Tag Archives: Happiness

Taking The Path Of Least Resistance

It’s more important than anything else that you might do, to do it because it makes you happy. Now the fact that we often surround ourselves with details that come with obligations, people that come with agendas, wants and needs that come with conditions etc, makes finding that joy a little more difficult because it’s obscured by superfluous stuff.

Let’s say for instance that you fall in love… that’s a biggy isn’t it? We imagine that love will make us happy don’t we? Supposing though, that the person you fall in love with turns out to be exactly what people warned you about and that your rose tinted, see-the-best-in-everyone-especially-the-romantic-interest glasses, have finally been removed… what action now will make you happiest?

Let’s make the scenario even more complicated: what if the romantic interest was heavily into playing games of hide and seek, which you suspect are more about his emotional insecurity and the fact that he’s got a history of failed relationships behind him than the outward appearance of him just being an abusive narcissist with a god complex, and what if after remembering that his prey (you) is not a pathological masochist, but in fact someone who deserves to be treated with gentleness and respect, what if he suddenly began the seeking process again and all traces of the monster were stored away for the next time he got scared? What would make you happy now?

Love doesn’t go away but like all energy it has the capacity to transform.

Taking the path of least resistance is not always clear because choosing joy now can lead to pain later if you are not vigilant. In our scenario it’s worth noting that reaching out, though forgiveness releases all parties from lower vibrations like resentment and bitterness, allowing the hidden monster back into your life just because he smiles and says please (or not), wouldn’t be an act of forgiveness it would be an act of stupidity. You can respect a shark and still know to keep out of the sea where it’s swimming.

So let’s take a look at the real path of least resistance. Abstinence now can lead to joy later. Finding happiness in abstinence, through acceptance of your own strength and self-love, rather than from the temporary relief from grieving that reconnecting might bring, leads to celebration… achieving the things you put on hold whilst neck deep in the drama leads to more happiness still.

We mostly search for relief from a lack of understanding by asking “why?” “Why did you do that?” or whatever, “Why me?” or “Why won’t you give up?” is a good one, but ultimately none of those questions will change anything. Accept where you are, let go of what has proven over and over again to be painful and unhealthy and walk away… set both of you free… you don’t need to save the next woman from the monster, that’s her lesson to learn… save yourself, trust me you can’t save him, he doesn’t believe the monster exists.

My mum once told me that monsters weren’t real. Now I know the truth: every little boy and girl contains the capacity to become a monster or to become a Grail Knight that knows better than to engage in a contest with the ones that were so damaged that the monster had no choice but evolve to protect them.

My path of least resistance is to send real love to my ex monster from a safe distance, to send healing and understanding to a damaged little boy, but to cut off all methods of contact and flow towards my own happiness… happiness that doesn’t depend on him or on knowing why.

A very personal post today, I know. I hope it inspires at least one of you to find another way that doesn’t depend on abusive relationships.

More later… x

Flowing Towards What’s Growing

Each morning and evening, when I wake and before I go to sleep, I journal. Nothing extensive, just a few lines of thoughts, feelings, experiences and a prayer. This sacred act helps bring clarity and focus, relieves repetitive thought and ensures any suppressed issues are brought into the light… in short its a healing process that forms part of my Self-Full routine and one I’d highly recommend to anyone.

As I picked up my journal today I caught sight of a short entry from last week that made me smile… it simply read: “Dear God, please protect my happy bubble!”

What a wonderful image to portray in words.

The reference sought to acknowledge the fragility of joy within a mind that is habituated to stress through years of looking too far forward and too far back. I tell myself that comes with the territory of an intuitive, prophecy is rarely based in the now and that of course is where my happy bubble exists.

