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Saturday Oracle – Inside And Outside

This week’s oracle kicks my ass  on a previous post and I can’t help but be impressed by the irony of it. A little while ago I wrote a piece called Preparing On Purpose that was all about self confidence in any given situation coming from recognition of the divine within… and I stand by that. This oracle though, is pointing toward the necessity of lavishing attention on your physical self to help support your ego-based self-conscious issues.

This is far from a negative week though, in its entirety it is encouraging you to get full-on body positive in order to fully embrace your bliss.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full connects with the energetic seat of personal power which is the exuberant yellow solar plexus to focus you in on pleasure over the coming days. This combination has a hedonistic feel to it but along with that comes the tendency to over-indulge.

To use this energy properly, which is the desire to direct love upon oneself, you must first ask what constitutes long term benefit as opposed to short term gratification.

We are swinging into the summer season now so minds are turning towards holidays and getting “beach ready.” We are focusing on romance and generally how best to regain our playfulness that hides throughout the winter months under layers of woolly jumpers and weather worn faces… but with this shift in agenda comes a shift in confidence, and all too often we begin to berate ourselves for not being perfect (whatever distorted image of perfection we may actually be clinging to).

The Solar Plexus governs our ego, our digestion and therefore eating habits, our ability to assimilate information, our ability to accommodate abundance, our natural childlike state of joyous abandon… bliss. If a healthy sense of self confidence lives here then you’re in for a week of excitement getting ready for the fun that is set to follow, if however you struggle with loving yourself then unnecessary worries are going to befall you.

Self-Full Living is the art of taking care of one’s own needs inside and outside, now is the time to do that. Give yourself the best fighting chance of shedding the inhibitions by spending this week deliberately tending to your own body’s and your ego’s needs: Pamper, exercise, eat well, practice self-appreciation affirmations, update your wardrobe based on what looks great and feels comfortable rather than what the label says (or the number on it)…if you look and feel great you will take some of the concern away from impromptu invitations to embrace life to the full.

You deserve to jump into the next phase with your full being in a state of bliss. Get ready now!

Wishing you a week of increased self-esteem and playful preparation… x

Saturday Oracle – The Language Of Self-Love

You’ve be been on an inward journey lately, not that those around you will have noticed. This particular spiritual pilgrimage into your most heartfelt hopes and dreams has caused you to reassess, re-evaluate, redefine and refine what you want from the next phase of your life. That sharpening of focus has helped you to understand where you have compromised your own needs, perhaps through the fear of what others may think, or through fear of what might have to be transformed for you to embrace true success.

Success doesn’t look like what you imagine others think it should look like… but you’re assuming you know what others think.

This week’s combination has Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, partnering with the linguistic acuity of the royal blue throat chakra, centering our oracle message on the need to communicate clearly ones own needs.

During the recent period of reflection you may have stumbled upon clarity about the goal but you will also have a greater understanding about the fact that we rarely achieve our dreams alone, and that often a vision of success includes others. The trick is to get everyone on the same page, pulling in the same direction and whatever other cheesy sayings mean working together to achieve the same outcome.

Now the fact that being Self-Full requires you to consider your own needs, has may of us scrambling for cooperation because we somehow mistake Self-Fullness for selfishness, this is wrapped up in a low self-esteem and depleted sense of self-worth. We all deserve to have our needs met. Unfortunately we feel it necessary to skirt around the issues and use subtle manipulation instead of just simply asking, as a result of this egoic deficiency.

Selfishness is expecting your needs to be met at the expense of someone else’s… but what if your needs are mutual? How will you know if your needs are mutual unless you risk being vulnerable and actually state what you really want require or desire?

This week is the time to stop beating around the bush and tell those that matter, that are crucial to your success, whatever that looks like, how important they are in the plan and what you need from them. Then ask them if they are willing to be the yin to your yang or the yang to your yin… you will never know if you don’t ask.

The language of self-love usually starts with “This is how I feel, and this is what I want.” It’s gentle, clear, honest and simple. To get your needs met, everyone relevant needs to know what your needs are.

Happy Self-Full Summit Week… x

 

 

Handling Lady Luna’s Grip On Your Gravity

Remembering back to the oracle over the weekend, (you may not have caught it due to a technical hitch with the website but it’s available to read here). It was about getting lost in uncertainty within a sea of your own questions and the resulting  emotional state is often one of confusion, frustration and ultimately leading to physical exhaustion.

Today’s Full Moon in Scorpio is a pretty significant event in terms of emotional stability, the moon herself affecting water and Scorpio being a watery sign… water being symbolic of and affecting the emotions. If you don’t believe in the potency of astrology then look at the physics: the moon’s pull on Earth’s gravity is what causes tides in the sea so if it has that much influence over a powerful body of water such as an ocean imagine what it can do to a walking meat sack of water like a human being.

