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Friday Confession – No Longer Hiding The Source Of All Light

Is Friday a good day for a confession? Well ready or not, here I come. The truth, as it is for me, cannot remain suppressed. I’m no longer hiding the source of all light.

I’ve previously been holding back on some of my posts simply to avoid upsetting someone. Knowing that my words can trigger insecurities in those with whom I have a close or karmic connection, and avoiding conflict as best I can by occasionally pussyfooting around issues that might be deemed contentious or taken personally, misread or deliberately twisted to mean something else…

How many of you do that? How many of you dim your light, lower your voice, stay hidden, just so you won’t rock a boat that you are actually being held to ransom in? (That’s a metaphor obviously).

Principle 2: I AM Detached is the part of the Grail that I find often trips up all who begin the journey consciously. At its core it refers to unhitching your attention from a specific outcome, whether that be a repeat of what’s gone before or a desired future destination doesn’t actually matter, when you specify how you want things to turn out you manipulate the path towards it.

By withholding a part of who you are, effectively dimming your sparkling essence, you are manipulating how people see you. Sometimes it’s to protect them from their own shortcomings but more accurately it’s to protect you, either from your own fear, or deeper than that, your fear that their shortcomings and therefore reactions to who you truly are might cause them to dislike you, ridicule you, argue with you, get angry at you or abandon you.

This is where Principle 4: I AM Truth kicks in. They have to do what they have to do. They will always act or react from their own truth however different from yours that may be. Once you have let go of your attachment to the outer goal though, their reaction no longer holds any sway over you. That’s not to say you want to deliberately hurt anyone or offend anyone. If causing harm is your intent then you’re reading the wrong blog. What it does mean though is that you no longer have to continue trading your comfort for someone else’s.

And now we arrive at Principle 3: I AM Human. The art of forgiveness begins with the recognition of a fragile being. That’s what an ego is, it’s a child in pain doing its best to protect itself from the world it perceives as a harsh environment in which it has to fight for it’s own place in existence. The ego, when it feels attacked, slighted or unheard, loses sight of the Soul parent to which its bound and has no concept of how to truly protect itself in a peaceful manner so then it must fight to stay alive, to take power away from its perceived threat… it has forgotten that it has access to the power of the universe through its Soul-Self and will therefore usurp the light from wherever it shines externally… The ego sees only through physical eyes and cannot observe anything through the eyes of the heart. You must love the child despite its attack on you, only love can save it, anger reinforces the cycle of fear.

You are the source of all light. God shines through you (each and every one of you), but His frequencies change and become unique with you as a filter. Not everyone will be attracted to your light frequency (your truth). Some will be repelled by it, others will attempt to reconcile the difference by changing their frequency to harmonise, whilst others still, will try to force yours to match theirs… but the rainbow of truth that is humanity, it’s diversity, is the whole truth. From God’s eye view the pattern is perfection.

Now, to those who love me but would have me fit their mould I say this…

When we arrive at Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, we will have adopted an attitude of balance where we can truly see the beauty in all the light frequencies that blend and dance in a constant exchange of give and take. We will begin to learn from each other instead of taking from each other, we will begin to cherish the exposure to a beautiful array of fresh new ideas that compliment and contrast causing co-creation and eventually a brand new truth, a blended truth that has a frequency all of its own, it has a name…

It’s called love.

More later…x

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The Good Friday Guide To Conflict Resolution

Do you think JC would have ended up on a cross if people actually knew how to resolve their differences?

I have to confess my post has little or nothing to do with Easter or the crucifixion story, it just seems appropriate to mention Master Jesus at this time of year and ask what he would do… unfortunately for him he was unable to make the other party hear him (probably because Mercury had slid fully into its impression of Michael Jackson’s moonwalk going backwards across the sky and sending communication into a tailspin of misunderstanding, misinterpretation, misrepresentation… in fact just ‘mis’sing the point entirely.

So conflict resolution then?

From a Wholly Grail perspective we may have to throw every one of the 7 Principles at the issue but lets start with Principle 4: I AM Truth…

This Principle should not be deliberately used to prove who is right and who is wrong, it is a universal statement, available to all to make the point that from any one persons point of reference the truth looks very different and so your truth and mine may not essentially match. Let’s start there.

We all make assumptions during conflict about what the other persons agenda is, we imagine their motives from our personal perspective… we are inevitably wrong. Just ask.

“What do you want?”

“What outcome are you hoping for?”

“How do you see this situation resolving itself?”

Remember now that all external conflict is a reflection of an internal conflict that we each have going on too. A battle between your higher self and your ego is in progress all with the intention of protecting your best interests… they just don’t know how to agree on the best course of how to make that happen, so externally you do battle with whatever appears to be threatening your sense of safety.

