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Saturday Oracle – The Language Of Self-Love

You’ve be been on an inward journey lately, not that those around you will have noticed. This particular spiritual pilgrimage into your most heartfelt hopes and dreams has caused you to reassess, re-evaluate, redefine and refine what you want from the next phase of your life. That sharpening of focus has helped you to understand where you have compromised your own needs, perhaps through the fear of what others may think, or through fear of what might have to be transformed for you to embrace true success.

Success doesn’t look like what you imagine others think it should look like… but you’re assuming you know what others think.

This week’s combination has Principle 6: I AM Self-Full, partnering with the linguistic acuity of the royal blue throat chakra, centering our oracle message on the need to communicate clearly ones own needs.

During the recent period of reflection you may have stumbled upon clarity about the goal but you will also have a greater understanding about the fact that we rarely achieve our dreams alone, and that often a vision of success includes others. The trick is to get everyone on the same page, pulling in the same direction and whatever other cheesy sayings mean working together to achieve the same outcome.

Now the fact that being Self-Full requires you to consider your own needs, has may of us scrambling for cooperation because we somehow mistake Self-Fullness for selfishness, this is wrapped up in a low self-esteem and depleted sense of self-worth. We all deserve to have our needs met. Unfortunately we feel it necessary to skirt around the issues and use subtle manipulation instead of just simply asking, as a result of this egoic deficiency.

Selfishness is expecting your needs to be met at the expense of someone else’s… but what if your needs are mutual? How will you know if your needs are mutual unless you risk being vulnerable and actually state what you really want require or desire?

This week is the time to stop beating around the bush and tell those that matter, that are crucial to your success, whatever that looks like, how important they are in the plan and what you need from them. Then ask them if they are willing to be the yin to your yang or the yang to your yin… you will never know if you don’t ask.

The language of self-love usually starts with “This is how I feel, and this is what I want.” It’s gentle, clear, honest and simple. To get your needs met, everyone relevant needs to know what your needs are.

Happy Self-Full Summit Week… x

 

 

The Good Friday Guide To Conflict Resolution

Do you think JC would have ended up on a cross if people actually knew how to resolve their differences?

I have to confess my post has little or nothing to do with Easter or the crucifixion story, it just seems appropriate to mention Master Jesus at this time of year and ask what he would do… unfortunately for him he was unable to make the other party hear him (probably because Mercury had slid fully into its impression of Michael Jackson’s moonwalk going backwards across the sky and sending communication into a tailspin of misunderstanding, misinterpretation, misrepresentation… in fact just ‘mis’sing the point entirely.

So conflict resolution then?

From a Wholly Grail perspective we may have to throw every one of the 7 Principles at the issue but lets start with Principle 4: I AM Truth…

This Principle should not be deliberately used to prove who is right and who is wrong, it is a universal statement, available to all to make the point that from any one persons point of reference the truth looks very different and so your truth and mine may not essentially match. Let’s start there.

We all make assumptions during conflict about what the other persons agenda is, we imagine their motives from our personal perspective… we are inevitably wrong. Just ask.

“What do you want?”

“What outcome are you hoping for?”

“How do you see this situation resolving itself?”

Remember now that all external conflict is a reflection of an internal conflict that we each have going on too. A battle between your higher self and your ego is in progress all with the intention of protecting your best interests… they just don’t know how to agree on the best course of how to make that happen, so externally you do battle with whatever appears to be threatening your sense of safety.

Victory in conflict is an illusion. For someone to be the victor, someone else has to be the victim… for every winner there is a loser, unless the warring parties learn to listen, and to be honest in their representation of the real issues underlying the antagonism they have towards each other.

Resolution is never the hidden agenda. Winning is. That’s the thing that needs to be determined: “What’s your definition of winning?”

Only compromise can create true resolution and that has to be about two parties coming together to create a win/win scenario.

Love must be the agenda.

This is where we slap in Principle 2: I AM Detached, this allows us to let go of the tight hold we have on our chosen outcome. Follow it with Principle 1: I AM God, without being able to recognise the divinity in your opponent you will never be able to see them as anything but your opponent and therefore you will never truly recognise that you were always on the same team: family.

Now we need the final piece… Principle 7: I AM Open-Hearted, quite simply the perfect balance of give and take.

Whilst this is all very well, the vital ingredient is this:

It takes two people to pull up a chair at the negotiation table… you cannot force a closed mind open, so if that doesn’t work, one must take JC’s approach and turn the other cheek… (and someone ends up crucified).

More later… x

 

Saturday Oracle – The Waiting Room

Principle 4: I AM Truth continues to hold dominance this week as it turns inwards shrouded in the deep indigo of the 3rd eye or brow chakra. This combination from The Intuitive Chalice Oracle is reminiscent of Hexagram 61 from the ancient Chinese I-Ching, “Inner Truth.”

