Trawling through personal history is not a healthy place to dwell but on occasion it is a good exercise to sift through time recovering the blessings, lessons and experiences that have brought you to this place we call the present moment. You see, only by embracing your personal journey up to this point can you see the pattern and pivotal happenings that drew you towards the choices that you are now faced with.
At each tough juncture along the road when the fantasy fractured you became a better version of your former self. I say “when the fantasy fractured” because each major turning point shattered the illusions that you might have held as true before.
Life is science, an experiment that appears to constantly yield failure and only when you refuse to be defeated by it, will you take those failures and let them guide you to your eureka! moment.
In order to move past the failures you’re going to have grasp the basic concept of self-forgiveness. If you’re going to embrace this aspect of healing then first you are going to have to quit blaming and accept responsibility… for your actions or in actions, decisions or abstinence from making them.
“I did that” is a powerful statement, and though admission of guilt is a negative self-deprecating and confrontational stance to be taking, that very same statement seen as an acceptance of responsibility not guilt, can be the grounds for positive personal and inter-personal growth.
Understanding your own power to guide your life journey the way you want it to go needs to begin with healing… healing the bits you felt you didn’t control, claim back your power now by identifying the choice… not in a coulda, shoulda, woulda pointless exercise, but in an effort to observe that choice is always present… it’s the potential consequences of that choice that frighten us into believing that our world’s as we know them might shatter… but get your head around the concept that its only ever to be reformed in a much better, bigger, more suitable configuration.
Embrace Principle 3: I AM Human.
More later… x