Victory in conflict is an illusion. For someone to be the victor, someone else has to be the victim… for every winner there is a loser, unless the warring parties learn to listen, and to be honest in their representation of the real issues underlying the antagonism they have towards each other.

Resolution is never the hidden agenda. Winning is. That’s the thing that needs to be determined: “What’s your definition of winning?”

Only compromise can create true resolution and that has to be about two parties coming together to create a win/win scenario.

Love must be the agenda.

This is where we slap in Principle 2: I AM Detached, this allows us to let go of the tight hold we have on our chosen outcome. Follow it with Principle 1: I AM God, without being able to recognise the divinity in your opponent you will never be able to see them as anything but your opponent and therefore you will never truly recognise that you were always on the same team: family.

Now we need the final piece… Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, quite simply the perfect balance of give and take.

Whilst this is all very well, the vital ingredient is this:

It takes two people to pull up a chair at the negotiation table… you cannot force a closed mind open, so if that doesn’t work, one must take JC’s approach and turn the other cheek… (and someone ends up crucified).

More later… x

 

Saturday Oracle – The Welcome Mat

Dealing with emotional pain is a very personal journey and there are no real rules on how to protect yourself from further assail, but there are common markers along the road to healing.

This week’s combination, bringing together a matching energetic set: Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted and the emerald green of the heart chakra, are highlighting a part of that process that is crucial to your forward journey.

You are being asked, as we step into a week containing a powerful new moon and a solar eclipse, to look at the walls you have furnished around your emotional centre as a result of recent tribulations and more poignantly, how those walls may affect new relationships.

Self-preservation is a serious business and hardwired into human circuitry, meaning any and all risks that follow pain, that may result in more of the same, are understandably cut off at the pass. The wounded heart certainly doesn’t roll out the welcome mat to would be assailants…

…But you’re being warned this week that you are seeing threats where there are friends and allies, and in searching for safe haven you may be creating a prison or isolation you won’t want to remain inside for long.

Love is being offered to you in more than one form in the days ahead. Do not be tempted to lock out the very thing you need because having been a victim of another’s character flaws forces you to become a victim of your own.

I AM Open-Hearted is the Principle of the true Grail Knight, the true hero who lets love be the guiding light in all interactions. You are being called to step into the light of absolute faith, trust and surrender to the highest power of all… nobody will blame you for being cautious, that’s your right, but you have the power within you to win. Nobody can put out your light, that is the Divine shining through you and it is inextinguishable.

New life is knocking at your door, the door to your heart… open up and give it a chance to prove it is worthy of touching heaven, because that what lives inside your love. Heaven.

More next week… x

The Balance of Power

Don’t be fooled into thinking that achieving Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, is possible in the purest form that you may be expecting. The human condition, as with everything else in the universe is built to seek balance and for every action, according to some genius or another, there is an equal and opposite reaction… we are literally built to seek reward for effort.

Having established this idea that some more idealistic light workers may rail against, we also need to accept that everything we do (and I do mean everything) is done with an agenda. Sure that agenda may be so deeply routed that you have hidden it from yourself but it is there I promise… The most giving person gets a kick out of seeing the joy they illicit in others, the most eloquent teacher has a desire to be heard and acknowledged, the doting parent to continue the family bloodline and to experience the power of having something so precious depend so completely upon you…

The transfer of power is the driving force upon which our reality is built. So being open-hearted is not the same as unconditional because as near as we can get to unconditional is allowing and acceptance. The true definition Principle 7 is to give and receive in equal measure… The balance of power.

Recognising that the input doesn’t always come from the direction in which the output was offered and that the universal Laws of Compensation and of Karma don’t always operate on a discernable schedule is all that maintains the illusion of unconditional to our self-congratulatory egos. Now don’t go berating your ego for doing its job, you can only be a whole being when you integrate your higher self with your ego and bring that shadow into the light.

When you embrace Principle 1: I AM God, you begin to understand your own worth and only then can Principle7 take on full meaning within your life… then abundance can flow through you, not as an idea or wishful thinking, but as a living energy where you stand as the lightning rod drawing down the grace of God and a divine dispensary for the very same… where the balance of power occurs within you, not to you, not in spite of you, it cannot bypass you… you become the prismatic transmitter at the centre of the story.

