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Cinderella’s Dilemma

The masquerade ball was an enchanting experience, one that Cinderella never in her widest dreams imagined she would have attended, until that night when her fairy godmother arrived with a bag of tricks to transform Cinders into the most beautiful princess the kingdom had ever seen…

Oh, how she danced in the arms of a spellbound prince, ever mindful of the hands of the ticking clock… and then it struck. Midnight? So soon? As she raced down the palace steps, fearful that her rags would return before she arrived home, terrified that she would be seen for the what she really was, in her haste she shed a single shoe…

Now if this was set a long time ago in a land far, far away, it may have been a glass slipper but this was set in the last 5 years and so the shoe was far more likely to be a Converse… but that’s neither here nor there as far as the pantomime goes.

The distraught Prince, in his grief at her disappearance, set out a mandate: “I will search the kingdom and whomever this weird footwear (complete with orthotic insole) fits, I shall marry.” And so his search began.

Now see, I’ve got a beef with Prince Charming: All that happened was him waltzing with some enigma in a mask on a dancefloor for a little while and now he’s declaring her an eternal soul mate! The search has, up until now continued, but it would be so much easier if the fairy godmother had advised her to go as herself, rags and all, simply because when the shoe fits, Prince-Pretending-to-be-Charming is going to shit his pants!

She was wearing a mask… so ok the fairy godmother couldn’t fake her dance moves… they were real enough, but the beautiful ball gown, (complete with corset creating that fake waistline and cleavage), once it transformed back into yoga pants and comfort bra boar no resemblance to the vision of beauty that had graced the ball.

The Prince of course is no real catch either… by all accounts he’s a workaholic and always away on state business, so in the likely event the (now in daylight, fake) Converse should find its way back to the dancing mystery lady, chances are she’d be obligated to marry an absent title who only actually danced with her at Christmas when the state ball required him to attend.

The moral of this panto is plain… Be who you are, communicate the real you from a place of authenticity and humility and then falling in love will be a miracle born of truth and nobody will ever need to live up to persona they inadvertently created in order to fit in and be socially acceptable.

At the posting of this story Cinderella was finally getting round to putting up the Christmas tree (in her yoga pants) and Prince Charming is missing in action, who knows whether or not he has given up the search or if he even still has the sweaty gym shoe?

Cinderella’s Dilemma is a Christmas romance brought to you by The Wholly Grail’s Principle 4: I AM Truth.

More later… x

Most Unconventional Romantic Entanglement

I have been inundated with requests this week, formally, informally, professionally, personally and socially for advice/counselling on relationship issues and The Wholly Grail’s take on the great game we call romance. You’re going to have to forgive me at this point because I’m laughing my head off at the basic irony involved in asking me: a divorcee, currently in the most unconventional romantic entanglement I’ve ever come across with dynamics that nobody would believe if they hadn’t walked this path with me for the last few years… but here’s the thing: the heart wants what the heart wants so let’s start with that premise and build from there…

Coaching using the Grail is an art form when it comes to matters of the heart because every single Principle is involved in some capacity or other, as are the underlying mechanics of The Grail… simply because no two relationships are alike and each has more than one person involved and more than one perspective.

A relationship maybe just starting out, in it’s early stages of ‘getting to know you,’ or it may have been a lifelong partnership. It may be undergoing massive change due to external pressures or the growth of one partner over another or it may be breaking down… there’s also the ‘looking for love’ aspect of romance and all the highs and insecurities that follow along that path, and a myriad of different setups in between. For these reasons I’m not going to go full-on into giving romantic advice here but I will say this much, which is true for all relationships: The Wholly Grail is not a person or what you believe another can do for you, it is a state of consciousness that transcends the need for anything to be other than it is – the attainment of inner peace through acceptance, appreciation and even service.

We were, as a species, created as both yin and yang (feminine and masculine, regardless of physical gender), two halves of a whole… it is therefore in our nature to seek balance by seeking out a twin flame. This however doesn’t diminish the fact that within you is contained the same masculine and feminine nature to varying degrees, and that by balancing, unifying and harmonizing those internal partners you become a whole flame attracting rather than seeking another whole flame, thus creating an eternal fire.

You are The Wholly Grail… once you stop fighting it… and other Wholly Grail’s can’t help but find you and meet you on that level.

Wishing you love.

More later… x