All that said, let’s take for granted then that during a full moon your personal tides are high.

Emotion is not your enemy. When you understand that you are not actually the emotion but instead the individual experiencing them, you can take up the position of the observer and use it as one of the greatest gifts Source bestowed upon you knowing that its guidance as to your direction, your position, your timing and your environment. How cool is that? Cosmic GPS!

So knowing full well there are 3 days across a full moon where it’s effects are at there most powerful: the day before, day of and day after; I wasn’t too alarmed when my energy dropped yesterday, as did my enthusiasm and my excitement for the things that have been fascinating me of late. I simply turned my attention to Principle 6: I AM Self-Full (understand it more here), and got on with a few mundane chores that didn’t require much creative energy….

And then the questions began.

Before I knew what was happening I was embroiled in a deluge of mind chatter, not about how I felt, I understood that, but confusing emotional heaviness caused by gravity with my GPS alerting me to the chance I might be going the wrong way, making the wrong choices, taking risks that were ludicrous, believing the wrong people… it goes on. These are the questions the oracle warned of.

The only way to stop the tumble and start handling Lady Luna’s grip on your gravity is to get fully present by embracing Principle 2: I AM Detached, the art of letting go of all outcomes and just being.

You may not be able to control the movement of the heavens but by being aware of how you’re affecting by it you can get back to your empowered centre knowing “this too shall pass.”

More later… x

After The Storm

I love the smell of the air immediately after the storm. Everything is more alive, more vibrant, washed clean by the rain and in full colour. It’s a time when, as a child I would take off my shoes and walk along the York stone paving with bare feet just so I could feel the wet, cool, solid foundation reminding me that this moment counts.

This moment counts.

What you do with it is your choice. It could be life changing, life affirming or it could pass by as a simple moment of acknowledgment of all that there is… you don’t have to do anything of course, you can go on with your daily rounds without looking up, without truly, fully breathing in, and without a clue that the moment is passing you by.

Having selected Principle 6: I AM Self-Full as the lead card in Saturday’s Intuitive Chalice Oracle, I’m mindful of the focus energy this week on doing what’s right for you and doing it slowly and with purpose. It’s being compounded by the gentle new moon in Taurus arriving in the early hours of Wednesday morning (about 01:16am UK time). The emphasis for me is about focus: all or nothing, this and only this… It may seem like limiting choices and expression of variety but for now at least, that way lies scattered thinking and dispersed intentions. I am my primary focus. My needs are paramount.

The storm has passed and it’s time to ponder the emergence of fresh perspective and tend to the fundamentals like health, home and happiness.

Whatever storms you have been facing have blown away the cobwebs and the chaos has transformed into a fertile landscape for planting new seeds. Some of those seeds you rescued from what went before, some you have dreamed anew but the only thing that matters now are the dreams you’ve dreamed for you.

Take off your shoes, put your feet on the ground, breathe, smile… and draw the moment inward until it fills you.

Happy Monday… x

 

Experiencing An Internal Revolution

Everybody deals with emotional trauma in a different way. My immune system shuts down and become susceptible to illness… but it’s not my permanent or preferred place of residence.

I wanted to take this opportunity to guide you through healing from experiencing an internal revolution, that on the surface at least, can manifest as physical health issues.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full is the way back to vitality whenever your health is compromised physically, emotionally or even spiritually and begins with a very basic premise: “me first.”

Untie all the commitments, promises, deadlines, self-imposed pressures and superfluous tasks and get busy with what’s really important… healing. Feeling better. Nurturing your mind, body and spirit on every level.

Start with rest, complete rest. It doesn’t mean you have to take to your bed, rest can be simply snuggling by the fire with a good book, relaxing in a bubble bath or such like. Next comes nourishment. Healing from the inside out means feeding your body healing foods, foods filled with life force that are fresh and pure. Don’t forget the life giving elixir that is clean water either, your vital organs need to detox from the flood of poisons that brought you to this state.

Now you must purify what is feeding your mind. The external world can be detrimental to the sensitive empath when your system is overloaded so now is the perfect opportunity to detox your information intake: If at all possible you should unplug from the digital hive mind altogether and instead read an uplifting book or two. Doing a digital detox can also be effective if you de-clutter your feeds and bookmarks, for example you might unsubscribe from anything and anyone that causes you more stress, unfollow and unfriend any negative influences and choose new ones whose inspiration supports your healing path.

