitality when the summer phase washes over you and then responsibility and daily life become the mundane teachers of early autumn… right before giving way to discontent and the beginning of the end… of this cycle anyway.
It is an inevitable cycle but this is not a pessimistic diatribe into an inevitable end…
Though winter must come to all endeavours, so too must a new spring. Nowhere is it written that winter must spell the end of your human entanglements, the cycle in fact suggests that you are merely recreating new energy to be born anew. So I take you back to the beginning of this piece: Do you remember why you first connected with someone? What it was that first drew you towards a relationship/friendship/partnership with them?
We forget to see the beauty, the multifaceted and infinitely layered capacity that every human being has to amaze, inspire, and reflect back our own divinity because we forget to tell them that it exists within them. We remind them constantly of how they don’t measure up to our expectations instead of seeing through the eyes of innocence and wonder into the depths of all that they do that is fascinating, enchanting and extraordinary.
Look again at the miracles they perform daily: the strength they have to keep going, the generosity they show to others, their determination, their wisdom, their playfulness… re-read their story as an individual as well as the chapters they share with you and then focus in on the characteristics that you mirror back to each other and ask yourself if you are focused on the positive influence of the partnership or on the niggles that you have allowed to push you into a negative slump towards winter.
Everything must end eventually, but a healer would at least try to save the patient before allowing an unnecessary death.
All your relationships need regularly resuscitation but the reboot has to come from you… who can you reflect beauty back at today?
I’d just like to say, you inspire me, you make me the best I can be and I am eternally grateful for you.
Principle 1: I AM God. Principle 3: I AM Human. Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted.
More later… x