God’s answer came in very quickly the day I wrote it with the overwhelming internal message “How can I protect you from yourself… when you won’t let Me?” That’s what made me smile. When the insight becomes tangible for you that you are all powerful when it comes to the choice of presence. When you understand that the sharp edges that threaten your happy bubble are the metaphorical knives and arrows of your own thoughts and that you have the free will to transform “if, but and maybe” into moment to moment “flowing towards what’s growing,” then happy becomes less of a gamble and transforms into a natural friend that stands with you regardless of the external twists and turns that penetrate the outer veil when the universe wants to ramp up the story a notch.

Principle 2: I AM Detached is my happy bubble. If I want God to protect it, then I have to put down the knives!

More later… x

P.S. if you want to find your happy bubble through deep spiritual practice then you could do worse than to check out my brand new ascension training: The Path of Petals commencing early March.

Do Something About It

Shaking the proverbial cup causes its contents to swirl about and even splash over the rim, whereas kicking it over obviously would cause its precious elixir to spill out all over and evaporate before your eyes. Sudden shock, unsavoury surprise or trauma is the equivalent of giving the Grail a good kick and in essence prolonged low level worry and fearful thought is tantamount to shaking the cup.

Both are detrimental to mind, body and spirit.

Only when you translate what the actual contents equate to can you begin to understand what is being allowed to escape from your everyday experience… This sacred vessel is a container for peace, for joy, abundance, happiness and for health.

Stress, worry, fear and prolonged negativity are all thieves of those precious qualities that make the journey easy and enjoyable. Health is the final gift to be stolen from the cup. When this occurs it becomes evident just how long you have been shaking the Grail or how hard you kicked it, and with the exception of fated experience (challenges destined for you to overcome), ill health is a sign that you have for too long being ignoring how many of the other sacred contents have been missing from your life.

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full is the first step in the journey back to health, joy, happiness and abundance, and it’s a step you can take today no matter where you are on the path and what the condition of The Wholly Grail. Turn that cup back the right way up and begin to fill it for yourself… not with more worry about the state you may or may not be in but with gratitude that you are still here to do something about it. Start small: bubble bath; healthy, delicious and nutritious food; gentle exercise; hydration; fresh air; meditation and prayer and proper rest… non of that is radical but it’s all essential.

Now off you go and enjoy Halloween… try not to put more strain on that nervous system by scaring yourself stupid though.

More later… x

 

Saturday Oracle – Happy Place

Grail Oracle 6Grail Oracle Yellow

This week’s oracle sees the union of Principle 6 with the bright yellow of the solar plexus chakra.

It’s hard to find your way back from fear but that’s exactly what this week is bringing for you, though don’t be fooled into thinking that it won’t take work on your part. Recently you have found yourself dealing with one hard knock after another and at such times it’s easy to give into pessimism and negativity but like attracts like and kindling your inner magical child, the one who believes anything is possible will help you to take the first step into the slipstream back to your happy place.

The oracle is not portraying so much a time of celebration coming to you, more that you should consciously search for things to celebrate thus transforming fear into bliss. This week is an opportune time to break out of the everyday routine and find something fun to do. The idea of Self-Full Living is to reconnect with your own needs and make sure you do something, however simple to fulfil them. Socialise with friends, play, sing, and even surround yourself with the colour yellow to boost your natural sunny disposition.

I should also mention that when Principle 6 shows up its important to look at your physical health and where you might be in need of reconnecting with your body. As the solar plexus is primarily centred around your stomach, I want to draw your attention to your diet and eating habits… have you been comfort eating through a stressful period? Now is a good time to switch to a more life affirming, nutritious repertoire and be conscious of putting only health enhancing foods in your mouth… it may be too soon for a full on detox as the storm has not yet completely past but you can make a good start so that you don’t create a new set of issues to deal with.

So then: clean food, fun, optimism on purpose and an intention to find your way back to you.

You are worth the effort… I know this because an angel told me so.

More next week… x

Give It Permission

Life settles down again fairly quickly after any upheaval if you’re willing to let go of what you cannot control… and to be fair, what you can’t control is most of the world that exists outside of yourself.