You have no option this week but to face up to things as they actually are when the fuzzy edges between fantasy and reality become starkly obvious.

Let’s be honest, it’s been apparent for a while now that you have been in a holding pattern while the world around you has continued to turn, like sitting in the waiting room entranced by illusion, or more accurately, creating your own within your mind.

Inner truth is a gift, though for a while it may not appear so, simply because reality, or at least the current appearance of it in the material plane, will not resemble the happy place you’ve created in your mental waiting room. How could it? You’ve not been paying attention to the details of the outside environment and so they may have gone wildly off plan. But the gift of having the waiting room walls melt in the light of this week’s energy, is that once you see things for what they are you can begin to create change.

Maybe you realise that whilst you’ve been daydreaming about Tom Hardy, your real relationships have become distant? Whilst you’ve been imagining sipping champagne on a private yacht, you’ve ignored the pile of bills that need paying? Or whilst you’ve been indulging in a distracting social life, your health has been suffering? Perhaps you have been in denial about your career prospects but refused to change direction, so heavily are you invested in the rapidly faltering image you’ve created in your mind about success?

I’m a firm believer in The Law of Attraction and the need to visualise where you want to be as if you’re already there, feeling how you’ll feel when it comes to pass in the physical realm. I’m not suggesting you give up that practice… but there is a big difference between using the visualisation technique as a tool, and disappearing into it like Alice down the rabbit hole.

Your 3rd eye is a powerful tool and by feeding it truth this week you can begin to transform reality into a miracle. Only by admitting where you are can you plot a course with your Higher Power to a new destination that you no longer need to hide in the waiting room from.

Stop escaping and check in with reality… before reality bites.

More next week… x

Saturday Oracle – Truth Will Out

Truth will out this week as the authenticity contained in Principle 4: I AM Truth, embraces and communicates the same through the royal blue throat chakra. This combination is a bit like a double threat, but it’s a good one.

Some of the Grail Principles have a chakra twin, like this one, and that makes the combination more powerful… let me dissect them for you:

I AM Truth sets out an affirmation of acknowledgment of who you are and what feels right to you in your current state of evolution and from your current perspective. Though many people share similar beliefs, no two are ever exactly concurrent, simply because truth is viewed through and coloured by the eyes of experience and no two beings will ever have the same view. That being said, what’s true for you today may be transformed tomorrow by the introduction of new information… that’s why I like to add in a proviso with Principle 4 that says “I reserve the right to evolve.”

The throat chakra is the centre for communication and co-creation. When something is spoken it begins to take form because it’s moving from the realms of a private thought or idea and into the public domain. This goes for the written word too. Words are magic spells that can be used to harm or to heal, to create or to destroy and when engaging the throat chakra it should be done with caution and compassion….

But, in order to fully embrace this weeks oracle combination it should done without artifice, with absolute honesty.

Who you are, who you are willing to be, how you wish to be portrayed and what you want to be understood this week deserves nothing less than your truth. It’s a scary prospect putting it out there. Others may not agree, they may attempt to discredit you, they may attempt to claim your truth to be incorrect or even claim it as their own as has happened to me in the last few weeks…. but the facts remain the same: you have nothing to prove, nobody to convince and everything to gain by speaking out.

It’s worth noting that this coming week’s new moon in Aries is the first of the zodiac year and portends new beginnings and clean slates, but with Venus still in retrograde those new beginnings could have you in relationship reboot as you are presented with an ex who appears on the surface to have transformed from a sinner to a saint. With this combination make sure you are hearing truth from another before you fall for any bullshit. Though evolution of truth is high on the agenda and new understanding is possible, history and actions shouldn’t be ignored. Your truth has to override any proposition until evidence and corroboration is given.

Protection can be sought from Archangel Michael just by asking, and he will wrap you in his royal blue cloak, guide you towards safety and help you choose your words and actions wisely and for everyone’s highest good.

Have an open and honest week… x

Saturday Oracle – A Glance Back Towards Yesterday

Principle 4: I AM Truth is standing on the precipice of the vibrant orange sacral chakra this week asking for you to reclaim your integrity within a close relationship or following the end of one as you’re guided to take a glance back towards yesterday.

I wasn’t surprised by this combination as my vague knowledge of astrology is very aware that Venus is turning retrograde around now and being the planet of love, desire, passion, relationships, intimacy and connecting, all the things associated with the sacral chakra they in a highlighted position at present. The idea that the celestial love goddess appears in the sky to be travelling backwards doesn’t invite you to go backwards as such but instead to review and reflect with a view to heal. But that’s enough astrology, let’s get back to the Principle in question…

I AM Truth. What the heck does that mean?

Inside you, at a deep level you have access to your own truth. Some of us have buried it under blame, projection, deflection, ego, anger and a few other useless emotions and tactics that help us to avoid taking responsibility for where we are and how we got here.

