After recognising you always have a choice, reaching for joy and positivity, next comes a stark realisation. With this sometimes less than pleasant new found clarity you may encounter another negative tidal wave known simply as regret.
Regret is a redundant emotion. It’s counterparts: guilt and shame, also fall into the category of “ways to immediately disempower your self” and are equally as redundant in terms of actually changing anything.
Perhaps whilst indulging in your previous state of negative patterning you did something to belittle, deride or piss off someone who did nothing to deserve your lashing out (whether from fear, pain or other intense form of disempowerment), and now in your enlightened state you can clearly see the effects of your behaviour. Yes, expressing remorse of some kind may go some way towards showing the recipient of your misjudged outburst that there is indeed a human side to you but at this juncture you need to ask yourself a serious question: Am I in fact pained by the notion that I did harm to another or am I simply responding to the fact that I got pulled up over it or lost out on something valuable as a result?
This question is about shifting your perception from selfish to service.
Now in the second instance, remorse is for oneself and regret is insincere, whilst in the first instance remorse may in fact trigger a healing for both parties… either way, regret is a redundant emotion….
Replace regret, guilt and shame with an empowered state: responsibility. “I did that.” ” I caused that.” “I acted from a disempowered position and I acknowledge I caused pain: to you, to myself, to all involved. I accept responsibility and I will do everything I can to make sure that doesn’t happen again.”
Regret has no potency except to deplete your vital energy. Regret cannot make amends. Regret cannot take action… only responsibility can do that. Be responsible.
I AM Human, or Principle 3 as it is in The Wholly Grail, is the key to forgiveness but nowhere does it state that you should indulge in regret whilst waiting for another to pardon your bad behaviour… forgive yourself, lighten up, take positive action and then the world will have reason to notice your humanity and forgive your f**k ups!
More later… x