Then you need to be honest with those around you. Principle 4: I AM Truth is a powerful reclamation of Self. Just by stating “this is where I am and this is what I need” can go a long way towards releasing what’s draining you… you don’t always have to be the one with the answers, you don’t have to be the glue that holds society together… doesn’t it already feel so much better knowing that the only thing that you have to fix right now is you?

And now stretch… Yoga, Pilates, something gentle. A walk (when you’re ready) and then breathe… reconnect with nature, even if it’s just pottering in the garden. And create, be it art, music, poetry, baking a masterpiece… maybe even a vision board of your most beautiful dream, we all need to express our creative inner muse, so do that too.

Whatever you need to do to come back to you, that’s your only job to survive the alchemical side effects of the revolution as you recuperate and prepare for the next leg of the quest. That’s where I’m at.

More later… x

N.B. Always consult your GP/Physician with regards to any health concerns you may have.

Saturday Oracle – Your Own Best Friend

For the second week running the issue of Self-Full Living has risen to the surface to remind you that you matter…

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full combines its powerful influence with the sacral chakra to highlight your relationships and more importantly this week, where you fit into them.

Redefining boundaries will feature heavily in the next few days as you find more and more that your needs are not being met and in some cases you are being taken advantage of.

You may notice that those close to you are making the rules up as they go along and are somewhat oblivious to the effects of their actions… it’s not personal, they are simply behaving in a way that feels natural to them and as you may have been passively standing by as standards deteriorate, now is not the time to apportion blame for the fact that you feel violated or otherwise affronted.

The issue here lies in the assumption that loved ones actually know what you want… have you been clear?

Knowing where you end and others begin is a tricky business especially when you’re invested in the friendship/partnership/relationship, as rocking the boat by being vocal about what’s gone wrong can often feel confrontational if handled badly, perceivably risking the connection, but here’s the thing: strong fences, good neighbours make. In layman’s terms that’s pointing out that without boundaries conflicts ensue.

All that being said, this week it’s time to be your own best friend and take back control of your life by first accepting responsibility for allowing your energetic walls to be breached and then clarifying your position.

Everyone benefits from knowing where they stand.

Ask Archangel Michael to guide you to find the right words to use and to cut cords and attachments to fear based thoughts that have thus far caused you to remain passive or silent and ask for everyone’s highest good to be served by your assertive actions.

More next week… x

Flowing Towards What’s Growing

Each morning and evening, when I wake and before I go to sleep, I journal. Nothing extensive, just a few lines of thoughts, feelings, experiences and a prayer. This sacred act helps bring clarity and focus, relieves repetitive thought and ensures any suppressed issues are brought into the light… in short its a healing process that forms part of my Self-Full routine and one I’d highly recommend to anyone.

As I picked up my journal today I caught sight of a short entry from last week that made me smile… it simply read: “Dear God, please protect my happy bubble!”

What a wonderful image to portray in words.

The reference sought to acknowledge the fragility of joy within a mind that is habituated to stress through years of looking too far forward and too far back. I tell myself that comes with the territory of an intuitive, prophecy is rarely based in the now and that of course is where my happy bubble exists.

God’s answer came in very quickly the day I wrote it with the overwhelming internal message “How can I protect you from yourself… when you won’t let Me?” That’s what made me smile. When the insight becomes tangible for you that you are all powerful when it comes to the choice of presence. When you understand that the sharp edges that threaten your happy bubble are the metaphorical knives and arrows of your own thoughts and that you have the free will to transform “if, but and maybe” into moment to moment “flowing towards what’s growing,” then happy becomes less of a gamble and transforms into a natural friend that stands with you regardless of the external twists and turns that penetrate the outer veil when the universe wants to ramp up the story a notch.

Principle 2: I AM Detached is my happy bubble. If I want God to protect it, then I have to put down the knives!

More later… x

P.S. if you want to find your happy bubble through deep spiritual practice then you could do worse than to check out my brand new ascension training: The Path of Petals commencing early March.

Saturday Oracle – Your Dreams Were Not Your Own

This week’s combination was really difficult to select. My usual method is to disperse the two sets (Principle Cards and challenge or chakra cards as you would recognise them) face down across the table and then slowly run my hand over the top to feel the vibration of each, first to pick which Principle is dominant and then what energy centre it’s pertaining to… this week though, the variation of the cards was so subtle I had to check again. I’m assuming that this subtlety is part of the message.

So then, Principle 6: I AM Self-Full is whispering gently towards the emerald green heart chakra and asking for you to fall back in love… with you!

There has been something missing for quite some time now and you have probably been unsure of exactly what it is, searching for answers and fulfilment in arenas that couldn’t possibly ever give you the thing you were looking for because what you were looking for was in the mirror hidden behind the loud voices of opinion.