Understanding that resisting or cajoling reality is a massive power drain on your personal Grail reserves breaks the cycle of gripping, releasing you back into the flow of the universe.

Today, as an experiment, try for a few moments several times through the day looking at every situation or thing in your life and affirming: “you are perfection.”

How things are right now may not be exactly as you would wish but the current circumstances have been manoeuvred into position exactly as they need to be to propel you into the next step of the journey and that set up is divine perfection. Once you recognise it for what it is you give it permission to change… change is inevitable… change is life. That being said, resistance creates a build-up of stagnant energy forcing the changes occurring to be more dramatic and uncomfortable, like a damn breaking under the strain… change still occurs because life is supposed to flow.

Recognising the current perfection has a secondary effect that is even more important than the aforementioned flow: gratitude. Gratitude is a very small step away from peace, happiness and your overflowing Grail cup and that’s worth the effort, isn’t it?

Principle 2: I AM Detached (and you are perfection).

More later… x

One of The Most Boring Posts

This post could seriously mess up my blog strategy… but seeing as though I write what I feel and there is no strategy, that shouldn’t actually be a problem. This is possibly one of the most boring posts I’m ever going to write…

Being a passionate soul, my most inspired articles come from a place of anguish and of suffering. I’m not afraid of that truth: personal experience combined with professional application means I know what I’m talking about, so to feel through each Principle of The Wholly Grail can be what we term research and vigorous testing, realtime, on the ground human guinea pig style… seeing as though The Wholly Grail was rolled out in 2012 as my philosophy for creating inner peace and happiness a fair few human guinea pigs have been subjected to its methods since then.

I’ve found that The Wholly Grail offers solutions to every problem if you’re willing to do the work and because life is constantly offering up tests there has been much to work on and with… it’s not anecdotal evidence it’s real lives, mine included, that have undergone transformative processes through embracing the seven main Principles. But what I wanted to share with you today is my confession of what constitutes a boring post…

Inner peace means acceptance, acceptance means no drama, no drama means no anguish or suffering and this girl is so very happy to be boring if all that is the case.

My own personal and most sticky Principle has always been 2: I AM Detached. Dealing with being present and being grateful for where I am here in the moment, for the current situation, for the people in my life, for the things I have and for the love I’ve been blessed with. Do I have it all? That depends on your perspective… I have everything I need, though there are things I still want. In giving up the wanting and knowing that if it’s meant to be here it will arrive when it’s good and ready and all I have to do is stay open and believe… not that it will arrive, but that I will be just fine if it doesn’t. My drama has always been in believing that something was missing but nothing ever was save for one thing… me.

I’m not lost anymore. I AM God (Principle 1 – everything and everyone is), and nothing is ever lost to me except when I insist on covering my eyes, shielding my heart and I refuse to see…

My Wholly Grail is overflowing with an abundance of grace… so excuse me if I’m boring you but… I’m happy!

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More later… x

The Tiered Return

Saturday’s group reading from my Intuitive Chalice Oracle is, since I began posting, proving to be essential guidance for me and I hope it is providing direction for each of you as well.

This week we see the combination of Principle 6: I AM Self-Full with the bright yellow of the solar plexus to give us a little bit of a helping hand in fixing what’s fallen by the wayside. I use many oracles in both my work and my personal life and one such system I like to call upon is the Iching, an ancient Chinese divination system made up of Hexagrams. The Tiered Return reminds me much of Hexagram 18 sometimes known as “Decay” and sometimes as “Repairing what is spoiled.”

So how is this duo playing out for each of us this coming week? It’s called The Tiered Return because it applies to each of us on many levels: physical, emotional, spiritual; and in many areas of our lives: health, finance, career, relationships… these different areas have to be tiered in order of priority although all of them require attention now.

Self-Full Living demands that your own personal needs must be at the forefront of any action you take in repairing each section of your list and that by either subtly adjusting course or making a complete about face you steer your life back towards your inner bliss.

