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First Monday Challenge – Dealing With Separation Anxiety

It’s the first Monday of the month and of course that means I’m highlighting a Grail Challenge. This month, being the month of love and connection what with St Valentine’s Day creeping up quickly and all, I’m drawn to delve a little deeper into the notion of dealing with separation anxiety…

I’ve found myself immersed of late in various projects and attention grabbers, keeping me in the flow of my moment to moment joyfulness but then yesterday I stopped. It was for no reason other than I’d promised myself a complete day off to rest and recover and to do a drama detox from everyone else’s stuff… it was bliss, at least for the first few hours. I did the full self-pamper, mani/pedi, facial, body scrub, I ate lovely food, increased the water intake… basically did all the stuff that I should do to let my body know how much it’s cherished on a daily basis but I forget all too regularly!

What was I forgetting though?

You are the Wholly Trinity: Mind, Body and Spirit. I took care of my mind by giving it a drama detox, I took care of my body as above, my spirit though needed my attention and seeing as though your spirit is the essence of your soul, all the rest is just trimming.

Feeling anxious, finding my mind wandering into ancient personal historical drama and then into future potential dramas I have yet to create… finding my body becoming tense and demanding addictive behaviours to quiet the obvious void, it took me a little while to get the message… I was symptomatic of loneliness! You can be equally as lonely in a room full of friends as you can standing by yourself if you forget to come home to your Self. My soul was calling me to let her in and I had temporarily forgotten how to listen (and I do this for a living)!

So today’s challenge: spend 3 minutes every hour checking in with your higher self through meditation… your higher self is plugged into the collective, it is God and by embodying your whole self, you will never ever have to feel alone.

Principle 1: I AM God

Principle 2: I AM Detached

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full

More later… x

The Dyson Effect

Toying with the idea of emptiness this morning at the prompting of an intuitive connection to an underlying impending shift in personal circumstances, I was exploring the concept of a true vacuum. You see, emptiness suggests the lack of something but the universal way of things is that as soon as space becomes available something rushes in to fill the gap. More to the point, this is only so within a vacuum where it literally sucks in everything around it because a vacuum is a place where nature is excluded, growth is excluded, life is excluded … and that cannot be allowed to remain.

What we term empty in an emotional context is actually far from it, like a room in a house that is vacant… there appears to be nothing there, but there is air, there is probably dust, and there is certainly energy of one form or another. The room though is waiting to be filled. Unlike the Dyson Effect whereby the vacuum generated within the space would suck in new life, this room requires intent in order to be refilled with the vibrancy of a new situation, like furniture and a purpose for instance.

Let me offer up an emotional comparison:

You feel empty… now explore that for a moment. You are never actually empty. Like the room is full of air and dust and energy, so are you, the question is what is the consistency of the air and dust and energy?

Does the emptiness actually equate to loneliness or does it equate to anticipation?

The Dyson Effect (not at all a technical or scientific term but an analogy based solely on my vacuum cleaner) sucks in everything in its path, no discernment required… it eats the dust, the dirt, the rug, the cat (actually I don’t have a cat but if I did it would now be happily residing inside the Dyson), because a true vacuum doesn’t distinguish what it wants… but you, in a state of emptiness are also ready to be filled. What you fill your empty room with (your heart, mind and soul in this case) is determined by that consistency of residual energy.

Loneliness, if that’s your current state of (un)emptiness is a negative focus on lack, honing in only on what appears to be missing from the room, whereas anticipation is a joyful acceptance that what has past has created an opening for a whole new slew of blessings and opportunities…

What is the consistency of the energy in your empty room?

Mine? I’ve removed all the dust with the Dyson… all that’s left is the anticipation of lovely stuff filling my open heart, because that’s all I’ve made space for.

More later… x

 

The Empty Space

Grail Oracle 6Grail Oracle Green

The Intuitive Chalice Oracle was designed to help the querent to understand the flow of energy instructing their own personal Grail and thus informing their life from day to day, cycle to cycle. I have found it to be a very effective tool in deciding where to focus healing energy and change within my own life and, since sharing weekly readings with you, I’ve noticed how it mirrors the universal currents affecting many of us who are sensitive to the changes occuring at a much deeper level.

Today’s combination of Principle 6: I AM Self-Full and the emerald green of the heart chakra, is creating The Empty Space. As with all Grail readings this empty space can have both positive and negative connotations to the way we feel about our lives.

Imagine if you will the wide open spaces of nature and how we can feel either relieved by the removal of boundaries and the space to breathe or we can feel very alone.

If you read my Free Grail Insight yesterday (Catch a Glimmer), you will understand that I was expressing gratitude for my mum, especially as its Mother’s day in the UK tomorrow. Im very aware though at this time that many of you, a very dear friend of mine included, dont have the luxury of having mum here. My gorgeous friend Val lost her mum just a few short weeks ago and is going through this Mother’s Day for the first time, feeling a distinct loss of connection…

But The Empty Space is not just about mum’s, its about separation and the loneliness that we sometimes feel overcome with when the very person that we feel the need to be near is no longer available to us either through death, emotional or geographical separation. I feel the angst of those who are longing for that connection and my heart goes out to each and every one of you who is experiencing loss or loneliness, not just now, but always.

The healing message within this card though comes from the Self-Full aspect, directing you to find peace within this situation as you remember that life doesn’t leave gaps for no reason and that The Empty Space is waiting to be filled… Filled with joy, love, abundance and most of all filled with you… You see the only thing that you are actually separated from is yourself. As everything in the universe is intimately connected, separation in the energetic sense is actually impossible and the feelings, sensations, emotions and experiences that you felt when with the person who is now missing from your life for whatever reason, are still inherent within you.

Place your attention fully on what, not who is missing and then go and find that thing for yourself… don’t be tempted to search for it from another person, Self-Full means “I AM Whole, I AM Healed and I AM Grateful” and when you fill that sacred chalice with the light of your own soul you become irresistable to the next phase and influx of love energy… That’s why this is called The ‘WHOLLY’ Grail. Separation is a choice.

More next week… x