Do you ever look around you at the people who claim to know you and think: “Shit! Have you even met me? Do you know who I am?“
I’ve been contemplating this very question and a mad realisation came over me… if they don’t know the real me, whose fault is that? Well, mine obviously… There is something I failed to tell them or let them see or make clear.
We all hide behind a mask of “I’ve got my shit together and I know what I’m doing and everything is A-Okay with my world,” until it isn’t and all of a sudden everyone backs away slowly going “who the hell is this girl and what the absolute f**k did she do with the woman I know.”
Let me be the first to redress the balance… Let me reintroduce myself:
Hi I’m Jo. I’m a 47 year old divorcee with a string of dysfunctional romantic connections behind me, I’m skint and I’m overweight and I’m trying hard to hold it together whilst supporting an elderly parent with the beginnings of what might be dementia…
…Hold on a minute though, because I’m also the incredibly lucky woman who supports countless other women all over the world to live their truth and find peace and happiness with what is, so they can feel empowered enough to change it into what they want it to be.
Yes I’m 47 but take a good look at the picture at the top of my website… no special lighting, no filter, no make-up… thats me! And the pic is a selfie I took on my mobile (cell) phone. If you can spot a wrinkle you win a prize! That’s peace.
Yes I’m currently single but after years of dealing with codependency and narcissitic or emotionally unavailable men, I’m so loving, loving me that it’s going to take one hell of an enlightened authentic individual to match my level of self-love and if he doesn’t show up what does it matter as long as I’m enjoying life.
Yes I’m skint but I used to be in a well paid management position that made me so miserable I got a migraine like clockwork at the same time every day and ended up being tested for adrenal cancer due to burn out… I’d rather be happy, healthy and broke than rich and dead!
Yes I’m overweight but I’m also a healthy-eating nutritionist who happens to like cake. I do yoga and tai-chi and though I’m a clumsy beginner at both, who resembles the hippos in tutus on Disney’s Fantasia more than the graceful swan I think I look like, I love it… and did I tell you I dance like I own the dance floor and managed to outdance some skinny dude in dance-off in Edinbrugh whilst having a ball out with the girls? What the hell has the size of a woman’s arse got to do with loving life?
Yes I’m struggling at present with the deterioration of my mum’s health but that woman taught me more about doing what makes you happy than any other person in my life, so I’m grateful everyday for the time we have together.
Now, let me tell you who I’m not…
I’m not the woman who is going to teach you how to get rich. Everybody and her aunt is trying to sell you a scheme or a strategy to make you millions on social media… it hasnt worked for me so far but i’m rich beyond words when it comes to my spiritual life.
I’m not the woman who is going to show you how to make yourself skinny and beautiful… you dont have to go far to find the endless brands selling you a pipedream about how you will will lose weight in days if you buy their product and how you will take 10 years off if you use their face cream… my skin care is super basic and from a high street drug store.
I’m not the woman who is going to promise you that the man of your dreams is just around the corner… I met him already, he was a self-centred arsehole with an ego the size of a continent and there is a reason he only exists in your dreams. The right guy will love the real you when you choose to love the real you first.
I’m not the woman who will tell you that you are never going to face a dilemma again or deal with the peaks and troughs of everyday life… (I’m still on the feckin’ rollercoaster)!
I’m the woman who already knows that you are enough, that you are, right now, the exact perfect version of you to be happy healthy and at peace with what is, that you are a woman of extraordinary character, bravery and tenacity, and at that very moment you begin to accept you for who you are, where you are and how you are… you’re gonna live a beautiful life filled with beautiful experiences.
I’m the woman who took my own high’s and lows (combined them with the experiences of all the women I have helped and supported over the years to go on to do some amazing things) and created a path to self-love… where I found my Wholly Grail.
Nice to meet you. I’d be honoured to help you start living your life as you! Where would you like us to start?