I see it more and more these days and it leads me to ask the question: is a character assassination of your opponent really the best way of getting your argument heard?
It pains me that as human beings we continuously feel the need to climb on the backs of others to get further up the life ladder when simply asking might offer us the leg up we need.
Why is it necessary then to make someone else appear to be in some way wrong and that you are in fact the one that is right. You may be the one that’s right for a small proportion of the audience but you will never be a good fit with some of the others… it’s all about fruit.
Apples and pears to be exact… now I’m not talking about the Cockney rhyming slang for stairs (though stairs are a good metaphor for ascension), what I’m referring to is the sublime and beautiful differences between the two. Now as you know if you’re keeping up I favour the pear… a symbol of my goal and perhaps destiny. That doesn’t mean I don’t like apples mind, it just means that given the choice I’m going to choose the pear. Now if you are a pear there is no point in trying to be an apple and you will serve no one and nothing by trying to convince the world that apples are bad (they tried that in the bible and Eve still got stuck in)… By the same token if you’re an apple what would you have to gain by imitating a pear? Or for that matter shouting from the rooftops “Eat me! The pear is bad!”
You see… fruit!
Preference and the people’s right to choose cannot be swayed by character assassination, on a subconscious level we enlightened folk see right through it… if you say to me (being the contrary bleeder that I am) “don’t believe that other guy…” I’m going to go straight and find out what that other guy was saying so that I can decide which argument feels, at its essence, to resonate more with me. Your big mistake in that instance was simply to draw my attention to the other guy because until you shouted “Hey! Eat me, the pear is bad…” I hadn’t looked up from the orchard to exclaim : “Wait a minute… What pear? Where?”
So now, you think a certain way, look a certain way, have invested in a certain set of core beliefs… they are not going to be the same as anybody else’s exact configuration and that is exactly what makes you unique. As a pear you stand out in a line of apples, no apology necessary… but if you stand there telling everyone that the apples are sinful then who exactly is portraying the role of the proverbial “bad apple”? If you stand there pretending to be an apple then you’ll stand out for all the wrong reasons… like being a fake!
Keep being you, stay authentic, understand that in the line up of apples, eventually the right people will notice and soon enough you will be surrounded by slowly ripening pears and the apples will become irrelevant to your journey without you needing to threaten them with the cider press.
Finding your tribe is about patience kindness and a willingness to stand out before you fit in.
Principle 4: I AM Truth… and I respect that yours my differ from mine.
More later… x