Tag Archives: Separation

How To Avoid Conflict Through Honouring Each Other

The ego is an amazing mechanism that individuates the cosmic soup into a personality recognisable as you. You could say that its the ego that makes you unique and drives you to express that combination of skills and talents and particular gifts that allow you to be an asset in the world to carry out Divine service. The ego gets a bad rep though because of its conflicting agenda when it comes to those gifts.

As a species we are herd animals, we need each other. The ego fights between “fit in,” ” no, stand out.” “Lead,” “no, follow!” “We’re a team,” “no, I’m an individual!” It’s all a bit exhausting and emanates from a fear of not being able to reconcile the physical separation of a human existence with the connectivity of all things that our higher aspects are constantly trying to remind our ego’s.

Conflict between ego’s is an extension of that same irreconcilable internal conversation. Two people who have forgotten the number one Principle of The Wholly Grail: I AM God. This affirmation of Divinity and therefore connectivity simply means I am you and you are me and we fight because we’ve forgotten.

The world needs everything that you have to offer, and so it is with me, and the differences that become apparent when we focus all our attention upon them with a critical, judgmental and unforgiving eye become ugliness as we compile evidence of separation, but when we turn our full attention to what unites us, what similarities and complementary attributes we share, something beautiful emerges… it’s called love.

The universal energy that connects all things exists, whether we choose to acknowledge it’s presence or turn away from it, whether we choose to bury it under hatred and revenge in the name of self-preservation or simply accept that all is fair in love, and that war is actually a masquerade of the most insidious thief that exists: fear.

Conflict can only end by surrendering fear into the arms of love. Love which allows your uniqueness to stand out in service of the team whilst honouring, not coveting, the uniqueness of every member of that team as you honour yourself.

I am you, you are me… when we fight we descend towards mutually assured destruction. I’m not prepared to wound what I honour.

Archangel Zadkiel, The Angel of The Violet Flame, is there to be called upon to transmute fear, conflict and all negative vibrations, settling karmic stories and encouraging all involved to choose a higher path of mercy and love. Let him be our best friend as we all refocus on peace.

More later… x

 

The Walls That Define Us

Where are your boundaries?

Do you have a good handle on what is and is not acceptable to you? Do you understand your own limitations beyond which you are not prepared to go?

We tend to imagine boundaries as invisible energetic barriers that determine self preservation and protection from others but what if your boundaries also represented your limitations?

What If boundaries were simply an excuse to never take a risk? The walls that define us may be presenting a version of ourselves that is constrained by fear based imaginings keeping our worlds very small and preventing connection on a deep and beautiful level.

Separation is an illusion created by humans to identify less with the Divine and more with the misconception of ownership. We live in little boxes literally and symbolically to further demonstrate that what’s yours is yours and what’s mine is mine… The boundaries aren’t a bad thing, they aren’t a good thing either, they are a mechanism by which we keep the world outside… but they also keep us locked in.

The sad thing is that from within those imaginary walls we peer outside and see heartbreak and tragedy and we sigh, then go on with our own little lives relieved that “out there” is somebody else’s problem… that’s not happening in my little piece of the world.

So we stay on our own side. We don’t connect. We don’t take the time to talk. We don’t feel the need to get involved. We reinforce those boundaries and challenge any that come too close.

When did we forget who we truly are?

As an antidote to the disconnected world today, reach out to a stranger, offer a smile, offer your help, share something (and I don’t mean on Facebook).

The power lives within each of us to bring down the walls that define us.

Principle 1: I AM God.

More later… x

First Monday Challenge – Dealing With Separation Anxiety

It’s the first Monday of the month and of course that means I’m highlighting a Grail Challenge. This month, being the month of love and connection what with St Valentine’s Day creeping up quickly and all, I’m drawn to delve a little deeper into the notion of dealing with separation anxiety…

I’ve found myself immersed of late in various projects and attention grabbers, keeping me in the flow of my moment to moment joyfulness but then yesterday I stopped. It was for no reason other than I’d promised myself a complete day off to rest and recover and to do a drama detox from everyone else’s stuff… it was bliss, at least for the first few hours. I did the full self-pamper, mani/pedi, facial, body scrub, I ate lovely food, increased the water intake… basically did all the stuff that I should do to let my body know how much it’s cherished on a daily basis but I forget all too regularly!

What was I forgetting though?

You are the Wholly Trinity: Mind, Body and Spirit. I took care of my mind by giving it a drama detox, I took care of my body as above, my spirit though needed my attention and seeing as though your spirit is the essence of your soul, all the rest is just trimming.

Feeling anxious, finding my mind wandering into ancient personal historical drama and then into future potential dramas I have yet to create… finding my body becoming tense and demanding addictive behaviours to quiet the obvious void, it took me a little while to get the message… I was symptomatic of loneliness! You can be equally as lonely in a room full of friends as you can standing by yourself if you forget to come home to your Self. My soul was calling me to let her in and I had temporarily forgotten how to listen (and I do this for a living)!