I say this because you’ve been surrounded by many who, out of misplaced love for you have supported your trip into denial simply because it was what you wanted to hear. It takes a strong person to offer tough love when it sounds like they are pissing on your dreams… but your dreams were not your own, they were never the dreams that your heart dreamt, they were a construct of your ego’s attempt to fulfil the details that should always have been left up to The Divine.

Now is the time to come back to your hearts desire. It’s not loud, it’s not brash, it will be a whisper and you will have to look past the obvious to see the underlying truth.

The heart chakra encompasses unconditional love, but it also signifies balance, freedom, space and healing, and you are going to have to embrace all of those concepts this week to clear out the clutter of everyone else’s needs and opinions so that you can discern that subtle message and come back to you.

Many will make assumptions, most will be wrong, only you need to know what’s true for you so that you can open up your heart to an influx of abundance and a more stable stream of joy.

Solitude may not be possible for you but peace and quiet and being alone with your higher self is advisable for the next few days. Cleanse your space, cleanse your crystals etc, removing any energies from your environment that are not your own and may sway you from your own heart is essential.

Most important of all: trust yourself.

More next week… x

Saturday Oracle – The Most Amazing Gift

The oracle selection this week surprised me because I didn’t see it coming or its relevance in my current experience but I was willing to explore its message to see where it was leading…

The combination of Principle 6: I AM Self-Full with the blood red of the base or root chakra is a deliberate health warning.

Being as I personally have just, a couple of weeks ago, come out of the other side of some sticky virus or other and many of my friends, family, colleagues and clients have survived the same, when this combo arrived I was at first concerned that we were all in for a bout of something else until I heard the words “prevention is better than cure” infiltrate the back of my mind…

We have entered into the final week before Christmas and of course that means we are in full on mental mode: “must do this, must get that, must go there, forgot that, what about so and so?” In amongst all that mind clutter you seem to be forgetting something vital…. YOU!

When the base chakra shows up for healing its time to get grounded, eat well,  regulate your sleep patterns, hydrate and exercise… yes I said exercise (I don’t mean how much Christmas shopping you can carry in one trip). Fresh air, long walk, gentle yoga, etc should do the trick. Treat yourself to a fabulous bubble bath and some pamper time followed by a meditation about all the things your already grateful for and watch Christmas transform into something extra special.

With all the parties going on this time of year, try not to put your body under too much strain by drowning it with toxins and late nights… you don’t need to wait until New Year to make healthy choices, today is a good day to cherish the most amazing gift you could ever be given: good health.

Have a good week and take care of you…

More on Christmas Eve… x

Might Be Out Of Balance

I’ve had a weird few weeks. Struck down by a pretty persistent chest infection about 3 weeks ago, I set about putting myself first in an effort to take my own Grail advice and embrace Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, the art of self-care. Being a healer, quite often we forget to do the work on ourselves and where our instincts when someone else is ill are sharp, under the spell of our personal infirmity we are quick to lose sight of the healing power for which we are natural channels.

All that being said, I invested in some cough medicine for a chesty cough… (have you ever noticed how many types of cough they sell medicine for? I don’t bloody know if it’s a dry cough, a chesty cough, a mucus cough or a bloody skydiving hedgehogs cough… I just need cough medicine)!!! Anyway,  The last thing I need is to be half asleep as well as barking like a dog so a non-drowsy formula was the order of the day… I haven’t slept a night since.

Arriving just prior to the newly nicknamed “frazzle moon” that I mentioned last week, disturbed sleep patterns were shunted into overdrive when a stream of near insanity driven dreams began to crop up, fielding a very abstract view of the current state of my life. Anyone else think I might be out of balance?

Out of balance is a concept that is often bandied around the MBS network, but what does it actually mean?

In Grail terms its a simple description of the 2-way flow of energy embraced by Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, meaning to give and receive in equal measure. We assume this to be about giving and receiving between people but not so… take everyone else out of the equation for a moment and come back to Principle 6, being Self-Full, how much have you given back to yourself this year? Think in terms of appreciation, gratitude, admiration, time off from external stresses. Think about the flow of energy between you and your Source, service balanced with meditation and rest for example.

Being Open-Hearted is a symbol of flow. Like the physical heart whose valves take in life blood and pump out life blood in equal measure, so too are you supposed to allow energy and life itself to follow this same path… like inhaling and exhaling.

For a short while I’m in the process of inhaling, the art of self care is the ability to receive what you need from the universe before you begin to exhale and give back. The season of good will doesn’t exclude you, make sure you’re being good to yourself.

To all my friends who are feeling under the weather at present, my present to you is simply to tell you that you don’t need permission to take a breath.

More later… x