Tag Archives: Blame

A Warrior’s Determination

Blame is the most disempowering action I can think of in this quest for personal peace. Taking responsibility for one’s own choices, even the perceived mistakes, (of which there are actually none in reality), affords you the luxury of reclaiming those parts of yourself that you left scattered along the way and re-integrating the energy they hold.

Blame is usually the product of two areas of The Wholly Grail: one hidden mechanic and the other one of the Principles. When you step out into the world wearing your shiny knight’s armour you can look the part very easily but it’s what’s under that armour that determines the noble character of the knight. If however the “victim” archetype lurks beneath on the Grail Knight’s chain mail then taking responsibility is the last thing on his or her mind. The victim feeds on blame.

Principle 3: I AM Human is the section of the Grail that deals with the concept of forgiveness. When we blame others for what happens to us we hold them to a higher standard than ourselves and we undo the balance of power in their favour. Now, as children, adults would be responsible for our care, thereby having power over us, but as adults we ultimately have the ability to choose for ourselves.

Please don’t misunderstand me, being the victim of another’s abuse of power is not the same as adopting a victim mentality. The former, when taking on the hero’s stance, can overcome whatever bad things have happened to them with grace and a warrior’s determination but the latter will be crippled by the most simple obstacle by spinning into a disintegrating cycle of “why does this always happen to me?”

Forgiveness comes in many forms but it’s the one sure way to let go of the past and create a new heading based on emotional freedom… it’s about how much baggage you’re willing to take on this journey.

Who can you forgive today and how much excess can you put down?

More later… x

P.S. Look out for details of The Path of Petals course that I will be posting early next week if you’re interested in progressing your spiritual journey towards enlightenment and self-mastery.

 

The Second Hurdle – Unravelling Forgiveness

In the last post we removed the time chasm from the healing process bringing God a step closer to your heart and you’re already on your way home… but four hurdles remain between you and the Grail. Today then let’s uncover the truth behind being human.

To truly forgive anyone including yourself involves letting go of the need to win. Failure is a comparison and comparison leads to inadequacy, inadequacy leads to low self-worth, and in an attempt to deflect that feeling of separation from God, which is what low self-worth actually is: believing you are separate from or less than the whole, leads to blame.

Blame, like time, is a redundant concept that holds you apart from your power, whether you blame yourself, someone else or even God is simply you expecting to see miracles whilst your eyes are closed. Everything in your world is a mirror of your perception of who you are in this moment… shit, that’s powerful magic! You created it all. Now instead of beating yourself up for the stuff you didn’t get just how you want it, take this masterpiece as a piece of living proof that its simply your perception that is flawed… now there is nothing to forgive is there?

I know, I know, what about the crap that others sling at you? The external illusory world is a mirror. You are the projection and it is the reflection. How others treat you is a perfect indicator of how you allow yourself to be treated… your perceived worth. You can choose to languish in self-pity because someone is treating you badly or you can choose to up your internal value by not putting up with it anymore. It’s not about them remember so if at this stage you want to stamp your feet and say “I refuse to tolerate your behaviour…” then you will get one of two reactions (reactions means mirror to your actions), the first being they may recognise they have acted  in a deplorable manner and immediately change their ways and the second being them seeing your statement about what you refuse to tolerate as a challenge and so doling out more of the same to test your integrity.

We kick and scream and stamp our feet against injustice in that attempt to win, to be seen as right and in our need to place blame, we want others to take responsibility for their behaviour towards us because then we’ll feel vindicated or worse still, justified in our administering of punishment, but none of this will free us, or get us over the second hurdle – unravelling forgiveness. Master Jesus asked us to turn the other cheek. It’s not weak, it’s not running away, it’s simply accepting that every projection of how this failure, wound or slight is affecting you is creating a sharper reflection…

Forgiveness is letting go, moving on, closing the wound without the need for the action to be acknowledged, commiserated, celebrated or the scar in anyway drawn attention to.  The words “I forgive you” will not heal you if they are said with the expectation of gratitude. Let your actions speak and allow the degradation perpetrated by others be a reflection of their integrity not yours… walk away, go in peace.

Principle 3: I AM Human

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End of The Blame Table

Having just awoken from a particularly violent dream and still feeling a little shaken by the apparent underlying emotion of anger that must exist within me in order to allow my subconscious to enact such visions of potential rage, I’m intent on unravelling a part of The Grail that on some level I have yet to reconcile with.

I AM Liberated. It seems a ludicrous statement after my opening sentences but as “I AM” gives a command to the universe, if you use the term often enough according to the laws of the universe you become what you constantly attest to be.

Principle 5, in this case disturbing my sleep, is about letting go of things that are no longer meant to be a part of ones journey. When somebody or something leaves of its own accord, my ability to let go is what’s known as an open door policy, you come, you go, you stay a while or you don’t, I grieve, I move on. What happens though when that thing or person is taken away?

Blame is a horrific sentiment and was the route cause of my bad dream so that’s where I’m starting my cleansing process today and I’m starting with the ultimate detergent: Principle 3: I AM Human. Principle 3 embraces the art of forgiveness and in this case it’s me that I need to forgive, firstly for the underlying capacity to hold such darkness as all human beings do and secondly because the questions like “Did I do the right thing?” “Should I have fought harder for what was mine?” “Did I let down someone or something that needed me?” These questions are all punishments that I don’t need to endure and whoever sits at the other end of the blame table has a unique perspective of human need and naivety that warrants the same level of forgiveness.

So on that note, today I wish you a day of self-forgiveness, liberation and peace. May you be blessed inside your own Grail.

More later… x