Blame is the most disempowering action I can think of in this quest for personal peace. Taking responsibility for one’s own choices, even the perceived mistakes, (of which there are actually none in reality), affords you the luxury of reclaiming those parts of yourself that you left scattered along the way and re-integrating the energy they hold.
Blame is usually the product of two areas of The Wholly Grail: one hidden mechanic and the other one of the Principles. When you step out into the world wearing your shiny knight’s armour you can look the part very easily but it’s what’s under that armour that determines the noble character of the knight. If however the “victim” archetype lurks beneath on the Grail Knight’s chain mail then taking responsibility is the last thing on his or her mind. The victim feeds on blame.
Principle 3: I AM Human is the section of the Grail that deals with the concept of forgiveness. When we blame others for what happens to us we hold them to a higher standard than ourselves and we undo the balance of power in their favour. Now, as children, adults would be responsible for our care, thereby having power over us, but as adults we ultimately have the ability to choose for ourselves.
Please don’t misunderstand me, being the victim of another’s abuse of power is not the same as adopting a victim mentality. The former, when taking on the hero’s stance, can overcome whatever bad things have happened to them with grace and a warrior’s determination but the latter will be crippled by the most simple obstacle by spinning into a disintegrating cycle of “why does this always happen to me?”
Forgiveness comes in many forms but it’s the one sure way to let go of the past and create a new heading based on emotional freedom… it’s about how much baggage you’re willing to take on this journey.
Who can you forgive today and how much excess can you put down?
More later… x
P.S. Look out for details of The Path of Petals course that I will be posting early next week if you’re interested in progressing your spiritual journey towards enlightenment and self-mastery.