Something valuable, I’d go as far as to say beautiful, has been lost because the truth was painful. Owning your truth even if it’s potentially going to be scorned upon by others is sign that your Grail and your self-esteem are intact. The opinions of others are just that, and though it may be true for them it doesn’t have to be so for you. Your actions have had consequences and you’ve cast aside the opportunity for unity, connection, intimacy, friendship, co-creation and commitment, even family because your pride had you lashing out to protect your reputation… underneath all the bluster you knew what was true but you chose to destroy something, someone. It may not be as dramatic as that… you’ll know when you glance back with compassion, for yourself if for nobody else.

This week’s energy flow has potential. I said at the beginning that this Principle is standing on a precipice, does that mean you can fix it? Retrograde Venus is hoping you will learn from it for sure but the other party has drawn a line and you have no way of crossing it now. A negative aspect of Principle 4 is that communication is all but blocked so attempting to rescue the remains of what’s been lost is damn near impossible. But this reading is about learning so that you can apply truth to all your dealings. Understanding how to open yourself up to emotional intimacy is about understanding that in vulnerability lies strength. The most magical relationship is the one in which there is no blame, where honesty is a given not a currency to be traded and where the more ammunition you give your loved one the more bullets they have to protect your love with instead of loading the gun and firing it at you.

Now then, since the new moon last week, we have entered a portal in which the end of a karmic cycle occurs. It remains open, like the precipice, until the full moon on the 12th March. I suggest you take a leap of faith, dive into the orange abyss and retrieve you… that way when the next potential love affair enters your orbit, all of you, your entire being will be ready to enter the arena and surrender to another human being who is ready to surrender to you.

Right I’m off to celebrate and eat cake with my lovely mum who is 80 years young today!

More next week… x

Saturday Oracle – Your Vibrational Match

Grail Oracle 4Grail Oracle Orange

There seems to be a fair bit of relationship advice springing forth from the oracle of late and this week’s combination is definitely pointing to opening a dialog about intimacy.

At the beginning of new relationships there is usually some form of guarded behaviour as to our true feelings and we hold back on what we feel to be emotional intimacy for fear of being hurt, ridiculed or rejected. It’s an unfortunate truth that many new couples start out by pretending to be something other than they are particularly with each other. For some reason we believe ourselves to be so much less than we are and somehow our shadow side’s take over the rational mind and distort our perception of ourselves physically, mentally and emotionally.

When Principle 4: I AM Truth jumps out of the pack it challenges you to be you in all your “f**ked up glory” because you are absolutely unique down to the cellular level… why then would you try to be anything else? When you consider the fact that everybody is just as messed up as you are, and that they have a similarly distorted view of what they view as their shortcomings… turns out we are all intimidated by making a good impression… but here’s the good bit: New relationships mean that everyone involved is far too loved-up to care if you have flaws so it’s actually the perfect time to embrace you uniqueness.

The bright orange of the sacral chakra is a magnetic energy and is calling in your mate… Emotional intimacy isn’t just about getting naked and sharing yourself physically, it’s about taking down the walls that stand between your true nature and the one who, in this moment, is your vibrational match. If you are pretending to be someone else then your vibrational match is matching the lie that you are portraying…

Get real… love is real… and you deserve that.

If you are in an existing relationship and somewhere along the line it lost its sparkle, now is a great opportunity for self-examination as to where you aren’t being honest about who you are, the person you have become, what your needs are etc, again open up a dialog with a partner… this is so for all your intimates at this time: romantic partners, your family members, your closest friends and so on… remember its about letting down walls and revealing the imperfect yet perfect you that hides beyond.

More next week… x

The Silencer

Grail Oracle 3Grail Oracle Green

This week sees the meeting of the heart and the mind as you begin to recognise the power of your own feelings. They need to be heard and to be acknowledged, not by others but by you.

A combination of Principle 3: I AM Human with the emerald green of the heart chakra is highlighting your habit of suppressing your deepest emotions and the need to forgive yourself for not listening to what is buried so deep within your being.

The Silencer is a survival instinct that has been overruling your needs without you even noticing and has done so for so long that you don’t even know he or she exists. Don’t look out outside yourself for this person or entity (though when this combination arrives its possible that someone else is doing it to you also), instead look to where you deny your emotions simply by dismissing them as nonsense.

Have you ever been told “Don’t be silly” for allowing your feelings to show? How many times do you say that to yourself?

The Silencer started out life as your ally, protecting you from ridicule or unwanted attention but over many years has become your internal abuser and is now being called out…

This week, first you must listen without judgement to your thoughts and feelings, secondly you must listen to your immediate knee-jerk internal reactions knowing that the voice you hear is The Silencer… your final job is to forgive yourself for all the times you’ve been disrespectful of your own heart and now begin to truly hear, fully feel and start living, loving and laughing again.

More next week… x