So today’s challenge: spend 3 minutes every hour checking in with your higher self through meditation… your higher self is plugged into the collective, it is God and by embodying your whole self, you will never ever have to feel alone.

Principle 1: I AM God

Principle 2: I AM Detached

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full

More later… x

Apples and Pears

I see it more and more these days and it leads me to ask the question: is a character assassination of your opponent really the best way of getting your argument heard?

It pains me that as human beings we continuously feel the need to climb on the backs of others to get further up the life ladder when simply asking might offer us the leg up we need.

Why is it necessary then to make someone else appear to be in some way wrong and that you are in fact the one that is right. You may be the one that’s right for a small proportion of the audience but you will never be a good fit with some of the others… it’s all about fruit.

Yes fruit!

Apples and pears to be exact… now I’m not talking about the Cockney rhyming slang for stairs (though stairs are a good metaphor for ascension), what I’m referring to is the sublime and beautiful differences between the two. Now as you know if you’re keeping up I favour the pear… a symbol of my goal and perhaps destiny. That doesn’t mean I don’t like apples mind, it just means that given the choice I’m going to choose the pear. Now if you are a pear there is no point in trying to be an apple and you will serve no one and nothing by trying to convince the world that apples are bad (they tried that in the bible and Eve still got stuck in)… By the same token if you’re an apple what would you have to gain by imitating a pear? Or for that matter shouting from the rooftops “Eat me! The pear is bad!”

You see… fruit!

Preference and the people’s right to choose cannot be swayed by character assassination, on a subconscious level we enlightened folk see right through it… if you say to me (being the contrary bleeder that I am) “don’t believe that other guy…” I’m going to go straight and find out what that other guy was saying so that I can decide which argument feels, at its essence, to resonate more with me. Your big mistake in that instance was simply to draw my attention to the other guy because until you shouted “Hey! Eat me, the pear is bad…” I hadn’t looked up from the orchard to exclaim : “Wait a minute… What pear? Where?”

So now, you think a certain way, look a certain way, have invested in a certain set of core beliefs… they are not going to be the same as anybody else’s exact configuration and that is exactly what makes you unique. As a pear you stand out in a line of apples, no apology necessary… but if you stand there telling everyone that the apples are sinful then who exactly is portraying the role of the proverbial “bad apple”? If you stand there pretending to be an apple then you’ll stand out for all the wrong reasons… like being a fake!

Keep being you, stay authentic, understand that in the line up of apples, eventually the right people will notice and soon enough you will be surrounded by slowly ripening pears and the apples will become irrelevant to your journey without you needing to threaten them with the cider press.

Finding your tribe is about patience kindness and a willingness to stand out before you fit in.

Principle 4: I AM Truth… and I respect that yours my differ from mine.

More later… x

The Empty Space

Grail Oracle 6Grail Oracle Green

The Intuitive Chalice Oracle was designed to help the querent to understand the flow of energy instructing their own personal Grail and thus informing their life from day to day, cycle to cycle. I have found it to be a very effective tool in deciding where to focus healing energy and change within my own life and, since sharing weekly readings with you, I’ve noticed how it mirrors the universal currents affecting many of us who are sensitive to the changes occuring at a much deeper level.

Today’s combination of Principle 6: I AM Self-Full and the emerald green of the heart chakra, is creating The Empty Space. As with all Grail readings this empty space can have both positive and negative connotations to the way we feel about our lives.

Imagine if you will the wide open spaces of nature and how we can feel either relieved by the removal of boundaries and the space to breathe or we can feel very alone.

If you read my Free Grail Insight yesterday (Catch a Glimmer), you will understand that I was expressing gratitude for my mum, especially as its Mother’s day in the UK tomorrow. Im very aware though at this time that many of you, a very dear friend of mine included, dont have the luxury of having mum here. My gorgeous friend Val lost her mum just a few short weeks ago and is going through this Mother’s Day for the first time, feeling a distinct loss of connection…

But The Empty Space is not just about mum’s, its about separation and the loneliness that we sometimes feel overcome with when the very person that we feel the need to be near is no longer available to us either through death, emotional or geographical separation. I feel the angst of those who are longing for that connection and my heart goes out to each and every one of you who is experiencing loss or loneliness, not just now, but always.

The healing message within this card though comes from the Self-Full aspect, directing you to find peace within this situation as you remember that life doesn’t leave gaps for no reason and that The Empty Space is waiting to be filled… Filled with joy, love, abundance and most of all filled with you… You see the only thing that you are actually separated from is yourself. As everything in the universe is intimately connected, separation in the energetic sense is actually impossible and the feelings, sensations, emotions and experiences that you felt when with the person who is now missing from your life for whatever reason, are still inherent within you.

Place your attention fully on what, not who is missing and then go and find that thing for yourself… don’t be tempted to search for it from another person, Self-Full means “I AM Whole, I AM Healed and I AM Grateful” and when you fill that sacred chalice with the light of your own soul you become irresistable to the next phase and influx of love energy… That’s why this is called The ‘WHOLLY’ Grail. Separation is a choice.

More next week… x