More later… x

 

 

Love is Fragile

I decided to add in an extra impromptu post today because I’m finding something fascinating if not a little frustrating…

The independent child is an archetype (not restricted to childhood) whereby from the outside, a person appears to be cold and distant and fully engaged in whatever project or current play thing is amusing them, all the while seeming to be fully ignoring the responsible adult… that is until the responsible adult becomes fully involved, engaged and engrossed in something far more stimulating than being shunned by said child… this is the exact moment when that young soul, who remember up until now has been completely disinterested in the comings and goings of those that care for him or her, has suddenly raised some curiosity as to what could possibly occupy the designated grown-up that is more interesting than simply watching the child from a safe distance do his or her thing?

Now I’m wondering if this is a game played mostly by people who have no siblings and are therefore used to being independent whilst remaining the centre of attention or if it is a sign of control to avoid insecurity but I’m speculating on both theories as I myself have siblings and I’m a firm believer that when the grown-ups are talking, they are not doing so in order to ignore the child, they are merely taking the opportunity to have a life that is larger than the workings of the kindergarten.

In grown-up relationships, this phenomenon still exists: “I’m so not interested in you until you appear to become so not interested in me…” it’s a silly game where nobody wins. I remember being subjected to the film Nanny McPhee years ago where she says something like: “When you need me but don’t want me, I’ll be there but when you want me but don’t need me, it’s time for me to leave.” Don’t quote me on the accuracy of my script recollection there but you get the gist. What happens though when you want and need Nanny but she’s off pursuing a career in skydiving or as a superhero hanging out in the shadows of Guatemala because you were so independent?

Anyway, the moral of this story is… you don’t know what you’ve got ’til it’s gone.

Appreciate the people in your life who care enough to appreciate you. Time is finite and love is fragile.

Principles 1 & 7

More later… x

What Would Love Do?

Joy is contagious. In order for that to be so, there must be somewhere for it to spread to. Sharing is an integral part of building relationships, families, communities, etc, the sharing of oneself and ones gifts and talents especially and sharing joy, more so.

Not everyone wants to share though. In some cases it would seem that some people are incapable of allowing others to participate in the spoils of happiness… you may have one of these people in your life, indeed you may even be one. Be gentle with this bruised soul for in excluding others from their joy they exclude themselves from the cumulative effect of group bliss… singularly, joy will dissipate quickly, but many contributors build the contagion’s potency until it becomes almost unstoppable.

The solitary victor shares joy only as a means to gloat: to express superiority, and sniffs at the joy and success of others. The solitary victor is competitive, derogatory, critical and judgmental, looking down upon the creations of those who may once have seen him or her as a role model… A Grail Knight? Of course… but a lost one. We are all Knights on a Grail pilgrimage just trying to get to a place of inner safety, peace and true joy… true joy not needing justification, quantification or validation.. it just is. The solitary victor perusing this overflowing cup from a fearful stance is not your enemy but instead is a wounded soul in need of love, so…

What would love do?

Principle 3: I AM Human simply requires forgiveness and Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted asks that love be given unconditionally, regardless of how hard someone makes it to love them.

More later… x

Together We Are Blinding!

A few months ago I noticed that my personal Grail cup had sprung a leak and so I set about repairing the damage…

As a perfectionist in many areas of my life I had embraced the idea that imperfections were a great way of assessing sincerity and acceptance in others. I did this subconsciously of course, I mean why would my conscious, fully awakened self need to test people? This phenomenon occurred unbeknownst to me in every aspect of my life from my physical vessel to my home, from my work to my relationships. The problem being that the flaws I created didn’t test how others saw or accepted me but instead how I saw and accepted myself… now there’s a paradox if ever I heard one simply because when you don’t accept yourself that’s when others fail to accept you. Your flaws do not deter the fundamentally flawed, in fact they attract others to you, what repels them or creates insincerity within them is the massive leak of energy seeping from the metaphorical Grail that either washes them clean away or feeds their greed depending on the people involved.

The first kind being those who come in love, those wishing to embrace you and add to your light and the second having similar leaky vessels and so refuelling from your leak… sounds all very technical but here’s the thing: plugging up your vessel allows it to fill up and thus allows others to refuel from the overflow instead of the depleting spillage. There will still be those opportunists who drink it in, ┬áno matter: there is plenty more where that came from; there will still be those who get washed away, frightened by the light, no matter: God will find them a safe shore upon which to rest before finding there energetic match; but then there is a third type of perfectly imperfect partner in crime… I’ve have lots of those thankfully, they are the ones whose imperfections make them shine just as brightly as mine do me and together we are blinding!

If you want to plug your leak, if you want to allow others to see and accept you just as you are all you have to do is love yourself unconditionally, not in spite of your imperfections but because of them… you’ll probably find that many of them disappear anyway once you no longer feel the need to test people.

Principle 1: I AM God (therefore perfect)

Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted (therefore the imperfections are perfect too)!

More later… x