Very soon after writing my last post “Most Unconventional Romantic Entanglement” I was asked the question: “Are you a whole flame?” Upon considering the question I was instantly propelled towards the most poignant hidden Grail Mechanic… you cannot keep the Grail.
Here’s the best answer I can muster at this time…
Some days I burn bright and some days my fire is low, some days I have the spark but not fuel and other days I have the fuel but no spark… I am a constant work in progress motivated by my desire to heal and be healed, to learn and to teach… and for us all, love is the medium through which we grow, lifetime after lifetime, in embracing it and rejecting it, reaching out for it and hiding from it… it is the eternal dance that drives every aspect of our lives… the power we crave merely a substitute for the divine power of love and the pain we cause, a childlike retaliation when feel the absence of it… an absence caused purely by our own disconnection from the Source of all things. We search for partners, teachers and lovers to help us discover the healing still required, to be the fuel when the flame burns low and to be the spark when the light goes out.
Yes, I AM a whole flame… but some days I forget this amazing revelation for one reason and one reason only…
Principle 3: I AM Human
More later… x
I have been inundated with requests this week, formally, informally, professionally, personally and socially for advice/counselling on relationship issues and The Wholly Grail’s take on the great game we call romance. You’re going to have to forgive me at this point because I’m laughing my head off at the basic irony involved in asking me: a divorcee, currently in the most unconventional romantic entanglement I’ve ever come across with dynamics that nobody would believe if they hadn’t walked this path with me for the last few years… but here’s the thing: the heart wants what the heart wants so let’s start with that premise and build from there…
Coaching using the Grail is an art form when it comes to matters of the heart because every single Principle is involved in some capacity or other, as are the underlying mechanics of The Grail… simply because no two relationships are alike and each has more than one person involved and more than one perspective.
A relationship maybe just starting out, in it’s early stages of ‘getting to know you,’ or it may have been a lifelong partnership. It may be undergoing massive change due to external pressures or the growth of one partner over another or it may be breaking down… there’s also the ‘looking for love’ aspect of romance and all the highs and insecurities that follow along that path, and a myriad of different setups in between. For these reasons I’m not going to go full-on into giving romantic advice here but I will say this much, which is true for all relationships: The Wholly Grail is not a person or what you believe another can do for you, it is a state of consciousness that transcends the need for anything to be other than it is – the attainment of inner peace through acceptance, appreciation and even service.
We were, as a species, created as both yin and yang (feminine and masculine, regardless of physical gender), two halves of a whole… it is therefore in our nature to seek balance by seeking out a twin flame. This however doesn’t diminish the fact that within you is contained the same masculine and feminine nature to varying degrees, and that by balancing, unifying and harmonizing those internal partners you become a whole flame attracting rather than seeking another whole flame, thus creating an eternal fire.
You are The Wholly Grail… once you stop fighting it… and other Wholly Grail’s can’t help but find you and meet you on that level.
Wishing you love.
More later… x