Personally my health has become the first area for an overhaul, not because I’m unwell, on the contrary I’m doing great… that’s the point. Some of you may remember that I nearly lost my eye 20 months ago and since then I’ve been on some pretty nasty steroid medication to suppress my immune system so it couldn’t attack the area… well after a check up this week and the dose being lowered yet again, I’m almost done with them, maybe another couple of months until I’m free of chemical help… but as grateful as I am for the benefits of modern medicine, the steroids have taken their toll on other areas of my health, I’ve always been a big girl but I’ve ballooned as a result, I’m in need of a detox and want to get back to the level of energy I had before it started… whilst I was focused on one area of healing, others unavoidably decayed and now it’s time to adjust course and repair the damage, see?

Now the idea of bliss is different for each of us, so this week take a few moments to assess what the optimum scenario for you would be in each of the areas on your list and then take measured and gentle steps to change your own behaviour in favour of those outcomes you are seeking… don’t try to change or manipulate someone else or something else to fit and don’t expect instant results either… Mercury, a massive planet, appeared to change direction in the cosmos, where it was moving backward for the last 3 weeks (retrograde), it stopped to think (station) and is now adjusting telemetry to move forward again (direct). If it can, you can.

Tonight’s full moon should help bring to light what you need to fix in your life and I’m wishing you an overflowing Grail cup full of support in doing it…

More next week… x

Happy Step

I’ve been battling this morning with an internal contradiction. On the one hand “I’m ok with how things are right now” but on the other hand “I’m not ok with how things are right now.” This dilemma when put into the context of: “I’ll be happy when…” is a classic example ignoring Principle 2: I AM Detached, projecting your attention to an as yet unwritten future and delaying your happiness until those criteria have been met (which of course they never will be because by the time you’ve achieved that set of wants a new set will have taken over).

What if though, what if you are not projecting into a future or for that matter looking back into a rose tinted past? What if your attention is right here in the present moment and you are looking at this current set of circumstances and saying “I am unhappy with how things are”?

When you commence a sentence with I AM… you are stating a command to the universe, defining your being and anchoring it to a certain set of parameters, be damn sure you want “unhappy” to be one of them before you announce the intention aloud, as even the continuous thought has immense power… so that’s the first job, correcting your vocabulary… now we need to address the underlying feeling of dissatisfaction.

Right here, now, in this moment you have a choice, the choice to be happy with your life or not, and there are only 3 things that stand between you and choosing happiness: gratitude, acceptance and self-improvement.

Acceptance is the key you’re looking for but sometimes acceptance feels a little out of reach when you aren’t where you hoped you be. Beginning with gratitude lubricates the fixed consciousness you’ve acquired and widens the perspective to everything that’s beneficial about your current circumstances so start by making a comprehensive list of those things that you’re grateful for… try to keep it relevant, you can include being grateful for the trees if you like (I am) but unless your current circumstances involve being unhappy in your job as a forest ranger or tree surgeon then it’s a little out of context. Keep listing until you can see an emerging pattern to the blessings of why you’re here in this situation and acceptance becomes the next natural progression… appreciation will almost certainly begin to creep into the mix and at this stage you need to be careful because you are getting dangerously close to feeling content and oh my goodness, hold the phone, are you happy? Well, not quite…

Self-improvement? I’m not talking about the endless programs of self help stuff, I’m talking about accepting responsibility for your own life and where you are at, and then committing to taking the action needed to change it… down tools, assess the direction you wish to travel and then take measured steps towards it… not towards happiness, every step should be a happy step, but away from dissatisfaction which only comes from being unfulfilled and that comes from not living up to your potential and that comes from not being all you can be…

Principle 6: I AM Self-Full has many connotations but being the happiest, healthiest, highest achieving you is central to your well-being. If you’re unhappy, you’re not being Self-Full.

My list is underway already and I’m dangerously close to contentment…

More later… x